With the current trend of billing among Nigeria ladies, what is the fate of young guys who want to go into relationship and possibly get married in the shortest time.

All I see in most Nigeria girls is love for money, through there are few who will not disturb you, who see relationship as a give and take. Almost a year after my last relationship and I am not finding relationship or marriage interesting anymore.

Guys, anyone in my shoe?

I dey your shoe, personally I stand by the fact that it's not my duty to take care of a girl I'm dating.
I tell them straight up so the can run if they want.
Currently I'm considering leaving Nigeria so I can marry a foreigner who doesn't expect wages for dating me

Sha i dey the same shoe with you na just say my own get as e be,girls dey ooo but na strenght no dey..... What am i even saying self?

If the crux of the matter was limited to the incessant financial requests, then I dare say it's a problem half solved.

The real stinger here is that despite how much you try to keep your own end of the not so self-imposed bargain, most of these ladies still aren't loyal.

So you end up getting the short end of the stick. It's a lose lose situation bro.

This is 2023, 2024 loading, as a guy you need to understand the need to build yourself physically, spiritually, financially and mentally, it might be difficult but leave these ladies alone while you are growing. I haven't had the pleasure yet but I believe there are ladies that don't need your money, love or relationship to them is very different, nah you dey location wey no make sense.

And stop chasing ladies for Godsake, nations are developing but you'll are stuck in between a female legs.

Some guys these girls go for cannot construct simple sentence in English but dem get money which means they are great and intelligent guys already.

It'll be difficult but strive to rise above these pleasures, they left you, most of them will come back only to meet you better and greater than their spec which is money, money and more money.

I'm not a misogynist, I love women but these times are no longer decent. How are you still chasing what's underneath a skirt when you should be thinking of building and making plans for your kids unborn.


You just dey follow ladies, if only your kids unborn could see what some guys become just to get an iota of a lady's attention, dem go deny you straight


Women are a force of nature(my belief) but if woman no like you, she no like you don't put yourself in pains at the end and start saying they're all the same after she made it clear she was not into you.

If a woman likes you, you're golden but nah you go dey use money entice woman. Money that could be used to create your legacy. Abegii

DonBenny77:
I dey your shoe, personally I stand by the fact that it's not my duty to take care of a girl I'm dating.
I tell them straight up so the can run if they want.
Currently I'm considering leaving Nigeria so I can marry a foreigner who doesn't expect wages for dating me

Bros, even foreign ladies sef dey involved in the cupboard love thing. Come to think of it, na men create this problem for themselves. They go around telling ladies they can take care of them because they want easy 'nack' from them. Now it's been institutionalised that taking care of a woman is a man's sole responsibility. Will you blame women for being lazy and twisting the knife and expecting 5 star treatment from every man then broke-shaming him when he can't live up to her expectations? Men are the ones who turned relationships nowadays into covert cupboard love alliances and now that things are getting harder, since that mindset has been institutionalised for over two millennia, we are now expecting ladies to alter their thinking automatically. Na the monster we created in the past dey haunt us in future so

Bros, even foreign ladies sef dey involved in the cupboard love thing. Come to think of it, na men create this problem for themselves. They go around telling ladies they can take care of them because they want easy 'nack' from them. Now it's been institutionalised that taking care of a woman is a man's sole responsibility. Will you blame women for being lazy and twisting the knife and expecting 5 star treatment from every man then broke-shaming him when he can't live up to her expectations? Men are the ones who turned relationships nowadays into covert cupboard love alliances and now that things are getting harder, since that mindset has been institutionalised for over two millennia, we are now expecting ladies to alter their thinking automatically. Na the monster we created in the past dey haunt us in future so.

GBAMsolutely!!!