As you already know.. yes you! I like to share my life's experiences any chance I get or as my heart leads. So you'll have to deal with yet another one. Now this, for me, has become a ritual cos It serves as an emotional cleansing and a way of relieving my chest of years of pent up feelings and resentments (towards men) that have built up over time from these ordeals hence the reason I'm alway sharing so if you know my stories irritate or affect your sanity, please, at this point use the exit button but if you choose to constitute a nuisance by spewing rubbish as usual, then be my guest.

In my early years of working as a front desk personnel and secretary, the chairmen of the companies I worked in have always seen me as a sex object and all they want to do is get inbetween my innocent laps but thank God for wisdom and good home training that made me stand for what I believe in and resist them all. These were men in their 60s and 80s with grand children and all

It started with my first chairman in 2000. Then I was awaiting results. My dad would always advise us to get busy during this period of waiting so we don't just idle away or start joining other young girls to flirt with boys and that year my area was hot cos some OPP guys just returned from Yankee and parked themselves down to Ikoyi, messing girls up and down my street. My dad wasn't going to take chances knowing he has six beautiful girl's to protect from these wolves. So you were either away at school or out working. That was how I found myself working at that tender age instead of resting at home like my mates while awaiting results.

I got a job as a front desk personnel in this company. Before I knew what was happening the chairman started calling me more often into his office. He would tell me to make tea for him. His secretary whose duty it was to make tea was there o. He would leave her and buzz me downstairs with the intercom to come upstairs and make tea for him.
One day after serving him tea, he said I should come and help him check something on his PC. As I was checking the computer he started rubbing my back I quickly moved away and he was like... " You know I like you and I'm going to take care of you" bla bla bla... He started asking me what I use for my face that he'll be giving me money to buy it any time it finishes. I was dazed. Though I never went to him for anything but any time any of his children was having their wedding he'll order for the aso oke for me. He'll pay for my aso ebi. I remember he ordered for an Italian leather bag for me during one of the daughters wedding.
Me I'll just thank him and continue my job innocently.

One day he said I should be transferred to one of our branches at VI where one guy was and that the guy should come to Ikoyi. I got there and the following week this man landed. As I greeted him and turned to go to my seat, he tried to grab me but I was too fast for him. Then I told him, Sir I'm a Christian and he said "am I a devil? 👀👀. I said you're not but I can't do this. He tried to hug me again and I ran and stood in front of the glass door facing outside so people passing can see. He went into his office ( he was no longer using the VI office o he just came to do rubbish). After a few mins he left . That was the beginning of my problem.

This man started frustrating me. He would call the office landline ( then there was no GSM). blasting me that he's been calling the office but I didn't pick that I've gone to meet all my boyfriends in vi. Chai!... The next thing he'll say start coming to Ikoyi right now! I'll cry and cry.. if I get to Ikoyi, they'll say he just left. He continued until one day I was crying in the office and one elderly man who's office was opposite ours came in and saw me. I told him my boss is frustrating me he said I should not worry that they know him. This man told me to leave the job before he uses my star. He then told me to wait that he's coming. He went into his office and brought out huge amount of money and said my daughter take. Go and manage this until you get another job. I thanked him was ready to dump their work.

Something now happened. I got to the office and as i was opening the door, the phone was already ringing non-stop. Fax machine too was ringing. Na rush I use open door like mad girl cos I don know say this kind bad ringing na Chairman. I quickly picked up the receiver and it was him. He asked me if I received a fax from Japan, I checked, no facsimile. I said no. He then said it's because I didn't get to the office in time when the fax was ringing to speak with the Japanese man and to fix paper in the machine that was why I missed the message bla bla bla ( na lie o. Body dey pepper am.) He now told the manager to give me sack letter. I got to Ikoyi branch, took the letter and signed the photocopy.

He called the manager and was asking what was my attitude when I received the letter, that one said ko tie bother. He said "omo geh yen, o ti stubborn ju. They didn't know I was behind a partition hearing them. I just laughed and left after they climbed upstairs.
That was how I escaped that one.

Another one was in 2012. Then I was already through with my secretarial course and had worked in so many companies without issues until the bearish market that affected the Nigerian stock exchange and caused the finance and investment house I was working to fold up in 2008/9.
So in 2012, I got a job in Guinness and was attached to a Chairman of a unit there. Everything was working fine until a new MD came. A middle aged Man with wife and children.. He started disturbing me. This one uses force to ask me out. He just told me one day (after being friendly with me for a while) that he wants to go and give me a treat. I politely turned him down and the next thing this man shouted. Common Lock up and follow me. we got downstairs and I was heading to the gate, he said if you step out without me, you're fired. I'll be beg him that I don't want to go. This man will yell at me and order me to enter his car to take me out by force. If I refuse he'll be threatening me with sack. I'll just follow him for peace to rein. He'll spend and I'll eat and drink. It wasn't easy. I'll pray, cast and bind until one day, after leaving an eatery, he was going to drop me home when the back tyre of his new jeep got stuck in a big gutter. I say God catch you. He was now saying my ogbanje people don spoil his new jeep. He was lucky it happened in my area. So I went into one of my church elders house and begged him to give us jack or so, i can't remember now. He was able to pull it out sha.

