As useless as a Young Man: Break the Cycle

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Life as a young man is hard...

You're not only useless to yourself but to your surroundings. You're even useless to your parents that birthed you as you are still a dependent under them.


If you ever venture into a sexual relationship, you'll be useless to your girlfriend because she needs someone with experience to lead her

BUT YOU CANT LEAD HER because experience is gotten by involvement and involvement TAKES TIME.

And not only are you useless to girls, but you are also useless to your fellow men because made men surround themselves with other competent and experienced men but you are none of that given your young inexperienced age.

Nobody wants you and you have only yourself to fall back on

It's just a phase...

Your journey won't be smooth but understand this going forward: Because the journey was hard coming up when you are young doesn't mean you will be rich when you're old. If this was so, abokis, almajiris and maruwas and the whole lots of other men who had it hard while coming up would be the stinkingly wealthy in their old age...BUT THEY'RE NOT.

You'll feel you need to escape from your own world...sometimes confused with that blazing desire In you to conquer without knowing exactly what to conquer. lolzzzz. It's just feelings and feelings are energy in motion hence E-motions...converted from one form to another.
And when something tangible doesn't seem forthcoming, you'll feel the urge to dull your creativity

That's where the addictions come in...that's you self-sabotaging your greatness just because you feel it's too much for you to handle. You want an escape from your own life but all the escape you can only get will be temporary and you feel repeated use will get you to make temporary feel permanent.

You're thinking the same thing I thought months ago. I WAS WRONG.
Every high comes with a corresponding low and the higher the high, the LOWER the low till you've sunken
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https://www.nairaland.com/7949989/science-ending-addiction

With time, all the experience you gather from trial and error start to shape you into becoming...even the negative ones and you'll end up exactly where you need to be based on that


The people you look up to and aspire to be are at the top BUT AT THE TOP, it's a pyramid scheme like ALL organisational structure...from nature(bees) to humans(corporate world).
At the bottom of the pyramid, there's structure which supports the top. The people that make up the bottom don't really need the top to exist BUT feel like they do while the people at the top NEED those at the bottom but MAKE THE BOTTOM feel like they're not needed.

It takes a great mindset shift to realize this. That's why it's lonely at the top. You'll realize this soon on your way.

You eventually get to the top like other men you admire and look up to just after you decided to rise above petty distractions.

But when you do make it to the top, remember how hard it was for you. Those moment of shame, sleepless nights and invisible tears

You wouldn't want other men to face it like you did. Sure you owe them nothing and to each, his own.
But remember what I said earlier: Because the journey was tough at the beginning doesn't mean it will be smooth sailing foward. Some never even know they've reached their end because they expected rainbows at the end but only got violent rainfalls.
That's because some people never rise above their distractions; some expected ends never come for some people.


Pick some young men with the fire in their hearts to excel and mentor them without any paper price tag attached. The form of currency your new mentees would pay and you would only accept is THEIR ATTENTION to what you teach...paying it even to the little details you freely give: How you navigated through life and your life lessons learnt. That's the shortcut in Life https://www.nairaland.com/7930232/shortcut-life-immortality-through-alphabets

and if you ever find out they don't pay enough, a second chance should be given. If exhausted, you drop and replace them.

and the process continues. Your legacy will continue to live on in the hearts of the people whose spark you help ignite.

Because it was hard for you doesn't mean it has to be hard for others. and that right there fellas is how you break the Cycle



As you were.

The part about seeking escape from your life is so accurate, you try to dig out by immersing yourself in pleasure but even that makes things worse.

Very useless post

'Every high comes with a corresponding low and the higher the high, the LOWER the low till you've sunken'

ReacherSaidNoth:
The part about seeking escape from your life is so accurate, you try to dig out by immersing yourself in pleasure but even that makes things worse.