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Re: My Wife's Sudden Change After Childbirth is driving me nuts! by BigMamaNaija: 12:03pm On Sep 06, 2023 |
thesilentman: My son, madam is going through postpartum depression. She needs lots of love and support now to prevent it from deteriorating. I know a lady suffering from mental illness now as a result of poorly managed postpartum depression. Trust me, you don't want that at all. She'll need physical assistance with chores and emotional support in form of encouraging words, gifts, etc. especially from you. Please try to be around her as much as your job can allow while you also find a way to unwind yourself. Get paid help for chores if there's no capable relation around. It's a tough time for you both (more so for her) but it usually passes quickly; tops one month if you both cooperate in the healing process. Her strength and joy will return and she will always remember those who stood by her in her time of distress. Be one of those she will remember for good. Peace! 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife's Sudden Change After Childbirth is driving me nuts! by Hassanmaye(m): 12:03pm On Sep 06, 2023 |
AllBlack:Haha everyone is a millionaire online |
Re: My Wife's Sudden Change After Childbirth is driving me nuts! by latogng: 12:06pm On Sep 06, 2023 |
thesilentman: Your wife is simply going through some sort of Postpartum depression, They simply get uninterested in alot of things. This is a period for you to show a lot of understanding and care not to be irritated also . Its a cycle that would go away with time, even the interest in sex will seem fizzled out and alot of her attention will be shifted also. Alot of women go through this experience ,So your wife is fine and will return to her self. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife's Sudden Change After Childbirth is driving me nuts! by AllBlack: 12:07pm On Sep 06, 2023 |
Hassanmaye: I don't know about that but you have just shown that NOT EVERYONE can stick to the message and accept the hypothesis for what is. Especially the ones with single digit IQ. for example, I also said HE SHOULD CARRY A BABY FOR 9 MONTHS can he? i also said I WILL CUT HIM UP; does that make me a surgeon? Keep your stupidity within your family. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife's Sudden Change After Childbirth is driving me nuts! by aylipple: 12:22pm On Sep 06, 2023 |
Why did you "tame" your wife for life or rather, why did you think it was a good thing for you to tame your own wife for life? I think that's where you should start from; was she "wild" before marriage & only "pretended" to be tamed just to satisfy your ego of successfully taming a woman only for her true colors to show up now after two sons? Secondly, why do you make the money you paid for CS seem like you did her and your child a huge favour? The alternative would've been letting both your wife and unborn child die if the surgery hadn't been done; would that have made you happy? I don't have the details of what goes on in your home; how your wife behaves, how you also behave and other factors that are leading you to contemplate "divorce" but if I were to assess your temperament or attitude towards your wife and marriage based on what you wrote, you seem like a well-to-do individual with a very big ego and get a kick off people kowtowing to you just because you play an important role in their life - this time a role as husband which you willingly and lovingly took a vow for before God and men. Abi, dem force you to marry your wife? Kindly find middle grounds with your wife; try to understand where she's coming from or what may've led to her sudden change in attitude before you start entertaining divorce thoughts in your head. After all, you didn't take a wheel spanner and smash your vehicle windscreen in anger every time it developed a mechanical or electrical fault: what you did instead was try to find out (through your mechanic/ auto electrician) what the problem was & solve it. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife's Sudden Change After Childbirth is driving me nuts! by truthhurts2: 12:41pm On Sep 06, 2023 |
elipheleh:Oga ade, be calming down. I don't want to reply to the op details, but seeing this spark something out of me. I was so angry when I saw the word "tamed", when I read "after spending 300k for are C's". I'm very sorry to say this but I can smell pride, too much ego and so on ... This is wife we're talking about not girlfriend, it's his responsibility to cater for his family, who else does he expects to cater for the hospital bills? Me? You?. Though, it is not that I'm supporting the behavior of the wife, and as a man, it pains when your wife is acting in a disrespectful manner. He should try to find out why not yelling for respect hereandia. It takes some stupidity sometimes to stay in marriage. Oga the poster, pls calm down all will be fine. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife's Sudden Change After Childbirth is driving me nuts! by Kemadealadire(f): 12:52pm On Sep 06, 2023 |
Persephone1:Amen oh. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife's Sudden Change After Childbirth is driving me nuts! by Spectaclesawe25: 1:01pm On Sep 06, 2023 |
