I broke up with my girlfriend about 3months ago and I still struggle to convince myself that I did the right thing and I believe this is affecting me in the process of trying to move on and meeting new people. We both live abroad and you don't meet a lot of Nigerians easily around here.

She was very caring, admired me and always supportive but still I made a decision to end the relationship. Why ? It was based on some sort of things that happened when we started being together. We started as friends with benefits while in school though she was in a distance relationship at the time. We both agreed it was just sex and nothing more when we started and I was fine with it. However, we started acting like couple - sleeping over, going out together, doing everything exclusively, and all that despite not defining things officially.

She wasn't always happy when I'm on phone with any girl irrespective of whatever relationship I have with such girl and I just sort of started distancing myself from all other girls. On her side, I acted 'maturely' by not interfering during her phone calls and all. Things continued that way for some months till the pressure was just too much that we had no choice but to define things. At that point, I was hooked already - in that, I was saying in my mind that it was just friends with benefits but I couldn't even leave her and I also found it difficult to make a decision to commit to her forever due to some number of reasons:

1. She once asked me to give her MouthAction which I have never done before at that time. I told her I wasn't ready and her response was that If I don't do it, someone else will do it for her. She went on a dating site, hooked up with a guy for one a night stand and I was aware of this though shocked at such boldness. I couldn't complain because we were not dating officially though we were always together at this point.

2. Another time during our time together, I was on a night duty and she went to a party which I was aware of. I saw a guy with her and her female friend and she earlier told me the guy came with her friend. Unfortunately for her, her female friend left early without the guy. I added 2 + 2 together and fixed it that she had something with the guy that night. I subsequently saw their sex chat on her phone. She later confessed they had a one night stand only.

3. There was a guy disturbing her that I was aware of, she always told the guy off until one day she told me she was visiting the guy for the weekend. I was shocked because we were literally talking about building a genuine relationship the previous night confessing how we have come to like each other. She was love-bombing me throughout her stay with the guy and I knew they were probably having sex throughout the 3 days. She came back on the 3rd day and started acting all nice and all to me.

4. She has a bit of bad temper especially with others. She is not the most likeable person out there and she doesn't care and can say anything when she is angry. She can bullshit anyone and I was always wondering if she will do it to me too one day. She was an angel towards me but opposite towards others.

5. Unlike me, she was very experienced in Nigeria with series of sexual partners littered on her phone. I stumbled on her nudes being with different guys on her snapchat. Sex wasn't a big to her and that was a total turn off for me since I didn't live that kind of life.

I know this might not make sense to anyone reading as you may assume I have reasons to make an easy decision but trust me, it wasn't an easy decision for me as I was almost used to being with her which I have never had with any other woman. My mind kept tricking me saying maybe it is not totally her fault as I didn't commit her. Plus, I have never been with any woman that showered me with so much care in my life before this girl. I have met very decent girls that still showed me shege despite being ready to commit.

I have only seen things like that on movies and I would have said it was juju but it was not. I have never experienced that kind of 'love' before and I didn't even care if it was fake or real. I enjoyed it as we both went on dates, vacations abroad and all but I was scared to commit to her.

Eventually I had to make a decision on whether I should stay or leave her and that was I how started going back and forth. I didn't want to leave or stay. I had never been so confused in my life. It was as if I was getting the kind of love I have always wished for but I am not exactly settled with our circumstances. I wanted to forget but I just couldn't given that I knew these men and it doesn't appear she has sexual discipline as well. I felt so bad for her and myself.

Though we ended up dating officially for 2months, I struggled to let bygone be bygone as she had requested. Not that I am so concerned about it but I just hate the fact that if anything happens in the future, I can't say I didn't see the signs but she was still a good person to me.

It is been 3months since we parted ways and I still randomly wonder if I did the right thing. Should I have given her a chance to change and prove herself ? Could I have influenced her positively ? I guess I will never know.

Who has experienced this before and what are your thoughts please?

Move on.

Biko what again do you want her to prove? She has proven herself over and over. Let her be. You've started running. Please keep running away from her and don't look back. If you go back, you might end up killing her for something she cannot help.

Even with her records you still really into her? Quite strange. I'm not judging you but I believe you did the right thing. Move on and don't be myopic......

saintneo:
Move on.

three months away from a girl with a lifestyle like that and you think she will regard you much if you go back and she accepts you?
she def has moved on.
bro, you are nothing but just part of the numbers to her now(even while u guys were still together, u were just a number. You just have to accept the fact that some ladies' mentality are messed up like that) and I will tell you to man up by moving on.

