I'm not against atheism. In fact my father is atheist and my mom is Christian. They were married but now divorced (nothing to do with with religion though). He allowed us to be raised Christian and go to church. He just didn't want do do it himself which is his choice and I respect it. I just don’t know how they did it.

Obviously Atheists and Christians can date it's a free country. But I don't know how it works out. Here's the thing not all but a lot of atheists mocks Christianity, calls it the white mans religion and calls God sky daddy so I wonder then if you think that then why would you date someone who believes in that. That's like me despising Andrew Tate and dating an Andrew Tate supporter.

Same thing goes for Christians. I would have more smoke for them. Even if I date an atheist I don't want to hope that one day he will seek Jesus Christ. I don't believe in changing a man and also I don't believe in conversion. I would feel guilty if a man became Christian because of me. Like he should come to Christianity by himself. So I rather find a good guy who is already Christian.

I'm not saying interfaith couples can't work. There are exceptions. But just like politics, religion also matters in relationships. Especially when it comes to kids.

I believe Christians should stick with Christians for marriage. I mean we should be equally yoked.

@Drjones109, do you think a relationship between a black freedom fighter and a staunch KKK member makes sense? I am not asking if it could work. But rather if it makes sense.

Kobojunkie:
@Drjones109, do you think a relationship between a black freedom fighter and a staunch KKK member makes sense? I am not asking if it could work. But rather if it makes sense.

this comparison is not comparing at all at all.....

Considering that Atheist are more humanity oriented compared to christians, I don't think it's fair to put Atheist in the position of an "opposing force" Atheist are more accommodating to the beliefs of others more than so called "Christians."

My dad wasn't a serious church goer himself. And marital issues never stemmed from religious difference.

kkins25:
■ this comparison is not comparing at all at all.....
Considering that Atheist are more humanity oriented compared to christians, I don't think it's fair to put Atheist in the position of an "opposing force" Atheist are more accommodating to the beliefs of others more than so called "Christians."
My dad wasn't a serious church goer himself. And marital issues never stemmed from religious difference.

First and foremost, a lazy Christian is not an atheist. Let's first get that out of the way completely. Second, my comparison has nothing to do with the nairaland-type atheists some of whom may just be agnostics with a complex or those struggling with a religious traumatic past. My focus is instead on those I would consider atheists at heart --- openminded and rational beings.

Third, did not ask of an atheist in platonic relationship with a Christian but of marriage between the two. From my experience, most Nigerian Christians are very close-minded to point that everything that they are only able to build on logical fallacies. I used to be an atheist myself and still have as friends who are and they are very open-minded and depend to a great deal on logically reasoning their existence. There make decisions based on it and swear by it. So a union between a Nigerian Christian and, say, one of my Atheist friend here would compare to the joining of a KKK member to a black rights supporter. E no make sense to me. Even I would never do that to myself!

Drjones109:

I'm not against atheism. In fact my father is atheist and my mom is Christian. They were married but now divorced (nothing to do with with religion though). He allowed us to be raised Christian and go to church. He just didn't want do do it himself which is his choice and I respect it. I just don’t know how they did it.

Obviously Atheists and Christians can date it's a free country. There are exceptions. But just like politics, religion also matters in relationships. Especially when it comes to kids.

I believe Christians should stick with Christians for marriage. I mean we should be equally yoked.

I'm just in this exact situation rn

My parents linked me up with a lady to see if we could build on it and grow a relationship that could lead to marriage

So I travelled down from Lagos to the East just to met her plus other engagements...

So we sat down to have our first convo in person and one of the first things she said was, "I can't say anything without quoting the Bible"

She started by asking me how my relationship with God is? I was low-key disappointed she is so religious and superstitious but then this is Nigeria.

In my mind, I was like, "ah! So as this babe fine reach she dey this superstitious"

I even told her it's kinda inappropriate talking about religion as the first topic. The more I tried to veer off topic the more she insisted.

I even told her it's a sensitive topic alongside Politics and sports. Besides , I think the fastest way to end a relationship that could have blossomed into something meaningful and lovely is to play the religion card Or politics without even getting to know the person.

