Good afternoon Nairalanders, hope you are all fine. I hope you guys can help me with some suggestions on what to do about this. I’m sorry for the long post but I need to pour everything here because I’m getting frustrated.

I rent one of the rooms in a large building with many other tenants and the landlord was living in one of them with his wife. I chose this place because people just go to work, come back and mind their business for the most part. It is also in a good location in terms of getting to work et cetera. At least, as a woman it’s good to live close to work, market, and other places in case I need to come back late and to minimise the risk of accidents or harassment’s.

There is no expectation for tenants to socialise however He is a kind of person who likes to strike up conversation. While I am an introvert. For example if he sees you preparing something in the kitchen he might ask about it and such. Though I prefer to just cook my food in silence and listen to my phone, I didn’t mind the conversation and I know it’s polite to at least exchange a few words with people that you live with.

But recently it’s becoming quite bothersome. The man started having issues with his wife and anytime he sees any of us in the kitchen will start telling us about all the details which at the beginning, I sympathised with. But the conversation quickly became improper. Like he was telling me that his wife has changed since she started going through menopause and other extremely personal things. How can you be discussing such a thing with a tenant who just came to cook noodles? Wtf.

Another time I was making my lunch to take to work and he came asking me to tell his wife not to raise her voice to him, which of course I refused because it’s not my business to appeal to his wife for him. And so many other things have happened in between but to cut a long story short, they have now separated and madam is no longer living with us. She had her own funny characters sometimes but at least she mostly allowed us to go about our business in peace. Now that he’s alone I guess maybe he is bored or something.

In addition to this, the man no longer keeps regular working hours. Before, if I was off from work I would simply wait until around 10 o’clock when the house was empty, go to the kitchen, relax and cook enough food for the week knowing roughly who will be inside on what day and what time they will be back, including the landlord. But now, even if he’s gone in the morning he will most probably reappear after a couple of hours and catch you in the kitchen and start one strange talk again. As I said I know that some people are just lively, extroverted and all that but isn’t that what friends and relatives are for? Can’t he call some of them and leave me alone?

Even just to wash my plate or use microwave has become something else. We have a few troublesome tenants and instead of him to hurry up and evict them he will be complaining the same complain he has been complaining for months now and giving me running commentary on the whole thing. It’s good to be updated on what’s going on but it has crossed over from update to just talking for the sake of it. I just want to wash my plate and go back to my room 😫

As I’m talking to you now I am nursing a ghastly headache that I have had for the past 2 days, why? Because I have been wasting money eating one junk or another, not because there’s no gas for cooking but because Im afraid to risk going to the kitchen. Like I don’t know what to do. The man is already perching in the kitchen right now and as soon as anybody comes back from work he will start talking about something that doesn’t make sense.

I think the other people have noticed it too because they kinda rush their cooking and don’t stop to talk like before. But I don’t like rushing my food and cooking is like a succour or therapy for me.

I know people will suggest that I just move but it’s not as simple as that. I have been enjoying the house so far, I just need some ways to nip this overfamiliarity in the bud without being rude. Or maybe I need to start acting more rude because there’s only one kitchen and I need to use it. I don’t want to fall sick eating outside rubbish food and my throat is already feeling dry.

Though it often offends people and has caused me problems in the past but I’m still thankful that I’m an introvert and I’m comfortable being alone. Cos I can’t imagine not being able to stay 2 minutes without going about disturbing people all the time. Is it how he will be capturing people in conversation every day? Haaa!

Biko you people should help me, I don’t need this rubbish please

Boom diggit,

Your landlord is a jonsing Man that needs to be layed yet don't know how to politely go about it,
clear him letting him know you are busy by replying his greetings with the busy looks if him no catch the jig clear am openly saying you no dey ready for discussion as you get things wey dey your mind; the jonsing Man fit still ask you wetin be that


NB: If you are feeling a bit frustrated today, just know I spent 20k to change a ba3 ( to me its not that much but I feel so much hate towards avoidable expenditure) not knowing the fault is from charging pot
person tell me e fit be charging pot I no give credence to the talk, my over sabi done wire me today and the worst part, my old ba3 is stronger

Put ear piece in your ear and be speaking loudly as though you were on a call with someone else..

Why not embrace it, at least someone is keeping tab of you, just try switched the conversation to something more meanful than evening gossips. I am more introverted than you ..you have no family at home , so it is good someone is keeping tabs of you once in a while.

Play music, play it out loud and sing along.

he's obviously a womanizer.

start washing your plates inside your room.

do less chores outside.

cook at midnight.

get a big headphone and put it on while cooking.

do not take it off throughout the period of cooking.

if the above steps are not workab,
you can come to my place, you wouldn't need to go outside to cook

jackcanfield:
Why not embrace it, at least someone is keeping tab of you, just try switched the conversation to something more meanful than evening gossips. I am more introverted than you ..you have no family at home , so it is good someone is keeping tabs of you once in a while.

