Good morning and merry Christmas

I have this distant cousin ( Mid 20’s) and we are quite close. From my perspective She kinda suffers from a mental disorder or illness rather but y’all know African parents and their mentality na. Her parents believed it’s a spiritual thing . This cousin of mine often run away from home.

The last time she ran away from home, she copied a pastor's Number from a TV advert when watching TV at home and ran to his house when her parents tracked her down to his house through his ( the pastor’s) help too. After meeting her parents He said she should stay at his place for a while so he can tackle her case specially . Her parents often send money to the pastor during those times. After a while She suddenly packed her bag and ran back to her parents house Without any explanation and the pastor kept calling her mother frequently to bring her over that he wasn’t done with the deliverance or whatever. ( the pastor is a married man btw and stays with his wife but I don’t know if they have kids )
Fast forward to last month the parents of my cousin found out she was pregnant. After multiple interrogations She finally confessed that the pastor Raped her ( while she was at his place ) and threatened to kill her if she tells anybody
She never told anyone even after she came back to her parents house until they found out she’s pregnant. The pastor isn’t aware he is still calling for them to send her back but her mother isn’t picking his calls

I’m lost because I was so close to her. she even babysat me as a toddler and even taught me Before I was old enough to go to school and we have been close since like forever … now I even stopped speaking to her because I feel so bad she opened the door for all this mess by running from home and not telling anyone at the right time .. I’m just trying to manage my emotions because I’m short tempered and can act irrationally when Angered

What can I do in this case ? What legal steps can be taken ?

Forget pastor or no pastor, it is difficult to entrust a girl with some men. The irresistible force called sex is way stronger than anyone can imagine.
I hope the pastor take responsibility and I hope you guys find justice and solace .

Below is my take.
Get the pastor to accept responsibility.
Depending on her age, you might have to get the police involved.

If the matter happened here in Lagos, don't stress yourself too much, go to Alausa.

Her parents should be remanded in prison along with the pastor. But, of course, I expect most people here to always exonerate the parent.

go to Alausa if you're in Lagos

Her parents should be shot.

Autobot05:
■ I’m lost because I was so close to her. she even babysat me as a toddler and even taught me Before I was old enough to go to school and we have been close since like forever … now I even stopped speaking to her because I feel so bad she opened the door for all this mess by running from home and not telling anyone at the right time .. I’m just trying to manage my emotions because I’m short tempered and can act irrationally when Angered
What can I do in this case ? What legal steps can be taken ?

Running away from home gives no one the right to violate you. By the way, how old is this cousin of yours?

Your cousin is not to blame for her mental issues or her rape so stop dealing with this irrationally. Since she claims she was raped and is pregnant as a result, she at least the baby as evidence that something did take place between her person and the Pastor, beyond the deliverance claims. Also, that she strangely ran back to her parents does hint at something close to traumatic haven taking place. She should report the case and at least get the right authorities involved.

1Sharon:
Her parents should be shot.

A lot of Nigerian parents.....

Is she into drugs?

She's been running away from home and her parents didn't deem it fit to do something about it? Now they willingly allowed her stay with the pastor to do deliverance for her.
Well, her parents should be arrested first of all along with the useless pastor. The problem now is are you the one who's going to call for the arrest because the case will be a tough one. What now happens to the pregnancy?

Pasito Nakamura

madridguy:
If the matter happened here in Lagos, don't stress yourself too much, go to Alausa.

Yes Lagos

Capernum:
Is she into drugs?

No
Never

Stvpid passitor

Go to Alausa as suggested by other posters since it happened in Lagos

Autobot05:
Good morning and merry Christmas

I have this distant cousin ( Mid 20’s) and we are quite close. From my perspective She kinda suffers from a mental disorder or illness rather but y’all know African parents and their mentality na. Her parents believed it’s a spiritual thing . This cousin of mine often run away from home.

