Within the confines of marriage.

Case 1: If you run a paternity test on your kid and you discover you are in fact not the biological father, but the biological father is dead. What would you do as a man?

Case 2: If you run a paternity test on your kid and you discover you are in fact not the biological father, but the biological father is alive though he is unaware of the child. What would you do as a man?

Case 3: If you run a paternity test on your kid and you discover you are in fact not the biological father, but the biological father is alive and he is aware of the child yet not laying claim for paternity rights. What would you do as a man?

Case 4: If you run a paternity test on your kid and you discover you are in fact not the biological father, but the biological father is alive and he wants the paternity rights over the kid. What would you do as a man?


Before I proceed to establish where the Nigerian Legal System stands on the issue of paternity which I got from 2 Professors of Law, a Dean of Faculty of Law, 3 Attorneys of which one specializes on family and criminal law and 2 Attorneys from the States( for our friends in the states).

Lemme know what the Nigerian men think, as it will be a waste to preach to someone who is not interested in sermons.

Enchanté

We are all here to learn

Case 1: KICK both of them out!

Case 2: Kick BOTH of them out!

Case 3: Kick both of THEM out!

Case 4: Kick both of them OUT!

A bastard child is evidence of 2 things:

1. You wife was fuuuccked RAW by another man. Worse thing is men who Bleep married women take it as a mission to wreck her pussy. Plus, the man laughed at you as he watched your "responsible housewife that is not like other women" on her knees sucking his diccck like she expects the Foutajn of Youth to erupt from within.

2. Your wife made lied to you and made you raise a bastard for SEVERAL years.

Another man poured the cum and you get stuck with paying for a naming ceremony, school fees and supporting a WHOOORE!

Paternity fraud is a multifaceted act of betrayal.

Cases 1, 2, 3 and 4 cannot be better answered except when in the situation real life and real time

Most replies na audio, but make we learn sha. 😂


Emotional problem/situation can KILL OR MAKE YOU KILL. Its a bull eyes target


REAL LIFE IS A B*TCH

FRANCISTOWN:


Lemme know what the Nigerian men think, as it will be a waste to preach to someone who is not interested in sermons.

Enchanté

This is going to be long, please pardon me.

I don't know much about law, but lemme tell you what I have witnessed so many times.
There was a man in the area. If you knew all these Igbo business man that did the importation of computers in the late 90s.

This man was rich, baba forget. No, Him get money die.
He had a family of a wife and 3 kids. 2girls and a boy. The boy was the last.
We can't really tell what happened but we noticed that this man sold his first car, sold his second car, sold his third car( the one for the wife and the children) .
Afterwards, we heard his warehouse was on fire. Ha! Fire! How?

Later on. That his son became very sick, that they started spending lots of money, but once the child got better and discharged after some days he went back to the hospital for the same illness.

Many people in the area thought this man did some money ritual and the thing was starting to boomerang. You know the way it was easy for people to cook up stories especially out of jealousy.
At the end of the day, the man went to his village and when he came back. That same night, there were screamings coming from his house, very heavy and disturbing screaming that people had to rush to his house. One of them was my godfather (Ayinla baba, Akosapo leégun n kowo, owo bàbá isila. Awọ goolu toni mawo tanan). May God rests his soul.

To cut the story short. The man narrated that he was told at his village that his wife was having an affair and the boy wasn't his and the biological father had gone diabolical to retrieve his son since he had no money to contend with the man in a legal battle.
And he was also warned to let go of the child or else he could lose his life.

That was how their lovely marriage crashed.

I was young then and didn't understand what was really goin on but I came across something like that again which made me ask people who are more than me in this world.

There are many ways to do that and there is even an IFA corpus that talks about "Ogbe F'ohun F'olohun" meaning "Give unto Caesar what belongs to Caesar".

If you owed someone something, or someone's property is in your possession. If them use that IFA corpus take prepare from sacrifice for you and the sacrifice touch ground. Forget it, your life is in shambles.

Maybe na your mama go dey go one day wey all these cele people go warn her say make she tell her son make e go return wetin no be his.

