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Your First Time Visiting Your Girl: What Would You Do? by TenQ: 12:11pm On Oct 28, 2023
This is to complement the topic from.

https://www.nairaland.com/7859913/first-time-visiting-guy-happens
Your First Time Of Visiting A Guy, And This Happens. What Would You Do?


The first time you visited your Girlfriend's family house, you both met the Father cutting the grass of their lawn with cutlass.

As a Guy, he what do you think you should do?
a. Collect the cutlass from him and cut the grass for him
b. Greet him and keep on chatting with your girl

As the lady in question
a. Will you be embarrassed if your boyfriend collected the cutlass from your father and help him cut the grass
b. You will both ignore your father at his chore as it isn't your business.


Sometimes you understand the situation better if you flip it around!

cc:
Rocktation, Farano, Dominique

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Re: Your First Time Visiting Your Girl: What Would You Do? by skj1377(m): 12:25pm On Oct 28, 2023
What kind of poverty is this? When last did I see a cutlass talkless of touch it! Are you living in the village or a farm?

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Re: Your First Time Visiting Your Girl: What Would You Do? by Tallesty1(m): 12:38pm On Oct 28, 2023
Naturally I will help him out and we will switch yarns while I do it. I will tell him how good I was at farms back in the days and he will think me a good son inlaw even though I have just set myself up for see finish. They would think I was well brought up but the truth is that I no get money to give them to get a laborer so make I kuku do am.

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Re: Your First Time Visiting Your Girl: What Would You Do? by Bettergoat: 1:29pm On Oct 28, 2023
I would like to help but I can't and won't use a cutlass for grass cutting.…

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Re: Your First Time Visiting Your Girl: What Would You Do? by C2Ok: 3:25pm On Oct 28, 2023
Why the papa go cut grass when I Dey around😂🫴
So what?
I should take of my shirt and shoes and start cutting grass with him?…. LOOOOL I ain’t Jacob🙃

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Re: Your First Time Visiting Your Girl: What Would You Do? by Nicepoker(m): 3:45pm On Oct 28, 2023
skj1377:
What kind of poverty is this? When last did I see a cutlass talkless of touch it! Are you living in the village or a farm?
Na every farm dem de use cutlass?
Re: Your First Time Visiting Your Girl: What Would You Do? by TenQ: 3:52pm On Oct 28, 2023
skj1377:
What kind of poverty is this? When last did I see a cutlass talkless of touch it! Are you living in the village or a farm?
I forgot to tell you that I live in the interior village.

Our houses are well lawned with flowers planted in areas designated.
Parts of our yard is tiled with interlocking bricks and other areas we have flowers and trees planted.

Sorry, this is not Lagos where you don't have space

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Re: Your First Time Visiting Your Girl: What Would You Do? by TenQ: 3:54pm On Oct 28, 2023
Tallesty1:
Naturally I will help him out and we will switch yarns while I do it. I will tell him how good I was at farms back in the days and he will think me a good son inlaw even though I have just set myself up for see finish. They would think I was well brought up but the truth is that I no get money to give them to get a laborer so make I kuku do am.
Exactly!
This show that you were well brought up. I Unless the father forbid you to help, but you are expected to help him out.

It's only civil thing to do

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Re: Your First Time Visiting Your Girl: What Would You Do? by TenQ: 3:54pm On Oct 28, 2023
Bettergoat:
I would like to help but I can't and won't use a cutlass for grass cutting.…
But this is what you find him using.

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Re: Your First Time Visiting Your Girl: What Would You Do? by TenQ: 3:56pm On Oct 28, 2023
C2Ok:
Why the papa go cut grass when I Dey around😂🫴
So what?
I should take of my shirt and shoes and start cutting grass with him?…. LOOOOL I ain’t Jacob🙃
What if you came home and found your own father cutting grass with cutlass, I would you collect the cutlass from him?

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Re: Your First Time Visiting Your Girl: What Would You Do? by TenQ: 3:57pm On Oct 28, 2023
Nicepoker:
Na every farm dem de use cutlass?
Many houses have a small lawn where fruit trees like guava and oranges are planted.
It may be too small for the outright purchase of a lawn mower
Re: Your First Time Visiting Your Girl: What Would You Do? by Nobody: 3:57pm On Oct 28, 2023
🤣🤣🤣🤣
Bettergoat:
I would like to help but I can't and won't use a cutlass for grass cutting.…
Re: Your First Time Visiting Your Girl: What Would You Do? by TenQ: 4:09pm On Oct 28, 2023
Samantha124:
🤣🤣🤣🤣
Except your babe's father is a black American
Re: Your First Time Visiting Your Girl: What Would You Do? by Nobody: 4:12pm On Oct 28, 2023
Who uses Cutlass to cut grass though? The guy would probably think that the father is mentally ill and run for his life...🤣🤣🤣
TenQ:

