I'm a lady of 27years, working as a casual worker till I'm done clearing my result in school. I have always wanted to get married at 28 but I wasted my time dating someone who I thought loved me but abused me physically, which I had to leave the relationship.

Presently, at my place of work I met a guy of 25 who loves me wholeheartedly and willing to go miles for me. He's hardworking , a good guy and he's always all over me. I have told him countless times that I can't date him even though I kinda love him too. I feel he won't be ready when I will be. He told me to give him 2 years and he will be.

I feel he is getting pressure from what he feels and he needs time to fulfill dreams b4 thinking about marriage. This guy wouldn't even burge. People around us felt I'm just been mean to him by not dating him. I have wasted my time in the past which I don't want to anymore.


I know this guy loves me wholeheartedly but marriage is just a big deal to just go after him or what do you think?

Onatounkiki:
I'm a lady of 27years, working as a casual worker till I'm done clearing my result in school. I have always wanted to get married at 28 but I wasted my time dating someone who I thought loved me but abused me physically, which I had to leave the relationship.

Presently, at my place of work I met a guy of 25 who loves me wholeheartedly and willing to go miles for me. He's hardworking , a good guy and he's always all over me. I have told him countless times that I can't date him even though I kinda love him too. I feel he won't be ready when I will be. He told me to give him 2 years and he will be.

I feel he is getting pressure from what he feels and he needs time to fulfill dreams b4 thinking about marriage. This guy wouldn't even burge. People around us felt I'm just been mean to him by not dating him. I have wasted my time in the past which I don't want to anymore.


I know this guy loves me wholeheartedly but marriage is just a big deal to just go after him or what do you think?

Your life...

You want to settle down, but his guy is telling you to give him two years before he is ready. My dear that same guy who is begging you today, may sing a different tune tomorrow after you have wasted 2yrs with him. Never trust the promises of men. If you want to date him, fine. But while dating him, if a better man comes, go for it. Keep your options open.

a bird at hand ...
if you no date pesin how will you find out the depth of his love for you and his character most importantly...
women are their own enemies sha...
instead of being happy he told you the truth that he is not yet ready for marriage they would prefer a guy who lies with sweet mouth...

If you're interested in dating, go ahead and date without all these marriage talks. That guy may not be ready for marriage until 4-5 years later. Even if you decide not to pursue a relationship with him, finding a serious man willing to marry you within 1 or 2 years might still be a challenge. The decision is yours to make sha.


And you have to stop worrying about who wasted your time. Every serious relationship (not flings) that does not lead to marriage is a waste. No need worrying over who wasted this or that. You wasted people's time too by not marrying them.

as a woman, never date a man out of pity or pressure... if you feel you don't want him because of your reasons it's fine... not you getting into it and regretting or using it to abuse him when problem arises in the relationship... I would advice you if you consider dating him that until he does the needful towards marriage, intimacy shouldn't be the main fuel of the relationship... in two years, he might meet someone else... you can never tell, just keep your options open and your body closed...

people will hardly buy the cow when the milk is free..

He is younger and not ready.abort mission, abort mission.At your stage.you need someone ready .you complained someone wasted your time,dont waste it further.

What makes you think a 25 year old will be ready for marriage in two years time? Though one can't say for sure.

Another thing is... How are you sure what he has for you is true love and not that thing between his legs controlling him? See you can't judge a man's true love by the way he flutters around you because most times they are after sleeping with you and once that is achieved, they move on.

For me, I'll say that guy is too young to commit to you that's why he's posting you already for another two whole years believing by then he'll have achieved his aim or you would have given up waiting knowing you're desperate to settle down any moment.

Let me teach you a trick ( that is if you'll not call it old school). Tell him no premarital sex. if he truly wants you and you'll wait for him. See what he does after this. If he truly loves you he'll stick around but if he's not serious, you'll see him lose interest.

If he accepts your condition, please date him and see where it leads afterall you've not seen another one yet and the age difference is not much. What of me that someone 7 younger is on my case? Just that I don't fancy him if not I don't mind. I'll court him.