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Re: I Received The Greatest Disgrace Of My Life!!! by Focusmind: 6:57am On Oct 06, 2023
Calmness! Calmness!! Calmness!!!

Master it, take your words slowly, take your words slowly and read your presentation, following the punctuations very well. Don't try to rush. When tension and heart rate starts to increase, take a deep breath. Always have a bottle water with you. Finally, watch lots of YouTube videos on public speaking, watch conversations and public interviews on TV, and do personal presentation in front of a mirror.
Re: I Received The Greatest Disgrace Of My Life!!! by Gandrova: 7:01am On Oct 06, 2023
No one is perfect. When you want to present another time, start on a lighter mood I mean start with something that will make them laugh especially games. Move around don't ever stand in one place to take control of your presentation.
Another expo, a day before the presentation try and do rehearsals to master the presentation.
Good luck.

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Re: I Received The Greatest Disgrace Of My Life!!! by Fayos1(m): 7:33am On Oct 06, 2023
Wallteck:


Omo the thing pain me!!! Na mad disgrace!!
What I do sometimes is go with the mindset that I wanna go lecture some small kids on the topic.
Keeps me very calm
Re: I Received The Greatest Disgrace Of My Life!!! by adedayourt(m): 7:40am On Oct 06, 2023
Congratulation OP
Re: I Received The Greatest Disgrace Of My Life!!! by KingMilli: 7:52am On Oct 06, 2023
I was the best student in my junior secondary school that year, i top my class silently always surprising people with my performance... Fast forward to SS1 first term when I had to represent my class in a debate against the art class after much pressure from my English teacher, you need to see how I singlehandedly highlight my valid points that even my teacher was so impressed, people of God the day came and the only thing I was able to say was to observe all the salutation protocols the rest was silent mood and little blabbing for the remaining time. I wasn't myself all through the week, was so ashamed but later got over it after making up my mind to defeat whatever
that phobia was. I joined the press club bcoz of this and everyone couldn't believe my comeback, I was the first student to cast news on the assembly ground without manuscript, once I get the news headlines the rest is flowless and since that moment I never see the crowd wey fit stop me... Guy; face your fears squarely and overcome it, the best success stories starts with failure

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Re: I Received The Greatest Disgrace Of My Life!!! by hahn(m): 8:07am On Oct 06, 2023
Wallteck:
I have a very big phobia talking to crowd!! Today while I was presenting a project in front of the audience , I first started with a good introduction everybody dey feel my flows, suddenly I just stopped , all the thing in my head I forget it. Na only my heart Kon dey work, my soul left my body.

I was trembling in fear, my heart was beating more than normal, I end up fucking up the interview . they assisted me on the presentation, the thing really pain me, have always be running from talking to crowd, it finally catch up to me at old age!!!

Used me as a lesson, the problem you failed to address now will catch up with you later, No matter how run away from it.

My mood just spoil today.... it really pain me a lot!!! The funniest thing is that if I'm alone I will present it very well with British accent feeling like I'm on the top of the world😭😭😭😭

Everyone has stage fright 🤷‍♂️

Next time you're on stage, imagine everyone in the audience is naked 😉
Re: I Received The Greatest Disgrace Of My Life!!! by phemmyfour: 8:16am On Oct 06, 2023
Wallteck:
I have a very big phobia talking to crowd!! Today while I was presenting a project in front of the audience , I first started with a good introduction everybody dey feel my flows, suddenly I just stopped , all the thing in my head I forget it. Na only my heart Kon dey work, my soul left my body.

I was trembling in fear, my heart was beating more than normal, I end up fucking up the interview . they assisted me on the presentation, the thing really pain me, have always be running from talking to crowd, it finally catch up to me at old age!!!

Used me as a lesson, the problem you failed to address now will catch up with you later, No matter how run away from it.

My mood just spoil today.... it really pain me a lot!!! The funniest thing is that if I'm alone I will present it very well with British accent feeling like I'm on the top of the world😭😭😭😭
You will be fine, continue to practice every week.

Make presentations to your immediate family n friends weekly.....it will boost your confidence
Re: I Received The Greatest Disgrace Of My Life!!! by purples25(f): 8:33am On Oct 06, 2023
alfajohn:
Public speaking is not your mate. Our educational system failed us we were not trained for such.
We should have been made to make presentation at our early age.

