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Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by Jeezuzpick(m): 7:45pm On Mar 28 |
Kobojunkie: How do you know they're common? |
Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by willyblinx(m): 7:51pm On Mar 28 |
CoronaVirusPro: When someone dies, He does not know whether his legacy or empire continues. The kids can turn out to be useless and squander everything within years. Or there can be an accident that occurs where the children were all in one flight and all died. That legacy or empire moves to someone else and his lineage closes. These things do not really matter because all you are sure of is what you have and were able to achieve so banking on the kids tomorrow is just setting yourself up without plans. Having kids is good. It has its own happiness and life’s experiences. At the same time not having kids is also great. The experience and joy the person gets is different . Let’s stop thinking that life has only one way to success or happiness. We all desire different things and ways of getting them. I have seen those who had no kids live satisfactorily as well as suffer. Same way I have seen those who have kids do both. 4 Likes |
Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by BRATISLAVA: 7:53pm On Mar 28 |
The biggest advocate of having no children, right here on this forum, who preached having visited somewhere called Marie stopes to tie up his vas (the sure sign of hypocrisy in his loud and all over the place assertions), that same loud advocate is silent. His message began shifting—as it was sure to. Soon you will hear he's a father. If he has the balls to announce it just as noisily. Young men talk too much, especially about the things they cannot do. Also, poverty has a way of making some people reason about having children. And marriage. But every Saturday and every year, guess what they're doing? 1 Like |
Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by Kobojunkie: 7:54pm On Mar 28 |
Jeezuzpick:I grew up noticing many of those folks around even as many others turned their noses up at them like they were invisible or not to be regarded at all. |
Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by willyblinx(m): 7:55pm On Mar 28 |
pansophist: Could not have been said any better 👍 1 Like |
Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by Jeezuzpick(m): 7:56pm On Mar 28 |
Kobojunkie: I'm not too different from you. We just have different experiences. I know of few couples with no children around or at all, but they're waaaaay in the minority. Most childless couples I know are young, like thirties to forties. |
Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by Kobojunkie: 8:15pm On Mar 28 |
Jeezuzpick:Many of those I met growing up, even in the village, were old. They do exist! Some had already lost their last companion (partner) and were living alone at the time. Very sad stories of how having kids does not serve as a guarantee of any kind, they had. |
Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by Saintmanode: 8:50pm On Mar 28 |
You did not fall from the sky, someone gave birth to you, it commands respect, it's a glorious experience. When you are old enough, you will understand better. |
Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by lalalista: 8:54pm On Mar 28 |
sageb:yes 1 Like |
Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by FaceTanke: 8:55pm On Mar 28 |
dikings: What does it mean for a man to marry a man For a woman to marry a tree? |
Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by ceevee2003: 9:26pm On Mar 28 |
I hope you also do not want to have SEX |
Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by Jman06(m): 9:30pm On Mar 28 |
jelel6:Imagine if everybody has this mindset of not wanting children! Do you know that would lead to extinction of the human species from earth? Procreation is good for continuity of life and that is why it is good for people to give birth to offsprings. Personally, the only reason I'm considering marriage is to have children. I specifically love children but I'll birth just 3 maximum and give them the best in life. This attitude of not wanting to birth children is alien to our culture and is typical of those who "wannabe" like oyibos. We have many of such people especially in the southern part of the country. Such people forget that the oyinbo people they wannabe like have strong healthcare system and old people's homes that cater for the aged. If Nigerians with our poor healthcare system and bad economy want to copy the western lifestyle of not wanting children, then extinction would catch up with us faster. |
Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by GBPUSD: 10:06pm On Mar 28 |
Sometimes when I stare at my 2 year old son, I have the fear of adding another just to give him the best life. I also fear my children may experience same fears as mine and as a result, I dread having many children. The fear of failing my children is the only thing that can stop me from having children. I want to raise responsible men and women that will contribute positively to the society and humanity at large. I just hope my son doesn't clock ten before I have another. 1 Like |
Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by jayce232: 10:06pm On Mar 28 |
Shaddymie:I clearly understand how u feel. But why not consider adoption? I know adoption may not be the ultimate solution, but I clearly believe it is still better. You only get to feel the child is not biological, but every other thing a child will do will no longer be missed. |
Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by Kobojunkie: 10:09pm On Mar 28 |
