Hi, everyone.

My girlfriend and I intend to settle down by the end of the year or early next year.

The problem now is I need to meet her parents to make my intentions known, but I don’t know how to do that, neither does she.

She’s 23, and I’m 25.


What do I take along with me? What are the thing I need? I do I approach them? I honestly have no idea what to do.


She asked one of her cousins, and that one said I should go with two envelopes, one for the mother and another for the father. And that I need to go with Schnapps, wine, and kola nut or something, and that I’ll drop 1k on the table before talking. And she said I must go with a friend or relative. Is this necessary for the first meeting?


Also, which one is envelope again? How much do I need to drop in each one? Why is this even necessary? Is that how it’s done?

My intention is to go and make my intentions known, know the brides list, and what to do going forward.

My girl actually wanted to me to get her pregnant, so that everything can be easy to process. But I prefer to do the right thing


Suggestions are welcomed

Both of you should pay them a visit and have her introduce you to them as husband wanna be.then, make your intentions known to them.
Start from there.

Tell your girlfriend to first inform her parent about your coming their reply will determine your next step.
If the reply goes well,then should can go with a few goodies and yes money is also important.
Lastly try to appear decent, presentable and matured, and also do not show any sign of fear and anxiety, be confident and bold but don't be rude.Goodluck .

Forrkke:
Hi, everyone.

My girlfriend and I intend to settle down by the end of the year or early next year.

The problem now is I need to meet her parents to make my intentions known, but I don’t know how to do that, neither does she.

She’s 23, and I’m 25.


What do I take along with me? What are the thing I need? I do I approach them? I honestly have no idea what to do.


She asked one of her cousins, and that one said I should go with two envelopes, one for the mother and another for the father. And that I need to go with Schnapps, wine, and kola nut or something, and that I’ll drop 1k on the table before talking. And she said I must go with a friend or relative. Is this necessary for the first meeting?


Also, which one is envelope again? How much do I need to drop in each one? Why is this even necessary? Is that how it’s done?

My intention is to go and make my intentions known, know the brides list, and what to do going forward.

My girl actually wanted to me to get her pregnant, so that everything can be easy to process. But I prefer to do the right thing


Suggestions are welcomed

Is the envelope to induce them or to bribe them to accept yoir visit

I will advise you go with your uncle one or two to inform them of your intension

Your uncles will advice you how to prepare your self

But pls ignore the part of envelop so that you do to start what you will not finish

Dont entice them with money, that may be a wrong impression

If you know within you that you are getting married to her, you can decide to pregnant her or not

But I think that can take place after the introduction

To avoid any issue that may comes and you decide not to marry her

Forrkke:
Hi, everyone.

My girlfriend and I intend to settle down by the end of the year or early next year.

The problem now is I need to meet her parents to make my intentions known, but I don’t know how to do that, neither does she.

She’s 23, and I’m 25.


What do I take along with me? What are the thing I need? I do I approach them? I honestly have no idea what to do.


She asked one of her cousins, and that one said I should go with two envelopes, one for the mother and another for the father. And that I need to go with Schnapps, wine, and kola nut or something, and that I’ll drop 1k on the table before talking. And she said I must go with a friend or relative. Is this necessary for the first meeting?


Also, which one is envelope again? How much do I need to drop in each one? Why is this even necessary? Is that how it’s done?

My intention is to go and make my intentions known, know the brides list, and what to do going forward.

My girl actually wanted to me to get her pregnant, so that everything can be easy to process. But I prefer to do the right thing


Suggestions are welcomed

Are you going for an Introduction or a personal visit for them to know you.

It's easy don't go with anyone yet, talk to your woman to inform her parents that her man wants to visit them like someone said up there. You can buy bread, tubers of yams From the there the rest is history


Just lil talk tell them that you like their daughter that this your first time been there but you're still coming back with people

I suggest you make an informal visit to the family first. You may go along with some gifts , buy that's not compulsory .With that they will know that something might be happening soon.

Then you can now plan another visit where you go with gifts / wines / kola, depending on the traditions on the families involved to make your intention concerning their daughter known.

Forrkke:
Hi, everyone.

My girlfriend and I intend to settle down by the end of the year or early next year.

The problem now is I need to meet her parents to make my intentions known, but I don’t know how to do that, neither does she.

She’s 23, and I’m 25.


What do I take along with me? What are the thing I need? I do I approach them? I honestly have no idea what to do.


She asked one of her cousins, and that one said I should go with two envelopes, one for the mother and another for the father. And that I need to go with Schnapps, wine, and kola nut or something, and that I’ll drop 1k on the table before talking. And she said I must go with a friend or relative. Is this necessary for the first meeting?


Also, which one is envelope again? How much do I need to drop in each one? Why is this even necessary? Is that how it’s done?

My intention is to go and make my intentions known, know the brides list, and what to do going forward.

My girl actually wanted to me to get her pregnant, so that everything can be easy to process. But I prefer to do the right thing


Suggestions are welcomed

Getting married at the age of 25, I find it worrisome. Early marriage is great for a Lady but can’t say the same for a Guy. Not trying to discourage you here but I just need to take this off my heart. Wish you the best mate.

Let me ask you one something. Did you hit yahoo money?

virginprincess:
Tell your girlfriend to first inform her parent about your coming their reply will determine your next step.
If the reply goes well,then should can go with a few goodies and yes money is also important.
Lastly try to appear decent, presentable and matured, and also do not show any sign of fear and anxiety, be confident and bold but don't be rude.Goodluck .

