Without mincing words,My social life is a gargantuan mess.And this solely boils down to the fact that my conversational skills is extremely horrible.
I have struggled with this since my secondary school days when I hardly interacted with people.Then I was less bothered about it till i got to university where I struggled to make friends.It was even worse with the females.
What baffled me is how I couldn't afford to have a decent conversation with girls whom I see talking verbosely with other guys.but with me,it is just short answers with impregnable silence.I had a neighbor like that back then in school.I struggled to get her to talk when we are having a conversation but she was super talkative with my other male housemates.I quarreled with her alot as a result even though it was petty.I was just frustrated with myself tbh.
I just started working post-uni and I am already experiencing same problem with a fellow co-worker.I initially thought she was standoffish because i couldn't seem to have a decent convo with her until I saw her chatting expressively with my male colleagues.
Plus I have also succeeded in getting her to dislike me(Hooray!!) cos I have been acting cold towards her since my attempt at conversing with her failed woefully.
I knew the pattern was repeating itself again and it is becoming depressing seriously
I see guys who hold conversations well especially with the females and I secretly envy them.
Pls,I desperately need help before I self-destroy.
Guys in the house who are good with interacting with the females,Wetin be the secret abeg?
What am I suppose to talk about to keep them engaged in a conversation?

Watch alot of movies

And comedy skits

Before you know it, a stand up comedian and an MC is born

Lol.....Reticence is innate.

Anyway, practice more by summoning courage to talk to people especially to girls in your own case

You just need more time to practice
Trial and error is key
You strike me as a person with high inhibition when it comes to social settings
Also work on your humor. Girls love being a funny guy

It takes time to gain the trust of a female friend, keep the friendship open but be a bit discret,don't always talk about yourself and other people.

Always discuss issues and life, with time they will be close to you and start discussing with you freely

Try to listen more than talking, women don't like talkative

Isobug:
Lol.....Reticence is innate.

Anyway, practice more by summoning courage to talk to people especially to girls in your own case

Bro,I used to lack confidence when I was younger.But I have succeeded in building it as i grew older.My main problem is running out of what to say or even not knowing what to say to spark the other person's interest in a convo every single time till the convo just dies out abruptly.

SweetBuns:
You just need more time to practice
Trial and error is key
You strike me as a person with high inhibition when it comes to social settings
Also work on your humor. Girls love being a funny guy

Luckily for me,Humor is not something i have struggled with.Because of it,I noticed I thrive better in a group conversation.But If it is just a one on one conversation,I just struggle for what to say till the convo fizzles out every single time.

coputa:
It takes time to gain the trust of a female friend, keep the friendship open but be a bit discret,don't always talk about yourself and other people.

Always discuss issues and life, with time they will be close to you and start discussing with you freely

Try to listen more than talking, women don't like talkative

Listening is not an issue for me cos I am an introverted person who talks less.But one can only listen if the other person in the convo is talking.
What issues for discussion are you referring to,boss?

Thales01:
Without mincing words,My social life is a gargantuan mess.And this solely boils down to the fact that my conversational skills is extremely horrible.
I have struggled with this since my secondary school days when I hardly interacted with people.Then I was less bothered about it till i got to university where I struggled to make friends.It was even worse with the females.
What baffled me is how I couldn't afford to have a decent conversation with girls whom I see talking verbosely with other guys.but with me,it is just short answers with impregnable silence.I had a neighbor like that back then in school.I struggled to get her to talk when we are having a conversation but she was super talkative with my other male housemates.I quarreled with her alot as a result even though it was petty.I was just frustrated with myself tbh.
I just started working post-uni and I am already experiencing same problem with a fellow co-worker.I initially thought she was standoffish because i couldn't seem to have a decent convo with her until I saw her chatting expressively with my male colleagues.
Plus I have also succeeded in getting her to dislike me(Hooray!!) cos I have been acting cold towards her since my attempt at conversing with her failed woefully.
I knew the pattern was repeating itself again and it is becoming depressing seriously
I see guys who hold conversations well especially with the females and I secretly envy them.
Pls,I desperately need help before I self-destroy.
Guys in the house who are good with interacting with the females,Wetin be the secret abeg?
What am I suppose to talk about to keep them engaged in a conversation?

there is only one secret...
know&then conquer yourself....you can't conquer the world if you don't conquer yourself first, meaning understand who you are and what you stand for then confidently go out there and have fun with other people.
keep your energy positive always..

