This might sound funny but the fact that my fiance and I have never engaged in a fight or quarrel in our 2 years of dating is beginning to get me worried. A lot of persons believe you don't really know yourselves until you've had course to settle misunderstandings. I am not a troublesome person but sometimes the thought of 'looking for trouble' comes to my mind so I can see how he will react. Are there others like me?

You should be grateful really. Do not even hurt your head to look for trouble, trouble is always around the corner.

Enjoy the good time while it last.

Chei!! Women and wahala.
A brother is not stressing you up and you want to start trouble shooting.Go ahead, you'll get more than you bagained for.

its very ok my dear. at least i dated my husby for 3 yrs and we never had any misunderstand, even though i use 2 expect one, but it never happened and now, we ar married, and is still d same. am not saying it can never happen, but we will sure handle it by God's grace

phock her friend first

Has either of u farted in front of anoda? If NO and u hv not fought each other n you hv been dating 4 more than a year then your relatnship is neck deep in pretence. Just saying n i may be wrong

You know threads moved from romance section the minute you read the replies.

Please do not listen to those telling you to be happy? Happy for what abeg? How can you date someone for 2yrs and there's never been a misunderstanding? Check yourselves very well because one day you will end up with someone whose true colour will come out after marriage. The real colour you couldn't see because the person was pretending, It is either pretense or one is not telling his/her mind just to please the other person. And if you are not telling your mind, then you people are bound to make mistakes in life because it's just one person making the decisions without counter opinions from the other person. For example, I had a misunderstanding with my man last year, I was supposed to travel for something I felt was very important and he was against it. I wasn't happy with the whole thingy and made sure he knew I wasn't happy. Everybody left for work that day and less than 2hours he was at my work place, took me into his car and explained to me the reason why he was against it. He told me about the risks involved and what not, this man loves taking risks but for him to have told me it wasn't worth it got me thinking. Honestly I thank him, till tomorrow because it took me 5months to see where he was coming from and I bless my stars that I did not go ahead with it it, else I would have cried for the money loss. Everybody's got diff opinions to things and if both opinions are not made known and weighed to know which to go for, then prepare yourselves to make huge mistakes in the future.

How can one marry a man or woman that has not showed the other side of his/her when he/she is angry? how do you know how that person deals with issues and reacts to things in anger? Oh, you think marriage is not forever and the time won't come? You don't even know if your partner is the type that hold grudges for days after the quarel or if he is the type that says things that hurt out of anger. You don't even know how your partner settles issues after quarels, I could go on and on and someone is telling you to relax? Very funny.

We have people opening threads daily here, crying because their once loving partners have turned into something else, mind you, this wasn't noticed during courtship because everyone was playing Mr and Miss perfect then for peacesakes.

I dated my man for less than a year and yea , we did have some misunderstandings then. Except it's long distance and you guys don't see eachother often but even @ that, people staying miles away from eachother still quarel.

There is bound to be misunderstandings in relationships and when it comes , it should be dealt with properly. Even in marriages couple do quarel once in a while. I cannot imagine a couple staying for 2yrs without one single quarel. That one is not marriage.

Your situation is a time ticking Bomb that would blow both of u, it's not possible to stay 2 years without a quarrel, one of u is certainly being too perfect and the other is too blind to notice that u are both sitting on a time bomb, which would haunt you sooner or later.

Things like this happen mostly in relationships where the woman is in charge and the man is the meek type.

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as i wrote on Mekaboy's thread on the same issue: people want everything to be great and wonderful in their union BUT, when they do get it, they'd rather have it the other way around. make up your damn mind peeps!!!!

@poster
since you clearly want to mess with something obviously good, then let me give you my "expert" advice on sure ways to quarrel with your partner:
- fukcing his best buddy, brother, boss (or anyone for that matter) will get the required quarrel.
- invite his mother for dinner and smack the hell out of her, before throwing her out of your home.
- go to his job and make a scene telling everyone that you caught your husband in bed mounting your meguard/houseboy.

et voila!

MRbrownJAY:

as i wrote on Mekaboy's thread on the same issue: people want everything to be great and wonderful in their union BUT, when they do get it, they'd rather have it the other way around. make up your damn mind peeps!!!!

I like that one. Very true indeed.

MrBrownJay est toujours egal a lui meme ,   

Keep it up bro!

Pretending, pretenders. Una nor dey mess abi? haha. Atomic bomb mess fit cause yawa alone.

@OP
does he piss you off? when he does, how do you handle it?
conversely, how does he handle the stuff you do that he doesnt like?

it could be that y'all are ignoring those things and that'd be bad for business. . .

you dont need to go 'looking for trouble' o. . .

jennykadry:

You know threads moved from romance section the minute you read the replies.

Please do not listen to those telling you to be happy? Happy for what abeg? How can you date someone for 2yrs and there's never been a misunderstanding? Check yourselves very well because one day you will end up with someone whose true colour will come out after marriage. The real colour you couldn't see because the person was pretending, It is either pretense or one is not telling his/her mind just to please the other person. And if you are not telling your mind, then you people are bound to make mistakes in life because it's just one person making the decisions without counter opinions from the other person. For example, I had a misunderstanding with my man last year, I was supposed to travel for something I felt was very important and he was against it. I wasn't happy with the whole thingy and made sure he knew I wasn't happy. Everybody left for work that day and less than 2hours he was at my work place, took me into his car and explained to me the reason why he was against it. He told me about the risks involved and what not, this man loves taking risks but for him to have told me it wasn't worth it got me thinking. Honestly I thank him, till tomorrow because it took me 5months to see where he was coming from and I bless my stars that I did not go ahead with it it, else I would have cried for the money loss. Everybody's got diff opinions to things and if both opinions are not made known and weighed to know which to go for, then prepare yourselves to make huge mistakes in the future.