Very true. It is bad when schools only choose the star students to speak or go for debates. Leaving other students to rot.
Re: I Received The Greatest Disgrace Of My Life!!! by Khyrvxjzy: 8:36am On Oct 06, 2023
Wallteck:


Na me dem go use do meme for company!!! I was just skipping, I cant control my heart again!! It get to a point I cant talk again, my heart has taking over me, if I continue talking longer I fit catch stroke, I just pause...

are you a genius?

no one ia dull

everyone have crowd fear

prepare yourself more, do it routine and practice speech with children

see even if at everything u cant succeed, why not pursue Dominion?

yes Dominion, forget speech go into business, do something great for yourself

imagine dangote is a stutterer, people will still listen
Re: I Received The Greatest Disgrace Of My Life!!! by Rybnyk(m): 8:51am On Oct 06, 2023
Wallteck:
I have a very big phobia talking to crowd!! Today while I was presenting a project in front of the audience , I first started with a good introduction everybody dey feel my flows, suddenly I just stopped , all the thing in my head I forget it. Na only my heart Kon dey work, my soul left my body.

I was trembling in fear, my heart was beating more than normal, I end up fucking up the interview . they assisted me on the presentation, the thing really pain me, have always be running from talking to crowd, it finally catch up to me at old age!!!

Used me as a lesson, the problem you failed to address now will catch up with you later, No matter how run away from it.

My mood just spoil today.... it really pain me a lot!!! The funniest thing is that if I'm alone I will present it very well with British accent feeling like I'm on the top of the world😭😭😭😭

Use this as a learning curve to do better. It happens to everyone. It shows you need to step up and grow. I also had such experience, although mine was in 100 level during a presentation. People laughed at the beginning but I found a way to compose myself. Just keep working at it. You'll get there...

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Re: I Received The Greatest Disgrace Of My Life!!! by Horllar1990(m): 9:09am On Oct 06, 2023
I could also remember when I was to defend a class project in front of 100+ coursemates too, I kept praying that the lecture should end before me but, na lie, it got to my turn and as I kept walking to the front of the class, my knee kept knocking each other but I summon courage and considered them to be the sunday school kids I do lecture on Sunday which were about 40+ kids and before you know it, claps here and there and I was like, this presentation shouldn't end cus when you make your audience to pay attention to you and you along the line crack jokes, and even argue with anyone that throws a question at you, you'll overcome that fear that's inside you and before you say Jack, some students will start paying you to assist them in some areas they don't know about..

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Re: I Received The Greatest Disgrace Of My Life!!! by Princewell2012(m): 9:14am On Oct 06, 2023
PaganTerrorist:
Never pick job that'll have you speak or interact with people

You'll thank me later for this

LOL with time he will get used to it.
In the church I will not give my testimony because of shy, the day I was asked to take open prayer, if was like the ground should open for me to fall inside grin but today a preacher. I can face any crowd.

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Re: I Received The Greatest Disgrace Of My Life!!! by Princewell2012(m): 9:18am On Oct 06, 2023
olioxx:
It is a normal thing to have stage fright, if you want to remedy the phobia, do this.
1. Take a deep breath while on stage
2. If possible take bottle water, so that once you forget what to say or if the tension is building up, you drive water to relive yourself.
3. Focus your gaze on some selected audience.

Try it thank me later
..
cheesy I tried nunber 3 and it works for me. I will just pick some individual who are friendly to me, and am good to go. Even when ministering in the church.
Re: I Received The Greatest Disgrace Of My Life!!! by Princewell2012(m): 9:20am On Oct 06, 2023
Opirlo:
Go to Bible study u no gree😁😁 see am now. U start learning all this from small gathering, from publicly reading verses of the bible, u start asking questions then come the boldness of contributing ur understanding to the general brethren bro u knew u get plenty liver to ask nd answer or air ur opinion nd believe u will be happy nd excited to be waisting time with questions and answers.
God bless you. Church was the solution for my own but now am a preacher.
Re: I Received The Greatest Disgrace Of My Life!!! by judedwriter(m): 9:22am On Oct 06, 2023
Wallteck:
I have a very big phobia talking to crowd!! Today while I was presenting a project in front of the audience , I first started with a good introduction everybody dey feel my flows, suddenly I just stopped , all the thing in my head I forget it. Na only my heart Kon dey work, my soul left my body.

I was trembling in fear, my heart was beating more than normal, I end up fucking up the interview . they assisted me on the presentation, the thing really pain me, have always be running from talking to crowd, it finally catch up to me at old age!!!

Used me as a lesson, the problem you failed to address now will catch up with you later, No matter how run away from it.

My mood just spoil today.... it really pain me a lot!!! The funniest thing is that if I'm alone I will present it very well with British accent feeling like I'm on the top of the world😭😭😭😭

Two secrets of public speaking that has helped me over many years:

1. Once you speak with the microphone, you are in charge of the audience. Anything or most of what you ask them to do, they will do.

2. Avoid looking directly into the eyes of your audience. Look above their heads.

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Re: I Received The Greatest Disgrace Of My Life!!! by Princewell2012(m): 9:26am On Oct 06, 2023
madjune:
Everyone dreads public speaking to some extent.

Cool down.

The first mistake you made was made in your mind.