The bible will also help a lot...it gives you the best mentality on how to relate with pple...you don't need to be a talkative..you can be a man of few words but keep them positive..

people will admire you more for that

come make we rebbot ur brain wit correct hot slap

#Military

coputa:
It takes time to gain the trust of a female friend, keep the friendship open but be a bit discret,don't always talk about yourself and other people.

Always discuss issues and life, with time they will be close to you and start discussing with you freely

Try to listen more than talking, women don't like talkative

Happy Christmas in advance sir can you help with token to buy food for Christmas

Thales01:
Without mincing words,My social life is a gargantuan mess.And this solely boils down to the fact that my conversational skills is extremely horrible.
I have struggled with this since my secondary school days when I hardly interacted with people.Then I was less bothered about it till i got to university where I struggled to make friends.It was even worse with the females.
What baffled me is how I couldn't afford to have a decent conversation with girls whom I see talking verbosely with other guys.but with me,it is just short answers with impregnable silence.I had a neighbor like that back then in school.I struggled to get her to talk when we are having a conversation but she was super talkative with my other male housemates.I quarreled with her alot as a result even though it was petty.I was just frustrated with myself tbh.
I just started working post-uni and I am already experiencing same problem with a fellow co-worker.I initially thought she was standoffish because i couldn't seem to have a decent convo with her until I saw her chatting expressively with my male colleagues.
Plus I have also succeeded in getting her to dislike me(Hooray!!) cos I have been acting cold towards her since my attempt at conversing with her failed woefully.
I knew the pattern was repeating itself again and it is becoming depressing seriously
I see guys who hold conversations well especially with the females and I secretly envy them.
Pls,I desperately need help before I self-destroy.
Guys in the house who are good with interacting with the females,Wetin be the secret abeg?
What am I suppose to talk about to keep them engaged in a conversation?

Your problem is simple

Start by talking to girls you are not attracted to...the 1s and 2s.

You will feel no pressure then...

Next step is to stop taking things too serious

Talking to a girl is like doing a cold call in marketing...hit rate of a good marketer is 2%, so lower your expectations of how many girls you expect to respond to you.

If you talk to 2000 girls, your hit rate (people that like you and fit your style) would be 20
girls and out of that 20, you only want 1 as a wife.

There are girls that will like you, even if your conversation skill sucks.

because you are trying too hard.just yarn as a man.no go read any book o.just flow.see ladies as nothing to impress or stress yourself on and you will see the way you go dey flow.dont over think

You are bothered just because of this?


Women are unimportant

Op the first thing you should start doing is greet people when you walk past them, especially people older than you in your neighborhood, just a good afternoon, good evening with a smile continuously will get you started

Do this as much as possible befire you graduate to saying hi and hello to strangers and move on, do this often as well until you are very comfortable doing it without thinking about it

From this, start saying hi or hello to both boys and girls and compliment something about them, like “hello bro, your shirt is really nice, I like it”

Or

Hello, you smell good or your hair is nice and wink at her, or maintain Continuous eye contact with her, then move on don’t force the conversation or anything at all


Do this to random girls wether she’s fine or not just do this to boost your confidence.