Hayzed203:
I broke up with my girlfriend about 3months ago and I still struggle to convince myself that I did the right thing and I believe this is affecting me in the process of trying to move on and meeting new people. We both live abroad and you don't meet a lot of Nigerians easily around here.

She was very caring, admired me and always supportive but still I made a decision to end the relationship. Why ? It was based on some sort of things that happened when we started being together. We started as friends with benefits while in school though she was in a distance relationship at the time. We both agreed it was just sex and nothing more when we started and I was fine with it. However, we started acting like couple - sleeping over, going out together, doing everything exclusively, and all that despite not defining things officially.

She wasn't always happy when I'm on phone with any girl irrespective of whatever relationship I have with such girl and I just sort of started distancing myself from all other girls. On her side, I acted 'maturely' by not interfering during her phone calls and all. Things continued that way for some months till the pressure was just too much that we had no choice but to define things. At that point, I was hooked already - in that, I was saying in my mind that it was just friends with benefits but I couldn't even leave her and I also found it difficult to make a decision to commit to her forever due to some number of reasons:

1. She once asked me to give her MouthAction which I have never done before at that time. I told her I wasn't ready and her response was that If I don't do it, someone else will do it for her. She went on a dating site, hooked up with a guy for one a night stand and I was aware of this though shocked at such boldness. I couldn't complain because we were not dating officially though we were always together at this point.

2. Another time during our time together, I was on a night duty and she went to a party which I was aware of. I saw a guy with her and her female friend and she earlier told me the guy came with her friend. Unfortunately for her, her female friend left early without the guy. I added 2 + 2 together and fixed it that she had something with the guy that night. I subsequently saw their sex chat on her phone. She later confessed they had a one night stand only.

3. There was a guy disturbing her that I was aware of, she always told the guy off until one day she told me she was visiting the guy for the weekend. I was shocked because we were literally talking about building a genuine relationship the previous night confessing how we have come to like each other. She was love-bombing me throughout her stay with the guy and I knew they were probably having sex throughout the 3 days. She came back on the 3rd day and started acting all nice and all to me.

4. She has a bit of bad temper especially with others. She is not the most likeable person out there and she doesn't care and can say anything when she is angry. She can bullshit anyone and I was always wondering if she will do it to me too one day. She was an angel towards me but opposite towards others.

5. Unlike me, she was very experienced in Nigeria with series of sexual partners littered on her phone. I stumbled on her nudes being with different guys on her snapchat. Sex wasn't a big to her and that was a total turn off for me since I didn't live that kind of life.

I know this might not make sense to anyone reading as you may assume I have reasons to make an easy decision but trust me, it wasn't an easy decision for me as I was almost used to being with her which I have never had with any other woman. My mind kept tricking me saying maybe it is not totally her fault as I didn't commit her. Plus, I have never been with any woman that showered me with so much care in my life before this girl. I have met very decent girls that still showed me shege despite being ready to commit.

I have only seen things like that on movies and I would have said it was juju but it was not. I have never experienced that kind of 'love' before and I didn't even care if it was fake or real. I enjoyed it as we both went on dates, vacations abroad and all but I was scared to commit to her.

Eventually I had to make a decision on whether I should stay or leave her and that was I how started going back and forth. I didn't want to leave or stay. I had never been so confused in my life. It was as if I was getting the kind of love I have always wished for but I am not exactly settled with our circumstances. I wanted to forget but I just couldn't given that I knew these men and it doesn't appear she has sexual discipline as well. I felt so bad for her and myself.

Though we ended up dating officially for 2months, I struggled to let bygone be bygone as she had requested. Not that I am so concerned about it but I just hate the fact that if anything happens in the future, I can't say I didn't see the signs but she was still a good person to me.

It is been 3months since we parted ways and I still randomly wonder if I did the right thing. Should I have given her a chance to change and prove herself ? Could I have influenced her positively ? I guess I will never know.

Who has experienced this before and what are your thoughts please?

That relationship is going no where. Move on

From all you listed above any sane man would run for his life

OP lay your right hand on your head and let me pray for you, cause it's evident that your village people are after your life ...

It's also obvious that they've use your destiny (self esteem) to pluck mango ...


Just before you go haywire and think I'm insulting you, lemme point out a couple of your st.upidity ...