You started off well and few mins into it, you panicked and your hormones took over. Fear.

Thing is, you could have done very well.
You were too scared to believe in yourself doing it well.

So, you failed in your mind already.
And, that's because you called it a big deal.

To speak well infront of a crowd, never call it a big deal.
Start off calmly, calmly...at some point, you will find your rhythm. From there, nature takes over.
Never try to speak fast or to try to sound like some other person.
Nature will give you your rhythm.

You didn't even complain that you've a stutter or some speech impediment. No.
You're really good to go. Next time, make sure you kill it.
You surely can.

God bless you. This will even help me as a preacher of the gospel
Re: I Received The Greatest Disgrace Of My Life!!! by Chasito(m): 9:29am On Oct 06, 2023
To be a governor or president no easy, na so u go stand for crowd dey talk
Re: I Received The Greatest Disgrace Of My Life!!! by hakym619(m): 9:37am On Oct 06, 2023
Wallteck:


We're you able to defend it well grin grin. The funniest thing is that my final year project I did it very well because I was only talking to one person which is my lecturer

Diazepam+ propanol combo would limit physical signs of fidgeting when taken 40 mins prior presentation. As you take this do some mental preparations beforehand. You can visit coaches for training too.
Re: I Received The Greatest Disgrace Of My Life!!! by baqirshuayb(m): 11:21am On Oct 06, 2023
i had same problem years ago, though havent completely overcome it but i can talk without trembling like before.
look for Propranolol in any store near you, take a single pill 1hr before any presentation, it will seriously help you.
Re: I Received The Greatest Disgrace Of My Life!!! by Ephatah: 11:26am On Oct 06, 2023
So sorry about this. It will go with time and practice. Don't run from it anymore. Try talking in front of few people, the. Increase it from der. This used to be me. I would freeze . But don't overthink it. Most importantly, be prepared for your presentation, practice practice practice. It will get better oooo.
Re: I Received The Greatest Disgrace Of My Life!!! by Goddeywithme: 11:33am On Oct 06, 2023
Wallteck:
I have a very big phobia talking to crowd!! Today while I was presenting a project in front of the audience , I first started with a good introduction everybody dey feel my flows, suddenly I just stopped , all the thing in my head I forget it. Na only my heart Kon dey work, my soul left my body.

I was trembling in fear, my heart was beating more than normal, I end up fucking up the interview . they assisted me on the presentation, the thing really pain me, have always be running from talking to crowd, it finally catch up to me at old age!!!

Used me as a lesson, the problem you failed to address now will catch up with you later, No matter how run away from it.

My mood just spoil today.... it really pain me a lot!!! The funniest thing is that if I'm alone I will present it very well with British accent feeling like I'm on the top of the world😭😭😭😭

You have what is called social anxiety disorder. Some call it social phobia. It is treatable with psychology therapy by a qualified cognitive behavioural therapist. Are you in Nigeria? If yes, I am not sure we have qualified therapists here. If you are outside the country, reply my quote here and I can direct you to where to get professional help. Within 12 sessions of therapy, you will be healed. Remember I said treatment by a qualified cognitive behavioural therapist,
Re: I Received The Greatest Disgrace Of My Life!!! by goodon(m): 12:03pm On Oct 06, 2023
I was once in your shoes but now I just imagine that no one was there I just keep speaking
Re: I Received The Greatest Disgrace Of My Life!!! by trytillmake(m): 12:06pm On Oct 06, 2023
OK sorry about that, what i actually do is, i say to myself them get 2 head abegi, so I give myself confidence before I step there also I look at their heads not their faces, so this helps when talking.
Re: I Received The Greatest Disgrace Of My Life!!! by achimendy(m): 12:24pm On Oct 06, 2023
Wallteck:
I have a very big phobia talking to crowd!! Today while I was presenting a project in front of the audience , I first started with a good introduction everybody dey feel my flows, suddenly I just stopped , all the thing in my head I forget it. Na only my heart Kon dey work, my soul left my body.

I was trembling in fear, my heart was beating more than normal, I end up fucking up the interview . they assisted me on the presentation, the thing really pain me, have always be running from talking to crowd, it finally catch up to me at old age!!!

Used me as a lesson, the problem you failed to address now will catch up with you later, No matter how run away from it.

My mood just spoil today.... it really pain me a lot!!! The funniest thing is that if I'm alone I will present it very well with British accent feeling like I'm on the top of the world😭😭😭😭




It's simple, go do a course on it and learn. There you can perfect it.
Re: I Received The Greatest Disgrace Of My Life!!! by chukkydee(m): 1:03pm On Oct 06, 2023
eventainment:
Public Speaking by Dale Carnegie You need to read that book it helped my life

The taste of the pudding is in the eating. Good to read, but more practicals is required.