The following week the chairman sacked him. He called me into his office and said he knew the MD was disturbing me, true or false.? I was like is that why you sacked him and he said, are you not happy? I just shrugged. The next minute baba too was toasting me. huh ! Men...

He started his own wahala. I was like.. I can't do this Sir. It's against my faith. This man began to tell me how he dated a young lady who came to buy beer and transformed her life. He said she got pregnant for him and he sent her abroad to deliver the baby bla bla... He said he's going to take care of me. Meanwhile, the other staff there told me he once dated his former secretary and impregnated her. She had two children for him and developed breath cancer, this man abandoned this lady in her mother's house and took his two sons from her. Till she died he never went near her again. They said he abandoned the first wife he married in his youth that had all his grownup sons that are now working in his private companies. The chairman even told me about his first love he met in Yankee when he was still a young boy had a son out of wedlock with her but after his education he left the boy and his mother and came back home to marry another woman. That his son was already an old man when he was telling me this but the guy looked so fresh because he's based there. He showed me his pics with his grand children. Me was wondering why he was telling me all these.

One Saturday, he called me and said I should send my house address that his driver was coming to pick me. He doesn't work on Saturdays o. So I sent the driver adress of a filling station near my bustop. He came and picked me. I got there and he asked me to sit down. He started talking rubbish again. This time he brought out bundle of cash and gave it to me. I rejected it. This man para. That why would I reject his gift? that for a man his age thats an insult. I should apologize. Na so I kneel down begin apologize. He now said I should stand up and take the money. I did. He stood up and left.

Another Saturday he came and wanted to smooch me. I screamed he now ran into his office. He came back and was asking me how old I was, I said I was 31 and he said he thought I was 25 . That I'm behaving like a baby. He now sat me down and played king Solomons message on his iPad saying it's not wrong for a Christian to marry many wives. He brought out his check book and dropped on the table asking me to name any amount and he would sign it and give me now now.. I was shaking ic I couldn't talk.

Later he told me the lady he told me about was coming. Under 3 mins a CRV drove into the compound and the lady entered with the two kids he had for the man. Immediately they entered I looked at the 4yr old boy, he was a carbon copy of this man. then the little boy shouted, youre beautiful! I like you.. I just looked at the chairman and he smiled wickedly. In my mind I said like father like son. E dey una blood. I bought then drinks and told baba that I was going he said no, come and sit with us ha! I sat down and the lady was looking at me with disdain. After a while when he saw I was no longer comfortable, he said I can go.

After that day, he started avoiding me. I was happy o. Then one day he said I will be working with the wife henceforth. That the wife needs a PA. I sensed he wanted to sack me and I remember asking him that hope he's not going to use this against me, he said no. I joined the wife. That one Margaret thatcher. Nothing I do was good enough. She would yell and talk thinking I'll shudder like the other girls, I'll just do my job and remain calm.

One day, he came and told me to follow him to the office. We got there and he said the wife said she doesn't need my services any longer. He now asked me to write a resignation letter. I said no, that since you're the one asking me to go, you should do a letter to that effect. He now said that will not be a good report in my record. So he called the accountant to prepare all my benefits and pay me off. I left with a heavy heart and told God this will be the last I'll ever work as a secretary in my life or work directly with a man and God heard and answered that prayer.

Young ladies are going through a lot. If you find yourself in this situation please don't give in. For what shall it profit a man to gain the whole world and lose his own soul.

It is well

I usually enjoy your stories


So you really 42 now

It is well.

Hmm it's alright

duduade:
It is well

I usually enjoy your stories


So you really 42 now

2. Im glad you do.

3. Yeah, I am. 😎

Trust some frustrated sadistic morons to come ruin this thread with their usual tantrums .

Pele

I encountered same weeks ago ...the truth is SOME men are shameless .

Jewessgratitud3:


2. Im glad you do.

3. Yeah, I am. 😎

Well, there are good men and there are bad men.

ahnie:
I encountered same weeks ago ...the truth is SOME men are shameless .

Na star den go use den dey find.