1. She was in a relationship with another guy and yet she felt comfortable having s.ex with you ... And you think that if she eventually becomes your girlfriend, she won't do the same? ...

Verdict: She's a cheat and will prolly pin another man's pregnancy on you in future

2. She made a fuss of things when you spoke to other girls, but yet she could boldly call a man in your presence and you'll be quiet? ...

Verdict: She's SUPER DISRESPECTFUL and doesn't reverence you in ANYWAY

3. She can boldly go outside and spend the weekend at another man's house and still have the effrontery to call you and "shower you with love" lol ...

Verdict: she doesn't regard you as anything ... At best you're just a side tool to cure her urge ....

4. You said something about her having anger issues ... You also said something about her treating other people like trash when she's angry ...

Verdict: if she can do it to them when she's angry, don't think she won't do it to you too or do you think you can always make her happy? ...

5. She is not only a who.re or in your own words, "more se.xually experienced", but she has her nudes scattered all over the place ...

Lemme ask, what kind of role model will she be for your kids? ...

That aside for now ...
However, a girl that that is comfortable jumping from one pole to the other lacks the capacity to commit ...

But it's like you're comfortable having a community pu.ssy for a girlfriend ... Drop her digits and location, so that guys can take their own share ...

So with these few points of mine, do you see why I think you need prayers? ...

Hope say u dey use protection sha. because from ur explanation she belongs to the street.

I hardly pity men whose wives got them scammed with paternity fraud. The signs are always there but emotions always becloud their decisions.

Op, wife her up, she is a very good wife material. You will enjoy her in the long run.

Op, you did the right thing. That woman is controlling and manipulative. If you go back to her, she will be the one in charge of your relationship, she will be having sex and make friends outside, but will make life difficult for you if you as much as call a woman on the phone. She is an irredeemable cheat. Leave her

The problem is that you are lonely and maybe sexless. You said it that where you are it is difficult to get another woman. It is your urge for sex that is influencing your desire or wish to go back to her. You need a new sex mate as soon as possible. That will help you heal and reason with your brain.

Move on. Find another sex mate, even if a white or from another race. That will help you forget your ex

The relationship between you both is toxic. please don't go back to her , it would lead to nothing good at the end.

Fahvvy:
OP lay your right hand on your head and let me pray for you, cause it's evident that your village people are after your life ...

It's also obvious that they've use your destiny (self esteem) to pluck mango ...


Just before you go haywire and think I'm insulting you, lemme point out a couple of your st.upidity ...

1. She was in a relationship with another guy and yet she felt comfortable having s.ex with you ... And you think that if she eventually becomes your girlfriend, she won't do the same? ...

Verdict: She's a cheat and will prolly pin another man's pregnancy on you in future

2. She made a fuss of things when you spoke to other girls, but yet she could boldly call a man in your presence and you'll be quiet? ...

Verdict: She's SUPER DISRESPECTFUL and doesn't reverence you in ANYWAY

3. She can boldly go outside and spend the weekend at another man's house and still have the effrontery to call you and "shower you with love" lol ...

Verdict: she doesn't regard you as anything ... At best you're just a side tool to cure her urge ....

4. You said something about her having anger issues ... You also said something about her treating other people like trash when she's angry ...

Verdict: if she can do it to them when she's angry, don't think she won't do it to you too or do you think you can always make her happy? ...

5. She is not only a who.re or in your own words, "more se.xually experienced", but she has her nudes scattered all over the place ...

Lemme ask, what kind of role model will she be for your kids? ...

That aside for now ...
However, a girl that that is comfortable jumping from one pole to the other lacks the capacity to commit ...

But it's like you're comfortable having a community pu.ssy for a girlfriend ... Drop her digits and location, so that guys can take their own share ...

So with these few points of mine, do you see why I think you need prayers? ...

Fahvvy!!!!

Op, that your ex is the kinda babe I want so I can be her Cvckold. She'll make a good hot wife and a dominatrix just the way I want it.
There is much fun in having your wife cvck you. The humiliation in having other men fvck your wife while you kneel and watch has a way of giving you great 0rgasm. So, go back to her and beg her to be her Cvckold or link me with her so I can marry her

Run for Ur life, a bit of bad temper towards others, BT doesn't do same towards u, smell a lil bit of pretence here.

Hayzed203:
I broke up with my girlfriend about 3months ago and I still struggle to convince myself that I did the right thing and I believe this is affecting me in the process of trying to move on and meeting new people. We both live abroad and you don't meet a lot of Nigerians easily around here.