How can one marry a man or woman that has not showed the other side of his/her when he/she is angry? how do you know how that person deals with issues and reacts to things in anger? Oh, you think marriage is not forever and the time won't come? You don't even know if your partner is the type that hold grudges for days after the quarel or if he is the type that says things that hurt out of anger. You don't even know how your partner settles issues after quarels, I could go on and on and someone is telling you to relax? Very funny.

We have people opening threads daily here, crying because their once loving partners have turned into something else, mind you, this wasn't noticed during courtship because everyone was playing Mr and Miss perfect then for peacesakes.

I dated my man for less than a year and yea , we did have some misunderstandings then. Except it's long distance and you guys don't see eachother often but even @ that, people staying miles away from eachother still quarel.

There is bound to be misunderstandings in relationships and when it comes , it should be dealt with properly. Even in marriages couple do quarel once in a while. I cannot imagine a couple staying for 2yrs without one single quarel. That one is not marriage.

I don't agree what your comment!!! Not everybody tend to be a trouble maker and people having issues in marriage or relationship kinda have a psychological problem, how on earth will someone who is well feed and alright could just think of coming up with a fight the next day and you called that modification of marriage for the sake of understanding the way your partner react to issues?? Is bringing up a wahala the way to know your reaction to things? Nah, that doesn't work for me , i don't know of others, Sure there must a misunderstanding but it all depends on how we deal with it emotionally, You said it all , misunderstanding in your own marriage makes it work, thats for you not everybody but you have to think it the way round, one good thing may turn out worst for the other party.
First if a brother is too cool and knows how to handle every situation without bringing up a fight, The woman will say, his kind of Weak and if a brother is kinda hard on them, they will claim he doesn't care but yet what can we do to satisfy a woman ego?

@op.Abeg, dey enjoy your relationship go make anybody no con put sand for your beans all for the sake of getting him angry or else , you will end up loosen him to ladies who are hungry for men like him.

Peace out.

Your hubs

Just thank God for your man. Don't look for any trouble with him. Continue being good to him.

Instead of fighting I’ll say you'll never know who your true friends are (or if your boyfriend/girlfriend) really cares about you until you have a serious challenge: job loss, bad business setback, badass ill health etc. You need to see the best of both worlds before choosing a life partner. I advice couples to date for at least 2 years when they must have seen it all before setting a date for their wedding.

jennykadry:

You know threads moved from romance section the minute you read the replies.

Please do not listen to those telling you to be happy? Happy for what abeg? How can you date someone for 2yrs and there's never been a misunderstanding? Check yourselves very well because one day you will end up with someone whose true colour will come out after marriage. The real colour you couldn't see because the person was pretending, It is either pretense or one is not telling his/her mind just to please the other person. And if you are not telling your mind, then you people are bound to make mistakes in life because it's just one person making the decisions without counter opinions from the other person. For example, I had a misunderstanding with my man last year, I was supposed to travel for something I felt was very important and he was against it. I wasn't happy with the whole thingy and made sure he knew I wasn't happy. Everybody left for work that day and less than 2hours he was at my work place, took me into his car and explained to me the reason why he was against it. He told me about the risks involved and what not, this man loves taking risks but for him to have told me it wasn't worth it got me thinking. Honestly I thank him, till tomorrow because it took me 5months to see where he was coming from and I bless my stars that I did not go ahead with it it, else I would have cried for the money loss. Everybody's got diff opinions to things and if both opinions are not made known and weighed to know which to go for, then prepare yourselves to make huge mistakes in the future.

How can one marry a man or woman that has not showed the other side of his/her when he/she is angry? how do you know how that person deals with issues and reacts to things in anger? Oh, you think marriage is not forever and the time won't come? You don't even know if your partner is the type that hold grudges for days after the quarel or if he is the type that says things that hurt out of anger. You don't even know how your partner settles issues after quarels, I could go on and on and someone is telling you to relax? Very funny.

We have people opening threads daily here, crying because their once loving partners have turned into something else, mind you, this wasn't noticed during courtship because everyone was playing Mr and Miss perfect then for peacesakes.

I dated my man for less than a year and yea , we did have some misunderstandings then. Except it's long distance and you guys don't see eachother often but even @ that, people staying miles away from eachother still quarel.

There is bound to be misunderstandings in relationships and when it comes , it should be dealt with properly. Even in marriages couple do quarel once in a while. I cannot imagine a couple staying for 2yrs without one single quarel. That one is not marriage.

True

@op, I'm equally in a two year old relationship and have never had a quarrel with my partner. Mine is a long distance relationship and I believe that since am a level headed person, I will be able to handle any misunderstanding when it finally comes.
I'm someone who does not pretend and I also try to reason every argument through the other person's point of view. Maybe that is the same thing you fiance is doing.
Please do not go looking for trouble like someone said, there is always trouble around the corner.