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Re: A Nigerian Lady Talks Of Her Cultural Shock In France: by Sholuwa241: 3:36pm On Nov 14, 2023 |
Depriest2020: Hmm I am speachless Mel End of discussion 1 Like |
Re: A Nigerian Lady Talks Of Her Cultural Shock In France: by Tightguy(m): 3:41pm On Nov 14, 2023 |
..... But why would you leave a cup of tea on your desk while closing from work for the day? 1 Like |
Re: A Nigerian Lady Talks Of Her Cultural Shock In France: by gidjah(m): 3:45pm On Nov 14, 2023 |
Every one is busy over there ,though there's fun,but you've gat to do that with some particular sect. The culture over there dosent give room for sound socialism unlike Africa were we are one good full circle. One of the celebrities in London who has a grown up daughter of about 25, then told us he hasn't seen his daughter for close to a decade ! In the same state and country oo!! She isn't even married but working after school.But we Africans no go gree that one even while married ,your parents can still steal out a visit on you just to tell you ' WE MISS U ' ! though some of us seem not cooll with this intrusion,..we yet tend to appreciate and ever live with this awesome memories there after. I AM FOREVER GREATFUL TO GOD FOR MAKING ME AN AFRICAN, I LOVE AFRICA . 1 Like |
Re: A Nigerian Lady Talks Of Her Cultural Shock In France: by FaithBrain1994(m): 3:58pm On Nov 14, 2023 |
Even Frence and the U.S Presidents prefers to be called by his first name. I seriously don't know what all these sir/ma/Alhaji BLA BLA BLA all about. |
Re: A Nigerian Lady Talks Of Her Cultural Shock In France: by eepeepook: 4:02pm On Nov 14, 2023 |
Home is always an option. Make she come back. |
Re: A Nigerian Lady Talks Of Her Cultural Shock In France: by iamdapsyj(m): 4:10pm On Nov 14, 2023 |
doggedfighter: šš¤£ |
Re: A Nigerian Lady Talks Of Her Cultural Shock In France: by musicwriter(m): 4:12pm On Nov 14, 2023 |
Darevofpeace: There's actually a documentary on the last part. A lady died in a Western country (I forgot the name) and it took some years before people knew. The air conditioner was still working over the years and somehow she didn't smell. She was still sitting on her couch watching TV when they opened the door. And the TV was still on over the years!! But I prefer to live that way. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: A Nigerian Lady Talks Of Her Cultural Shock In France: by MyAmericandream(f): 4:35pm On Nov 14, 2023 |
queengift: I know of 68years old woman thatās already a great-grandma. |
Re: A Nigerian Lady Talks Of Her Cultural Shock In France: by MyAmericandream(f): 4:42pm On Nov 14, 2023 |
Depriest2020: Thatās why most of them are uneducated and live in abject poverty. 1 Like |
Re: A Nigerian Lady Talks Of Her Cultural Shock In France: by TrustNone: 4:55pm On Nov 14, 2023 |
Nwaotu10:I will commit suicide after my dad's burial |
Re: A Nigerian Lady Talks Of Her Cultural Shock In France: by jojothaiv(m): 5:08pm On Nov 14, 2023 |
Nwaotu10:No forget me too. |
Re: A Nigerian Lady Talks Of Her Cultural Shock In France: by zombieHUNTER: 5:21pm On Nov 14, 2023 |
FreeStuffsNG: After typing on social media.. you'll go back home to Makoko |
Re: A Nigerian Lady Talks Of Her Cultural Shock In France: by pacespot(m): 5:36pm On Nov 14, 2023 |
Darevofpeace: Your kinds are the ones destroying Nigeria and other African countries today, because these things you say you lack are the reasons why Nigeria and Africa are lagging behind other countries. Mind your business and do not put your nose in other people's businesses unless you are invited. Live and let others live. Why do you think you care about other people's feelings more than themselves for you to intrude their privacy uninvited? When you were sick did you inform your colleagues at work and they didn't care? NO. But you think because you were not present at workplace they would automatically assume something was wrong with you. This is not how things work in those countries because people respect each other's boundaries. Only the ones you have formed a very close personal relationship with will dare to ask after you in your home, even at that they would have to inform you before coming. Islam is scorned all over the world today because it has taught its followers never to mind their business, it wants to convert people by guns and bombs. It doesn't believe in the principle of human coexistence forged on respect for each other's opinions. It believes only Islamic way is right. So my friend, you are a busybody person and I hope you had someone to tell you this earlier. You are lucky to travel out of Nigeria to see how a civilized world should be. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: A Nigerian Lady Talks Of Her Cultural Shock In France: by rexesq(m): 5:39pm On Nov 14, 2023 |
queengift: E tire me o. Ah! You go abroad no be outside country. |
Re: A Nigerian Lady Talks Of Her Cultural Shock In France: by thecommunist(m): 5:47pm On Nov 14, 2023 |
Angelfrost:here in Canada, my supervisor and colleague would not only try to reach out, but would also wish me quick recovery if they find out I am sick and did not show up to work. My office is cleaned everyday after work hours by the cleaning lady and any food or drink I left on my desk that is getting spoilt would be thrown our for me. This may be so because my 90 % of the people in my work are immigrants from, my direct colleagues are from Iran, Jordan Indian and Philipines, My supervisor is white and he has started to get influenced my us. he asks about our wellbeing and families. |
Re: A Nigerian Lady Talks Of Her Cultural Shock In France: by Nwaotu10(m): 5:50pm On Nov 14, 2023 |
TrustNone: "Death" is a safe passage whispering my name, and I drew closer with each passing day. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: A Nigerian Lady Talks Of Her Cultural Shock In France: by Angelfrost(m): 5:53pm On Nov 14, 2023 |
thecommunist: Thank you for this clarification... That's how it should be. The keyword is "Influence". |
Re: A Nigerian Lady Talks Of Her Cultural Shock In France: by Neddyogu(m): 6:31pm On Nov 14, 2023 |
Depriest2020: Not everyone marries kids. 1 Like |
Re: A Nigerian Lady Talks Of Her Cultural Shock In France: by kozmicity: 6:52pm On Nov 14, 2023 |
FreeStuffsNG: Beautiful šš 1 Like |
Re: A Nigerian Lady Talks Of Her Cultural Shock In France: by Depriest2020: 7:08pm On Nov 14, 2023 |
Neddyogu:My mum married @ 21, my elder sister @ 23, my elder sister's daughter @ 22? So if that's what you call child then I don't know who taught you that. |
Re: A Nigerian Lady Talks Of Her Cultural Shock In France: by Depriest2020: 7:12pm On Nov 14, 2023 |
pinkguy:The tribe I belong to, we don't have anything like almajiri. |
Re: A Nigerian Lady Talks Of Her Cultural Shock In France: by Depriest2020: 7:17pm On Nov 14, 2023 |
motionarena:The ones from your place start f**king at 35 abi? |
Re: A Nigerian Lady Talks Of Her Cultural Shock In France: by humberjade: 7:58pm On Nov 14, 2023 |
Probz: You seem not to get what I am trying to say, what I am saying is that, when you live abroad living all by yourself can be lonely and dangerous depending on the country of residence. So many people die alone in their apartments and no one finds out until the corpse start smelling. I can't even begin to mention instances when you wish you had someone close. |
Re: A Nigerian Lady Talks Of Her Cultural Shock In France: by Probz(m): 8:34pm On Nov 14, 2023 |
humberjade: No, I understood exactly what you were saying but at the end of the day Iām also saying what Iām saying. Life would also be less dangerous if people minded their own business a little more and werenāt looking for which stranger to mug or knife just for the sake of it (to use a twisted example) or even cat-call. You can still have a robust social network and value meaningful social connections/friendships but also be capable of being alright in your own company and not desperately need social validation and company āround the clock to stop you from rotting in your chair. Some people are allergic to doing anything alone and when itās like that youāve got to question how much someone hates themselves that they canāt even do a quick Tesco/Shoprite/Asda/Walmart run alone or enjoy a quiet night in with some chamomile tea and a bit of