This thread isn't intended to bash any woman but just to let them no we men ain't fools cos I don't no why women will hardly make sacrifice for a man family but will expect the man to be making sacrifices for her own.

Sometime last year my mum wanted to do a little hosting of her follow market women in the house so she needed a caterer to help with food needed for the day. I was to sort that out for her while my other siblings sort the rest.

My fiancee happens to be into catering I had a discussion with her to help cook it.....it was food meant for 50 guest and she sent me a quotation of 120k.

This someone who practically staying with me and am the one taking care of everything.....we had lot of back and forth over it and she said 90k is the last she can do it for.
I beg this lady to collect 70k but she told me 70k will only cook jollof rice with beef while swallow wont be included.
I paid the 90k with pain in my heart cos I felt she wasn't considerate at all cos she knew my financial status at the time and she still used the gas in the house to prepare everything(she made about 30k gain out of me cos she later jabo herself)........no family in business right.

When My mum asked who cook the food I just told her a former school mate cos it will be somehow telling her my fiancee collected that amount for the food.
(Had it been my aunties were around am sure It won't cost up to 50k to cook that food)

Now table has turned her dad need my services which will cost him normally around 450k but am ready to render it for 300k.

Her mum called telling her to plead with me to do It for 200k that her dad doesn't really have money which means I will have to add 100k of my own money to get the equipment since am not charging installation fee.

She brought up the matter yesterday and I clearly reminded her what she did when I needed her to cook for my mum meeting and we really exchanged harsh words.

She later called her mum to inform them to get someone else to do the job that I can't do it.
Am close to her mum and I don't want to create this impression of not being a good potential son inlaw.

So am thinking of calling her mum today and explaining everything to her ....so she can understand things properly or should I just lock up.....(advice needed).

Honestly I want to pay her back for what she did cos she not even remorseful saying she even did me a favor collecting the 90k for the food.

Follow your heart sister.

That girl has shown you over and over again that money and her family tops her priority list before you. How you still refer to her as your fiancee is what baffles me.

Honestly most men are the architect of their misfortune in marriage.

Nazgul:
That girl has shown you over and over again that money and her family tops her priority list before you. How you still refer to her as your fiancee is what baffles me.

Honestly most men are the architect of their misfortune in marriage.

Bro.....I think is just most women trait.

Check around......women family benefits more in marriages.

I understand what you are saying that why I want to nip it on the board now so her family no I won't tolerate such

Don't bother explaining anything. Even if they understand, they will still not be reasonable. Leave it alone bro. Other jobs will come.

You are seeing a reg flag and you are still calling her mom your mother-inlaw, how on earth do you think that such a selfie woman will make a good wife. You just said she is not even remorseful for what she did to you or didn't I read that correctly? Bro na this kind babe dey serve man Breakfast if things mistakenly turn around for you. Calling her mom to example everything just make you a SMIP, lol just in relationship you don start to complain, who knows what will happen when una don marry. JUST DEY PLAY

Your wife is or will be the mother of your children.

Your duty is to Provide, Protect, and Lead her. Not doing business with each other.

Her duty is to take care of your children and household.

If it is a must you do business with them, stick to your price. No reduction. No pity. Don't mix family with your business.

If you are not bold enough to stick to your price, just avoid doing business with your family.

Also, stop involving your wife in family business if they can't pay her price.

Business is business.

Don't mix business with pleasure.

Your wife is smarter than you.

Be smart, and strict.

Godoverevery:
This thread isn't intended to bash any woman but just to let them no we men ain't fools cos I don't no why women will hardly make sacrifice for a man family but will expect the man to be making sacrifices for her own.

Sometime last year my mum wanted to do a little hosting of her follow market women in the house so she needed a caterer to help with food needed for the day. I was to sort that out for her while my other siblings sort the rest.

My fiancee happens to be into catering I had a discussion with her to help cook it.....it was food meant for 50 guest and she sent me a quotation of 120k.

This someone who practically staying with me and am the one taking care of everything.....we had lot of back and forth over it and she said 90k is the last she can do it for.
I beg this lady to collect 70k but she told me 70k will only cook jollof rice with beef while swallow wont be included.
I paid the 90k with pain in my heart cos I felt she wasn't considerate at all cos she knew my financial status at the time and she still used the gas in the house to prepare everything(she made about 30k gain out of me cos she later jabo herself)........no family in business right.