The last time she ran away from home, she copied a pastor's Number from a TV advert when watching TV at home and ran to his house when her parents tracked her down to his house through his ( the pastor’s) help too. After meeting her parents He said she should stay at his place for a while so he can tackle her case specially . Her parents often send money to the pastor during those times. After a while She suddenly packed her bag and ran back to her parents house Without any explanation and the pastor kept calling her mother frequently to bring her over that he wasn’t done with the deliverance or whatever. ( the pastor is a married man btw and stays with his wife but I don’t know if they have kids )
Fast forward to last month the parents of my cousin found out she was pregnant. After multiple interrogations She finally confessed that the pastor Raped her ( while she was at his place ) and threatened to kill her if she tells anybody
She never told anyone even after she came back to her parents house until they found out she’s pregnant. The pastor isn’t aware he is still calling for them to send her back but her mother isn’t picking his calls

I’m lost because I was so close to her. she even babysat me as a toddler and even taught me Before I was old enough to go to school and we have been close since like forever … now I even stopped speaking to her because I feel so bad she opened the door for all this mess by running from home and not telling anyone at the right time .. I’m just trying to manage my emotions because I’m short tempered and can act irrationally when Angered

What can I do in this case ? What legal steps can be taken ?

if you suspect the father just go for the DNA test

How old is your cousin. The matter should be reported to the police so that the pastor should be invited and investigated about the alleged rape and if the police are not forthcoming in arresting the pastor, you can seek the help of human rights organization

Autobot05:


Yes Lagos

Contact Lagos State's Domestic and Sexual Violence Agency (DSVA), then have her seen by a Clinical Psychologist for psychological assessment as it would also help to determine if she needs to see a Psychiatrist.

Autobot05:
Good morning and merry Christmas

I have this distant cousin ( Mid 20’s) and we are quite close. From my perspective She kinda suffers from a mental disorder or illness rather but y’all know African parents and their mentality na. Her parents believed it’s a spiritual thing . This cousin of mine often run away from home.

The last time she ran away from home, she copied a pastor's Number from a TV advert when watching TV at home and ran to his house when her parents tracked her down to his house through his ( the pastor’s) help too. After meeting her parents He said she should stay at his place for a while so he can tackle her case specially . Her parents often send money to the pastor during those times. After a while She suddenly packed her bag and ran back to her parents house Without any explanation and the pastor kept calling her mother frequently to bring her over that he wasn’t done with the deliverance or whatever. ( the pastor is a married man btw and stays with his wife but I don’t know if they have kids )
Fast forward to last month the parents of my cousin found out she was pregnant. After multiple interrogations She finally confessed that the pastor Raped her ( while she was at his place ) and threatened to kill her if she tells anybody
She never told anyone even after she came back to her parents house until they found out she’s pregnant. The pastor isn’t aware he is still calling for them to send her back but her mother isn’t picking his calls

I’m lost because I was so close to her. she even babysat me as a toddler and even taught me Before I was old enough to go to school and we have been close since like forever … now I even stopped speaking to her because I feel so bad she opened the door for all this mess by running from home and not telling anyone at the right time .. I’m just trying to manage my emotions because I’m short tempered and can act irrationally when Angered

What can I do in this case ? What legal steps can be taken ?

You said ur cousin is having mental issues and now got impregnated by pastor.

I will advise you and her parents to call pastor and let him responsible for the pregnancy, .....all these rape or whatever issues should be dropped immediately, provided pastor doesn't deny pregnancy.


NB. Did u think it's only once pastor slept with her? The two of them consented to have sex multiple times. And this is opportunity for her to have her own child, you dnt even know if her mental cum spiritual issues would still get out of hand, in which it will be extremely difficult for her to get husband let alone children.

Autobot05:
Good morning and merry Christmas

I have this distant cousin ( Mid 20’s) and we are quite close. From my perspective She kinda suffers from a mental disorder or illness rather but y’all know African parents and their mentality na. Her parents believed it’s a spiritual thing . This cousin of mine often run away from home.

The last time she ran away from home, she copied a pastor's Number from a TV advert when watching TV at home and ran to his house when her parents tracked her down to his house through his ( the pastor’s) help too. After meeting her parents He said she should stay at his place for a while so he can tackle her case specially . Her parents often send money to the pastor during those times. After a while She suddenly packed her bag and ran back to her parents house Without any explanation and the pastor kept calling her mother frequently to bring her over that he wasn’t done with the deliverance or whatever. ( the pastor is a married man btw and stays with his wife but I don’t know if they have kids )
Fast forward to last month the parents of my cousin found out she was pregnant. After multiple interrogations She finally confessed that the pastor Raped her ( while she was at his place ) and threatened to kill her if she tells anybody
She never told anyone even after she came back to her parents house until they found out she’s pregnant. The pastor isn’t aware he is still calling for them to send her back but her mother isn’t picking his calls

I’m lost because I was so close to her. she even babysat me as a toddler and even taught me Before I was old enough to go to school and we have been close since like forever … now I even stopped speaking to her because I feel so bad she opened the door for all this mess by running from home and not telling anyone at the right time .. I’m just trying to manage my emotions because I’m short tempered and can act irrationally when Angered

What can I do in this case ? What legal steps can be taken ?