I'm particularly more spiritual than religious. In fact, almost all my friends are too educated and enlightened to be bothered or swayed by religion anymore.

She specifically asked me, "how is your relationship with God?"

I replied, "that depends on your definition of the term God"

I told her during the discussion that to me God means everything and everyone around me helping me towards my goals.

That includes my family and friends and my environment. As the literal meaning of the word human in Igbo is Mmadu - meaning Beauty of Life.

It's so hard discussing religion, spirituality with a hardcore religious person (especially Christians)

They are so rigid and defensive, taking offense when you say things that counter their core religious beliefs... even though I wasn't being confrontational with her during our convo

I listened most of the time. I even asked her if she believed God already made her in his image and likeness and she replied in affirmation.

I then asked her if it would be okay then to call her my Goddess or Queen if she became my wife while she looks on to me as her God and King?

She disagreed saying, "I place God above everything including my life, husband and family "

My problem is not the fact that she isn't woke. It's that she doesn't even agree she is godlike and worthy of worship. Lol hence contradicting herself.

I mean you place God above everything yet you have a problem letting yourself play a Godlike role on earth.

It's so hard having a progressive healthy convo with them (Christians ) because of their frigid mental nature. And inability to process new info especially one that is alien to their beliefs.

I told her I'm not much of a church goer but will support her if she is and will even attend religious programme with her from time to time but it won't be an everyday thing.

I could feel her countenance change and I knew the relationship just hit the rocks!

All these happened yesterday.

Today I took her out on a date with her roomie but more than half of the time we spent out she was on the phone with a Reverend Father and after that call she also began another call with a Monk.

Spent like 35 to 40 mins on the call 🤙

Omo! Me I just kuku respect myself delete her number. And on a deeper level, I really don't think I want my kids to be indoctrinated with all those Christian beliefs. ..

They would all be exempted from religious/superstitious activities from school with my instructions.

So that's my view on that.

Long story short- I think people with like beliefs and interests should be 'yoked' together to ensure a better transition into a blissful union long term.

No point testing already rough waters when you have a better option

Drjones109:

I'm not against atheism. In fact my father is atheist and my mom is Christian. They were married but now divorced (nothing to do with with religion though). He allowed us to be raised Christian and go to church. He just didn't want do do it himself which is his choice and I respect it. I just don’t know how they did it.

Obviously Atheists and Christians can date it's a free country. But I don't know how it works out. Here's the thing not all but a lot of atheists mocks Christianity, calls it the white mans religion and calls God sky daddy so I wonder then if you think that then why would you date someone who believes in that. That's like me despising Andrew Tate and dating an Andrew Tate supporter.

Same thing goes for Christians. I would have more smoke for them. Even if I date an atheist I don't want to hope that one day he will seek Jesus Christ. I don't believe in changing a man and also I don't believe in conversion. I would feel guilty if a man became Christian because of me. Like he should come to Christianity by himself. So I rather find a good guy who is already Christian.

I'm not saying interfaith couples can't work. There are exceptions. But just like politics, religion also matters in relationships. Especially when it comes to kids.

I believe Christians should stick with Christians for marriage. I mean we should be equally yoked.

Your mom is not a Christian but a good woman who attends church services!

Most of you don't know the difference between a Christian and a person who loves to attend church services. Someone may be good and kind hearted but that doesn't make them Christians even if they're attending religious services in buildings called "CHURCH"

A Christian is one who has dedicated his or her life to do the will of God and marrying only in the Christian fold is a vital part of God's will for Christians. So if your mom got married to an atheist it simply means she only has a kind heart and willing to join others in worship but she has not dedicated herself for God to do His will!

kkins25:


this comparison is not comparing at all at all.....

Considering that Atheist are more humanity oriented compared to christians, I don't think it's fair to put Atheist in the position of an "opposing force" Atheist are more accommodating to the beliefs of others more than so called "Christians." .

Then they should marry themselves.

Women who are even more close to satan avoid marrying an atheist. Clearly, tells you atheists are Satans

Churchgoing is not the same thing as Christianship.

It is churchgoers who may marry an atheist BUT IT IS ALMOST IMPOSSIBLE FOR A CHRISTIAN TO MARRY AN ATHEIST.