I do not understand why women look down on House Helps. These girls/women are the glue holding many marriages today. Without house helps, many marriages for don collapse and the olosho market for dey even more profitable.


The year is 2006. I was in SS1. We were living in a residential estate in Warri (name withheld). It was semi-highbrow and was populated with families that were...you could consider them lower middle class. When the middle class was middle class. I mean I remember going to the bank with my old man to pay rent and it was 200k per annum. That was a mammoth amount in those days.

Now we lived in Block B, House B2 to be precise and we had a very jovial neighbor who lived at B4. He was a manager of a Sizzlers outlet and owned a computer repair shop. His wife was the assistant bank manager of what was once known as Intercontinental Bank.

I believe this is enough to set the stage.

The wife was never home. Even though they had 3 cars, he would go drop her off in the early morning, like 7-ish. Before returning and hanging around for a bit before going out. We learned his pattern and synchronized our pattern to match his so that he would drop us off on our way to school.

His wife didn't come home till past 9 when he would go pick her up. So basically, she left home around 7 and didn't return till 9. When she was promoted to Bank Manager and they threw a party, it got worse. Even Saturdays she no come dey around too. Sunday is for church and to recharge for the week.

It was no surprise when one day, he brought home a naive but beautiful-looking babe from Oron. She was light, fair, and very friendly. Even though her English needed work, we could understand her well, and soon boys began jostling for her attention.

Only say whenever Oga horn for gate, she would scurry inside and wouldn't be seen until he went out. The problem now was, over time Oga was coming home more frequently 😏😏😏😏.

He even stopped going out to work by the time we went to school and as a result stopped giving us free rides to school. We could no longer save tfare. TBH, na dat man epp us fit save buy PS1 🥲. Baba even stopped calling us to come and help him with menial chores around his flat that we used to bill him for.

It wasn't long before tongues began to wag that our sweet maid had begun helping madam too with wifely duties.

And so it happened that madam that never had time for home suddenly showed up on foot in the hot afternoon and used her spare key to enter the house.

😂😂😂😂

Cacophony!

Whilst they were civil about the whole thing she cried and took the big Toyota RAV4 and left. Baba stuck to his guns for a long until he seemingly succumbed to pressure and sent the maid packing whilst his wife returned.

What is your take on the story?

2006. Smh, see how you've reduced to a jobless woman. Learn to deal with your gossip laundering habit

Nothing!

Women helping their fellow women..


Girl power!

Why are you making it about women? Most Nigerians as a whole look down people
they perceive to be less than.


There was a man that hit his male househelp because he didn't boil water for him when he came back from work. Now why does a single man need a househelp? He just wanted to feel like a god.

the reasons men give for sleeping with their maids are because they say the maid is more homely, cooks and cleans for the man, is innocent, a virgin, naive. They are everything you claim your wife isn't, but hardly do they leave their wives for them.

Because the truth is that the maid isn't good enough to be seen with but she's good enough to alleviate the husband's sexual pressure.

I've said it many time here, I don't support househelps. 3rd parties ruin a marriage.

Nigerian women should invest in gadgets that would make their housework easier or employ someone that would only walk in and out of house and never sleep over. Stop maltreating vulnerable people.

Nigerian men should also get get involved too and stop seeing take care of your own child or your household as a woman's job.

Warri again

LikeAking:
Nothing!

Women helping their fellow women..


Girl power!

😂😂😂😂

1Sharon:
Why are you making it about women? Most Nigerians as a whole look down people
they perceive to be less than.


There was a man that hit his male househelp because he didn't boil water for him when he came back from work. Now why does a single man need a househelp? He just wanted to feel like a god.

the reasons men give for sleeping with their maids are because they say the maid is more homely, cooks and cleans for the man, is innocent, a virgin, naive. They are everything you claim your wife isn't, but hardly do they leave their wives for them.

Because the truth is that the maid isn't good enough to be seen with but she's good enough to alleviate the husband's sexual pressure.

I've said it many time here, I don't support househelps. 3rd parties ruin a marriage.

Nigerian women should invest in gadgets that would make their housework easier or employ someone that would only walk in and out of house and never sleep over. Stop maltreating vulnerable people.

Nigerian men should also get get involved too and stop seeing take care of your own child or your household as a woman's job.

I do not disagree with you. I actually agree with you.

And whilst the average Nigerian man is randy, the truth is that the average Nigerian wife doesn't care about marriage beyond the ceremony. This is the rule and the exceptions are few and far between.

Many are willing to ship off their marital responsibilities to their husbands (and children by extension) to total strangers. In fact, by personal experience, it's usually the woman who goes out to bring maids because men going to ask for maids is just one kind. The only responsibility that is held back of course is sexual intercourse which they're always too tired for.

Dishing out solutions without tackling the root causes means that the problem will never go away.

atheistandproud:


I do not disagree with you. I actually agree with you.

And whilst the average Nigerian man is randy, the truth is that the average Nigerian wife doesn't care about marriage beyond the ceremony. This is the rule and the exceptions are few and far between.

Many are willing to offset their marital responsibilities to their husbands (and children by extension) to total strangers. In fact, by personal experience, it's usually the woman who goes out to bring maids because men going to ask for maids is just one kind. The only responsibility that is held back of course is sexual intercourse which they're always too tired for.

Dishing out solutions without tackling the root causes means that the problem will never go away.

Would you say that the career woman in your story is the average nigerian woman?

The problem is lazy and wicked women and their husbands not putting their foot down. Some of them are completely oblivious to the running of their own home. That's why their wives can abuse their maids until they're dead and they don't see it coming.

No househelps. Since Nigerians just can't look after strangers. It's the same reason they don't like adopting.

It's when nigerian women travel that they learn how to handle their own home and become civil. The men also learn how to change nappies and feed babies.

1Sharon:


Would you say that the career woman in your story is the average nigerian woman?

The problem is lazy and wicked women and their husbands not putting their foot down. Some of them are completely oblivious to the running of their own home. That's why their wives can abuse their maids until they're dead and they don't see it coming.

No househelps. Since Nigerians just can't look after strangers. It's the same reason they don't like adopting.

It's when nigerian women travel that they learn how to handle their own home and become civil. The men also learn how to change nappies and feed babies.

In deference to your point, na career women surround me as I dey grow up. Even my mother is a school owner who has had her business for over 20 years. At least 5pm she don enter house.

But you nailed it. I have nothing more to add.