As a man whether you run a DNA on your kids or not no concern me. But I know say some people fit bring hell to your doorstep to retrieve what is theirs.

I'm sorry for much talks.

Paternity fraud is paternity fraud, no matter who and where the biological father is. So, the biological father's condition will not determine my decision.

The woman's reaction, the child's age and the child's reaction during the saga will determine my decision.

FRANCISTOWN:
Within the confines of marriage.

Case 1: If you run a paternity test on your kid and you discover you are in fact not the biological father, but the biological father is dead. What would you do as a man?

Case 2: If you run a paternity test on your kid and you discover you are in fact not the biological father, but the biological father is alive though he is unaware of the child. What would you do as a man?

Case 3: If you run a paternity test on your kid and you discover you are in fact not the biological father, but the biological father is alive and he is aware of the child yet not laying claim for paternity rights. What would you do as a man?

Case 4: If you run a paternity test on your kid and you discover you are in fact not the biological father, but the biological father is alive and he wants the paternity rights over the kid. What would you do as a man?

It depends on the age of the child and how much and good of a father I have been.

If the child is old enough to have a say and if I have been a wonderful father, nothing would delight me more than depriving the cheating mother of a child, and keeping the child for myself if the child recognises me as it's father.

But if the child is young enough for the father's rights to be upheld, he can take his cheating child's mother with him, and goodluck to them both.

Either ways, the cheating mother is out with any trust I might have had.

Namaster:
Case 1: KICK both of them out!

Case 2: Kick BOTH of them out!

Case 3: Kick both of THEM out!

Case 4: Kick both of them OUT!

A bastard child is evidence of 2 things:

1. You wife was fuuuccked RAW by another man. Worse thing is men who Bleep married women take it as a mission to wreck her pussy. Plus, the man laughed at you as he watched your "responsible housewife that is not like other women" on her knees sucking his diccck like she expects the Foutajn of Youth to erupt from within.

2. Your wife made lied to you and made you raise a bastard for SEVERAL years.

Another man poured the cum and you get stuck with paying for a naming ceremony, school fees and supporting a WHOOORE!

Paternity fraud is a multifaceted act of betrayal.

What about the psychology effects it may have on the kids?

Natbrowny:
Cases 1, 2, 3 and 4 cannot be better answered except when in the situation real life and real time

Most replies na audio, but make we learn sha. 😂


Emotional problem/situation can KILL OR MAKE YOU KILL. Its a bull eyes target


REAL LIFE IS A B*TCH

I agree with you. But a higher being is a man who has risen above his feelings and emotions.

What would you advise your younger brother to do perchance he finds himself in such scenario?

budaatum:


It depends on the age of the child and how much and good of a father I have been.

If the child is old enough to have a say and if I have been a wonderful father, nothing would delight me more than depriving the cheating mother of a child, and keeping the child for myself if the child recognises me as it's father.

But if the child is young enough for the father's rights to be upheld, he can take his cheating child's mother with him, and goodluck to them both.

Either ways, the cheating mother is out with any trust I might have had.

If the child is old enough to have a say but the biological father is making a case. What will you do(let's assume you are a man, or your son is in this scenario)

FRANCISTOWN:


If the child is old enough to have a say but the biological father is making a case. What will you do(let's assume you are a man, or your son is in this scenario)

What say can a biological father have if his child is old enough to recognise me as it's father and I'm willing to be it's father?

The father can after all win paternity and the child still refuse to call him daddy.

FRANCISTOWN:


What about the psychology effects it may have on the kids?

Kids go dey alright after a couple of days of indomie, meat pie and chivita......

advanceDNA:


Kids go dey alright after a couple of days of indomie, meat pie and chivita......

Let's say there is a written agreement or a document that proves the biological father revoking his paternity rights to you. What would you do?

budaatum:


What say can a biological father have if his child is old enough to recognise me as it's father and I'm willing to be it's father?

The father can after all win paternity and the child still refuse to call him daddy.

Well it happens, but here in Nigeria. Do you really think the child will fit in with his siblings and other members of the man's family after it's been known that the child belongs to another man. The stigmatization and reclusiveness?
The psychological effects of not belonging to the pack?