Who has experienced this before and what are your thoughts please?

Sex with her must be very good, and that’s what you are missing….
You are only feeling guilty, because of the pity you have for her. Stockholm syndrome
Unfortunately not all love story will end up in marriage and not all marriage are based on love.

Messed up generation

Cheated and left her significant other for you and you expect her to be loyal when with you.

We all have our shortcomings
But that's is not an excuse for what she did.

I think you are feeling lonely
And if you think you love her, try and tell her your mind and this time define your relationship.
Or
Forget about the past and move on

Op if you ever think of calling her back, just remember that she have been away for three months, imagine the number of gbola she must have sampled, how the dick would slip out and she'll grab it and put it back.

Remember she fit ask you to suck her again to prove that you truly love her


If you have sense, use it.

Hmmm... everything you said up there reeks of my ex those years apart from the fact we were in Nigeria.

Bro...!! you did the right thing and please do not look back, you are only thinking of her because the options over there are limited.

Omo,these 3 months.she don do orgies tire.as in .you were dating a IndecentStar

Hayzed203:
I broke up with my girlfriend about 3months ago and I still struggle to convince myself that I did the right thing and I believe this is affecting me in the process of trying to move on and meeting new people. We both live abroad and you don't meet a lot of Nigerians easily around here.

She was very caring, admired me and always supportive but still I made a decision to end the relationship. Why ? It was based on some sort of things that happened when we started being together. We started as friends with benefits while in school though she was in a distance relationship at the time. We both agreed it was just sex and nothing more when we started and I was fine with it. However, we started acting like couple - sleeping over, going out together, doing everything exclusively, and all that despite not defining things officially.

She wasn't always happy when I'm on phone with any girl irrespective of whatever relationship I have with such girl and I just sort of started distancing myself from all other girls. On her side, I acted 'maturely' by not interfering during her phone calls and all. Things continued that way for some months till the pressure was just too much that we had no choice but to define things. At that point, I was hooked already - in that, I was saying in my mind that it was just friends with benefits but I couldn't even leave her and I also found it difficult to make a decision to commit to her forever due to some number of reasons:

1. She once asked me to give her MouthAction which I have never done before at that time. I told her I wasn't ready and her response was that If I don't do it, someone else will do it for her. She went on a dating site, hooked up with a guy for one a night stand and I was aware of this though shocked at such boldness. I couldn't complain because we were not dating officially though we were always together at this point.

2. Another time during our time together, I was on a night duty and she went to a party which I was aware of. I saw a guy with her and her female friend and she earlier told me the guy came with her friend. Unfortunately for her, her female friend left early without the guy. I added 2 + 2 together and fixed it that she had something with the guy that night. I subsequently saw their sex chat on her phone. She later confessed they had a one night stand only.

3. There was a guy disturbing her that I was aware of, she always told the guy off until one day she told me she was visiting the guy for the weekend. I was shocked because we were literally talking about building a genuine relationship the previous night confessing how we have come to like each other. She was love-bombing me throughout her stay with the guy and I knew they were probably having sex throughout the 3 days. She came back on the 3rd day and started acting all nice and all to me.

4. She has a bit of bad temper especially with others. She is not the most likeable person out there and she doesn't care and can say anything when she is angry. She can bullshit anyone and I was always wondering if she will do it to me too one day. She was an angel towards me but opposite towards others.

5. Unlike me, she was very experienced in Nigeria with series of sexual partners littered on her phone. I stumbled on her nudes being with different guys on her snapchat. Sex wasn't a big to her and that was a total turn off for me since I didn't live that kind of life.

I know this might not make sense to anyone reading as you may assume I have reasons to make an easy decision but trust me, it wasn't an easy decision for me as I was almost used to being with her which I have never had with any other woman. My mind kept tricking me saying maybe it is not totally her fault as I didn't commit her. Plus, I have never been with any woman that showered me with so much care in my life before this girl. I have met very decent girls that still showed me shege despite being ready to commit.

I have only seen things like that on movies and I would have said it was juju but it was not. I have never experienced that kind of 'love' before and I didn't even care if it was fake or real. I enjoyed it as we both went on dates, vacations abroad and all but I was scared to commit to her.

Eventually I had to make a decision on whether I should stay or leave her and that was I how started going back and forth. I didn't want to leave or stay. I had never been so confused in my life. It was as if I was getting the kind of love I have always wished for but I am not exactly settled with our circumstances. I wanted to forget but I just couldn't given that I knew these men and it doesn't appear she has sexual discipline as well. I felt so bad for her and myself.

