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something that you best learn right now: no matter what you do, this man who has no respect for you nor your marriage will NEVER STOP CHEATING ON YOU! he cheated before he dated you, while he dated you and even during the process of marriage. so you can either A) stay with this disrespectful/unfaithful/deceitful/untrustworthy husband (until you possibly catch a deadly disease) or B) divorce the rat you call "husband"...

CHOICE IS YOURS...

MrBrownJay1:
something that you best learn right now: no matter what you do, this man who has no respect for you nor your marriage will NEVER STOP CHEATING ON YOU! he cheated before he dated you, while he dated you and even during the process of marriage. so you can either A) stay with this disrespectful/unfaithful/deceitful/untrustworthy husband (until you possibly catch a deadly disease) or B) divorce the rat you call "husband"...

CHOICE IS YOURS...

You don't cheat? Or you just giving the right response

Alright.. just read through and found out it's just another episode of relationship problems...

you saw the red flags in your dating times and went ahead with the relationship, so who's to blame for that? when people get into a relationship, they automatically stop thinking.. now you're suffering for it.. I'm sure there would be some guys who would have been 10x better but because that particular guy satisfies your fantasy according to the k-drama movies you've brainwashed yourself with, you said he was the one and your "ideal guy"... lmfao... isn't that self-deception?

you have 2 choices, divorce him or eat your own poison... if you divorce him, just plan where you would be with your unborn child and I don't think no other man would marry a single mother... this is the consequences of lowering down your standard, overlooking the red flags, being illogical in your ideal type of man, and refusing to remain chaste while in your dating years..

IconicR:
You don't cheat? Or you just giving the right response

i dont need to cheat, and even if i would, then i certainly wouldnt pretend to be a "one woman" man (while crawling at the dead of night to go cheat). if a man wants/needs to be with other women then fair enough (to each their own), then let him face his woman and look her in the eyes and tell her that he is a polygamous man and will go and meet other women etc.... but to pretend to be a one woman man then go wh0re yourself out there with god knows who, while possibly getting infected with yeye deadly diseases that your pregnant wife would catch....is despicable. such men are less than animals in my book!

MrBrownJay1:


i dont need to cheat, and even if i would, then i certainly wouldnt pretend to be a "one woman" man (while crawling at the dead of night to go cheat). if a man wants/needs to be with other women then fair enough (to each their own), then let him face his woman and look her in the eyes and tell her that he is a polygamous man and will go and meet other women etc.... but to pretend to be a one woman man then go wh0re yourself out there with god knows who, while possibly getting infected with yeye deadly diseases that your pregnant wife would catch....is despicable. such men are less than animals in my book!

😲 you surprised me, you give bad boy vibes sometimes sha

IconicR:
😲 you surprised me, you give bad boy vibes sometimes sha

again, lets not confuse what real men should do in life.... men shouldnt be afraid to tell women what time it is, nor should they be afraid to stand up to women PERIOD. being with multiple women is NOT wrong, so long as they all know what time it is.

MrBrownJay1:


again, lets not confuse what real men should do in life.... men shouldnt be afraid to tell women what time it is, nor should they be afraid to stand up to women PERIOD. being with multiple women is NOT wrong, so long as they all know what time it is.

Being with multiple women not wrong but why are you not doing something that's not wrong

IconicR:
Being with multiple women not wrong but why are you not doing something that's not wrong

its a life choice... there are acts that one can possibly do for a while and thereafter decide that the stress and headaches is not worth it. you are talking to someone who has 6 kids with 5 babymamas...there comes a time when peace is what a man is seeking more than anything.

MrBrownJay1:


its a life choice... there are acts that one can possibly do for a while and thereafter decide that the stress and headaches is not worth it. you are talking to someone who has 6 kids with 5 babymamas...there comes a time when peace is what a man is seeking more than anything.

😲😲😲 6 kids five babymamas? Hmmm

IconicR:
😲😲😲 6 kids five babymamas? Hmmm

yessir... so again, as much as a man (or woman) can live whatever type of life he desires for himself, being honest to these women (that you sharing your life with) about WHO YOU TRULY ARE, is the most important part here. what kind of man pretends to be one way to his women, yet is the opposite (aka coward) and then creates a toxic environment for him/her/their family and future children?!

StennyB:

Na so they de use person 🥺

She should Divorce him sharp sharp.....

I hope she can pay her bills..... so she doesnt become another man's side chic because of survival

MrBrownJay1:


yessir... so again, as much as a man (or woman) can live whatever type of life he desires for himself, being honest to these women (that you sharing your life with) about WHO YOU TRULY ARE, is the most important part here. what kind of man pretends to be one way to his women, yet is the opposite (aka coward) and then creates a toxic environment for him/her/their family and future children?!