jayce232:Adoption is not for everyone. Did you take time to read through what she wrote at all? I would not recommend adoption to every case out there. |
Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by HoneySwag(f): 10:12pm On Mar 28 |
Rollingdollar:Won't that child have his/her own life to live?? He or she can't always be around to tend to the aging parents. Wisdom is profitable to direct. You don't rely on children to be your support system in old age, that's why some old folks are being abandoned by their children. What about in situations that the children all died before their parents or cases were the children aren't buoyant enough to care for their aging parents?? People should plan their lives very well and stop putting loads of responsibilities on children that are struggling to survive. First of all people should live a healthy life so they can be fit even in their old age to still walk and do things for themselves. Then they could have someone come around to take care of them like cook their meals, arrange the house, etc. Having children is very good but when you have so much expectations, you may end up disappointed. What about situations the children turned out to be nuisance in the society? How many of such children remember their aging parents? 1 Like |
Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by Kobojunkie: 10:23pm On Mar 28 |
HoneySwag:Or with disabilities of their own and in need of care themselves? 2 Likes |
Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by jomarick(m): 10:50pm On Mar 28 |
You're just being selfish and u can't afford to share your space. You would definitely regret it when it's too late! |
Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by tosyne2much(m): 10:55pm On Mar 28 |
You're not serious You said you've made up your mind never to have children as they're inconsequential to you yet you opened a thread seeking people's advice whether you would regret not having children later in the future You never serious bro |
Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by staneless(m): 11:00pm On Mar 28 |
FaceTanke: Are u trying to say legal? |
Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by PaulH07: 11:07pm On Mar 28 |
Klass99: I'm a good man also of like mind like I, so let's companionate... |
Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by ashawopikin(m): 11:27pm On Mar 28 |
Bullfallo:ehen so who is now forcing you to have children? That one is your business |
Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by RodgersAkpafu: 11:43pm On Mar 28 |
Depends on WHY you don't want to have kids . If it is a fleeting reason, you will definitely regret it But If its more tangible You won't 1 Like |
Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by FaceTanke: 12:24am On Mar 29 |
Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by LyfeJennings(m): 12:52am On Mar 29 |
Klass99: Time no dey go anywhere Just keep living Time will tell One thing that has never rushed in life is time Body go tell U with time |
Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by LyfeJennings(m): 12:54am On Mar 29 |
Bullfallo: U I used to think like this in my earlier years but as time went by Hmmmmmmm Omo, if there's anything I want sooo badly at this point apart from money and good health is my own kid |
Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by Uchesis: 1:19am On Mar 29 |
CoronaVirusPro:Somebody like you with this mindset cannot be a philanthropist even if you have billions. . If your only focus in life is spending on your children, then of what use are you to mankind? What will you be remembered for? What will be your legacy? . Just to train your children. This is one of the reasons why the white man is ahead of the black man. The whites think of how to improve their lives and mankind in general, while the black man is selfish and only thinks of himself . |
Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by jelel6: 1:38am On Mar 29 |
Jman06: Unfortunately, I cannot fathom a world where everyone suddenly decides not to have children. Can you?
Hmmm. So, there's indeed a formula to your wants in children. Why not 1, or 10 children? This attitude of not wanting to birth children is alien to our culture and is typical of those who "wannabe" like oyibos. We have many of such people especially in the southern part of the country. Such people forget that the oyinbo people they wannabe like have strong healthcare system and old people's homes that cater for the aged. If Nigerians with our poor healthcare system and bad economy want to copy the western lifestyle of not wanting children, then extinction would catch up with us faster. If extinction is the fate of humans, I'm sure we all know which people would go extinct first regardless of their population. |
Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by CoronaVirusPro: 1:51am On Mar 29 |
Uchesis: Exactly! Can’t you see Elon Musk, Jeff Bezos, Dangote, Alakija and Otedola have donated their wealth to eradicate poverty in the world. Gibberish! So I should be working for charity. What is the white man done? Collect taxes and used it for the benefit of their citizens. So how has a Whitman used his after tax wages to benefit the world? Whiteman my foot! Always looking for the nearest excuse to condemn his race. Wannabe! |
Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by OgwuEgo: 6:00am On Mar 29 |
I like your way, you are brutally honest. Lordofalmajiri: 1 Like |
Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by PropertyBuying(f): 7:15am On Mar 29 |
Klass99: |
Re: Will I Regret Not Having Children by noblebright1: 8:22am On Mar 29 |
Don't just get old is this part of the world okay. Cause nobody will take care of you |
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