labake1:
So you haven't moved on since last year

Persephone1:


What a woman can not do ....

The problem with you supposed Nl redpillers is when your pills fail you are almost irredeemable.

Nah Martinez I dey fear for

Manoftheyear:


I'm more of a street guy who patronize sex workers because I'm trying to guard my heart, I have never had good experience with love and that's why I went for a matured lady, and now this is happening, though I know I broke some heart but I'm not a redpiller

You all operate on the same memo with the same goal - guide your heart. A goal naturally unachievable. The time you spend on guiding your heart, acting macho and all you should have used to prepare,train and nurture your heart and your self. You stopped growth while trying to protect now you are paying for it when the inevitable happened. Man trying to outsmart nature lol.

I sympathize with you on your situation, the truth is there's nothing anyone will write here that will help you. You are not ready yet. When the time comes, you will know and do all you can to free yourself from unrequited love.

Persephone1:
You all operate on the same memo with the same goal - guide your heart. A goal naturally unachievable. The time you spend on guiding your heart, acting macho and all you should have used to prepare,train and nurture your heart and your self. You stopped growth while trying to protect now you are paying for it when the inevitable happened. Man trying to outsmart nature lol.

I sympathize with you on your situation, the truth is there's nothing anyone will write here that will help you. You are not ready yet. When the time comes, you will know and do all you can to free yourself from unrequited love.

Manoftheyear:


All I need now is connect to few people here and see how it goes, just some few good Samaritans

Yes that's true, good friends can help too . With lot of positive distractions

Persephone1:
Yes that's true, good friends can help too . With lot of positive distractions

Manoftheyear:


Exactly, I have been an introvert for long, my woman is the only friend I have and that's why it's affecting me so bad, no one to talk to, I need a new life, please can I be your friend?

Manoftheyear:
Hi everyone, trust we are having a great Saturday. I have come again with my pains 😭
Please I need help urgently before this pain takes me away, this is a Continuation of my previous thread

https://www.nairaland.com/7486515/im-deep-shit

I know I'm in a bondage but let's call it love, for these past months, it's been mood swings, unstable emotions, I no longer focus on my business, hardly go to the shop sef, I have done everything I could to make sure my relationship work but it's getting worse everyday, tried my best to walk out too but that's more impossible, it's more like passing a Carmel head through a hole of the needle, it's more like it's impossible for me to breathe without her. And she knows about my feelings and emotions for her and she has been using against me. I now beg to be loved (smiles), it quite unfortunate but that's my situation right now, I have left my fate for God to decide but I feel pain everyday because my woman now thinks she can do whatever she likes and I won't say or do anything about it and it's true, she believes she owes me no apology, I'm really depressed, I now see her as my god or someone that without her, I can't survive. Many times I hear voices in my head telling me to end it all so I will be at peace but when I remember my beloved ones, I keep fighting on. Please I need people to talk to, weather male or female. Someone should help me out of this misery. I don't know if it's my pass life that's catching up on me or not. I feel so hurt with everything happening to me, it wasn't my plan to be in such situation, I have always guard my heart until I met this lady because of my quest for serious relationship, I would have remain a player if I know it's going to be this way. I'm in pain.

Persephone1:
You really don't have to change your nature, but a friend or two will do.

I don't make friends. Sorry about that.

Geovanni412:


Too long. What do you need, bro?

Persephone1:
You really don't have to change your nature, but a friend or two will do.

I don't make friends. Sorry about that.

FalseProphet1:

As a prophet, I hereby decree and declare that this statement is false.

This I have seen.

E go shock you. I'm really terrible at making friends, I hardly keep up.

Persephone1:
You really don't have to change your nature, but a friend or two will do.

I don't make friends. Sorry about that.

Zonefree:

Evil child. Someone wants to commit suicide and you don't want to help him, e good?


Dear Manoftheyear, you did no wrong by loving the wrong person. It's not your fault to love her so deeply, but, you have to understand that you don't force people to love or be with you.

It's time to move on for your sanity. Your family needs you. No girl in this world worth your happiness. Cheer up and forge ahead. Go out there, make friends, hangout and have fun, life is for the living.

Cheers.

Godada:


I will offer you a simple advice.

It's simplicity is actually it's absurdity.

You need to start chasing other girls. Yes, other girls.

Your problem is simple. You have rented out of lots of space for your god girlfriend to live rent free.

You need to evict her.

You need to engage in actively chasing ladies.

That distraction if followed to the letter will cure you.

On a final note, your happiness is your personal business.

Don't hand it over to anyone.

Zonefree:

Evil child. Someone wants to commit suicide and you don't want to help him, e good?

Lol... You want me to promise what I can't give? I don't do things that way o . He no go commit suicide, he will survive.

Manoftheyear:



Thank you so much for this
Piece of advise, May God bless you abundantly, planning on going to somewhere beautiful tomorrow, just want to mix up with the right people

Persephone1:
Lol... You want me to promise what I can't give? I don't do things that way o . He no go commit suicide, he will survive.

ArmedArmada:
Disclaimer: Before I say anything, I want you to know that sustaining a friendship or relationship is not easy.

It takes time, hard work, patience, maturity and many more things missing from people's lives today...

Of course, you and I know that if you want to live a better experience, you need to leave her.

But then, just know that you must give yourself time to do that. You may be unsuccessful the first few times you try to forget about her.

The memories would be all over the place and the pulling desire to go back to her would be very strong.

Allow yourself to fail, but never stop trying to disconnect from her. Each time you try again, it becomes less difficult

That said...

I think you have low self-esteem. The world is looking at you and treating you the way you treat yourself.

If you don't treat yourself badly, talk down on yourself, castigate yourself, feel bad about yourself, no human being on this planet can make you feel this way.

"If there's no enemy within, the enemy without can do us no harm.

I think you haven't really discovered yourself.

Do you know your temperament traits? Do you know your love languages? What are your goals—financially, socially, relationship-wise, career, spiritually, over the next 5, 10, or 25 years?

What are your personal convictions? The rules that govern your life?

Lol...

If you fix yourself, no biatch would be able to dictate to you and that's a fact.

obinna58:
Difficult decisions is what defines you as a man

Stand your ground and fight your emotions as long as it’s the right thing to do, it’ll learn to live with you


In my own case sef, na me push her away, she tried to get back but thought I don’t like her that much, if only she understands much I’m dying inside for her, physically she’s a rare gem except of course just like an average Nigerian girl, selfishness

My principals can not be taken for granted

Zonefree:

There's no harm in friendship. Give your heart a chance to be loved.



Note;
My post got nothing to do with the thread.

I'm already loved, and have given all love I've got to go around. I don't have the strength for Nl guys friendship


Let it not be what I'm thinking .

Zonefree:

Amen, God bless you too.

Just so you know, when you've succeeded throwing the demon out of your life completely, she'll try to come back cos she might have exhausted her options with other guys. But, your zeal to stand on your ground and say NO to devil will determine if you truly want to go far in this life.

May the spirt always be with you.

Manoftheyear:


You are a gem, I'm happy to interact with someone like you, are you in Lagos?

Zonefree:

The truth is, I'm not always this nice with words here, but, I've gone through your threads and I realized you're truly hurt out of loving the wrong person. I've been in your situation before and I know the feeling is out of this world. But, you'll be fine. The love we have for ungrateful women can never bring us down, rather it will make us grow more in wisdom. Be happy cos you discovered your true self out of loving the wrong person.

I'm not in Lagos presently.

Persephone1:
I'm already loved, and have given all love I've got to go around. I don't have the strength for Nl guys friendship


Let it not be what I'm thinking .