You know all those stories you read online and you say, ‘eiyahh, stories that touch.” Hmm, my sister, that is my story, o!
This man, yes, I will refer to him as this man. When I met him years back, I was already working and driving a small car, you know those Picantos that flooded Lagos in those days? Yes, I was one of those who owned one. I was lucky to have landed a good job but aside from that, na sharp Ibo babe I be na, I know how to do market well.
I started a shuttle bus business on the side; for a church. I got my younger brother to run it for me. After about two years, we got another one; at this time, my husband and I had begun to court, he was doing business in Dubai then.
Then Dubai was a very hot destination for Nigerians and I honestly thought his business was doing good.
What was he doing? Buying and selling na? What else? All kinds of stuff; computer parts, female wears…stuff, sha!
Ok, when the matter got to the point of Marriage, he went to know my people in the village. They met with his, you know the rest how these things are, we had our Igba kwu and church. A few years later the kids began to come, we have five children!
Along the line, his business just began to crumble and this happens when you are fraudulent; you cannot sustain good business on fraud, you just can’t!
To be honest, I began to suspect he wasn’t doing genuine business shortly after we got married. He was dodgy about certain things, certain monies coming in, you know, I would ask him for certain papers and he was quite dodgy about them. I decided to mind my own business, after all he had been doing his thing before we met, so which one be my own?
I also knew I had to separate my business from him. I continued to use my maiden name in all my transactions on my own business.
Then he ran into customs wahala in Dubai, his goods were seized and that marked the end of things for him. Naturally as his wife, I encouraged him to be positive, I told him he had to get the right papers, organize his business in such a way that he would not raise red flags every time he passes through customs.
At that time, my job and businesses were thriving, I had five buses in my fleet, I had two schools and the church as clients; also, I had already bought a land from doing cooperative in my office.
Now, that land was bought with the mind that at least, I would be able to give my sons something to inherit. Land is a surer investment; transport business is good but buses always run down, break down, need fixing with you spending money…you get?
So, I first got a piece of land which I bought in my maiden name. That one became wahala for oga at home. He hala me tire, we had long quarrels. He wanted me to put his name on the papers for the land, me kwa, I refused, instead I put the name of my first son; we have three boys and two girls.
I then purchased a second land, again I used my second son’s name….I was just doing business as per say, e dey my blood and this job may not last. I wanted something to retire to as well; I am not the type of woman who waits for a man to provide everything for her and in a way, yes, I wanted to support my husband’s hustle, if he was unable to provide for us, would I fold my arms but no bi say make I kuku carry the load of provision for my head.
But even before the wahala of his business, I was paying school fees, rent, fueling our gen, paying house helps, lesson teacher, driver…Nne, I was Mrs Man in the house o!
Things got bad and my husband just became a degenerate!
You know, he would faff around and go to the club in the evening and come back at past 3am! Biko which kind wahala be dis?
So, I decided to help out, na, isn’t that what a good wife should do?
I swear, I regret it to date!
What did I do? I asked my brother, who I run the businesses with, I mean the one who manages the fleet of buses and over sees the new business we began, to allow my husband to join him, so at least he would have a sense of responsibility, instead of him parading night clubs like a male prostitute!
Abi? As he goes to clubs, no bi my money e dey go spend there?
Husband joined my brother and after a few weeks, na so so complain e dey complain; my brother did this, my brother did that, wahala every day… ol Gehl, I had to ask my brother to leave!
Because the quarrels were everyday and for my peace of mind, I just begged my brother, biko move to the other things we are doing; I asked him to focus fully on the nylon business we had just begun because all I heard every day was my husband complaining and my brother calling to tell me to tell my husband to back off!
Hummn. My sister like I told you, I still had my job and I had five children to raise, so my mind was most times not on the bus business or nylon business.
Then under my husband, who claimed he was helping me save cost that my brother was squandering, the buses would develop fault more often than before; yes, during my brother’s time, the buses too had problems, so it wasn’t a new thing for me.
The difference was that the cost of maintenance skyrocketed! My husband fired the old drivers and hired new ones then he would bring mechanics and his new drivers to me and they would complain about this and that and ask me to bring huge sums of money. At first, I would just sign the cheques for payment of these parts but after like six months, I began to document the things being repaired.
It was just on a hunch; I discovered I was being fleeced by the drivers and mechanics…they were fixing the same things they claimed had been fixed earlier.
Na every six months dem dey repair fuel pump? Gear box? Shocks?
I vexed, one day, I accused one of them of being a thief and cursed him and told him because of this thing he did to me God would punish him. Do you know what the man told me? He said, ‘Madam, na your husband dey do am, na hin tell us to increase price then he will pocket it!’
Nne, I shock but to be sincere, I no too shock because my brother had said the same thing months back.
The driver dropped the bus key and stopped working for us.
So, I had to call my brother, I told him and he told me some of the drivers had called him to tell him the same thing but that he didn’t want to ruin my marriage so he kept quiet after the first time he told me.
Chineke! I said which marriage? Marriage that I had been the one managing since the day we got married. I paid the rents, paid the hospital bills for delivery of all five children, paid the maids, the drivers, bought the land and…and yet he squanders what he gets on ashis at clubs! Abi you think I don’t know that he meets with ashis? Or is he meeting his aunties at the club?
Biko shift o!
I told my brother, enough is enough!
So, I am telling you the same, I no do again… to your tent o Israel!