When My mum asked who cook the food I just told her a former school mate cos it will be somehow telling her my fiancee collected that amount for the food.
(Had it been my aunties were around am sure It won't cost up to 50k to cook that food)

Now table has turned her dad need my services which will cost him normally around 450k but am ready to render it for 300k.

Her mum called telling her to plead with me to do It for 200k that her dad doesn't really have money which means I will have to add 100k of my own money to get the equipment since am not charging installation fee.

She brought up the matter yesterday and I clearly reminded her what she did when I needed her to cook for my mum meeting and we really exchanged harsh words.

She later called her mum to inform them to get someone else to do the job that I can't do it.
Am close to her mum and I don't want to create this impression of not being a good potential son inlaw.

So am thinking of calling her mum today and explaining everything to her ....so she can understand things properly or should I just lock up.....(advice needed).

Honestly I want to pay her back for what she did cos she not even remorseful saying she even did me a favor collecting the 90k for the food.

Since you're close to the mother discuss it with her, that her daughter told you about the job then tell her the market price of everything you need to do, I mean material and labour, them tell her you don't want to charge them based on market price, that they should buy the materials themselves and you will install it for free and see what would be their reaction, DON'T tell her what her daughter did (Blood is thicker than Water), this way you remove your shoulder from 100k and still earn their respect

Lol I love her business prowess, because she understands that in any business, she has to make profit and she did

She is smarter than you in the sense that she is not willing to compromise because of family/future family, in order to cancel any form of favouritism or compromise in future endeavours cos we all know family and over familiarity are the first to destroy businesses,

She is wiser than you in the sense that she can blatantly cancel arrangements with you and her parents, she didn't lie to them, whereas you lied to your mum on who did the catering, next time be upfront to your mum and own up to whatever consequence it will cause

My advice is not to explain yourself to her parents, own your shit and learn to put business first regardless of family, never start what you can't finish cos when they see that you compromise once, they will keep coming back, recommending their friends to you, quoting any figures to you knowing you will accept it, and that my friend, is the beginning of the end of your business.

Jovialjune1:
Lol I love her business prowess, because she understands that in any business, she has to make profit and she did

She is smarter than you in the sense that she is not willing to compromise because of family/future family, in order to cancel any form of favouritism or compromise in future endeavours cos we all know family and over familiarity are the first to destroy businesses,

She is wiser than you in the sense that she can blatantly cancel arrangements with you and her parents, she didn't lie to them, whereas you lied to your mum on who did the catering, next time be upfront to your mum and own up to whatever consequence it will cause

My advice is not to explain yourself to her parents, own your shit and learn to put business first regardless of family, never start what you can't finish cos when they see that you compromise once, they will keep coming back, recommending their friends to you, quoting any figures to you knowing you will accept it, and that my friend, is the beginning of the end of your business.

Correct 💯

Jovialjune1:
Lol I love her business prowess, because she understands that in any business, she has to make profit and she did

She is smarter than you in the sense that she is not willing to compromise because of family/future family, in order to cancel any form of favouritism or compromise in future endeavours cos we all know family and over familiarity are the first to destroy businesses,

She is wiser than you in the sense that she can blatantly cancel arrangements with you and her parents, she didn't lie to them, whereas you lied to your mum on who did the catering, next time be upfront to your mum and own up to whatever consequence it will cause

My advice is not to explain yourself to her parents, own your shit and learn to put business first regardless of family, never start what you can't finish cos when they see that you compromise once, they will keep coming back, recommending their friends to you, quoting any figures to you knowing you will accept it, and that my friend, is the beginning of the end of your business.

Totally agree.....you spot on.


You know sometimes is always good to seek others perspective especially from a faceless forum like this.

It's all business...na u no sabi price.

Godoverevery:


Bro.....I think is just most women trait.

Check around......women family benefits more in marriages.

I understand what you are saying that why I want to nip it on the board now so her family no I won't tolerate such

It's not in my place to tell you how to build your future bro but the foundation is faulty.
Please do not give excuses for her. that seems to portray who she is. why couldn't she tell her mom that she tried talking to you o and let the mom come and put mouth join? But rather she told her mom to find someone else that you can not do it. Did you tell her that when your mom wanted to host her group?
This is just the beginning of more to come.....
In a saner clime and if you were financially buoyant, you can even do it for free but as it stands, it's not happening.

