There is a friend of mine whose girlfriend ended their relationship due to irreconcilable differences. The girl refused to listen to any advice and always believed her opinions were superior. The main issue that caused the breakup was related to relocation. The guy wanted his girlfriend to move to the same city so they could work and build their lives together, remaining close to each other. However, the girl was adamant and still expected him to cover her expenses.

Interestingly, the girl's brother is currently living with the guy in the same city and apartment. The brother claims he has nowhere else to go, lost his job, and the only other relative he had in the city hasn't been able to accommodate him since January due to one or two issues. Out of kindness, the guy allowed the brother to stay with him while he searched for work. Now, since the girl has ended the relationship, it has been over 7 days, and she hasn't attempted to reach out to resolve the situation. This has left the guy feeling suspicious, wondering if the whole situation was a setup from the beginning.

The question now is whether it's a good idea for the guy to end ties with the brother by asking him to move out of his house, especially since the girl has made it clear she's not interested in relocating to be with him and that he should move on with his life.

For those who have experienced similar situations, how did you handle it? Any advice or personal experiences would be greatly appreciated.

jackmrandy:
There is a friend of mine whose girlfriend ended their relationship due to irreconcilable differences. The girl refused to listen to any advice and always believed her opinions were superior. The main issue that caused the breakup was related to relocation. The guy wanted his girlfriend to move to the same city so they could work and build their lives together, remaining close to each other. However, the girl was adamant and still expected him to cover her expenses.

Interestingly, the girl's brother is currently living with the guy in the same city and apartment. The brother claims he has nowhere else to go, lost his job, and the only other relative he had in the city hasn't been able to accommodate him since January due to one or two issues. Out of kindness, the guy allowed the brother to stay with him while he searched for work. Now, since the girl has ended the relationship, it has been over 7 days, and she hasn't attempted to reach out to resolve the situation. This has left the guy feeling suspicious, wondering if the whole situation was a setup from the beginning.

The question now is whether it's a good idea for the guy to end ties with the brother by asking him to move out of his house, especially since the girl has made it clear she's not interested in relocating to be with him and that he should move on with his life.

For those who have experienced similar situations, how did you handle it? Any advice or personal experiences would be greatly appreciated.

Your friend has been played and betrayed. On nairaland frontpage this week was a video: How to handle betrayals like a boss posted by dimaya.

In this video, everyday Nigerians who have been betrayed by loved ones narrate their experiences similar to yours and they also describe how they handled it. In fact, the first few seconds has a story excerpt of a guy who was played by a girlfriend just like yours.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lWqppErCr60

you can thank me later

1st and foremost... what was the deal in place for the brother to move in with him?
2nd... if it was in anyway related to the sister, then now that their r/ship is over, he should look for a new benefactor (and/or a new living arrangement)

MrBrownJay1:
1st and foremost....what was the deal in place for the brother to move in with him?
2nd... if it was in anyway related to the sister, then now that their r/ship is over, he should look for a new benefactor (and/or a new living arrangement)

the deal was he comes, hunt for a job. while awating relative response so he can move in to the relative. but uptilll now before this whole isssue came up. relatives have not gotten back to him yet

jackmrandy:


the deal was he comes, hunt for a job. while awating relative response so he can move in to the relative. but uptilll now before this whole isssue came up. relatives have not gotten back to him yet

The saddest thing about betrayals is that it never comes from your enemies. Make sure your friend watches this video till the very end. He'll figure out how to handle the situation.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lWqppErCr60

jackmrandy:
the deal was he comes, hunt for a job. while awating relative response so he can move in to the relative. but uptilll now before this whole isssue came up. relatives have not gotten back to him yet

then you can either A) give him more time to await the relative's response and/or B) give him an ultimatum as to when he will need to move out (whether he got a job or not and/or whether relative responded or not).

Help people if you can irrespective of the situation of things, you don't know the destination the leg is carrying the head to.

The relationship bw the guys is a not contract, neither is it dependent on the said relationship. In my opinion he should not discharge the boy, unless his relationship with him is severed. He could win back his love because of his kindness to her brother.

jackmrandy:
There is a friend of mine whose girlfriend ended their relationship due to irreconcilable differences. The girl refused to listen to any advice and always believed her opinions were superior. The main issue that caused the breakup was related to relocation. The guy wanted his girlfriend to move to the same city so they could work and build their lives together, remaining close to each other. However, the girl was adamant and still expected him to cover her expenses.

Interestingly, the girl's brother is currently living with the guy in the same city and apartment. The brother claims he has nowhere else to go, lost his job, and the only other relative he had in the city hasn't been able to accommodate him since January due to one or two issues. Out of kindness, the guy allowed the brother to stay with him while he searched for work. Now, since the girl has ended the relationship, it has been over 7 days, and she hasn't attempted to reach out to resolve the situation. This has left the guy feeling suspicious, wondering if the whole situation was a setup from the beginning.

The question now is whether it's a good idea for the guy to end ties with the brother by asking him to move out of his house, especially since the girl has made it clear she's not interested in relocating to be with him and that he should move on with his life.

For those who have experienced similar situations, how did you handle it? Any advice or personal experiences would be greatly appreciated.