All these people telling you to go to war with the pastor, I guess they will gather money to foot the bill to take care of the girl and his kid when the pastor is servicing jail term!

You see, it not every fight you declare war on, some you overlook, some reconciliation and if the 2 fail you can now go to war.

In this case, I will advise you to call pastor first and make him responsible for the girl and her child, if he agrees to do that, it will benefit the girl and family farrrrrrr more than wen pastor sent to jail. But if the pastor denying,u can go extreme with the pastor.

DID IT ALSO OCCUR TO YOU LIKE THIS, IF NOT PASTOR THAT IMPREGNATED HER, ANY OF RANDOM GUY CAN DO THAT, IN WHICH HE WON'T BE ABLE TO IDENTIFY THE PERSON (u said ur cousin normally run away from home and that she mentally/spiritually not balance)

Hope u know the implications of the 2nd scenario!

Fiscus105:



You said ur cousin is having mental issues and now got impregnated by pastor.

I will advise you and her parents to call pastor and let him responsible for the pregnancy, .....all these rape or whatever issues should be dropped immediately, provided pastor doesn't deny pregnancy.


NB. Did u think it's only once pastor slept with her? The two of them consented to have sex multiple times. And this is opportunity for her to have her own child, you dnt even know if her mental cum spiritual issues would still get out of hand, in which it will be extremely difficult for her to get husband let alone children.

Rape or whatever issues should be dropped immediately......You are a RAPE APOLOGIST.

The so called Pastor acknowledged the lady being mentally disordered, took advantage of her vulnerability and you even came up with the angle of consent.....that is a sexual offense because he is aware she is mentally ill which leaves her open to manipulation, intimidation, or deceit and he used his "position" to exploit her, sexually.

Many Psychiatrists have had their medical licenses withdrawn and are cooling off in different prisons for having sex with patients under their care! Mr. Pastor should be picked up by the Lagos State Police command, to have one less predator in the field.

Fiscus105:


All these people telling you to go to war with the pastor, I guess they will gather money to foot the bill to take care of the girl and his kid when the pastor is servicing jail term!

You see, it not every fight you declare war on, some you overlook, some reconciliation and if the 2 fail you can now go to war.

In this case, I will advise you to call pastor first and make him responsible for the girl and her child, if he agrees to do that, it will benefit the girl and family farrrrrrr more than wen pastor sent to jail. But if the pastor denying,u can go extreme with the pastor.

DID IT ALSO OCCUR TO YOU LIKE THIS, IF NOT PASTOR THAT IMPREGNATED HER, ANY OF RANDOM GUY CAN DO THAT, IN WHICH HE WON'T BE ABLE TO IDENTIFY THE PERSON (u said ur cousin normally run away from home and that she mentally/spiritually not balance)

Hope u know the implications of the 2nd scenario!

.

DNA test will reveal … if he denies

Mindlog:


Rape or whatever issues should be dropped immediately......You are a RAPE APOLOGIST.

The so called Pastor acknowledged the lady being mentally disordered, took advantage of her vulnerability and you even came up with the angle of consent.....that is a sexual offense because he is aware she is mentally ill which leaves her open to manipulation, intimidation, or deceit and he used his "position" to exploit her, sexually.

Many Psychiatrists have had their medical licenses withdrawn and are cooling off in different prisons for having sex with patients under their care! Mr. Pastor should be picked up by the Lagos State Police command, to have one less predator in the field.

No problem

Her parents packed her into a man’s house and paid him money on top of it. All in the name of pastor?


You people need to stop disgracing Christianity like this.

Brandiebird:
Her parents packed her into a man’s house and paid him money on top of it. All in the name of pastor?


You people need to stop disgracing Christianity like this.

Did you read all I wrote ?

Autobot05:


Did you read all I wrote ?

I believe what you wrote is well understood by all.

Both parties are wrong in putting your cousin in harms way. Her parents are wrong by allowing her run to a pastor’s place, not a church. The pastor is wrong for accommodating her in his house, because logically that’s not the right place to cure a mental health. If the true intentions of the pastor was to cure her of her disorder, then other ministers of God in the church should be in the know of this case, that may have likely prevented intercourse, because he would love to protect his reputation.

