I don't know how to describe this feeling and if I even have the right to feel that way but I just realised my ex girlfriend of about 7months got engaged last week.

I don't even know how to describe how I feel really and how best to distract the feelings but I really have flashback of all our memories today and how things went sour. She really did showed me love but still stepped out and I just couldn't move on from it and that was what led to the break up eventually.

It is a funny feeling to be honest and I have never felt that way before.

See who is engaged now ... haaa and people will start tagging me bad vibes now

Hayzed203:


See who is engaged now ... haaa and people will start tagging me bad vibes now

Advice 4u.

No dey send wetin people dey yarn. Dem must yarn.

She's an Ex.

Move the f*ck on. If its hard 4u. Harden ur mind. Do what it takes to get her off ur mind, soul or wherever she occupied inside you.. She's with someone else

U gotta be disciplined to achieve that

Real discipline wey u sef go clap for ursef

Remove her number so u don't see updates from her social media

Gradually. U wey dey think about her 17 tyms a day go graduate enter who dey remember her 2 times a day.

B4 u knw. Na once in a month.
Den she only comes up whenever u wanna make reference 2 what an ex did bla bla

I don finish, Make i add weeed inside my lipton jeje.

Natbrowny:


Advice 4u.

No dey send wetin people dey yarn. Dem must yarn.

She's an Ex.

Move the f*ck on. If its hard 4u. Harden ur mind. Do what it takes to get her off ur mind, soul or wherever she occupied inside you.. She's with someone else

U gotta be disciplined to achieve that

Real discipline wey u sef go clap for ursef

Remove her number so u don't see updates from her social media

Gradually. U wey dey think about her 17 tyms a day go graduate enter who dey remember her 2 times a day.

B4 u knw. Na once in a month.
Den she only comes up whenever u wanna make reference 2 what an ex did bla bla

I don finish, Make i add weeed inside my lipton jeje.

add Chelsea gin put I beg, make the guy lock up

I understand that feeling.

You're are happy she is happy or looks happy that she's getting married, you're sad you're not the one. You're are disappointed at whom she's getting married to and you are wondering why you didn't make the move to marrying her thereby blaming yourself...that feeling you could have made things work, maybe; with a little seasoning of the feeling of pride that someone you once dated/slept with is getting married.
All these feelings mixed together into one portion; that's how you feel. And it is funny.

At least this is better than a situation whereby two/three of your former women getting married almost the same period (December ending) and you got to find out some through Facebook pictures while some through friends.

The only thing you are allowed to feel is pity for the guy who married her. You got off easily, he wouldn’t.

Bluezy13:
I understand that feeling.

You're are happy she is happy or looks happy that she's getting married, your sad your not the one. You're are disappointed at whom she's getting married to and you are wondering why you didn't make the move to marrying her thereby blaming yourself...that feeling you could have made things work, maybe; with a little seasoning of the feeling of pride that someone you once dated/slept with is getting married.
All these feelings mixed together into one portion; that's how you feel. And it is funny.

At least this is better than a situation whereby two/three of your former women getting married almost the same period (December ending) and you got to find out some through Facebook pictures while some through friends.

You actually captured some of my feelings - there was this overwhelming thoughts of if things could have worked out differently with a bit of compromise and all. We actually really matched in many ways before the break up.

I am not convinced we were the best for each other with our circumstances at the time but when I meet girls who are bit nonchalant, I always miss her knowing her intentional she was about us but when I meet a girl that is giving me that great energy, I usually don't even remember we ever dated. I guess I have to pray to meet someone that won't remind me of her because that emotional rush of was that not even better than this and all is always there.

Hayzed203:
I don't know how to describe this feeling and if I even have the right to feel that way but I just realised my ex girlfriend of about 7months got engaged last week.

I don't even know how to describe how I feel really and how best to distract the feelings but I really have flashback of all our memories today and how things went sour. She really did showed me love but still stepped out and I just couldn't move on from it and that was what led to the break up eventually.

It is a funny feeling to be honest and I have never felt that way before.

See who is engaged now ... haaa and people will start tagging me bad vibes now

If she cheated on you, it won't be long before she cheats on her husband. Hope you know that? She can even cheat with you, these woman have no shame. But don't do it though.