If den no see star use again they will lose their positions and go broke

oweniwe:


Well, there are good men and there are bad men.

So far she's gainfully employed (market women selling tomatoes and hawkers get advances from) a woman will always have men asking her out.

So out of all the Chiefs and MDs and married men asking you out, there ought to be single guys among them also asking. Access one whose character is okay and work marriage with him if he's ready.

So the way the narrative is portrayed to make it look like it's only old married men that are asking you out is somehow. What about the single guys?

People are getting married every Saturday o. So no be say single guys don finish.

Just trying to be objective Sha. No offense meant, please

Did you read the caption? It clearly states encounter with chairmen I worked with. I'm not talking about my relationship life in general. I already talked about that in another post.


Now, I know women get advances from men including the tomato sellers but this is my own personal experience which I believe is quite different in the way and manner it occurred and where it occurred from their own experiences. We may have same experience but it can never be exactly similar. If they share theirs, you'll discover it may even be worst than mine.

Jewessgratitud3:
. If they share theirs, you'll discover it may even be worst than mine.

True sha.

I'll edit my post.

Kind regards

Not far from the truth

oweniwe:


Na star den go use den dey find.

If den no see star use again they will lose their positions and go broke

Jewessgratitud3:


I told him my boss is frustrating me he said I should not worry that they know him. This man told me to leave the job before he uses my star. He then told me to wait that he's coming. He went into his office and brought out huge amount of money and said my daughter take. Go and manage this until you get another job. I thanked him was ready to dump their work.

Something happened. He asked me if I received a fax from Japan, I said no. He then said it's because I didn't get to the office in time when the fax was ringing to speak with the Japanese man and to fix paper in the machine that was why I missed the message and he said the manager should give me a sack letter. I got to Ikoyi branch, took the letter and signed the photocopy.

He called the manager and was asking what was my attitude when I received the letter, that one said ko tie bother. He said "omo geh yen, o ti stubborn ju. They didn't know I was behind a partition hearing them. I just laughed and left after they climbed upstairs.
That was how I escaped.

Meanwhile, the other staff there told me he once dated his former secretary and impregnated her. She had two children for him and developed breath cancer, this man abandoned this lady in her mother's house and took his two sons from her.

Under 3 mins a CRV drove into the compound and the lady entered with the two kids he had for the man.

If the man is really wicked, he'll have used the children's stars already too.

That's why some of those chairmen have so many children.. 14-15 .. from different women.

People will see it as promiscuity. Na when the children grow up den go hear am

Sorry ehn...

Our nairaland Chimamanda Adichie, I always enjoy your stories. Although it sometimes gives me mix feelings...

thank God for your self discipline
keep it up dear

Boys will be boys!

All your threads are just about painting men baldly.

Remijuice:
Our nairaland Chimamanda Adichie, I always enjoy your stories. Although it sometimes gives me mix feelings...

Wow.. am I that good?@ Chimamanda? It's an honor to be compared with such a prolific and renowned writer. Thanks!

Please what's the mixed feelings about? Do you mind sharing?

kingfisher2:
thank God for your self discipline
keep it up dear

Thank God o my brother. If not for the
" see no evil, do no evil" kinda upbringing I had, with this kind of heavy temptations I was faced with, I would have long strayed away and God knows where I would be by now. Serious temptation that after refusing each one, I suffer greatly for it to the point I'll be asking God abi I for take am but in no time and from where I least expect, God will just show up for me.

God is with me

ogashman:
All your threads are just about painting men baldly.

Eh.. but from the story what would you paint them? Goodly? Then go ahead and satisfy your conscience if what they did was good.

You must be very hot!! let me see your pic. I am a man we like what we like, but getting down with my employees is no no, one of employee was so tempting, I was planning to sack her before she resigned(though she was not doing her job well, but damn sexy and beautiful)

Avoid men

Jewessgratitud3:


Eh.. but from the story what would you paint them? Goodly? Then go ahead and satisfy your conscience if what they did was good.

I'm not saying that what they did was good, rather u should know that all men are not like them.

I understand that this was part of what made u develop this natural alert trigger when u have to deal with men.

Men and women are like that. There are guys out there that are being hounded by their female bosses cos they refused to sleep with them. Is that suppose to make them to decide not to get married?:or treat women with disdain?

ogashman:


I'm not saying that what they did was good, rather u should know that all men are not like them.

I understand that this was part of what made u develop this natural alert trigger when u have to deal with men.

Men and women are like that. There are guys out there that are being hounded by their female bosses cos they refused to sleep with them. Is that suppose to make them to decide not to get married?:or treat women with disdain?