Though we ended up dating officially for 2months, I struggled to let bygone be bygone as she had requested. Not that I am so concerned about it but I just hate the fact that if anything happens in the future, I can't say I didn't see the signs but she was still a good person to me.

It is been 3months since we parted ways and I still randomly wonder if I did the right thing. Should I have given her a chance to change and prove herself ? Could I have influenced her positively ? I guess I will never know.

Who has experienced this before and what are your thoughts please?

Two things define a man(human being in general)

1. His actions
2. The ability to live and deal with the
consequences of his actions

Don't people resign from a job and later
regret it?
People relocate and still regret it.

It's no big deal, stop being nostalgic. It's a
useless feeling

FRANCISTOWN:


Two things define a man(human being in general)

1. His actions
2. The ability to live and deal with the
consequences of his actions

Don't people resign from a job and later
regret it?
People relocate and still regret it.

It's no big deal, stop being nostalgic. It's a
useless feeling

thank you for this.

Hayzed203:
I broke up with my girlfriend about 3months ago and I still struggle to convince myself that I did the right thing and I believe this is affecting me in the process of trying to move on and meeting new people. We both live abroad and you don't meet a lot of Nigerians easily around here.

She was very caring, admired me and always supportive but still I made a decision to end the relationship. Why ? It was based on some sort of things that happened when we started being together. We started as friends with benefits while in school though she was in a distance relationship at the time. We both agreed it was just sex and nothing more when we started and I was fine with it. However, we started acting like couple - sleeping over, going out together, doing everything exclusively, and all that despite not defining things officially.

She wasn't always happy when I'm on phone with any girl irrespective of whatever relationship I have with such girl and I just sort of started distancing myself from all other girls. On her side, I acted 'maturely' by not interfering during her phone calls and all. Things continued that way for some months till the pressure was just too much that we had no choice but to define things. At that point, I was hooked already - in that, I was saying in my mind that it was just friends with benefits but I couldn't even leave her and I also found it difficult to make a decision to commit to her forever due to some number of reasons:

1. She once asked me to give her MouthAction which I have never done before at that time. I told her I wasn't ready and her response was that If I don't do it, someone else will do it for her. She went on a dating site, hooked up with a guy for one a night stand and I was aware of this though shocked at such boldness. I couldn't complain because we were not dating officially though we were always together at this point.

2. Another time during our time together, I was on a night duty and she went to a party which I was aware of. I saw a guy with her and her female friend and she earlier told me the guy came with her friend. Unfortunately for her, her female friend left early without the guy. I added 2 + 2 together and fixed it that she had something with the guy that night. I subsequently saw their sex chat on her phone. She later confessed they had a one night stand only.

3. There was a guy disturbing her that I was aware of, she always told the guy off until one day she told me she was visiting the guy for the weekend. I was shocked because we were literally talking about building a genuine relationship the previous night confessing how we have come to like each other. She was love-bombing me throughout her stay with the guy and I knew they were probably having sex throughout the 3 days. She came back on the 3rd day and started acting all nice and all to me.

4. She has a bit of bad temper especially with others. She is not the most likeable person out there and she doesn't care and can say anything when she is angry. She can bullshit anyone and I was always wondering if she will do it to me too one day. She was an angel towards me but opposite towards others.

5. Unlike me, she was very experienced in Nigeria with series of sexual partners littered on her phone. I stumbled on her nudes being with different guys on her snapchat. Sex wasn't a big to her and that was a total turn off for me since I didn't live that kind of life.

I know this might not make sense to anyone reading as you may assume I have reasons to make an easy decision but trust me, it wasn't an easy decision for me as I was almost used to being with her which I have never had with any other woman. My mind kept tricking me saying maybe it is not totally her fault as I didn't commit her. Plus, I have never been with any woman that showered me with so much care in my life before this girl. I have met very decent girls that still showed me shege despite being ready to commit.

I have only seen things like that on movies and I would have said it was juju but it was not. I have never experienced that kind of 'love' before and I didn't even care if it was fake or real. I enjoyed it as we both went on dates, vacations abroad and all but I was scared to commit to her.

Eventually I had to make a decision on whether I should stay or leave her and that was I how started going back and forth. I didn't want to leave or stay. I had never been so confused in my life. It was as if I was getting the kind of love I have always wished for but I am not exactly settled with our circumstances. I wanted to forget but I just couldn't given that I knew these men and it doesn't appear she has sexual discipline as well. I felt so bad for her and myself.