I'm still in shock, how do you do it, how do maintain a balance? I assume you are married to one of them

advanceDNA:


She should Divorce him sharp sharp.....

I hope she can pay her bills..... so she doesnt become another man's side chic because of survival

From what I know she is relatively comfortable. Earns around 400k a month

StennyB:

From what I know she is relatively comfortable. Earns around 400k a month

... if she's not afraid of the single mother life ..She'll be fine in her own with 400k as long as she's not one of those women thats allergic to paying their own bills
Its better than staying with a disease-infested penís attached to an unrepentant and unremorseful man...

Just that u women are always afraid of "where do i start from"

I am actually still yet to get the logic behind cheating

Why should one go through such emotional stress all in the name of cheating?

IconicR:
I'm still in shock, how do you do it, how do maintain a balance? I assume you are married to one of them

i have never been married and would never get married, i dont believe in marriage, and today you can get all the benefit of marriage without saying "i do". marriage is mental/emotional prison that forces many to stick with someone. i dont believe in that state of mind. if someone wants to be with you, then let them be because thats what they wanna do, not because of a piece of paper. same if they wanna go.

most importantly, so long as you have a great co-parenting r/ship with your babymamas, you can be a great father to your kids regardless.... even if you have some kids at the other side of the world.

MrBrownJay1:


i have never been married and would never get married, i dont believe in marriage, and today you can get all the benefit of marriage without saying "i do". marriage is mental/emotional prison that forces many to stick with someone. i dont believe in that state of mind. if someone wants to be with you, then let them be because thats hat they wanna do, not because of a piece of paper. same if they anna go.
most importantly, so long as you have a great co-parenting r/ship with your babymamas, you can be a great father to your kids regardless.... even if you have some kids at the other side of the world.

🤔 you really down with your western ideas

IconicR:
🤔 you really down with your western ideas

i dont think these are western ideas, i think these are just ideas fit for the world we live in today.... even in Nigeria. many cant indulge in such ideas because of fincancial burden but people are slowly catching up. i certainly dont look down on people who believe they should get married at any cost, but to me, such way of life (marriage) doesnt work,

furthermore, in Nigeria where polygamy is allowed, my way of life aint no different to African way of life.

MrBrownJay1:


i dont think these are western ideas, i think these are just ideas fit for the world we live in today.... even in Nigeria. many cant indulge in such ideas because of fincancial burden but people are slowly catching up. i certainly dont look down on people who believe they should get married at any cost, but to me, such way of life (marriage) doesnt work,

furthermore, in Nigeria where polygamy is allowed, my way of life aint no different to African way of life.

Fear of commitment is it for you. You are indeed very polygamous as against my earlier assertion about you

IconicR:
Fear of commitment is it for you. You are indeed very polygamous as against my earlier assertion about you

you still have to commit to any woman that you decide to create a family with (whether for a short period or not). the minute you have a child with someone, you have a lifetime commitment with this woman. just because you aint married to someone doesnt mean there are no commitment, its just that there are no "contract" that stipulates that this person should stay with me, regardless of what happens in this union.

nah i aint polygamous, as i said its not a walk in the park to deal with countless women at the same time... but will certainly consider it the minute i ever relocate to Nigeria.

MrBrownJay1:


you still have to commit to any woman that you decide to create a family with (whether for a short period or not). the minute you have a child with someone, you have a lifetime commitment with this woman. just because you aint married to someone doesnt mean there are no commitment, its just that there are no "contract" that stipulates that this person should stay with me, regardless of what happens in this union.

nah i aint polygamous, as i said its not a walk in the park to deal with countless women at the same time... but will certainly consider it the minute i ever relocate to Nigeria.

If you still think you ain't polygamous then I think being polygamous has another meaning. The moment you have more than one woman involved with you is called what? What's the possibility of you ever relocating to Nigeria?

IconicR:
If you still think you ain't polygamous then I think being polygamous has another meaning. The moment you have more than one woman involved with you is called what? What's the possibility of you ever relocating to Nigeria?

polygamy is the act of being in a r/ship or married to multiple women at the same time.... just because i have had children with multiple women at various time in the past (and that now we get along fine as co-parent) doesnt make me polygamous... but again, doesnt take away my desire to someday try it full on in Africa where it is well accepted by the masses.

as for me relocating to Nigeria, the possibilities are very high (but i have said that for years now)... i believe that Nigeria/Africa is the future, and although it doesnt have the "exotic" side i always seek around the world, it has enormous potential (farming, tech or even tourism which is underdevelopped in Nigeria)