Lol.. u dey feel say na u she suppose marry abi

Wearetheugliest:
Lol.. u dey feel say na u she suppose marry abi

Lol not exactly. Just a mix-match of emotions of what It could have been especially as I am still searching from my end. So there was this thingy feeling of what if you guys had worked on it and all but I will be fine. I just couldn't control the emotions when I saw it last night.

Every day my ex this my girlfriend that, Shey una no Dey smoke Cana or work out or learn something profitable and meaningful??!

Una just carry girls for head like dada, the earlier you realize women or anyone at all are not responsible for your happiness and growth or fulfillment the better for you

As a guy man, if you are dating or married and you don’t have the mindset that anything can happen and your girlfriend or wife can become your ex within two seconds you never ready, you are setting yourself up for massive heartbreak

The reason people buy spare tyre is in case of eventuality, you don’t wait for tyre to burst before you buy another one, same as girls, have options

If she leave, promote a side chick to main chin or rather keep it at that level while you massively work on your self, money, body and soul

Nothin girl wan offer you that you can offer yourself if you work towards it, except pusse tho and it’s now in abundance if you know your onions

Gadafii:
Every day my ex this my girlfriend that, Shey una no Dey smoke Cana or work out or learn something profitable and meaningful??!

Una just carry girls for head like dada, the earlier you realize women or anyone at all are not responsible for your happiness and growth or fulfillment the better for you

As a guy man, if you are dating or married and you don’t have the mindset that anything can happen and your girlfriend or wife can become your ex within two seconds you never ready, you are setting yourself up for massive heartbreak

The reason people buy spare tyre is in case of eventuality, you don’t wait for tyre to burst before you buy another one, same as girls, have options

If she leave, promote a side chick to main chin or rather keep it at that level while you massively work on your self, money, body and soul

Nothin girl wan offer you that you can offer yourself if you work towards it, except pusse tho and it’s now in abundance if you know your onions

Lol.. I get your point about building yourself and all but that never stops right ? I am 29yrs with a comfortable life and I still desire companionship but I get your point anyways, thanks.

Bro, move on. Don't fix your mind there. That is life for you.

spencekat:
Bro, move on. Don't fix your mind there. That is life for you.

thank you so much. I guess it is because it is my first time. lol

Hayzed203:


thank you so much. I guess it is because it is my first time. lol

Bro, I understand.Just free your mind.You didn't lose anything.

They always got married to a simp guy who doesnt care about their past in the end. An ex who Bleep*d a married man then has gotten married now and the guy is rich and spending a lot on her now.

Send your Congratulations to her and do your best to get it off your mind

Awww! Such is life. You have to suck it up and move on.

My ex of 4 years got married last year. He didn't tell me and I had no way of knowing because I blocked him. I blocked him so that I would be able to heal properly and move on. Both of us are not heavy social media users and we rarely post stuff online. So, I had zero knowledge about his marriage.

Last year, on my birthday, he called me. He called with another number. I picked the call. I was surprised to hear his voice. I have healed and moved on, it was easier to talk with him. In the course of our conversation, he mentioned his wife. I was shocked. I asked him if he is married, he said yes. Then went on to talk about his wife. He said quite a bit about her.

He wished me a happy birthday, I thanked him and we ended the call. I sat still on my bed for minutes, trying to process everything he said, especially the part of his wife. Then I cried. Fat, gut-wrenching tears. Images of the times we spent together, his proposal to me, what our life would have been as husband and wife, how everything started falling apart and the final breakup. I cried o, I really cried.

Weeks later, I started feeling better. Today, I don't really think about him or his wife again, except something or someone reminds me of him. I wish him well with all my heart, while I pray to meet my husband soon.

So, guy, you will be fine. It's a normal emotion. We've all been there.

Ruby458:
Awww! Such is life. You have to suck it up and move on.

My ex of 4 years got married last year. He didn't tell me and I had no way of knowing because I blocked him. I blocked him so that I would be able to heal properly and move on. Both of us are not heavy social media users and we rarely post stuff online. So, I had zero knowledge about his marriage.

Last year, on my birthday, he called me. He called with another number. I picked the call. I was surprised to hear his voice. I have healed and moved on, it was easier to talk with him. In the course of our conversation, he mentioned his wife. I was shocked. I asked him if he is married, he said yes. Then went on to talk about his wife. He said quite a bit about her.