Except your babe's father is a black American
Re: Your First Time Visiting Your Girl: What Would You Do? by TenQ: 4:15pm On Oct 28, 2023
Samantha124:
Who uses Cutlass to cut grass though? The guy would probably think that the father is mentally ill and run for his life...🤣🤣🤣
You don't have a small yard with an orange tree or guaver tree planted!?
Trust me, these could be very small and not worth the use of a lawn mower

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Re: Your First Time Visiting Your Girl: What Would You Do? by Nobody: 4:19pm On Oct 28, 2023
At home we do have orange and guava trees... But you're talking about grass and not trees.
TenQ:

You don't have a small herd with an orange tree or guaver tree planted!?
Trust me, these could be very small and not worth the use of a lawn mower

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Re: Your First Time Visiting Your Girl: What Would You Do? by TenQ: 4:20pm On Oct 28, 2023
Samantha124:
At home we do have orange and guava trees... But you're talking about grass and not trees.
Under the trees could be grasses fit only to be cut with cutlass
Re: Your First Time Visiting Your Girl: What Would You Do? by Nobody: 4:28pm On Oct 28, 2023
Okay..😂😂😂
TenQ:

Under the trees could be grasses fit only to be cut with cutlass
Re: Your First Time Visiting Your Girl: What Would You Do? by C2Ok: 4:38pm On Oct 28, 2023
TenQ:

What if you came home and found your own father cutting grass with cutlass, I would you collect the cutlass from him?
Yes of course, he’s MY father, i don’t even expect him to pick up any tool when I’m with him, my Babe’s Father is HER Father, Boundaries are Boundaries, we must respect Boundaries in order to preserve our worth and avoid see finish 😉🤝

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Re: Your First Time Visiting Your Girl: What Would You Do? by Bettergoat: 4:44pm On Oct 28, 2023
I will stand and be hosting with him.…
TenQ:

But this is what you find him using.
Re: Your First Time Visiting Your Girl: What Would You Do? by Fahvvy: 5:24pm On Oct 28, 2023
It depends on how serious the relationship is undecided...

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Re: Your First Time Visiting Your Girl: What Would You Do? by TenQ: 5:45pm On Oct 28, 2023
Samantha124:
Okay..😂😂😂
Meaning that it is possible to find the father of your girl cutting the grasses with cutlass while you come in for the first visit
Re: Your First Time Visiting Your Girl: What Would You Do? by Reminderz: 5:48pm On Oct 28, 2023
questions you should ask instead?

what's the purpose of the man visiting the girl's parent? introduction?

is it the first time visiting? or subsequent ones? are they expecting him?

if he's there for the purpose of introduction, the girl would have informed her parent of his coming and the time as well, so I don't think the man would be cutting grass by that time... they won't probably be preparing to receive him or welcome with food or drinks.... and even if he happens to be cutting grass, that would be stopped as soon as he arrives...

if he's just visiting without the girl's parent being aware of his coming or even familiar with him, I don't think collecting cutlass would be the next agenda, introduction would be first...

if it's subsequent visiting, the father himself will leave the cutlass to welcome him, and the guy would probably greet and give him something then take his leave... he doesn't need to collect cutlass for anything... and that doesn't determine if he's a good man or not..

if my woman is visiting my family for the first time, (of course, they would know she was coming) and my mom was cooking when she arrived, she's not expected to join her in the kitchen... that's not what she was there for... unless she willingly volunteered.....
Re: Your First Time Visiting Your Girl: What Would You Do? by TenQ: 5:50pm On Oct 28, 2023
C2Ok:

Yes of course, he’s MY father, i don’t even expect him to pick up any tool when I’m with him, my Babe’s Father is HER Father, Boundaries are Boundaries, we must respect Boundaries in order to preserve our worth and avoid see finish 😉🤝
If you were in America or Europe, I I would have agreed with you: A culture of Everyone for himself.

But this is Africa. There is a dynamics that layout here.

Your actions show whether you are worth being a potential Inlaw or not.

Helping the old man would not diminish your value in anyway. It will actually enhance your value with the man.




Note:
I can understand your position from the modern day culture where dating can exist without marriage or future relationship in view
Re: Your First Time Visiting Your Girl: What Would You Do? by Bintabisiriyu2: 5:53pm On Oct 28, 2023
It's only poverty that speaks like you, why not gift baba like 200k to buy a brand new mower, or take them out of the village so they won't have to battle with unwanted grass.
If i was the father and you come to help me cut the grass na to sound you hot slap for ignoring your responsibilities. Ewu
Re: Your First Time Visiting Your Girl: What Would You Do? by TenQ: 5:53pm On Oct 28, 2023
Bettergoat:
I will stand and be hosting with him.…
Meaning that you shouldn't come a few years down the line for his daughters hand in marriage.