Starting a conversation with strangers are one of the things I enjoy doing, I go with the mind that she’s either interested in talking or she’s not, her first response gives me clues if I will continue with her or not, I don’t fear rejection no matter the situation, it takes years for me to build myself like that


Last weekend I went to a pool in a garden nearby, the moment I stepped into the garden I quickly scanned the faces of people in the pool already, I was met with two pairs of beautiful eye balls from a dark skinned Yoruba beauty, but I maintained a straight Non chalant look until I got into the water too, then I noticed this particular yellow tall girl who was bold enough to start a conversation with me later in.
I didn’t know her from anywhere but we spent time in the water while still making eye contact with the black beauty at interval, I exchanged numbers with with the tall One before I left that place, and we have been talking casually since then. Aside just starting conversation with girls you have to learn or know how to use innuendos to suggest certain sexuality, I am not asking you to start demanding for sex it suggesting it, but there are choices of words you will use that she will decide what’s up, all girls know this, it keeps them in the conversation most times, and interested in you, be mysterious and full of surprises at what you do or say to her

Why did I bring this up, your outward appearance and composure will likely influence if a girl will be interested in talking to you, if you appear timid nd uncertain or jittery she may likely brush you off

But if you come off as one bold and adventurous bastaarddd she may likely be interested in what ever you have to say

It will take time tho, but most important thing is your work on yourself and be financially stable first, be able to afford the things you need and want, smell good, look nice, be composed and reserved, if possible work out, all of these is for your own good not to entice any girl oo, look good for yourself girls will naturally be attracted to you, you are left with sieving them out and choosing the best amongst them

Thales01:

Pls,I desperately need help before I self-destroy.
Guys in the house who are good with interacting with the females,Wetin be the secret abeg?
What am I suppose to talk about to keep them engaged in a conversation?

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Thales01:
Without mincing words,My social life is a gargantuan mess.And this solely boils down to the fact that my conversational skills is extremely horrible.
I have struggled with this since my secondary school days when I hardly interacted with people.Then I was less bothered about it till i got to university where I struggled to make friends.It was even worse with the females.
What baffled me is how I couldn't afford to have a decent conversation with girls whom I see talking verbosely with other guys.but with me,it is just short answers with impregnable silence.I had a neighbor like that back then in school.I struggled to get her to talk when we are having a conversation but she was super talkative with my other male housemates.I quarreled with her alot as a result even though it was petty.I was just frustrated with myself tbh.
I just started working post-uni and I am already experiencing same problem with a fellow co-worker.I initially thought she was standoffish because i couldn't seem to have a decent convo with her until I saw her chatting expressively with my male colleagues.
Plus I have also succeeded in getting her to dislike me(Hooray!!) cos I have been acting cold towards her since my attempt at conversing with her failed woefully.
I knew the pattern was repeating itself again and it is becoming depressing seriously
I see guys who hold conversations well especially with the females and I secretly envy them.
Pls,I desperately need help before I self-destroy.
Guys in the house who are good with interacting with the females,Wetin be the secret abeg?
What am I suppose to talk about to keep them engaged in a conversation?

You have SOCIAL ANXIETY DISORDER.
See a doctor then may be a psychologist.

Meanwhile,you can start by imitation.Start by imitating other people approach and same jokes you heared somewhere else.The girl will still laugh if she has never heares it before.

However before anything else,make sure you always know people by their names,always greet after calling their name,like LINDA,Good morning not just good morning,then ,complement!their dress,voice,beauty,handwriting when you see talk,the sweetest things in people ears are "their names" especially the one that they like to be called then sincere complements.You can now graduate to giving them fine nicknames then to using the same funny lines you have heared from somewhere else before to make sure you know her interest and talk in that line Married woman(marital issues),GenZ(Twitter trends),Intelligent one(politics,business and sport),Sex starved(sex and vulgar talks),church girls(church stuff and sex,YES sex!).You can know what the interest is from bringing up several topics.

Take arsenic



It'll make you more confident

Thales01:
W
What am I suppose to talk about to keep them engaged in a conversation?

O.P
Don't worry about it. Generally I find talking really stressful. I could be in the same house with anyone and not speak with them for a month except greetings, and answering questions.

I also don't like when someone talks too much around me. I sleep off when people talk to me too much.

I don't like voice messages, I hate any call longer than 30secs unless business related. Chatting is exhausting.

Some people are really like you. So don't bother about it