Good luck bro....

Nazgul:
That girl has shown you over and over again that money and her family tops her priority list before you. How you still refer to her as your fiancee is what baffles me.

Honestly most men are the architect of their misfortune in marriage.

Beats me o...
This one no be fiancee again sef...

Jovialjune1:
Lol I love her business prowess, because she understands that in any business, she has to make profit and she did

She is smarter than you in the sense that she is not willing to compromise because of family/future family, in order to cancel any form of favouritism or compromise in future endeavours cos we all know family and over familiarity are the first to destroy businesses,

She is wiser than you in the sense that she can blatantly cancel arrangements with you and her parents, she didn't lie to them, whereas you lied to your mum on who did the catering, next time be upfront to your mum and own up to whatever consequence it will cause

My advice is not to explain yourself to her parents, own your shit and learn to put business first regardless of family, never start what you can't finish cos when they see that you compromise once, they will keep coming back, recommending their friends to you, quoting any figures to you knowing you will accept it, and that my friend, is the beginning of the end of your business.

Your post is spot on...but written from a neutral point of view. The actors in this story are in love, they're not just two random people doing business.

What's the purpose of claiming to love each other if one party sees everything as an opportunity to make profit.

She's living in his house and enjoying certain benefits from him, why not reciprocate. Or isn't love about reciprocation?

It's very wrong to see every request from someone whom you claim to love as a business opportunity most especially if you're directly benefiting from that person.

Anyways you were right about one thing... she's way smarter and wiser than him and most importantly if I must add... doesn't love him.

Godoverevery:

Bro.....I think is just most women trait.

Check around......women family benefits more in marriages.

I understand what you are saying that why I want to nip it on the board now so her family no I won't tolerate such

See if a girl whom you're planning to settle down with cannot make any selfless sacrifice for you without making financial demands, kindly forget about her.

Jovialjune1:
Lol I love her business prowess, because she understands that in any business, she has to make profit and she did

She is smarter than you in the sense that she is not willing to compromise because of family/future family, in order to cancel any form of favouritism or compromise in future endeavours cos we all know family and over familiarity are the first to destroy businesses,

She is wiser than you in the sense that she can blatantly cancel arrangements with you and her parents, she didn't lie to them, whereas you lied to your mum on who did the catering, next time be upfront to your mum and own up to whatever consequence it will cause

My advice is not to explain yourself to her parents, own your shit and learn to put business first regardless of family, never start what you can't finish cos when they see that you compromise once, they will keep coming back, recommending their friends to you, quoting any figures to you knowing you will accept it, and that my friend, is the beginning of the end of your business.

Nice one.

Discuss it over with her family while avoiding to spill anything that happened in the past when she cooked for your mom. You've already made a mistake by exchanging words with her about the cooking price saga in connection with her dads job, don't make another mistake by carrying it to her parents.

Give them your minimum price while making sure you make your profit no matter how little, don't ever think of doing it for free. If your fiancé decides to get another person to do the job then so be it. Be a man and have respect.

Nazgul:

Your post is spot on...but written from a neutral point of view. The actors in this story are in love, they're not just two random people doing business.

What's the purpose of claiming to love each other if one party sees everything as an opportunity to make profit.

She's living in his house and enjoying certain benefits from him, why not reciprocate. Or isn't love about reciprocation?

It's very wrong to see every request from someone whom you claim to love as a business opportunity most especially if you're directly benefiting from that person.

Anyways you were right about one thing... she's way smarter and wiser than him and most especially if I must add... doesn't love him.

I concur.
This one is better.
She even used the gas at home o....

Chai!!!!

Godoverevery:
This thread isn't intended to bash any woman but just to let them no we men ain't fools cos I don't no why women will hardly make sacrifice for a man family but will expect the man to be making sacrifices for her own.

Sometime last year my mum wanted to do a little hosting of her follow market women in the house so she needed a caterer to help with food needed for the day. I was to sort that out for her while my other siblings sort the rest.

My fiancee happens to be into catering I had a discussion with her to help cook it.....it was food meant for 50 guest and she sent me a quotation of 120k.