Baileyās (and whatever else the drift wants to catch and vibe with) the odd Saturday night. As if being alone with yourself (emphasis on the āyourselfā; aka, you, yourself and you, your own person) for just a little bit is a punishment worse than prison. You donāt have to be particularly introverted to enjoy a bit of quiet in your own space every now and then. It doesnāt negate awesome social networks and support that absolutely should be there for you whenever you need it but it does add a bit of needful self-sufficiency to your life. The outer world would be boring if everyone veered super-far in that direction but I think a lot of people in general just need a bit more of that. The irony of it is that a lot of people are more inclined to view people with a quiet temperament thatās not the blatantly stoic, self-assured/strong-silent (or at least menacingly, fiercely āindependentā antisocial kind) type as overly soft, overly shy (they may or may not be and if thatās genuinely the case and not just a sort of lay misinterpretation of quiet calmness as shyness, since a lot of people use quiet and shy synonymously; they both have an air of modest diffidence and a certain kind of gentleness), timid and stifled by over-protective parents as kids and all that wonderfully complimentary stuff (including that theyāre somehow socially deficient in a way and itās almost like thereās something wrong with them) and any of that may or may not be the case (just absolutely not inherently) but thereās an obvious link between quiet and being more comfortable alone more of the time, and thereās a connection with preferring ample solitude to just doing your thing and getting through many terms of life alone, because when youāre like that you just donāt need the same level of social stimulation to feel comfortable and just do stuff. Itās often the loud ones who are lacking in those independent life skills but theyāre assumed to be confident and competent just because theyāre loud, and thatās what a lot of cultures (ironically especially in the West) preferentially value now. In Nordic societies and places like Japan, people are much more insular and self-contained. Far, far more than French people are known to be. Not saying itās not important to be able to speak up for yourself and surround yourself with people when you need to because it definitely is but youāve still got to stand on your own two feet at least sometimes or at least just go the extra mile in finding like-minded communities and stuff. Youāve got to be okay enjoying your life with or without lots of constant gregariousness but sometimes youāve just got to adapt a little and find what you need rather than just expecting it to come to you. 1 Like |
Re: A Nigerian Lady Talks Of Her Cultural Shock In France: by pinkguy(m): 8:37pm On Nov 14, 2023 |
Depriest2020:but you have Boko Haram and thousands of extremist |
Re: A Nigerian Lady Talks Of Her Cultural Shock In France: by pinkguy(m): 8:49pm On Nov 14, 2023 |
Depriest2020:no graduate ,no wonder they didn't train you well ,u lack knowledge |
Re: A Nigerian Lady Talks Of Her Cultural Shock In France: by Depriest2020: 9:52pm On Nov 14, 2023 |
pinkguy:Even my daughter graduated this year @ age 19, so if you think it's impossible to graduate and be married @ 22 then am sorry, you need more than help. |
Re: A Nigerian Lady Talks Of Her Cultural Shock In France: by Depriest2020: 9:56pm On Nov 14, 2023 |
pinkguy:Non of my tribe is a member. We're just victims, same way you guys are victims of unknown gunmen and co. |
Re: A Nigerian Lady Talks Of Her Cultural Shock In France: by creativehubb: 11:33pm On Nov 14, 2023 |
Enjoy your abroad. |
Re: A Nigerian Lady Talks Of Her Cultural Shock In France: by ahnie: 12:05am On Nov 15, 2023 |
musicwriter:I kinda share in on this... 1 Like |
Re: A Nigerian Lady Talks Of Her Cultural Shock In France: by NNEVERAGAINN: 3:09am On Nov 15, 2023 |
doggedfighter:you dey like am? You don't want him to leave you here in Nigeria š¤ |
Re: A Nigerian Lady Talks Of Her Cultural Shock In France: by kapich: 6:53am On Nov 15, 2023 |
Darevofpeace: |
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