In my culture, you have failed the exam of being responsible and cultured.

If the relationship has no hope of proceeding to something serious, why not!
Re: Your First Time Visiting Your Girl: What Would You Do? by TenQ: 5:57pm On Oct 28, 2023
Reminderz:
questions you should ask instead?

what's the purpose of the man visiting the girl's parent? introduction?

is it the first time visiting? or subsequent ones? are they expecting him?

if he's there for the purpose of introduction, the girl would have informed her parent of his coming and the time as well, so I don't think the man would be cutting grass by that time... they won't probably be preparing to receive him or welcome with food or drinks.... and even if he happens to be cutting grass, that would be stopped as soon as he arrives...

if he's just visiting without the girl's parent being aware of his coming or even familiar with him, I don't think collecting cutlass would be the next agenda, introduction would be first...

if it's subsequent visiting, the father himself will leave the cutlass to welcome him, and the guy would probably greet and give him something then take his leave... he doesn't need to collect cutlass for anything... and that doesn't determine if he's a good man or not..

if my woman is visiting my family for the first time, (of course, they would know she was coming) and my mom was cooking when she arrived, she's not expected to join her in the kitchen... that's not what she was there for... unless she willingly volunteered.....

I think once the girl can introduce the boy to her father and say:
"Daddy, meet my friend Bomboy!"
AND
Bomboy has the intention of getting serious with the girl, she it becomes important that he makes attempt to help his potential father-in-law.


Of course, the father too has his role to play. He can choose to decline help from the young man!

This is how the dynamics play out!
Re: Your First Time Visiting Your Girl: What Would You Do? by TenQ: 6:02pm On Oct 28, 2023
Bintabisiriyu2:
It's only poverty that speaks like you, why not gift baba like 200k to buy a brand new mower, or take them out of the village so they won't have to battle with unwanted grass.
If i was the father and you come to help me cut the grass na to sound you hot slap for ignoring your responsibilities. Ewu
A lawn of 3 meters square may never need a lawn mower.

Does it make sense to put a single plate and cup into a dishwasher or the was the plates manually?

Not every problem is solved with money o!


"Good Afternoon sir,
May I help you complete this?"


It's not difficult to say for a young responsible man IF he plans to get serious with this girl.
Re: Your First Time Visiting Your Girl: What Would You Do? by Bettergoat: 6:13pm On Oct 28, 2023
As I don't know how to cut grass with cutlass... What do I do? Punish myself?
TenQ:

Meaning that you shouldn't come a few years down the line for his daughters hand in marriage.

In my culture, you have failed the exam of being responsible and cultured.

If the relationship has no hope of proceeding to something serious, why not!
Re: Your First Time Visiting Your Girl: What Would You Do? by TenQ: 6:24pm On Oct 28, 2023
Bettergoat:
As I don't know how to cut grass with cutlass... What do I do? Punish myself?
By the time you strike the grass two or three times, the father would have known that you do not know how to cut grass and thus, you would have been excused.

Just imagine that the case was reversed. A young man brought his white or black American to meet his parent for the first time. The lady saw the mama pounding yam and she asked to help.

What do you think would happen is she could only throw just one pestle and she's struggling to pull out the pestle from the sticky pounded yam?

Everyone will laugh at it BUT she would have won their hearts from that day on.


It is not about the work, but it is about being friendly, social and exhibiting a well brought up personality
Re: Your First Time Visiting Your Girl: What Would You Do? by TenQ: 6:24pm On Oct 28, 2023
TenQ:
This is to complement the topic from.

https://www.nairaland.com/7859913/first-time-visiting-guy-happens
Your First Time Of Visiting A Guy, And This Happens. What Would You Do?


The first time you visited your Girlfriend's family house, you both met the Father cutting the grass of their lawn with cutlass.

As a Guy, he what do you think you should do?
a. Collect the cutlass from him and cut the grass for him
b. Greet him and keep on chatting with your girl

As the lady in question
a. Will you be embarrassed if your boyfriend collected the cutlass from your father and help him cut the grass
b. You will both ignore your father at his chore as it isn't your business.


Sometimes you understand the situation better if you flip it around!

cc:
Rocktation, Farano, Dominique
Re: Your First Time Visiting Your Girl: What Would You Do? by okoroemeka(m): 6:37pm On Oct 28, 2023
skj1377:
What kind of poverty is this? When last did I see a cutlass talkless of touch it! Are you living in the village or a farm?
relax bro,not everybody has the grace to live in lekki or ikoyi,that you have not seen a Cutlass or grass before in your life do not make you a more better man than the farmer living in the village

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