This someone who practically staying with me and am the one taking care of everything.....we had lot of back and forth over it and she said 90k is the last she can do it for.
I beg this lady to collect 70k but she told me 70k will only cook jollof rice with beef while swallow wont be included.
I paid the 90k with pain in my heart cos I felt she wasn't considerate at all cos she knew my financial status at the time and she still used the gas in the house to prepare everything(she made about 30k gain out of me cos she later jabo herself)........no family in business right.

When My mum asked who cook the food I just told her a former school mate cos it will be somehow telling her my fiancee collected that amount for the food.
(Had it been my aunties were around am sure It won't cost up to 50k to cook that food)

Now table has turned her dad need my services which will cost him normally around 450k but am ready to render it for 300k.

Her mum called telling her to plead with me to do It for 200k that her dad doesn't really have money which means I will have to add 100k of my own money to get the equipment since am not charging installation fee.

She brought up the matter yesterday and I clearly reminded her what she did when I needed her to cook for my mum meeting and we really exchanged harsh words.

She later called her mum to inform them to get someone else to do the job that I can't do it.
Am close to her mum and I don't want to create this impression of not being a good potential son inlaw.

So am thinking of calling her mum today and explaining everything to her ....so she can understand things properly or should I just lock up.....(advice needed).

Honestly I want to pay her back for what she did cos she not even remorseful saying she even did me a favor collecting the 90k for the food.

If you don't plan on laying her, forget it... But if you plan on getting married to her, be the bigger person and make the sacrifice.
Even in marriage, ladies tend to do a lot of illogical things. You're the one to just apply maturity in the face of childishness

dawnomike:
If you don't plan on laying her, forget it... But if you plan on getting married to her, be the bigger person and make the sacrifice.
Even in marriage, ladies tend to do a lot of illogical things. You're the one to just apply maturity in the face of childishness

Thanks bro.....I think women are just naturally selfish.

Godoverevery:
This thread isn't intended to bash any woman but just to let them no we men ain't fools cos I don't no why women will hardly make sacrifice for a man family but will expect the man to be making sacrifices for her own.

Sometime last year my mum wanted to do a little hosting of her follow market women in the house so she needed a caterer to help with food needed for the day. I was to sort that out for her while my other siblings sort the rest.

My fiancee happens to be into catering I had a discussion with her to help cook it.....it was food meant for 50 guest and she sent me a quotation of 120k.

This someone who practically staying with me and am the one taking care of everything.....we had lot of back and forth over it and she said 90k is the last she can do it for.
I beg this lady to collect 70k but she told me 70k will only cook jollof rice with beef while swallow wont be included.
I paid the 90k with pain in my heart cos I felt she wasn't considerate at all cos she knew my financial status at the time and she still used the gas in the house to prepare everything(she made about 30k gain out of me cos she later jabo herself)........no family in business right.

When My mum asked who cook the food I just told her a former school mate cos it will be somehow telling her my fiancee collected that amount for the food.
(Had it been my aunties were around am sure It won't cost up to 50k to cook that food)

Now table has turned her dad need my services which will cost him normally around 450k but am ready to render it for 300k.

Her mum called telling her to plead with me to do It for 200k that her dad doesn't really have money which means I will have to add 100k of my own money to get the equipment since am not charging installation fee.

She brought up the matter yesterday and I clearly reminded her what she did when I needed her to cook for my mum meeting and we really exchanged harsh words.

She later called her mum to inform them to get someone else to do the job that I can't do it.
Am close to her mum and I don't want to create this impression of not being a good potential son inlaw.

So am thinking of calling her mum today and explaining everything to her ....so she can understand things properly or should I just lock up.....(advice needed).

Honestly I want to pay her back for what she did cos she not even remorseful saying she even did me a favor collecting the 90k for the food.

Bro you should call her parents, there's no family in business! Why's she marring a business you'll make money from and take care of her, bro call her parents...after this Dont ever do business with family it brings little taints of greed, and hate

God is protecting somebody's son from future headache but he is not seeing it.

I am not taking sides but both of you are not fit for each other... The earlier you start looking for a replacement the better for you to avoid heartbreak cos I am almost certain she is already looking for your replacement, that is if she hasn't found him already... The relationship has ended, you guys are just friends with benefits currently...

