Ifymma: I want to share this with you and probably hear your opinion. My husband buys me virtually everything i want including my children, we lack nothing in terms clothing. In terms of foodstuff he buys bag of rice before the old one finishes he has purchase and other one, but provision and everything in the house he provides all for us. He always tells me he loves me But each time i do any little thing to offend him he always gets annoyed and at times beats me and send me out of the house, this makes me hate him because i feel he don't love. Please let me know (Do he really love[color=#990000][/color] me?)

Ifymma: I want to share this with you and probably hear your opinion. My husband buys me virtually everything i want including my children, we lack nothing in terms clothing. In terms of foodstuff he buys bag of rice before the old one finishes he has purchase and other one, but provision and everything in the house he provides all for us. He always tells me he loves me But each time i do any little thing to offend him he always gets annoyed and at times beats me and send me out of the house, this makes me hate him because i feel he don't love. Please let me know (Do he really love[color=#990000][/color] me?)

taryour:


do u tok back at ur husband when he is angry? Do u take to corections wen he corects u or u keep repeting d same thing? Does he drink or smoke? Wot are dose things u do to make him beat u and send him out of d house?do u prepare his food on time? Do u nag?do u deny him sex? So many questions to answer and so many reasons to make him beat u, u can always avoid his anger to d point of him beating u.

taryour:


do u tok back at ur husband when he is angry? Do u take to corections wen he corects u or u keep repeting d same thing? Does he drink or smoke? Wot are dose things u do to make him beat u and send him out of d house?do u prepare his food on time? Do u nag?do u deny him sex? [size=16pt]So many questions to answer and so many reasons to make him beat u[/size], u can always avoid his anger to d point of him beating u.

ifyalways: @OP,what are the "little things" you do that leads to the fight?When he beats and drives you out,where do you sleep or stay until he comes for you?

I don't have an answer to wether he loves you or not as love means different things to different folks(its relative) but i suggest you start by :

Curtailing or minimizing whatever it is that leads to the arguments or fights.You can use another approach/method to tackle whatever it is.

Sit your husband down and tell him you wont have him hit you again.He should talk to you as his wife,an adult when there is an argument and not resort to using his fists.

If there are no changes,you might have to consider counselling.The most important thing is this,you have but one life hence don't hesistate to remove yourself and kids from a dangerous situation first,albeit temporal if things escalates till you find a lasting solution.

jennykadry: Hehehehehehe. So denying him food, sex or talking back at him is enough to make a man beat up his wife and throw her out of the house? Did some of you's say you are married sef, or are you people just mentally retaaarded?

Help me understand please help me.

taryour:


GOD BLESS U IFY... Excatly wot i am saying befor they decided to crusify taryour.

I asked d op some question n she is yet to reply. I DO NOT SOPPORT A MAN WHO BEATS A WOMAN.

@op. Y not look into those things u do to get him so angry so u can prevent dem from hapening againg. Ur man will not just come into d house and start beating u and trowing u out for no reasons... I av not in anyway in my above post said ur husband was right to beat u or send u parking.. Look ino ur own flaws first,correct dem and if d beating dosnt stop then u take a futher step into bringing peace back into ur home.

naijababe: Would men who are quick to beat their wives be just as quick to use their fist if they were to have an argument with an 'area boy'? Just thinking out loud is all o

ifegy:

There is[b] never[/b] any justification for wife-beating. You do not need to "correct your flaws" to try to stop the beating because the beating should not be taking place, in the first place.

OP, a man who beats you does not love you or respect you. Getting beaten is never your fault. Please get some outside help, fast. Your life is at stake.

cotton101: what the heck is the offense - for crying out loud this nonsense of justifying domestic violence has got to stop, "correct character flaws" the last perfect human ever made was Jesus Christ so unless all the wife beaters are the 2nd coming of christ please show me who is perfect.

as a former victim of a mad man, I can tell u that a wife does not need to misbehave to get a slap or beating. my daughter who is lying here next to me would not be here if I stayed in my marriage and listened to all this useless advice some people are giving here.

honestly to wake up everyday praying to God that ur husband doesn't beat u over any little "offence" is not life. marriage is not only about endurance and the sooner this message is drilled into people's heads the better, my parents enjoyed their marriage and I saw my father (God rest his soul) treat my mum like a queen so this nonsense that people are spilling here is making my blood boil.

MRbrownJAY: ^^^ there is ONE justification for beating your wife: if she has the audacity to raise her hands on you and disrespect you like that. if a woman thinks it is ok FOR HER to do such act, then she should expect NO LESS from her man.

the OP OBVIOUSLY doesnt love her man, because if she did, she wouldnt willingly do stuff that she knows "offend him". love would have her not do these things, SIMPLY because she would know that it would offend the person she "supposedly" loves....... and if she MUST do these things, then they are not made for one another and she should simply leave.

ifegy: There is no justification for spousal abuse, whether it be wife-beating or husband-beating; none whatsoever.