Though we ended up dating officially for 2months, I struggled to let bygone be bygone as she had requested. Not that I am so concerned about it but I just hate the fact that if anything happens in the future, I can't say I didn't see the signs but she was still a good person to me.

It is been 3months since we parted ways and I still randomly wonder if I did the right thing. Should I have given her a chance to change and prove herself ? Could I have influenced her positively ? I guess I will never know.

Who has experienced this before and what are your thoughts please?

You go just kill yourself.

Hayzed203:
I broke up with my girlfriend about 3months ago and I still struggle to convince myself that I did the right thing and I believe this is affecting me in the process of trying to move on and meeting new people. We both live abroad and you don't meet a lot of Nigerians easily around here.

She was very caring, admired me and always supportive but still I made a decision to end the relationship. Why ? It was based on some sort of things that happened when we started being together. We started as friends with benefits while in school though she was in a distance relationship at the time. We both agreed it was just sex and nothing more when we started and I was fine with it. However, we started acting like couple - sleeping over, going out together, doing everything exclusively, and all that despite not defining things officially.

She wasn't always happy when I'm on phone with any girl irrespective of whatever relationship I have with such girl and I just sort of started distancing myself from all other girls. On her side, I acted 'maturely' by not interfering during her phone calls and all. Things continued that way for some months till the pressure was just too much that we had no choice but to define things. At that point, I was hooked already - in that, I was saying in my mind that it was just friends with benefits but I couldn't even leave her and I also found it difficult to make a decision to commit to her forever due to some number of reasons:

1. She once asked me to give her MouthAction which I have never done before at that time. I told her I wasn't ready and her response was that If I don't do it, someone else will do it for her. She went on a dating site, hooked up with a guy for one a night stand and I was aware of this though shocked at such boldness. I couldn't complain because we were not dating officially though we were always together at this point.

2. Another time during our time together, I was on a night duty and she went to a party which I was aware of. I saw a guy with her and her female friend and she earlier told me the guy came with her friend. Unfortunately for her, her female friend left early without the guy. I added 2 + 2 together and fixed it that she had something with the guy that night. I subsequently saw their sex chat on her phone. She later confessed they had a one night stand only.

3. There was a guy disturbing her that I was aware of, she always told the guy off until one day she told me she was visiting the guy for the weekend. I was shocked because we were literally talking about building a genuine relationship the previous night confessing how we have come to like each other. She was love-bombing me throughout her stay with the guy and I knew they were probably having sex throughout the 3 days. She came back on the 3rd day and started acting all nice and all to me.

4. She has a bit of bad temper especially with others. She is not the most likeable person out there and she doesn't care and can say anything when she is angry. She can bullshit anyone and I was always wondering if she will do it to me too one day. She was an angel towards me but opposite towards others.

5. Unlike me, she was very experienced in Nigeria with series of sexual partners littered on her phone. I stumbled on her nudes being with different guys on her snapchat. Sex wasn't a big to her and that was a total turn off for me since I didn't live that kind of life.

I know this might not make sense to anyone reading as you may assume I have reasons to make an easy decision but trust me, it wasn't an easy decision for me as I was almost used to being with her which I have never had with any other woman. My mind kept tricking me saying maybe it is not totally her fault as I didn't commit her. Plus, I have never been with any woman that showered me with so much care in my life before this girl. I have met very decent girls that still showed me shege despite being ready to commit.

I have only seen things like that on movies and I would have said it was juju but it was not. I have never experienced that kind of 'love' before and I didn't even care if it was fake or real. I enjoyed it as we both went on dates, vacations abroad and all but I was scared to commit to her.

Eventually I had to make a decision on whether I should stay or leave her and that was I how started going back and forth. I didn't want to leave or stay. I had never been so confused in my life. It was as if I was getting the kind of love I have always wished for but I am not exactly settled with our circumstances. I wanted to forget but I just couldn't given that I knew these men and it doesn't appear she has sexual discipline as well. I felt so bad for her and myself.

Though we ended up dating officially for 2months, I struggled to let bygone be bygone as she had requested. Not that I am so concerned about it but I just hate the fact that if anything happens in the future, I can't say I didn't see the signs but she was still a good person to me.

It is been 3months since we parted ways and I still randomly wonder if I did the right thing. Should I have given her a chance to change and prove herself ? Could I have influenced her positively ? I guess I will never know.