Pueperal psychosis. Give her your backing and support. Keep being positive and surprising her. Take her out on outing and date. You will earn her respect and she go wan born multiple for you again. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife's Sudden Change After Childbirth is driving me nuts! by moneyissweet(m): 1:37pm On Sep 06, 2023 |
You didn't say what her offense is. You just wasted our time oga. thesilentman: |
Re: My Wife's Sudden Change After Childbirth is driving me nuts! by writeprof(m): 1:42pm On Sep 06, 2023 |
thesilentman: I just parted with over 300k unplanned fund for her C.S. This statement tells me a lot about you and your mindset. You didn't do your wife any favour by paying for the Ceasarean Section, you did yourself good. Pregnancy and childbirth are emotionally and psychologically draining on women and not all women have the same strength level to handle. You should make your marriage work. I feel your attitude to her (maybe because of the 300k) is getting to her. Only God knows what you have put her through these few days considering your TONE in this message. TWO of you have become ONE sir. Pet her. apologise to her. Make her happy. Your happiness is embedded in her own if you truly love her. God bless you. 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife's Sudden Change After Childbirth is driving me nuts! by BlissGod: 2:27pm On Sep 06, 2023 |
donb06:she married the guy a virgin, her fear was the fact that the man got her pregnant. She doesn’t hate her husband it’s the fear of pregnancy she had. They went for counseling and the family is beautiful now. The husband never for once felt insulted he understood and the situation. He’s loving the wife and the family is rather at peace and full of harmony not all these stupid redpill men that will be carrying cheap gnorrhea filled prostitutes. |
Re: My Wife's Sudden Change After Childbirth is driving me nuts! by Amypaige(f): 2:48pm On Sep 06, 2023 |
[quote author=thesilentman post=125599395] ok i get you-i just mentioned the money aspect as latest in the sacrifices i make for her.I had believed it would make her respect me more.Reason with me.[/quote Reason what? You have not explained what really happened. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife's Sudden Change After Childbirth is driving me nuts! by Diamonddamsel: 2:57pm On Sep 06, 2023 |
thesilentman:So would you have allowed her die because of N300,000? You didn't do her any favours. She instead risked her life for the family. She is obviously tired of taking your rubbish. Did you see what you wrote. I tamed her is she an animal? Your intimidation has ended, come off your high horse and mend fences with your wife. Marriage is not a master/slave relationship as you term submission from your context. It's mutually submitting to one another. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife's Sudden Change After Childbirth is driving me nuts! by BRATISLAVA: 3:30pm On Sep 06, 2023 |
donb06: You can continue to be stupid, as your groin directs you to be. It's not a big deal. Many single women do it and continue to do it without coming out to sound so aggrieved about taking care of their own children. Why is it such a big deal to men? Aren't they route children anymore? Is it because it's a man you want to give him a medal for the commonplace activity of taking care of ones own child. Or are the sacrifices of single women not enough? Why do you think his case is special suddenly? We can see through your bullshit. I'm not going to pretend you're not stupid ooo. Men will applaud mediocrity as if it's the all-in-all, provided it is a man being whiny and mediocre. |
Re: My Wife's Sudden Change After Childbirth is driving me nuts! by holaruc(m): 4:11pm On Sep 06, 2023 |
If you've been beating your wife and you com up with this just know that all what you typed hear is trash and baseless you have to apologize to her quickly, but if you had been the enduring man kudos to you what you need is more patience and understanding, be above her in knowledge and try to know where you both had got it wrong of course u can. I hope things go well in Ur marriage, do away with the I did this I did that for her mentality if you didn't who will? 1 Like |
Re: My Wife's Sudden Change After Childbirth is driving me nuts! by Wizmj4real(m): 5:49pm On Sep 06, 2023 |
thesilentman: Hmmm God's your strength. Right now Boss if you haven't been close to God please be. One candid truth I will tell you is that if you can beat this trying times of your matrimonial challenge then your marriage will last forever. Now back to her sudden change of character after birth, sometimes things like this happen among some women even after 1st child bearing but yours is second child birth related acrimony. Please be patient with her, many things and changes happens to women after birth. She's kinda psychologically going through that phase of self hurting which could be hormonally triggered. Don't argue or fight her, just apply some level and degree of patience and tolerance this period and most importantly be PRAYERFUL. GOD HELP YOU TO SAVE YOUR MARRIAGE BRO 1 Like |