Lastly, how do you prove it’s a rape case? The court can only go back and forth, with so much money an time wasted; with a good lawyer he will be exonerated.
The best choice is settle this amicably between the pastor and girl’s parents, if the pastor is willing to take responsibility of the pregnancy.

Autobot05:
Good morning and merry Christmas

I have this distant cousin ( Mid 20’s) and we are quite close. From my perspective She kinda suffers from a mental disorder or illness rather but y’all know African parents and their mentality na. Her parents believed it’s a spiritual thing . This cousin of mine often run away from home.

The last time she ran away from home, she copied a pastor's Number from a TV advert when watching TV at home and ran to his house when her parents tracked her down to his house through his ( the pastor’s) help too. After meeting her parents He said she should stay at his place for a while so he can tackle her case specially . Her parents often send money to the pastor during those times. After a while She suddenly packed her bag and ran back to her parents house Without any explanation and the pastor kept calling her mother frequently to bring her over that he wasn’t done with the deliverance or whatever. ( the pastor is a married man btw and stays with his wife but I don’t know if they have kids )
Fast forward to last month the parents of my cousin found out she was pregnant. After multiple interrogations She finally confessed that the pastor Raped her ( while she was at his place ) and threatened to kill her if she tells anybody
She never told anyone even after she came back to her parents house until they found out she’s pregnant. The pastor isn’t aware he is still calling for them to send her back but her mother isn’t picking his calls

I’m lost because I was so close to her. she even babysat me as a toddler and even taught me Before I was old enough to go to school and we have been close since like forever … now I even stopped speaking to her because I feel so bad she opened the door for all this mess by running from home and not telling anyone at the right time .. I’m just trying to manage my emotions because I’m short tempered and can act irrationally when Angered

What can I do in this case ? What legal steps can be taken ?

You have no right or basis to be angry with your cousin.
It's her parents who left her in the care of a total stranger, when she had mental health episode you should be angry with.
That said report the matter to the police immediately. Also get her to a doctor, in a government hospital, and extract a report. The pastor didn't just commit rape, he also abused an ill patient.
Take it from there, other leads will hollow.

Mindlog:


Rape or whatever issues should be dropped immediately......You are a RAPE APOLOGIST.

The so called Pastor acknowledged the lady being mentally disordered, took advantage of her vulnerability and you even came up with the angle of consent.....that is a sexual offense because he is aware she is mentally ill which leaves her open to manipulation, intimidation, or deceit and he used his "position" to exploit her, sexually.

Many Psychiatrists have had their medical licenses withdrawn and are cooling off in different prisons for having sex with patients under their care! Mr. Pastor should be picked up by the Lagos State Police command, to have one less predator in the field.

The fiscus105 is probably the Pastor or a Bornf00l.
The preponderance of animals like him is the reason why a purported giant of Africa still wallows in darkness ( both spiritual and electricity).
A crime must be handled as such without emotions. Not long ago, a woman murdered her husband, and because she is nursing a 6 months baby belonging to the dead man you think she should be left to go unpunished? Nope. The law has taken its course and she is going to die by hanging or committed to a life sentence.
The Girl is pregnant and she has pointed at one out of so many persons fiscus claims she came in contact. And it's pretty obvious to see how it is likely the accused is potentially guilty. She is not accusing several other men at the same time.
The right and fit thing to do when a crime happens is to report it to the relevant authorities to do what they are trained for. And not to suggest sweeping it under the carpet so we can have more victims.
Many sick people like fiscus105 litter the streets involved in this type of crime or waiting to.

sabbiboi:

I believe what you wrote is well understood by all.

Both parties are wrong in putting your cousin in harms way. Her parents are wrong by allowing her run to a pastor’s place, not a church. The pastor is wrong for accommodating her in his house, because logically that’s not the right place to cure a mental health. If the true intentions of the pastor was to cure her of her disorder, then other ministers of God in the church should be in the know of this case, that may have likely prevented intercourse, because he would love to protect his reputation.

Lastly, how do you prove it’s a rape case? The court can only go back and forth, with so much money an time wasted; with a good lawyer he will be exonerated.
The best choice is settle this amicably between the pastor and girl’s parents, if the pastor is willing to take responsibility of the pregnancy.

A mentally ill person as in the case of the lady in the story, struggles with cognitive impairment and does not possess the mental capacity for consensual sex....if DNA test proves the Pastor responsible, he will continue his ministry in prison.