Who has experienced this before and what are your thoughts please?

you better free that girl. Someone is showing you her true color and you wan go back to am

akube34:
you better free that girl. Someone is showing you her true color and you wan go back to am

Thank you for your kind words. I guess I was just lonely and it made me vulnerable.

You need deliverance

Use your mind not your head. In a nutshell close her chapter.

Bros, go pack all your village people to come kneel down and beg her (ashawo) to change and marry you.

9ja girls will always be a prostitute. If you like take her to the moon, she must look for a way to do ashawo work. They are all the same... All of them

Hayzed203:
I broke up with my girlfriend about 3months ago and I still struggle to convince myself that I did the right thing and I believe this is affecting me in the process of trying to move on and meeting new people. We both live abroad and you don't meet a lot of Nigerians easily around here.

She was very caring, admired me and always supportive but still I made a decision to end the relationship. Why ? It was based on some sort of things that happened when we started being together. We started as friends with benefits while in school though she was in a distance relationship at the time. We both agreed it was just sex and nothing more when we started and I was fine with it. However, we started acting like couple - sleeping over, going out together, doing everything exclusively, and all that despite not defining things officially.

She wasn't always happy when I'm on phone with any girl irrespective of whatever relationship I have with such girl and I just sort of started distancing myself from all other girls. On her side, I acted 'maturely' by not interfering during her phone calls and all. Things continued that way for some months till the pressure was just too much that we had no choice but to define things. At that point, I was hooked already - in that, I was saying in my mind that it was just friends with benefits but I couldn't even leave her and I also found it difficult to make a decision to commit to her forever due to some number of reasons:

1. She once asked me to give her MouthAction which I have never done before at that time. I told her I wasn't ready and her response was that If I don't do it, someone else will do it for her. She went on a dating site, hooked up with a guy for one a night stand and I was aware of this though shocked at such boldness. I couldn't complain because we were not dating officially though we were always together at this point.

2. Another time during our time together, I was on a night duty and she went to a party which I was aware of. I saw a guy with her and her female friend and she earlier told me the guy came with her friend. Unfortunately for her, her female friend left early without the guy. I added 2 + 2 together and fixed it that she had something with the guy that night. I subsequently saw their sex chat on her phone. She later confessed they had a one night stand only.

3. There was a guy disturbing her that I was aware of, she always told the guy off until one day she told me she was visiting the guy for the weekend. I was shocked because we were literally talking about building a genuine relationship the previous night confessing how we have come to like each other. She was love-bombing me throughout her stay with the guy and I knew they were probably having sex throughout the 3 days. She came back on the 3rd day and started acting all nice and all to me.

4. She has a bit of bad temper especially with others. She is not the most likeable person out there and she doesn't care and can say anything when she is angry. She can bullshit anyone and I was always wondering if she will do it to me too one day. She was an angel towards me but opposite towards others.

5. Unlike me, she was very experienced in Nigeria with series of sexual partners littered on her phone. I stumbled on her nudes being with different guys on her snapchat. Sex wasn't a big to her and that was a total turn off for me since I didn't live that kind of life.

I know this might not make sense to anyone reading as you may assume I have reasons to make an easy decision but trust me, it wasn't an easy decision for me as I was almost used to being with her which I have never had with any other woman. My mind kept tricking me saying maybe it is not totally her fault as I didn't commit her. Plus, I have never been with any woman that showered me with so much care in my life before this girl. I have met very decent girls that still showed me shege despite being ready to commit.

I have only seen things like that on movies and I would have said it was juju but it was not. I have never experienced that kind of 'love' before and I didn't even care if it was fake or real. I enjoyed it as we both went on dates, vacations abroad and all but I was scared to commit to her.

Eventually I had to make a decision on whether I should stay or leave her and that was I how started going back and forth. I didn't want to leave or stay. I had never been so confused in my life. It was as if I was getting the kind of love I have always wished for but I am not exactly settled with our circumstances. I wanted to forget but I just couldn't given that I knew these men and it doesn't appear she has sexual discipline as well. I felt so bad for her and myself.

Though we ended up dating officially for 2months, I struggled to let bygone be bygone as she had requested. Not that I am so concerned about it but I just hate the fact that if anything happens in the future, I can't say I didn't see the signs but she was still a good person to me.

It is been 3months since we parted ways and I still randomly wonder if I did the right thing. Should I have given her a chance to change and prove herself ? Could I have influenced her positively ? I guess I will never know.

