Have you noticed that marriage is promoted like a religion, solely emphasising the celestial benefits while ignoring the risks and responsibilities involved? No one should ever feel pressured into doing something that is only a means to a goal, regardless of their gender or age.


According to the dictionary, a "achievement" is something that is successfully completed, usually with effort, bravery, or talent. Therefore, if you consider marriage to be a success, I would argue that divorce is also.

As a man, the only thing a man gets out of a marriage in total—and I may not know about women—is legacy. In a marriage, a man puts in the most effort. You get sex dependent on how well and deeply you behave, how well you supply, and on your behaviour. You must exchange money or in-kind services in exchange for things like respect from your wife and child, family care, and companionship. Nothing is free or goodwill.

Marriage is not the end-all, whether it be a union of love or an arranged one. The accomplishment is that it is just the start of a long journey together that will require understanding and love on both sides to make it work. not a marriage as such.

Personally, I like to emphasise that marriage is a legal status. It is a document that, as acknowledged by a jurisdiction, grants you specific rights towards another person. It is great to decide to love and respect someone for the rest of your life and theirs. That can take many other forms, including religious vows, legal marriage, legal union, etc. Marriage itself is not a success.
Marriage itself is not an accomplishment. Making a marriage last, keeping the romance alive, and caring for one another need a lot of effort and perseverance, but doing so is what defines an achievement in a marriage. It puts couples' alleged love for one another to the test. The true achievement is maintaining a happy marriage.


I will provide a single man the same advise I would give to myself. Get married when you're ready and mature enough to handle the challenges of marriage.

Marriage in Nigeria is an achievement,infact a fulfilment to the Nigerian woman.


Marriage I Stan!

Sirjamesjnr how's madam fummisticglow?

Marriage is a bigggg achievement abegi, let's not deceive ourselves.
No single man/woman above marriageable age is truly happy, they can only mask their unhappiness with the "I'm successful and I don't need a man or woman in my life to be happy" tag but deep down it's choking.
Marriage completes a man or woman, that's the bitter truth.

IconicR:
Marriage is a bigggg achievement abegi, let's not deceive ourselves.

Yes o
I think it should be added alongside our credentials

ahnie:

Yes o
I think it should be added alongside our credentials

😂

IconicR:
😂

Yes o

IconicR:
Marriage is a bigggg achievement abegi, let's not deceive ourselves.
No single man/woman above marriageable age is truly happy, they can only mask their unhappiness with the "I'm successful and I don't need a man or woman in my life to be happy" tag but deep down it's choking.
Marriage completes a man or woman, that's the bitter truth.

I've interacted with married males, but if I had the choice, I'd choose to remain single. I won't be willing to give up my independence for anything, and I'll want to put a lot of money aside for retirement benefits and plans. I will get married, but it won't be an accomplishment; I'll just feel content.

ahnie:
Sirjamesjnr how's madam fummisticglow?

She is doing great, but the hospital work is stressful. Maybe this week I'll pay her a visit in Lagos.

sirjamesjnr:
I've interacted with married males, but if I had the choice, I'd choose to remain single. I won't be willing to give up my independence for anything, and I'll want to put a lot of money aside for retirement benefits and plans. I will get married, but it won't be an accomplishment; I'll just feel content.

This your first line sha, I don't want to say much but I think you shouldn't say that.

sirjamesjnr:
She is doing great, but the hospital work is stressful. Maybe this week I'll pay her a visit in Lagos.

Warmest regards to her

IconicR:
This your first line sha, I don't want to say much but I think you shouldn't say that.

Even my girl is aware of my position on marriage. I'm a big proponent of family. I object to single parenting. I hate single parenting so much that I will never wed a single mother.

sirjamesjnr:
Even my girl is aware of my position on marriage. I'm a big proponent of family. I object to single parenting. I hate single parenting so much that I will never wed a single mother.

See the way you shade single mothers 😂
At this rate at which men hate single mothers, would you all still blame ladies who opt for abortion? Kai

ahnie:

Warmest regards to her

Even though a flight is now so expensive, I still attempt to see her. It's my turn to stop by. A long distance relationship is not for the weak of heart.

IconicR:
See the way you shade single mothers 😂
At this rate at which men hate single mothers, would you all still blame ladies who opt for abortion? Kai

Bringing a child into a dysfunctional environment is a very significant act of irresponsibility. They are exception though

sirjamesjnr:
I've interacted with married males, but if I had the choice, I'd choose to remain single. I won't be willing to give up my independence for anything, and I'll want to put a lot of money aside for retirement benefits and plans. I will get married, but it won't be an accomplishment; I'll just feel content.

Easier said than done. Money that will become useless. Even if you spend it all to acquire 200 houses, it still useless.

Carcholce:


Easier said than done. Money that will become useless. Even if you spend it all to acquire 200 houses, it still useless.

Above all else, I value mankind. I cab easily donate my entire riches to my loved ones and any cause I am interested in. If not that marriage is a significant event in African culture. Many successful women won't want to get married if the circumstances are right. They will let you know if you are close to them.

sirjamesjnr:
Above all else, I value mankind. I cab easily donate my entire riches to my loved ones and any cause I am interested in. If not that marriage is a significant event in African culture. Many successful women won't want to get married if the circumstances are righ . They will let you know if you are close to them.

1. @ Loved ones; that is why we are given the chance to create our own loved ones through marriage. Those you are referring to your loved ones, do they see you as one? By the way, there’s no need to save money and donate it. Start donating it out now, life is not guaranteed.

2. There will never be a right circumstance were women won’t get married. Even the supposed rich ones, it is when you get close to them you’ll know how empty they feel inside. Like I said before. Money is useless without a family of your own. I rather have all the money and marry 3 wives and two more of the first three are getting old.

Marriage is only an achievement when you secure a billionaire. That's ticket to paradise. You can't marry a broke ass and still think that's an achievement. That's more of a curse.

That's your problem🙇

You and your marriage fulfillment should get out!

IconicR:
Marriage is a bigggg achievement abegi, let's not deceive ourselves.
No single man/woman above marriageable age is truly happy, they can only mask their unhappiness with the "I'm successful and I don't need a man or woman in my life to be happy" tag but deep down it's choking.
Marriage completes a man or woman, that's the bitter truth.

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You will delete this crap if you see my married neighbor