She has informed her dad, and he said it's fine and that he's free anytime

frozen70:


Is the envelope to induce them or to bribe them to accept yoir visit

I will advise you go with your uncle one or two to inform them of your intension

Your uncles will advice you how to prepare your self

But pls ignore the part of envelop so that you do to start what you will not finish

Dont entice them with money, that may be a wrong impression

If you know within you that you are getting married to her, you can decide to pregnant her or not

But I think that can take place after the introduction

To avoid any issue that may comes and you decide not to marry her

Thanks, boss

I'm definitely marrying her


But I just didn't buy into the pregnancy idea.

Gr8mind07:
I suggest you make an informal visit to the family first. You may go along with some gifts , buy that's not compulsory .With that they will know that something might be happening soon.

Then you can now plan another visit where you go with gifts / wines / kola, depending on the traditions on the families involved to make your intention concerning their daughter known.

I'm visiting for the first time just to make my intentions known,

Do I need to take a friend or family along?

Waffarianman:
It's easy don't go with anyone yet, talk to your woman to inform her parents that her man wants to visit them like someone said up there. You can buy bread, tubers of yams From the there the rest is history


Just lil talk tell them that you like their daughter that this your first time been there but you're still coming back with people

She has informed her dad, and he said it's fine and that he's free anytime


But I find it weird taking these things such as yam and bread with me.

TheMaharajah:
Let me ask you one something. Did you hit yahoo money?

I nor get huge money. I nor dey do yahoo.

But I'm huzzling, and I don't go to bed hungry.

Gr8mind07:
I suggest you make an informal visit to the family first. You may go along with some gifts , buy that's not compulsory .With that they will know that something might be happening soon.

Then you can now plan another visit where you go with gifts / wines / kola, depending on the traditions on the families involved to make your intention concerning their daughter known.

Hmmm


Thank you very much.

Forrkke:


She has informed her dad, and he said it's fine and that he's free anytime


But I find it weird taking these things such as yam and bread with me.

It's doesn't mean do you stay in same state.

If yes you can still go with them

Waffarianman:



It's doesn't mean do you stay in same state.

If yes you can still go with them

We're in the same city in fact.

So I should carry yam and bread.


I don't own a car. Would it make sense to go their in a taxi, so as to carry these things?

Forrkke:


We're in the same city in fact.

So I should carry yam and bread.


I don't own a car. Would it make sense to go their in a taxi, so as to carry these things?

Yes you can go with taxi or keke oo no too reason am.

Forrkke:
We're in the same city in fact.
So I should carry yam and bread.
I don't own a car. Would it make sense to go their in a taxi, so as to carry these things?

no carry the yam on your head na, lol!

bro you worry way too much about something so simple.... get one of your family member and go there to make your intentions known to them, then take it from there.

Whenever you're going, don't put on jeans. Wear native or senator material.

E get why

Forrkke:



Thanks, boss

I'm definitely marrying her


But I just didn't buy into the pregnancy idea.

I agree with you but you know, that will be her own assurance from you

RoadMozart:
Whenever you're going, don't put on jeans. Wear native or senator material.

E get why

Sure, boss

Thanks

Forrkke:
Hi, everyone.

My girlfriend and I intend to settle down by the end of the year or early next year.

The problem now is I need to meet her parents to make my intentions known, but I don’t know how to do that, neither does she.

She’s 23, and I’m 25.


What do I take along with me? What are the thing I need? I do I approach them? I honestly have no idea what to do.


She asked one of her cousins, and that one said I should go with two envelopes, one for the mother and another for the father. And that I need to go with Schnapps, wine, and kola nut or something, and that I’ll drop 1k on the table before talking. And she said I must go with a friend or relative. Is this necessary for the first meeting?


Also, which one is envelope again? How much do I need to drop in each one? Why is this even necessary? Is that how it’s done?

My intention is to go and make my intentions known, know the brides list, and what to do going forward.

My girl actually wanted to me to get her pregnant, so that everything can be easy to process. But I prefer to do the right thing


Suggestions are welcomed

Why are you in a hurry? It's not a bad of rosary, my brother early love can make someone don't think properly

MrBrownJay1:


no carry the yam on your head na, lol!

bro you worry way too much about something so simple.... get one of your family member and go there to make your intentions known to them, then take it from there.

Lol

Thanks very much 😊

diogo23:

Why are you in a hurry? It's not a bad of rosary, my brother early love can make someone don't think properly

Brother, I nor be small pikin


I've thought it through

Forrkke:



I nor get huge money. I nor dey do yahoo.

But I'm huzzling, and I don't go to bed hungry.

What Infrastructures do you have on ground before thinking of marriage?

marlow1962:

What Infrastructures do you have on ground before thinking of marriage?

Why do you need to know?

The focal point is I can take care of a family, so I’m good.

Forrkke:


Why do you need to know?

The focal point is I can take care of a family, so I’m good.

For how long will that small change in your hand take care of your family. Don't depend on that $20k in your hand, it means nothing the moment you get married.
Forget marriage now, no need to rush.

Where is your father, though?
And your older relatives.
Na their work you dey give strangers so.

marlow1962:

What Infrastructures do you have on ground before thinking of marriage?

The millions of couples sweating it out in Lagos and other cities that doesn't have 500k in their account, what infrastructure do they have on ground?

There is no fixed rule for this thing

She has informed her dad, and he said it's fine and that he's free anytime


But I find it weird taking these things such as yam and bread with me. [/quote]

You should go there one or two times before going to make your intention known but the first times you are going, you can package some cash in an envelope, how the meeting goes will determine if you need to drop the envelope or not and if you have to drop the envelope give it to your girlfriend to hand it over to them when you might have left.

Forrkke:


Brother, I nor be small pikin


I've thought it through

At the age 25 you want to rush into marriage, good luck on that