Godoverevery:
This thread isn't intended to bash any woman but just to let them no we men ain't fools cos I don't no why women will hardly make sacrifice for a man family but will expect the man to be making sacrifices for her own.

Sometime last year my mum wanted to do a little hosting of her follow market women in the house so she needed a caterer to help with food needed for the day. I was to sort that out for her while my other siblings sort the rest.

My fiancee happens to be into catering I had a discussion with her to help cook it.....it was food meant for 50 guest and she sent me a quotation of 120k.

This someone who practically staying with me and am the one taking care of everything.....we had lot of back and forth over it and she said 90k is the last she can do it for.
I beg this lady to collect 70k but she told me 70k will only cook jollof rice with beef while swallow wont be included.
I paid the 90k with pain in my heart cos I felt she wasn't considerate at all cos she knew my financial status at the time and she still used the gas in the house to prepare everything(she made about 30k gain out of me cos she later jabo herself)........no family in business right.

When My mum asked who cook the food I just told her a former school mate cos it will be somehow telling her my fiancee collected that amount for the food.
(Had it been my aunties were around am sure It won't cost up to 50k to cook that food)

Now table has turned her dad need my services which will cost him normally around 450k but am ready to render it for 300k.

Her mum called telling her to plead with me to do It for 200k that her dad doesn't really have money which means I will have to add 100k of my own money to get the equipment since am not charging installation fee.

She brought up the matter yesterday and I clearly reminded her what she did when I needed her to cook for my mum meeting and we really exchanged harsh words.

She later called her mum to inform them to get someone else to do the job that I can't do it.
Am close to her mum and I don't want to create this impression of not being a good potential son inlaw.

So am thinking of calling her mum today and explaining everything to her ....so she can understand things properly or should I just lock up.....(advice needed).

Honestly I want to pay her back for what she did cos she not even remorseful saying she even did me a favor collecting the 90k for the food.

Guy use your tongue and count your teeth. God has opened your eyes yet you want to close it with both hands. Leave that girl and get someone else. She’s not worth you. Una no Dey hear word for this nairaland.

This is red flag in capital letters yet you no wan use your head. Las Las na you go use your head carry am.

Peace !!

Jovialjune1:
Lol I love her business prowess, because she understands that in any business, she has to make profit and she did

She is smarter than you in the sense that she is not willing to compromise because of family/future family, in order to cancel any form of favouritism or compromise in future endeavours cos we all know family and over familiarity are the first to destroy businesses,

She is wiser than you in the sense that she can blatantly cancel arrangements with you and her parents, she didn't lie to them, whereas you lied to your mum on who did the catering, next time be upfront to your mum and own up to whatever consequence it will cause

My advice is not to explain yourself to her parents, own your shit and learn to put business first regardless of family, never start what you can't finish cos when they see that you compromise once, they will keep coming back, recommending their friends to you, quoting any figures to you knowing you will accept it, and that my friend, is the beginning of the end of your business.

100% on point...

You have a very valid reason and I support you.

Treat others the way you want to be treated.

It's business . Let them pay or get someone else.

Godoverevery:
This thread isn't intended to bash any woman but just to let them no we men ain't fools cos I don't no why women will hardly make sacrifice for a man family but will expect the man to be making sacrifices for her own.

Sometime last year my mum wanted to do a little hosting of her follow market women in the house so she needed a caterer to help with food needed for the day. I was to sort that out for her while my other siblings sort the rest.

My fiancee happens to be into catering I had a discussion with her to help cook it.....it was food meant for 50 guest and she sent me a quotation of 120k.

This someone who practically staying with me and am the one taking care of everything.....we had lot of back and forth over it and she said 90k is the last she can do it for.
I beg this lady to collect 70k but she told me 70k will only cook jollof rice with beef while swallow wont be included.
I paid the 90k with pain in my heart cos I felt she wasn't considerate at all cos she knew my financial status at the time and she still used the gas in the house to prepare everything(she made about 30k gain out of me cos she later jabo herself)........no family in business right.

When My mum asked who cook the food I just told her a former school mate cos it will be somehow telling her my fiancee collected that amount for the food.
(Had it been my aunties were around am sure It won't cost up to 50k to cook that food)

Now table has turned her dad need my services which will cost him normally around 450k but am ready to render it for 300k.

Her mum called telling her to plead with me to do It for 200k that her dad doesn't really have money which means I will have to add 100k of my own money to get the equipment since am not charging installation fee.