Re: My Wife's Sudden Change After Childbirth is driving me nuts! by brainycaleb(m): 6:04pm On Sep 06, 2023 |
thesilentman: "Tamed for life." "300k for CS" "RedPill OT" Bros... if anyone insults you here, it would be as a result of their ignorance. First of all, you don't tame people you love as it is a give and take process. Your redpill orientation may crash your marriage and you might blame yourself later on. 300k and she gave you two boys. Don't do any silly thing because those boys will need a mother and a father together to grow up responsibly,else they come for your soul, emotionally or otherwise. She changed and you're suspecting witchcraft... as a counselling psychologist who dropped out of school, I would advise you to do some googling or even research from ChatGPT about the effects of "Post-Partum Depression" on women. After childbirth. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife's Sudden Change After Childbirth is driving me nuts! by donb06: 10:34pm On Sep 06, 2023 |
BRATISLAVA: Continue in your foolery and wallow in I don't give a damn...... Let me give you advise that will help you and that you stupid self... Never underrate the sacrifice of your husband ( if you will ever get one)... No matter how small. This is my last engagement with you for the sake of my sanity |
Re: My Wife's Sudden Change After Childbirth is driving me nuts! by BRATISLAVA: 1:29am On Sep 07, 2023 |
donb06:I will give you free advice that will help you and your chronically stupid self, if you can see anything past your loud, bollocks-sniffing public stupidity and the red pill: Never overrate the responsibilities of a husband (if you will ever be one) because globally other men are doing it without half as much crying and abuse. Man up. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife's Sudden Change After Childbirth is driving me nuts! by Floramie: 5:09am On Sep 07, 2023 |
thesilentman: You did the normal thing please. She would have lost her life in the process. There's this term Post Parturm Depression PPD who knows if that's what she's suffering from. She needs you more now. Please take care of yourself too 1 Like |
Re: My Wife's Sudden Change After Childbirth is driving me nuts! by Arclite(m): 7:58am On Sep 07, 2023 |
This reply just show you follow be the problem thesilentman: |
Re: My Wife's Sudden Change After Childbirth is driving me nuts! by luluosas(m): 10:14am On Sep 07, 2023 |
And yet you never said anything wrong she does. thesilentman: 1 Like |
Re: My Wife's Sudden Change After Childbirth is driving me nuts! by Blissbath(f): 10:42am On Sep 07, 2023 |
thesilentman:300k can't be compared to labour pain. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife's Sudden Change After Childbirth is driving me nuts! by Blissbath(f): 10:45am On Sep 07, 2023 |
thesilentman:It is called postpartum depression....read it up She will be fine.Shower her with love. Ni vex for your wife biko 1 Like |
Re: My Wife's Sudden Change After Childbirth is driving me nuts! by Davidave(m): 10:56am On Sep 07, 2023 |
It sounds like your wife had a latent or undiagnosed mental illness, and something in pregnancy, birth or motherhood caused it to manifest in a really dramatic way. This happens a lot. There's no easy path out here. Therapy can help if you're committed. It can get better. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife's Sudden Change After Childbirth is driving me nuts! by Freshnexx(f): 4:11pm On Sep 08, 2023 |
Your wife is going through postpartum depression, she needs you now more than ever thesilentman: 1 Like |
Re: My Wife's Sudden Change After Childbirth is driving me nuts! by Treassured: 9:07am On Sep 09, 2023 |
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Re: My Wife's Sudden Change After Childbirth is driving me nuts! by FalseProphet1(m): 4:14pm On Sep 09, 2023 |
Persephone1:I have a bell I can give to you so that whenever you want to chant God abeg, your chant would be aided by the vigorous ringing of the Bell by you, and your prayers would gather momentum and overcome the dark forces and get to heaven. This I have seen. |
Re: My Wife's Sudden Change After Childbirth is driving me nuts! by ArcToyin(m): 11:19pm On Sep 12, 2023 |
thesilentman: Pls, let divorce be the last thing. What you have listed is not a life threatening issue so you can still cope, worse has been done to some of us but I always consider my two wonderful children. Try to work on your emotion, shelf off her attitude, be supportive to her in the house work. Come to think of it, it might be the aftermath of the surgery that is having turn on her. All in all, pray to God to help us overcome the emotional trauma and teach you what to do. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife's Sudden Change After Childbirth is driving me nuts! by SAMBARRY: 6:26am On Sep 21, 2023 |
donb06:I Will not marry a mad mad,unempathetic man ,a psychopath and an unthinking man in Jesus name,amen.i Will not see a narcissistic man, narcissistic men will not see me in Jesus name.evert evil pronouncements back to your head in Jesus name amen 1 Like |
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