Nigeria Series written and edited by Peju Akande and based on true stories

https://www.vanguardngr.com/2023/07/chai-my-husband-has-been-doing-me-yahoo-yahoo/

Wahala belike wetin again?

Come dey read epistle like say ,e get wetin I wan gain in side.

If you have issue with ur spouse, settle or divorce. No come dey disturb person here with text book..

I love your business mentality and the street wizeness...
Even the way u take write the things shows you be confirm real woman...
Forget nairaland kids'' there are good women out there who support there men by all means..
Nice story sha...

The Lady was very foolish to remove her brother from the transport business.

You see ehn, I don't believe in MOST popular conception that there are no good ladies out there, NEVER!
"Who bad, bad" be it a Man or Woman.

See how this mumu man dey play with woman sane men would die to get. VERY SHAMEFUL.

This one nah you carry your full self enter inside, you saw the red flags but you entered the marriage in full force, probably there is something you isn't telling us when you met him... You married someone who was ready and not actually for love or looking for a responsible man.

It's your cup of tea ma.... From your writeup, I can deduce that there was no single love in the marriage.... It was just two people living together

Some men don't just value God things

I didn't know I was reading fiction. I was wondering if any Nigerian woman would do all she did for her family

I condemn the acts of the foolish man. He is a a thief.

And you the woman, you're not a good wife. You just brought your husband's inadequacies to a public site. You have no love nor honour for that man as you call him.

If your husband has bad habits, talk it out with him, you both find solutions about it. In all your write ups, I never saw where you said you confronted him on his clubbing and ashawoism. That tells me it's either not true or highly unsubstantiated accusations. If he is truly guilty, then woe unto such man.

There's no rule that says only a man should provide for the home.

Another evil this man does is stealing from your family bussiness. I didn't say your bussiness, because dispite the bussiness name, that is supposed to be family bussiness home or abroad, whether anyone likes it or not. It's a crazy fellow that steals from his family bussiness.

You family bussiness provided for your household. And so what? What doeth thou more than others? Not like you're some kind of billionaire, but pride has filled up your heart.

Men have been providing for their homes since time immemorial without complaints.

I pray never to meet a woman like you in my life. You are not a worthy helpmate.

You've all got to calm down.
This is FICTION.


Nigeria Series written and edited by Peju Akande and based on true stories

https://www.vanguardngr.com/2023/07/chai-my-husband-has-been-doing-me-yahooyahoo

Although the story might have a kernel of truth, it is still fiction.

In real life, there are often two - sometimes three - sides of the story. Party A's side, Party B's side and The Truth.

elipheleh:
I condemn the acts of the foolish man. He is a a thief.

And you the woman, you're not a good wife. You just brought your husband's inadequacies to a public site. You have no love nor honour for that man as you call him.

If your husband has bad habits, talk it out with him, you both find solutions about it. In all your write ups, I never saw where you said you confronted him on his clubbing and ashawoism. That tells me it's either not true or highly unsubstantiated accusations. If he is truly guilty, then woe unto such man.