Who told you I treat men with disdain? Stop judging me wrongly Biko.

johnog4sure:
You must be very hot!! let me see your pic. I am a man we like what we like, but getting down with my employees is no no, one of employee was so tempting, I was planning to sack her before she resigned(though she was not doing her job well, but damn sexy and beautiful)

Hmm... Sack her for being beautiful? So It's now a crime to be beautiful? I see... Its not fair o. Just know...

I'm not hot abeg. I resemble Christ my father.

Jewessgratitud3:
■ Another Saturday he came and wanted to smooch me. I screamed he now ran into his office. He came back and was asking me how old I was, I said I was 31 and he said he thought I was 25 . That I'm behaving like a baby. He now sat me down and played king Solomons message on his iPad saying it's not wrong for a Christian to marry many wives. He brought out his check book and dropped on the table asking me to name any amount and he would sign it and give me now now.. I was shaking ic I couldn't talk.
Later he told me the lady he told me about was coming. Under 3 mins a CRV drove into the compound and the lady entered with the two kids he had for the man. Immediately they entered I looked at the 4yr old boy, he was a carbon copy of this man. then the little boy shouted, youre beautiful! I like you.. I just looked at the chairman and he smiled wickedly. In my mind I said like father like son. E dey una blood. I bought then drinks and told baba that I was going he said no, come and sit with us ha! I sat down and the lady was looking at me with disdain. After a while when he saw I was no longer comfortable, he said I can go.
After that day, he started avoiding me. I was happy o. Then one day he said I will be working with the wife henceforth. That the wife needs a PA. I sensed he wanted to sack me and I remember asking him that hope he's not going to use this against me, he said no. I joined the wife. That one Margaret thatcher. Nothing I do was good enough. She would yell and talk thinking I'll shudder like the other girls, I'll just do my job and remain calm.
One day, he came and told me to follow him to the office. We got there and he said the wife said she doesn't need my services any longer. He now asked me to write a resignation letter. I said no, that since you're the one asking me to go, you should do a letter to that effect. He now said that will not be a good report in my record. So he called the accountant to prepare all my benefits and pay me off. I left with a heavy heart and told God this will be the last I'll ever work as a secretary in my life or work directly with a man and God heard and answered that prayer.
Young ladies are going through a lot. If you find yourself in this situation please don't give in. For what shall it profit a man to gain the whole world and lose his own soul.

What you experienced is quite unfair and this same man will be worshipped and respected by many Nigerian people including women out there as if he were a saint. Women should probably look for ways to shame men like him abeG!

Most men have zero self-control over their sexual urge but wetin dey help most of us na Principle

Its the only reason why one would never look at a lady in office space and in my street carnally, If not, i for just dey run follow women up and down


I can say this authoritatively that virtue,ethics, morallity or religious teachings wont stop a man from womanizing....Only Self-upholded principles can


I wont cheat on my woman, not cause I'm holy but because I see myself as too honorable, as an adult, to be playing hide and seek game with another woman,If I so much fancy u, I would marry u but if i do not want a polygamous home, then i withdraw from playing hide and seek and chasing other women altogether

Again, Principles and Discipline over whatever societally conformational teachings

kingfisher2:
thank God for your self discipline. keep it up dear

Self-discipline got her fired without a penny to her name in a country full of dogs.

I'm glad you made the choice not to succumb to their pressure to let them have their way with you. Smart girls know the intentions of this calibre of men are cancerous. Cancerous means something of value will die in the girl's life should she go on with the affair. I'm hopeful that many girls reading this experiencing similar challenges will derive inspiration to stay committed to avoiding this kind of men.

EmperorCaesar:
Most men have zero self-control over their sexual urge but wetin dey help most of us na Principle

Its the only reason why one would never look at a lady in office space and in my street carnally, If not, i for just dey run follow women up and down


I can say this authoritatively that virtue,ethics, morallity or religious teachings wont stop a man from womanizing....Only Self-upholded principles can


I wont cheat on my woman, not cause I'm holy but because I see myself as too honorable, as an adult, to be playing hide and seek game with another woman,If I so much fancy u, I would marry u but if i do not want a polygamous home, then i withdraw from playing hide and seek and chasing other women altogether

Again, Principles over whatever societally conformational teachings

Yeah, you're right. When you're principled and discipline, its always difficult to fall for such things. One has to make a conscious effort to stand for what he or she believes in.

Kobojunkie:
What you experienced is quite unfair and this same man will be worshipped and respected by many Nigerian people including women out there as if he were a saint. Women should probably look for ways to shame men like him abeG!

Thats why I'm putting my story out to help those who find themselves in such mess to voice out, to call out these men and put them where they belong.