She brought up the matter yesterday and I clearly reminded her what she did when I needed her to cook for my mum meeting and we really exchanged harsh words.

She later called her mum to inform them to get someone else to do the job that I can't do it.
Am close to her mum and I don't want to create this impression of not being a good potential son inlaw.

So am thinking of calling her mum today and explaining everything to her ....so she can understand things properly or should I just lock up.....(advice needed).

Honestly I want to pay her back for what she did cos she not even remorseful saying she even did me a favor collecting the 90k for the food.

I see no dilemma here.

Provided you are sure they can't get anyone else to provide that service for below ₦400k, what are you stressing for?

Once they go around, and they get quotations ranging from ₦400k to ₦500k, common sense dictates that they'll come back to you, right?

See, men should learn to grow some balls once they know they're on the right track.
I don't even see how this is an issue.
Why not do it for free, if you can't handle yourself?

Godoverevery:


Bro.....I think is just most women trait.

Check around......women family benefits more in marriages.

I understand what you are saying that why I want to nip it on the board now so her family no I won't tolerate such

Bro you need to be very careful with that girl you are saying is your fiancé,people just use the word anyhow. If she didn’t explain to her mum that it will cost you so much to do the job if you accept to do it at their price that is why she is telling them to look for someone then she is a reasonable woman BUT if she just told her mum to get someone else for the job without explaining anything to her then il advice you to find another woman because that girl will throw you under the bus anyday anytime especially when money is involved..

And without her explaining to her parents they will have a bad impression about you so you may need to call her to explain to her but be ready because they will guilt trip you into taking the job with an additional 50k offer but as for me if I am sure she is a selfish woman and not a wife Material then I’d probably not call her mum to explain anything.

There's no point telling her parents what she did to your mum and how you want to pay her back now by charging her own parents for your service. You'd look stupid and vengeful.

Lock up... Insist on getting paid for your service at a fair price. If they go and patronise somebody else, just know that the relationship has ended. Start looking for someone else that can work with you.

If you mumu follow that girl, you'll suffer in old age

Godoverevery:
This thread isn't intended to bash any woman but just to let them no we men ain't fools cos I don't no why women will hardly make sacrifice for a man family but will expect the man to be making sacrifices for her own.

Sometime last year my mum wanted to do a little hosting of her follow market women in the house so she needed a caterer to help with food needed for the day. I was to sort that out for her while my other siblings sort the rest.

My fiancee happens to be into catering I had a discussion with her to help cook it.....it was food meant for 50 guest and she sent me a quotation of 120k.

This someone who practically staying with me and am the one taking care of everything.....we had lot of back and forth over it and she said 90k is the last she can do it for.
I beg this lady to collect 70k but she told me 70k will only cook jollof rice with beef while swallow wont be included.
I paid the 90k with pain in my heart cos I felt she wasn't considerate at all cos she knew my financial status at the time and she still used the gas in the house to prepare everything(she made about 30k gain out of me cos she later jabo herself)........no family in business right.

When My mum asked who cook the food I just told her a former school mate cos it will be somehow telling her my fiancee collected that amount for the food.
(Had it been my aunties were around am sure It won't cost up to 50k to cook that food)

Now table has turned her dad need my services which will cost him normally around 450k but am ready to render it for 300k.

Her mum called telling her to plead with me to do It for 200k that her dad doesn't really have money which means I will have to add 100k of my own money to get the equipment since am not charging installation fee.

She brought up the matter yesterday and I clearly reminded her what she did when I needed her to cook for my mum meeting and we really exchanged harsh words.

She later called her mum to inform them to get someone else to do the job that I can't do it.
Am close to her mum and I don't want to create this impression of not being a good potential son inlaw.

So am thinking of calling her mum today and explaining everything to her ....so she can understand things properly or should I just lock up.....(advice needed).

Honestly I want to pay her back for what she did cos she not even remorseful saying she even did me a favor collecting the 90k for the food.

I hope she is now your ex ? Assuming everything you said is true

Did you see @jovialjune one sided comment on the issue

Did you see as she called the girl smarter the guy.

Did you see how some guys here are supporting @jovialjune



Did you see as she never paid regard for all the things the guy has done for the babe.

Guy open your eyes