FRANCISTOWN:

Let's say there is a written agreement or a document that proves the biological father revoking his paternity rights to you. What would you do?

Who cares what written agreement the werey and the adulterous woman entered into....I dont give a flying fvck....

If I want to adopt a kid .....I know where the orphanage is......I'm definitely not adopting the kid born out of my woman's infidelity....

which kind of juju be that??

FRANCISTOWN:


Well it happens, but here in Nigeria. Do you really think the child will fit in with his siblings and other members of the man's family after it's been known that the child belongs to another man. The stigmatization and reclusiveness?
The psychological effects of not belonging to the pack?

The child's fitting in depends on it's pseudo father.

Besides, we have instances of a relative and even outsiders fitting in as a child and a sibling in Nigeria, so why wouldn't it fit in if treated as fitting in?

FRANCISTOWN:

I agree with you. But a higher being is a man who has risen above his feelings and emotions.

What would you advise your younger brother to do perchance he finds himself in such scenario?

Logic over Emotions

I'll break it down sooon

Why are you needlessly postulating? There is no scenario a normal Nigerian man will do anything outside throwing the child and the mom out.

There is no useless court in this country that can force me to play a father to a child that i clearly know doesn't belong to me.

That madness wey una dey study for law school make e remain for una stupid brain. People wey their color be white and black wetin be una work? No be to call white black and black white?

advanceDNA:


Who cares what written agreement the werey and the adulterous woman entered into....I dont give a flying fvck....

If I want to adopt a kid .....I know where the orphanage is......I'm definitely not adopting the kid born out of my woman's infidelity....

which kind of juju be that??

Some men are of the opinion that if you've created a bond with the kid , and the kid loves you so much.
As long as you've paid the woman's bride price and the kid calls you father. Even if the biological father shows up. You should not let go of the kid. What do you think about this?

budaatum:


The child's fitting in depends on it's pseudo father.

Besides, we have instances of a relative and even outsiders fitting in as a child and a sibling in Nigeria, so why wouldn't it fit in if treated as fitting in?

It happens and will continue to happen in Africa. There will be both verbal and gesticulations of remembering towards the kid.

By the way, if the biological father resulted to violence. What next?

Natbrowny:


Logic over Emotions

I'll break it down sooon

I'm awaiting

FRANCISTOWN:


It happens and will continue to happen in Africa. There will be both verbal and gesticulations of remembering towards the kid.

By the way, if the biological father resulted to violence. What next?

Violence against whom?

Any "verbal and gesticulations of remembering" will be against me the pseudo father, and I am mature enough to disregard what anyone says.

Besides, there's been successful footballers who've recognised their pseudo parents more than their biological parents, and I'd be delighted when my pseudo child starts bringing me the Benjamin's for bringing it up well instead of recognising it's biological father who may have contributed no more than sperm.

Dogalmighty17:
Why are you needlessly postulating? There is no scenario a normal Nigerian man will do anything outside throwing the child and the mom out.

There is no useless court in this country that can force me to play a father to a child that i clearly no doesn't belong to me.

That madness wey una dey study for law school make e remain for una stupid brain. People wey their color be white and black wetin be una work? No be to call white black and black white?

There is trending thread on this forum right now where some semi-lliterate men and women are saying that as long as you've paid the woman's bride price. There is nothing the biological father can do. The child belongs to you.
I want to know their stance before we interprete the law and it's maneuvers.

budaatum:

Violence against whom?

Any "verbal and gesticulations of remembering" will be against me the pseudo father, and I am mature enough to disregard what anyone says.

Besides, there's been successful footballers who've recognised their pseudo parents more than their biological parents, and I'd be delighted when my pseudo child starts bringing me the Benjamin's for bringing it up well instead of recognising it's biological father who may have contributed no more than sperm.

It is easy for you to say as you are a woman. Men think differently, I mean men now not the ones who work around in women's pants.

They know the value of blood, ancestry and lineage continuation.

Can a kind will the throne to a pseudo child?

FRANCISTOWN:


It is easy for you to say as you are a woman. Men think differently, I mean men now not the ones who work around in women's pants.

