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APR 19, 2023
One of the sacrosanct pieces of advice you will hear from people when you are preparing for marriage is, ‘do not involve a third party in your marital affair.’ in a bid to protect your home.

Thank God Rev. Adewole didn’t give me such advice and I am not buying into that advice because we have family mentors who guide us on things that have to do with marriage.

The number one reason, although marriage is a personal and private affair but it is not a secret society where secrecy is the order of the day.

Dear reader, there is nothing you are doing in courtship and marriage that nobody shouldn’t hear.

By hearing, I didn’t mean social media broadcasting of everything happening inside your home or washing your clean and dirty linen in front of every Tom, Dick, and Harry. I mean your spouse and you have a senior accountability partner you reported to.

Furthermore, the reason why most nuptials pack up as a result of trivial issues is that most of such crises are beyond repair before they reach the marriage counselor’s office. If they have godly oversight over their home, such oversight could have guided them in handling crises.

Two, you haven’t married before. You probably haven’t given birth before. You haven’t lived up close with a pregnant woman before. You don’t probably know how to satisfy your partner sexually and we have godly couples who have successfully scaled all these stages and seasons of marriage.

Why not make use of their lessons and mistakes?

Why the trial and error approach?

If not for the guidance of our mentors, my family may have given way.

If not for the teaching of a third party we reported to, I would have hated my wife during the first trimester.

Thirdly, why live a life of irresponsibility?

In conclusion, a third party should not be an immature believer, young couple, or unmarried individual but rather a godly, mature, and old couple with verifiable evidence of a Christian family.

May God gives us a happy home in Jesus’ name.

https://joelalade.home.blog/2023/04/19/third-party-involvement/

Aladeintl:
THOUGHTS OF A GENTLEMAN.
MENU

APR 19, 2023
One of the sacrosanct pieces of advice you will hear from people when you are preparing for marriage is, ‘do not involve a third party in your marital affair.’ in a bid to protect your home.

Thank God Rev. Adewole didn’t give me such advice and I am not buying into that advice because we have family mentors who guide us on things that have to do with marriage.

The number one reason, although marriage is a personal and private affair but it is not a secret society where secrecy is the order of the day.

Dear reader, there is nothing you are doing in courtship and marriage that nobody shouldn’t hear.

By hearing, I didn’t mean social media broadcasting of everything happening inside your home or washing your clean and dirty linen in front of every Tom, Dick, and Harry. I mean your spouse and you have a senior accountability partner you reported to.

Furthermore, the reason why most nuptials pack up as a result of trivial issues is that most of such crises are beyond repair before they reach the marriage counselor’s office. If they have godly oversight over their home, such oversight could have guided them in handling crises.

Two, you haven’t married before. You probably haven’t given birth before. You haven’t lived up close with a pregnant woman before. You don’t probably know how to satisfy your partner sexually and we have godly couples who have successfully scaled all these stages and seasons of marriage.

Why not make use of their lessons and mistakes?

Why the trial and error approach?

If not for the guidance of our mentors, my family may have given way.

If not for the teaching of a third party we reported to, I would have hated my wife during the first trimester.

Thirdly, why live a life of irresponsibility?

In conclusion, a third party should not be an immature believer, young couple, or unmarried individual but rather a godly, mature, and old couple with verifiable evidence of a Christian family.

May God gives us a happy home in Jesus’ name.

https://joelalade.home.blog/2023/04/19/third-party-involvement/

you are correct though

There are two main types of third parties. Some third parties are nothing but weapons of mass destruction there are too many of them on nairaland.

Imagine a divorcee woman advising her married friend to dump her husband 😱🤣

VeeVeeMyLuv:
you are correct though . There are two main types of third parties. Some third parties are nothing but weapons of mass destruction there are too many of them on nairaland. Imagine a divorcee woman advising her married friend to dump her husband 😱🤣

All the pastors and reverends wey don destroy many marriages full everywhere, you no mention them.

Aladeintl:
■ One of the sacrosanct pieces of advice you will hear from people when you are preparing for marriage is, ‘do not involve a third party in your marital affair.’ in a bid to protect your home. Thank God Rev. Adewole didn’t give me such advice and I am not buying into that advice because we have family mentors who guide us on things that have to do with marriage. The number one reason, although marriage is a personal and private affair but it is not a secret society where secrecy is the order of the day. Dear reader, there is nothing you are doing in courtship and marriage that nobody shouldn’t hear. By hearing, I didn’t mean social media broadcasting of everything happening inside your home or washing your clean and dirty linen in front of every Tom, Dick, and Harry. I mean your spouse and you have a senior accountability partner you reported to.
■ Furthermore, the reason why most nuptials pack up as a result of trivial issues is that most of such crises are beyond repair before they reach the marriage counselor’s office. If they have godly oversight over their home, such oversight could have guided them in handling crises. Two, you haven’t married before. You probably haven’t given birth before. You haven’t lived up close with a pregnant woman before. You don’t probably know how to satisfy your partner sexually and we have godly couples who have successfully scaled all these stages and seasons of marriage. Why not make use of their lessons and mistakes?
■ Why the trial and error approach? If not for the guidance of our mentors, my family may have given way. If not for the teaching of a third party we reported to, I would have hated my wife during the first trimester. Thirdly, why live a life of irresponsibility? In conclusion, a third party should not be an immature believer, young couple, or unmarried individual but rather a godly, mature, and old couple with verifiable evidence of a Christian family.

1. How in the world is your reverend going to give you that advice when he was already puppeteering your situation right from the get-go? WOW.... accountability partner in addition to the man and woman who are courting each other?
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3. This na how pastors and mogs plug themselves in between married couples all the while using the mentions of the name of God to deceive and delude such couples into serving their whims.

If there is a third party when the husband and wife have sex, then that third party should be invited to resolve their issues. many marriages fail because people get advice from someone who is biased and uses his or her life experiences and outcome to advise the couple.
A man who when through a bad marriage will advice based on that, a pastor whose wife does not respect him at home will tell the man to be an Andrew Tate when he the pastor cannot be that in his own house, the people who keep multiple girlfriends and sugar daddy will offer their advise based on what works for them.
Only the 2 people in a marriage can fix their marriage if they want to

Then call me evil, cause I believe it is STUPIDITY OF THE HEIGHEST MAGNITUDE, to involve third parties in the affairs of your marriage in most cases ...

Cause all those third parties will give you counsel that is biased by their own experience for the most part ...

And what works for A may most likely not work for B, cause the circumstances surrounding A's marriage is totally different to that of B ...

Besides even if the circumstances are the same, their spouses are not ...

The ONLY TIME I can advice a third party is when the couples themselves have tried repeatedly to solve a problem and it doesn't work...

Bringing in a WISE & EXPERIENCED third party that both sides respect and listen to in cases like this is recommended, asides this, you'll only destroy your marriage if you do so ...

And the accountability you're talking about shouldn't be to anyone but your spouse (in this context) ...