He wished me a happy birthday, I thanked him and we ended the call. I sat still on my bed for minutes, trying to process everything he said, especially the part of his wife. Then I cried. Fat, gut-wrenching tears. Images of the times we spent together, his proposal to me, what our life would have been as husband and wife, how everything started falling apart and the final breakup. I cried o, I really cried.

Weeks later, I started feeling better. Today, I don't really think about him or his wife again, except something or someone reminds me of him. I wish him well with all my heart, while I pray to meet my husband soon.

So, guy, you will be fine. It's a normal emotion. We've all been there.

Thanks a bunch for sharing your story. It is really insightful to learn this is just a phase for me and I hope you meet the perfect person you deserve.

Ruby458:
how everything started falling apart and the final breakup.

Can you explain how things started falling apart? What happened?

DestinedForGrea:

This is touching. In fact, it gives me chills.

I know my ex will get married before I do, 'cause I'm not ready to get into that boat at the moment.

My prayer is I don't get to find out until I've really moved on, unto something more serious with someone else.

I don't have the strength to stomach such news at this time lol.

😁😁
I hope it works for you the way you desire.

Hayzed203:


Thanks a bunch for sharing your story. It is really insightful to learn this is just a phase for me and I hope you meet the perfect person you deserve.

Thank you

SenecaTheYonger:


Can you explain how things started falling apart? What happened?

I can't go into details, but the long and short is, it was family issues, from his side. And he didn't have much say because he's the last child and they all trained him in school. He had to obey them.

Hayzed203:


Lol.. I get your point about building yourself and all but that never stops right ? I am 29yrs with a comfortable life and I still desire companionship but I get your point anyways, thanks.

Good u know building urself never stops. So don't get comfortable with where u are. Challenge ur mind, ur body, travel, explore, learn new things, new people, i don't care if its even a new religion,live life. What's all this about mixed feelings and not being able to move on.

Ruby458:
Awww! Such is life. You have to suck it up and move on.

My ex of 4 years got married last year. He didn't tell me and I had no way of knowing because I blocked him. I blocked him so that I would be able to heal properly and move on. Both of us are not heavy social media users and we rarely post stuff online. So, I had zero knowledge about his marriage.

Last year, on my birthday, he called me. He called with another number. I picked the call. I was surprised to hear his voice. I have healed and moved on, it was easier to talk with him. In the course of our conversation, he mentioned his wife. I was shocked. I asked him if he is married, he said yes. Then went on to talk about his wife. He said quite a bit about her.

He wished me a happy birthday, I thanked him and we ended the call. I sat still on my bed for minutes, trying to process everything he said, especially the part of his wife. Then I cried. Fat, gut-wrenching tears. Images of the times we spent together, his proposal to me, what our life would have been as husband and wife, how everything started falling apart and the final breakup. I cried o, I really cried.

Weeks later, I started feeling better. Today, I don't really think about him or his wife again, except something or someone reminds me of him. I wish him well with all my heart, while I pray to meet my husband soon.

So, guy, you will be fine. It's a normal emotion. We've all been there.

You had ur chance and u blew it. Sabi girl come takeover.. u will never truly heal

Pele
Move on.

Ruby458:


I can't go into details, but the long and short is, it was family issues, from his side. And he didn't have much say because he's the last child and they all trained him in school. He had to obey them.

Oh, he's igbo then, and you're from another tribe so you guys couldn't get married

Normal stuffs...

My ex who got married last year only sent me an SMS.....Tho I thought she'd personally inform me via through phone call or probably visit my family compound due to how she was treated by my family........I was similarly in the same with you,op via the fact that I was emotionally down all through those while.....Even tho I was already in another relationship but I couldn't fathom the fact that someday, my ex and I would wake up and go our separate ways......
but thank God I'm still here and those memories have all washed off..

I think last July,she(my ex) called me...That was after her marriage..Just to apologize.....I told her I've already moved on with my life and I'm already hellbent on how to better my life......Op,so it's all normal..But trust me,you go heal las las,you hear

SenecaTheYonger:


Oh, he's igbo then, and you're from another tribe so you guys couldn't get married

We're both Igbos.