They know the value of blood, ancestry and lineage continuation.

Can a kind will the throne to a pseudo child?

First, you don't know my gender and you should not assume.

Second, I am not a king.

And third, if you presumed everyone should see this your way perhaps you should not have opened a thread to solicit opinions and just tell us what we should all do.

FRANCISTOWN:


Some men are of the opinion that if you've created a bond with the kid , and the kid loves you so much.

Like I said...kids will be fine after a couple of weeks of indomie and chivita ....and i can create another bond with my own kid...haven't u heard of patents that lose their kid...??

FRANCISTOWN:

As long as you've paid the woman's bride price and the kid calls you father. Even if the biological father shows up. You should not let go of the kid. What do you think about this?

I should not let go of the kid......?? this is fvnny....
Even if the real father doesn't come.....both the kid and the mother should find their way out..

FRANCISTOWN:
As long as you've paid the woman's bride price and the kid calls you father. Even if the biological father shows up. You should not let go of the kid. What do you think about this?

And what do you do if the kid wants to go?

Do you tie it down and claim it for yourself?

FRANCISTOWN:


What about the psychology effects it may have on the kids?

First of all, you are NOT obligated to care about the psychology of a bastard child the same way you are not particularly concerned about the psychological conditions of an Almajiri in the North.

Plus, kids are tough. They'll get over it. Even if they don't, it's none of your business.

Finally, the sheer amount of psychological trauma and mini anxiety attacks you'll go through every time you see a walking-talking proof your wife's ULTIMATE betrayal is enough reason to get them out of your sight.

Namaster:


First of all, you are NOT obligated to care about the psychology of a bastard child the same way you are not particularly concerned about the psychological conditions of an Almajiri in the North.

Plus, kids are tough. They'll get over it. Even if they don't, it's none of your business.

Finally, the sheer amount of psychological trauma and mini anxiety attacks you'll go through every time you see a walking-talking proof your wife's ULTIMATE betrayal is enough reason to get them out of your sight.

I swear, you've said nothing but the absolute truth. The only thing that brings a point of concern is, when one is already to old to father another child before one realises.

budaatum:


And what do you do if the kid wants to go?

Do you tie it down and claim it for yourself?

This is a other school of thought that many have not considered.
Most of the times. The father(The victim) is already always too old to father another child and the child in question is grown.

The emotional attachment and trauma could bring about the end of the man.

FRANCISTOWN:


This is a other school of thought that many have not considered.
Most of the times. The father(The victim) is already always too old to father another child and the child in question is grown.

The emotional attachment and trauma could bring about the end of the man.

How old is this child that the father is too old to father another child?

And how weak is that man that the emotional attachment and trauma could bring about the end of the man?

Would the emotional attachment and trauma bring about the end of the man if his biological child were to die too?

budaatum:


First, you don't know my gender and you should not assume.

I just realized that my keyboard's autocorrect had been altering some words thereby perverting their meanings. Moving forward, I'd pay more attention.

This is why I presumed it is almost likely you are a woman.

budaatum:


And pray tell why I'd let you fuq me please, when you are a free individual who is free to fuq your diq in any hole?

Don't you think I value myself enough to not have you poke that diq in me since I don't know where you've been poking it and what diseases you might have picked up with it?

But here you are thinking you'd have no regard for your own health not to talk of mine, and then think the opportunity would arise whereby I'd get pregnant and you'd be the person I'd want to give it to, when the truth is more likely that the pregnancy, if any, is likely yours but I'm giving it to a better man than you are because he respects himself and me more.

budaatum:


Women no fit reason your logic, lol, but you at least recognise we have brains, I hope.

budaatum:

Second, I am not a king.

It's a given.

budaatum:

And third, if you presumed everyone should see this your way perhaps you should not have opened a thread to solicit opinions and just tell us what we should all do.

As it is for now, I've remained neutral without any disposition. I'm only trying to find the angles within for every corner of a quadrilateral shape, because some men in some place if not at the moment will definitely find themselves in one of the cases later in the future.
My job on this thread is to provoke reasoning.
Do you copy?