Who has experienced this before and what are your thoughts please?

You are just missing the sex and reacting to being alone. I am in the UK myself and these girls cannot be trusted. Many lack what is required to tag them wife material.

Hayzed203:
I broke up with my girlfriend about 3months ago and I still struggle to convince myself that I did the right thing and I believe this is affecting me in the process of trying to move on and meeting new people. We both live abroad and you don't meet a lot of Nigerians easily around here.

She was very caring, admired me and always supportive but still I made a decision to end the relationship. Why ? It was based on some sort of things that happened when we started being together. We started as friends with benefits while in school though she was in a distance relationship at the time. We both agreed it was just sex and nothing more when we started and I was fine with it. However, we started acting like couple - sleeping over, going out together, doing everything exclusively, and all that despite not defining things officially.

She wasn't always happy when I'm on phone with any girl irrespective of whatever relationship I have with such girl and I just sort of started distancing myself from all other girls. On her side, I acted 'maturely' by not interfering during her phone calls and all. Things continued that way for some months till the pressure was just too much that we had no choice but to define things. At that point, I was hooked already - in that, I was saying in my mind that it was just friends with benefits but I couldn't even leave her and I also found it difficult to make a decision to commit to her forever due to some number of reasons:

1. She once asked me to give her MouthAction which I have never done before at that time. I told her I wasn't ready and her response was that If I don't do it, someone else will do it for her. She went on a dating site, hooked up with a guy for one a night stand and I was aware of this though shocked at such boldness. I couldn't complain because we were not dating officially though we were always together at this point.

2. Another time during our time together, I was on a night duty and she went to a party which I was aware of. I saw a guy with her and her female friend and she earlier told me the guy came with her friend. Unfortunately for her, her female friend left early without the guy. I added 2 + 2 together and fixed it that she had something with the guy that night. I subsequently saw their sex chat on her phone. She later confessed they had a one night stand only.

3. There was a guy disturbing her that I was aware of, she always told the guy off until one day she told me she was visiting the guy for the weekend. I was shocked because we were literally talking about building a genuine relationship the previous night confessing how we have come to like each other. She was love-bombing me throughout her stay with the guy and I knew they were probably having sex throughout the 3 days. She came back on the 3rd day and started acting all nice and all to me.

4. She has a bit of bad temper especially with others. She is not the most likeable person out there and she doesn't care and can say anything when she is angry. She can bullshit anyone and I was always wondering if she will do it to me too one day. She was an angel towards me but opposite towards others.

5. Unlike me, she was very experienced in Nigeria with series of sexual partners littered on her phone. I stumbled on her nudes being with different guys on her snapchat. Sex wasn't a big to her and that was a total turn off for me since I didn't live that kind of life.

I know this might not make sense to anyone reading as you may assume I have reasons to make an easy decision but trust me, it wasn't an easy decision for me as I was almost used to being with her which I have never had with any other woman. My mind kept tricking me saying maybe it is not totally her fault as I didn't commit her. Plus, I have never been with any woman that showered me with so much care in my life before this girl. I have met very decent girls that still showed me shege despite being ready to commit.

I have only seen things like that on movies and I would have said it was juju but it was not. I have never experienced that kind of 'love' before and I didn't even care if it was fake or real. I enjoyed it as we both went on dates, vacations abroad and all but I was scared to commit to her.

Eventually I had to make a decision on whether I should stay or leave her and that was I how started going back and forth. I didn't want to leave or stay. I had never been so confused in my life. It was as if I was getting the kind of love I have always wished for but I am not exactly settled with our circumstances. I wanted to forget but I just couldn't given that I knew these men and it doesn't appear she has sexual discipline as well. I felt so bad for her and myself.

Though we ended up dating officially for 2months, I struggled to let bygone be bygone as she had requested. Not that I am so concerned about it but I just hate the fact that if anything happens in the future, I can't say I didn't see the signs but she was still a good person to me.

It is been 3months since we parted ways and I still randomly wonder if I did the right thing. Should I have given her a chance to change and prove herself ? Could I have influenced her positively ? I guess I will never know.

Who has experienced this before and what are your thoughts please?

You are dealing with a female narcissist,you will regret it if you call her back and start a family with her.She is giving you the kind of sex you want and this is blinding your eyes to see the bigger picture.Read about narcissitic women.

https://liveboldandbloom.com/09/emotional-abuse/female-narcissist

Find a decent lady to date and marry in the future.