There's no rule that says only a man should provide for the home.

Another evil this man does is stealing from your family bussiness. I didn't say your bussiness, because dispite the bussiness name, that is supposed to be family bussiness home or abroad, whether anyone likes it or not. It's a crazy fellow that steals from his family bussiness.

You family bussiness provided for your household. And so what? What doeth thou more than others? Not like you're some kind of billionaire, but pride has filled up your heart.

Men have been providing for their homes since time immemorial without complaints.

I pray never to meet a woman like you in my life. You are not a worthy helpmate.

May your prayers be answered and you meet the opposite of her type that will milk you dry

Some pple don't value what they have so even though i bliv this story is fake i knw 60% of men are like what the writer just described. As a guy I've seen nd knw most of them. Sometimes my question is: why go into marriage when u knw u still have the mind of a toddler? Is marriage mainly for showoff or a poverty alleviation program?

Very fake, but engaging

Aonkuuse:
This one nah you carry your full self enter inside, you saw the red flags but you entered the marriage in full force, probably there is something you isn't telling us when you met him... You married someone who was ready and not actually for love or looking for a responsible man.

It's your cup of tea ma.... From your writeup, I can deduce that there was no single love in the marriage.... It was just two people living together

I think she settled in for the financial aspect , with a bit Love which saddled the union at the onset not fully minding what tomorrow may turn out to be. But I must commend her for hardwork,streetwise and smart kind of ideas she took earlier which accidentally checkmated the looming troubles waiting in the future.Hubby will surely comeback to his senses ,please leave a room for him in your heart. Like saying goes , " we undervalue what we have ,least we lose it"

MSN1:
The Lady was very foolish to remove her brother from the transport business.

You see ehn, I don't believe in MOST popular conception that there are no good ladies out there, NEVER!
"Who bad, bad" be it a Man or Woman.

See how this mumu man dey play with woman sane men would die to get. VERY SHAMEFUL.

Most Good women end up with bad men same goes to some good men ending up with bad women.

DrTee1:
You've all got to calm down.
This is FICTION.


Nigeria Series written and edited by Peju Akande and based on true stories

https://www.vanguardngr.com/2023/07/chai-my-husband-has-been-doing-me-yahooyahoo

Although the story might have a kernel of truth, it is still fiction.

In real life, there are often two - sometimes three - sides of the story. Party A's side, Party B's side and The Truth.

Them no read pass two paragraph

greenmonk:

May your prayers be answered and you meet the opposite of her type that will milk you dry

I will meet a worthy helpmate. A wife who will defend me to the public, not join in accusing me. A wife who will not cause division between her money and my money. A wife who will honour me in her heart and in front of the outside world. A wife who will correct me with love in secret.

This is my prayer. That is what every sane man deserves.

DavidTech23:
I didn't know I was reading fiction. I was wondering if any Nigerian woman would do all she did for her family

Yes we have nigerian women who are suportive and respective to their partner irrespective of financial status. My wife is a case study.

I read half of the story, tomorrow I go continue. E too long and I never chop.
Bia, ada anyi,tell dat husband of yours to gbawaa door. We go return d dowry. No marry am again.

And I ask again...
How do most good people manage to end up with bad spouses?

elipheleh:


I will meet a worthy helpmate. A wife who will defend me to the public, not join in accusing me. A wife who will not cause division between her money and my money. A wife who will honour me in her heart and in front of the outside world. A wife who will correct me with love in secret.

This is my prayer. That is what every sane man deserves.

May God answer your prayers as long as you are not this kind of man depicted in this story.

If not, I dodge am for your hardworking supportive wife's sake.

Omoboricash:

Yes we have nigerian women who are suportive and respective to their partner irrespective of financial status. My wife is a case study.

She foots the bills

ChemicalReaction:
And I ask again...
How do most good people manage to end up with bad spouses?

Just as your name implies..
It's a chemical reaction; a positive reactant bonds with a negative reactant..So that's the reason.

This is well written. Despite using weird form of writing and brief explanations, you can feel the feelings of the writer and the emotions of the character.
That's why most people will read it to the end and engage in positive arguments.