WHEN RANCORS ERUPT IN A RELATIONSHIP


Many relationships and associations have shattered as a result of unintended mistakes from one or more members of the group which resulted in unresolved conflicts.

Some relationships collapsed because of the sheer recklessness of either or all parties who failed to apply discipline, tolerance, and good faith in situations where such are required.

Other relationships fade off because of occasional differences in ideology or expectations which the parties failed to reconcile or because of unpleasant incidents that are neither the fault of any of the parties.

Interestingly, no relationship has ever existed without threats to its existence. As we all gather to form affinity across friendship, family, marital, tribal, business, and other lines that we can think of, there is often that occasional disagreement and differences in ideology or views on issues.

Indeed, rancor or conflict is natural in every relationship. However, what spells the difference between those whose relationships lasted the test of time and those that did not is how they responded when their relationship encountered threats.

Unfortunately in many relationships, when disagreement or differences roar in, people involved will blow up in the flame of anger, let out an outburst of resentment, and recklessly allow the relationships they have nurtured for years to fall apart.

I have seen and heard of how the umbilical cord of togetherness between couples, colleagues, siblings, business partners, etcetera, was severed because they couldn't properly manage their dissensions. We may walk away, all we can, when our relationship with partners, friends, and families hit rock bottom. But the fact is, we cannot find a variance-free relationship anywhere. And we may never achieve our true potential without one!

The best way to overcome occasional disappointments in relationships is to forgive quickly. Always respect and listen to the opinion of the other party and let your objections to their views or ideas on issues be made politely. Listen to dissenting views and be ready to reach agreeable conclusions on matters. Efforts should be made to navigate conflicts by identifying common grounds, even as you remain bound by the vision of becoming better and greater together. Ultimately, we must allow God to rule over the affairs of our relationships.

I hope this helps fix someone's fractured relationship! Thank you for reading!

© Samtayo