Abeg! I have experienced the kind of talkative she's talking about.

Nobody should disturb another with unnecessary lengthy boring talk especially when the other party isn't interested.

Even your talk here is irrelevant, yet we are not complaining. I think you should have asked us to crowdfund a rent for you, in order to get another place to stay.

Some people can really talk...I admire them. I just can't do it. Talking is a big deal for me. I prefer quietness. I promise to call someone this morning, but right now I am not just in the mood to talk.

I was about suggesting then use of an ear piece, but someone above already suggested it.

sunsweet33:
Good afternoon Nairalanders, hope you are all fine. I hope you guys can help me with some suggestions on what to do about this. I’m sorry for the long post but I need to pour everything here because I’m getting frustrated.

I rent one of the rooms in a large building with many other tenants and the landlord was living in one of them with his wife. I chose this place because people just go to work, come back and mind their business for the most part. It is also in a good location in terms of getting to work et cetera. At least, as a woman it’s good to live close to work, market, and other places in case I need to come back late and to minimise the risk of accidents or harassment’s.

There is no expectation for tenants to socialise however He is a kind of person who likes to strike up conversation. While I am an introvert. For example if he sees you preparing something in the kitchen he might ask about it and such. Though I prefer to just cook my food in silence and listen to my phone, I didn’t mind the conversation and I know it’s polite to at least exchange a few words with people that you live with.

But recently it’s becoming quite bothersome. The man started having issues with his wife and anytime he sees any of us in the kitchen will start telling us about all the details which at the beginning, I sympathised with. But the conversation quickly became improper. Like he was telling me that his wife has changed since she started going through menopause and other extremely personal things. How can you be discussing such a thing with a tenant who just came to cook noodles? Wtf.

Another time I was making my lunch to take to work and he came asking me to tell his wife not to raise his voice to him, which of course I refused because it’s not my business to appeal to his wife for him. And so many other things have happened in between but to cut a long story short, they have now separated and madam is no longer living with us. She had her own funny characters sometimes but at least she mostly allowed us to go about our business in peace. Now that he’s alone I guess maybe he is bored or something.

In addition to this, the man no longer keeps regular working hours. Before, if I was off from work I would simply wait until around 10 o’clock when the house was empty, go to the kitchen, relax and cook enough food for the week knowing roughly who will be inside on what day and what time they will be back, including the landlord. But now, even if he’s gone in the morning he will most probably reappear after a couple of hours and catch you in the kitchen and start one strange talk again. As I said I know that some people are just lively, extroverted and all that but isn’t that what friends and relatives are for? Can’t he call some of them and leave me alone?

Even just to wash my plate or use microwave has become something else. We have a few troublesome tenants and instead of him to hurry up and evict them he will be complaining the same complain he has been complaining for months now and giving me running commentary on the whole thing. It’s good to be updated on what’s going on but it has crossed over from update to just talking for the sake of it. I just want to wash my plate and go back to my room 😫

As I’m talking to you now I am nursing a ghastly headache that I have had for the past 2 days, why? Because I have been wasting money eating one junk or another, not because there’s no gas for cooking but because Im afraid to risk going to the kitchen. Like I don’t know what to do. The man is already perching in the kitchen right now and as soon as anybody comes back from work he will start talking about something that doesn’t make sense.

I think the other people have noticed it too because they kinda rush their cooking and don’t stop to talk like before. But I don’t like rushing my food and cooking is like a succour or therapy for me.

I know people will suggest that I just move but it’s not as simple as that. I have been enjoying the house so far, I just need some ways to nip this overfamiliarity in the bud without being rude. Or maybe I need to start acting more rude because there’s only one kitchen and I need to use it. I don’t want to fall sick eating outside rubbish food and my throat is already feeling dry.

Though it often offends people and has caused me problems in the past but I’m still thankful that I’m an introvert and I’m comfortable being alone. Cos I can’t imagine not being able to stay 2 minutes without going about disturbing people all the time. Is it how he will be capturing people in conversation every day? Haaa!

Biko you people should help me, I don’t need this rubbish please

Cook in your room

This format always comes handy to me.... b4 going 2 d kitchen or anywhere else just make sure u set an alarm nd use any ringtone of ur choice, set it to ring every 5-10 mins... immediately it rings u know what 2 do

Lool I can only imagine, use an headset, Pele oo OP.

Chochocho people can be annoying

jackcanfield:
Why not embrace it, at least someone is keeping tab of you, just try switched the conversation to something more meanful than evening gossips. I am more introverted than you ..you have no family at home , so it is good someone is keeping tabs of you once in a while.

Valid point here too

I guess baba is getting old, he needs a talk mate.
Maybe his ex wife is his talking mate & he's getting bored by the day.
Your landlord needs a gist mate, but he's rounded by pple that don't talk much.
You just have to bear with him,if you are not comfortable with that life style, move to a selfcom.
This life been nor heard, na we make ham heard for ourselves.

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