He should cut every tie with the girl

jackmrandy:


the deal was he comes, hunt for a job. while awating relative response so he can move in to the relative. but uptilll now before this whole isssue came up. relatives have not gotten back to him yet

My brother they lie to you from the beginning, send that boy away

ChukwukaEze:
The relationship bw the guys is a not contract, neither is it dependent on the said relationship. In my opinion he should not discharge the boy, unless his relationship with him is severed. He could win back his love because of his kindness to her brother.

but do you know kindness can kill?

jackmrandy:


but do you know kindness can kill?

But do you know that kindness favours more than it kills?

The bottom line is all 9ja girls are ashawo both the ones forming GF or church girl. They are all the same.

The fact that you have never caught your babe doing ashawo, doesn't mean she is not an ashawo

Relationship matter don tire me reach my neck...In fact,very soon I go stop to dey chuck my mouth untop relationship matter for this nairaland...

But op,I know you're the one in question.. So my only advice to you is what I also term as my own principle in life,which is--"No matter what, don't chase a brother man out of your house simply because he's been passing through hard times". You fit bone your banny,but no let her character make you kane that nigha for street.

jackmrandy:
There is a friend of mine whose girlfriend ended their relationship due to irreconcilable differences. The girl refused to listen to any advice and always believed her opinions were superior. The main issue that caused the breakup was related to relocation. The guy wanted his girlfriend to move to the same city so they could work and build their lives together, remaining close to each other. However, the girl was adamant and still expected him to cover her expenses.

Interestingly, the girl's brother is currently living with the guy in the same city and apartment. The brother claims he has nowhere else to go, lost his job, and the only other relative he had in the city hasn't been able to accommodate him since January due to one or two issues. Out of kindness, the guy allowed the brother to stay with him while he searched for work. Now, since the girl has ended the relationship, it has been over 7 days, and she hasn't attempted to reach out to resolve the situation. This has left the guy feeling suspicious, wondering if the whole situation was a setup from the beginning.

The question now is whether it's a good idea for the guy to end ties with the brother by asking him to move out of his house, especially since the girl has made it clear she's not interested in relocating to be with him and that he should move on with his life.

For those who have experienced similar situations, how did you handle it? Any advice or personal experiences would be greatly appreciated.

1. Cut ties with that lady immediately.
2. Secure all the valuables in your house and keep your finances to yourself.
3. Ensure that your people are aware that that lady's brother is living with you.
4. Fake an impending travel at a specified date in the future and let the guy staying with you know you will be locking the place up when you move so he needs to sort himself out before that date.
5. Never make the mistake of bring strangers into your house just because you are dating a relative. You may end up bringing a killer, kidnapper, ritualist, fugitive, rapist or criminal into your house.
6. Never date a lady that is not willing to work with you to build a future with you.
7. Stop being foolish. Only a fool waters the garden of another man while his own garden is languishing in neglect. Your wife is somewhere waiting for you. Don't spend your hard earned money on another man's wife. Save all that money for the woman that is worth it.

...marry her and relocate her...why will she relocate as a girlfriend?

jackmrandy:


the deal was he comes, hunt for a job. while awating relative response so he can move in to the relative. but uptilll now before this whole isssue came up. relatives have not gotten back to him yet

I think he should ask the guy to leave the house

ChukwukaEze:
The relationship bw the guys is a not contract, neither is it dependent on the said relationship. In my opinion he should not discharge the boy, unless his relationship with him is severed. He could win back his love because of his kindness to her brother.

LMAO!


🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

ChukwukaEze:
The relationship bw the guys is a not contract, neither is it dependent on the said relationship. In my opinion he should not discharge the boy, unless his relationship with him is severed. He could win back his love because of his kindness to her brother.

what manner of fuckery did I just read?

Hope the brother and the said girlfriend or ex look alike? If yes, then the guy should get the brother a wig and date him instead, since he's already living in his house.
A wise man once said: "If the preferable is not available; you make the available preferable".

Accommodates a girlfriend brother for 6months+, even when the relative in the same city failed to do so. Wow. The guy deserves an award for the bf of the year.

jackmrandy:
There is a friend of mine whose girlfriend ended their relationship due to irreconcilable differences. The girl refused to listen to any advice and always believed her opinions were superior. The main issue that caused the breakup was related to relocation. The guy wanted his girlfriend to move to the same city so they could work and build their lives together, remaining close to each other. However, the girl was adamant and still expected him to cover her expenses.

Interestingly, the girl's brother is currently living with the guy in the same city and apartment. The brother claims he has nowhere else to go, lost his job, and the only other relative he had in the city hasn't been able to accommodate him since January due to one or two issues. Out of kindness, the guy allowed the brother to stay with him while he searched for work. Now, since the girl has ended the relationship, it has been over 7 days, and she hasn't attempted to reach out to resolve the situation. This has left the guy feeling suspicious, wondering if the whole situation was a setup from the beginning.

The question now is whether it's a good idea for the guy to end ties with the brother by asking him to move out of his house, especially since the girl has made it clear she's not interested in relocating to be with him and that he should move on with his life.

For those who have experienced similar situations, how did you handle it? Any advice or personal experiences would be greatly appreciated.

The issue here is just funny
Let him not use the action of his girlfriend to treat the guy

The girl friend was never serious and no one knows her plans

So she should be left the way she has put herself
Meaning that he should ghost her too

Now to his visitor, he can tell him in two weeks time, he wants him to leave the house and if he intend traveling home, he would give him transportation

With these he has tried for him and if the girl friend gets information of this, she may start coming to the guy

Then that means he is using the guy to host her brother

Well if am the guy, he should just end the relationship at this point if he knows that he can't stand her dramatic life