to all the married people in the house please.
i want to make a very important decision, that of marriage. there is this guy that we once dated back like 4yrs ago before we parted ways, and now he is coming back to ask me to marry him. i know he loves me so much, much more than the way i love him cos there is this other guy i love but he is not just saying anything. am hoping one day this other guy will say sometyn( as per ask me to marry him). should i just wait till he does that or should i go ahead and accept the proposal of the first. now to those of are married (females), do u prefare to marry a guy that loves u so much and u love less or to marry a guy u love so much but love u less.
sincere opinion / advise only please.

How old is your present relationship?

Have your present guy ever talked marriage with you,where is the relationship heading?

What led to the break-up with your ex?

How old are you and both guys?

To answer your question,IMO it's safer to marry the one who loves you more than you do.

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I think I have another opinion here, based on years of experience.
You need to know that men are hunters and as long as they do not have you in their net you might be of the impression that he loves you more.
Also men fall faster in love than women but they also fall faster out of love. - exclude infatuation that a woman might have at the start.
When you want to marry man I would therefore not use this factor as the utmost criteria.
It is very important for a woman to study the man she wishes to make her partner. How those this man relate to other people- his family, friends, strangers. If he is a man with a good character and nature and also highly principled you can be sure the marriage is more likely to succeed. This is because in marriage one has emotional phases being in and out of love. However a good man will always handle with compassion and decency and treat his wife well. He would consider the family and do everything to keep his home intact even in difficult times.
When you have a good man and go through ups and downs and have children together real love grows. It creeps in slow and steady and one day you realise that you not only have a husband but a father, a brother, a friend and companion all in one.
I pray that you make the right decision. Put in in prayer and seek advise from your parents , they have more experience.

I really appreciate all ur advises. @ mutter thanks so much, but at times its very hard to close one's eyes to things like emotion/love. they both have different temperaments and ways of relating with people and i think i can cope with both (most especially the second). but i hear marriage is different from relationship so i cant really trust my judgement on that. thanks so much anyway.

As for the age, all parties involve are of age to get marriage, and circumstances that led to the first breakup was basically insecurity. he didnt trust moi then, but now he said he has realized his mistakes and knows better now.