Google Toastmasters Club and join the nearest one close to you.
Re: I Received The Greatest Disgrace Of My Life!!! by IbrahimSkiba(f): 1:54pm On Oct 06, 2023
Wallteck:
I have a very big phobia talking to crowd!! Today while I was presenting a project in front of the audience , I first started with a good introduction everybody dey feel my flows, suddenly I just stopped , all the thing in my head I forget it. Na only my heart Kon dey work, my soul left my body.

I was trembling in fear, my heart was beating more than normal, I end up fucking up the interview . they assisted me on the presentation, the thing really pain me, have always be running from talking to crowd, it finally catch up to me at old age!!!

Used me as a lesson, the problem you failed to address now will catch up with you later, No matter how run away from it.

My mood just spoil today.... it really pain me a lot!!! The funniest thing is that if I'm alone I will present it very well with British accent feeling like I'm on the top of the world😭😭😭😭



Eyaa sorry Na..

I also have phobia for standing in crowd. That's why I'm yet to go into music with my fine voice
Re: I Received The Greatest Disgrace Of My Life!!! by Middlechild03(m): 2:19pm On Oct 06, 2023
Wallteck:
I have a very big phobia talking to crowd!! Today while I was presenting a project in front of the audience , I first started with a good introduction everybody dey feel my flows, suddenly I just stopped , all the thing in my head I forget it. Na only my heart Kon dey work, my soul left my body.

I was trembling in fear, my heart was beating more than normal, I end up fucking up the interview . they assisted me on the presentation, the thing really pain me, have always be running from talking to crowd, it finally catch up to me at old age!!!

Used me as a lesson, the problem you failed to address now will catch up with you later, No matter how run away from it.

My mood just spoil today.... it really pain me a lot!!! The funniest thing is that if I'm alone I will present it very well with British accent feeling like I'm on the top of the world😭😭😭😭

One thing about public speaking is that, you’ve have to be prepared , if you’re truly not prepared don’t go up there, but I guess yours was out of necessity, it had to be done, unlike mine, though mine was different sha, I started attending this new church , like I was really serious with it, cus prior to that I haven’t been to church in 2years. I started beginners classes and workers classes in other to become a worker in church, Infact the pastor ,members and everybody was so impressed about my seriousness, Cus I look so street , beards and all. so I eascaped a very terrible accident that could have claimed my life when I was coming from work , y’all might remember, a particular story about a train almost crushing a bus on that iyana ipaja / ikeja railway , the bus I was in climbed over that railway to connect to iyana ipaja road. It was a narrow escape. I told myself I was gonna testify in front of everybody , first time in my life of wanting to speak in public . my mind warned me , but I said it’s God I must do it. That Sunday, testimony time I raised my hand, I came out, I started well just like you, halfway I started trembling, my lips were shaking , started sweating , it became so obvious to everybody that i wasn’t confident. I embarrassed myself so bad , didn’t even finish my testimony when I rushed back to my seat, That was my last time in that church, the pastor call me tire send me messages on WhatsApp, send me motivational videos, to encourage me cus they know that event was why I stopped coming, it was that bad! So I know how you feel bro!
Re: I Received The Greatest Disgrace Of My Life!!! by asobo1: 4:18pm On Oct 06, 2023
Wallteck:


I think drugs can cure this thing, it seem my heart is powerful than me, my heart will just be beating for no reason
Don't even attempt to use any firm of drugs because you will regret it
Re: I Received The Greatest Disgrace Of My Life!!! by dreamwords: 4:52pm On Oct 06, 2023
Gggjhhj:


I may need the name of the drug, have same issue, trying to fight it
the name is propranolol
take a pill or half a pill, 45min to one hour before presentation or public speaking or some soth
Re: I Received The Greatest Disgrace Of My Life!!! by Exceed15: 5:08pm On Oct 06, 2023
Don't beat yourself too hard. U'll be fine with time. I m sure you will do much better next time.
Re: I Received The Greatest Disgrace Of My Life!!! by Abigailzino(f): 5:21pm On Oct 06, 2023
Wallteck:
I have a very big phobia talking to crowd!! Today while I was presenting a project in front of the audience , I first started with a good introduction everybody dey feel my flows, suddenly I just stopped , all the thing in my head I forget it. Na only my heart Kon dey work, my soul left my body.

I was trembling in fear, my heart was beating more than normal, I end up fucking up the interview . they assisted me on the presentation, the thing really pain me, have always be running from talking to crowd, it finally catch up to me at old age!!!

Used me as a lesson, the problem you failed to address now will catch up with you later, No matter how run away from it.

My mood just spoil today.... it really pain me a lot!!! The funniest thing is that if I'm alone I will present it very well with British accent feeling like I'm on the top of the world😭😭😭😭

Lol sorry. I can imagine how you felt. 😂😂😂

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