Most people who get married, truly want their marriage to succeed; unfortunately, not everyone does the things necessary to make sure it does. This article with ten reasonable tips on how to be a good husband, is for the male half of a marriage.

1 - Be true. Being true to your spouse means more than simply being faithful, it also means keeping her as the number one person or thing in your life. It means backing her up when she needs it and being the one person she can truly count on no matter what.

2 - Be there. Be with her in mind, body and spirit. Be around. Come home after work, do things with her in the evenings and on weekends. Be her friend. Jut be there to be with her.

3 - Share. Sometimes as time passes, couples begin to drift apart. This is because they stop sharing with one another. Share your life with her, your stories. Share you love of things and your heart. Share your time and your problems. In short, share everything with her.

4 - Be respectful. Don't yell at her. Don't call her names. Don't demean her. Say please and thank you. Open the door for her. Get things for her without asking. These are things guys do to show they love someone. If you don't do them, she's likely to think you don't.

5 - Care. If you want to be a good husband, you have to care about your marriage, and your wife. You have to remind yourself you care when angry or depressed. Show her you care by doing things like holding her when she's down, or buying her a small special gift for no reason. Look at her like you care about her. Tell her.

6 - Go out of your way. Like any good relationship, sometimes you have to go out of your way to do things for the other. Like pick something up at the store without complaining; or talking to her mother, just because it would make her happy. Sometimes you have to keep your mouth closed when you'd rather not. Or say things to back her up you really don't mean. The point is, being a good husband means that sometimes you'll have to go out of your way simply because you love the girl.

7 - Be patient and understanding. Surely everyone could be more patient and understanding, especially with people they love. This is doubly so for people who are married, if for no better reason than because you'll still be there after whatever caused the stress in your household blows over. And well, because you love her, right?

8 - Demonstrate. It's not enough to tell your wife you love her, or to buy her a card now and then. If you truly love your wife, and want to be a good husband, you have to do things periodically to show it. Things like surprise her with stuff she likes. Or things like hugging and kissing her even if it won't lead to sex. Do things that mean something to just the two of you. And remember, once in a blue moon is not enough. You need to do something demonstrative pretty much every day.

9 - Listen. When she talks, listen. It's not that hard. Hear her voice, pay attention to the words. Follow what she is saying. This is what she needs. Also, watch and listen for subtle stuff. She may need or want something but is hesitant to speak about it. Or she may not understand it herself. Listen anyway.

10 - Be open. She may have ideas or opinions you might not want to hear. Try to be open anyway. This doesn't mean you have to agree with everything she says, but it does mean you don't have to argue with her.

These ten reasonable tips on how to be a good husband can and probably should be considered by any man who is married or is likely to be any time soon. If you are in this group, I hope some of these tips can help you be a better husband. Good luck.

seriuisly this are Ten reasonable tips on How to Be a Good Husband.

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duke smith: Most people who get married, truly want their marriage to succeed; unfortunately, not everyone does the things necessary to make sure it does.

Unfortunately as long as we have social networking going on, marriage/relationships are no longer solid and many cant be bothered to make it work. Forget about your reasonable tips, they aint listening to ya, not even if you used a mega phone to put your message across.

Old-Hag:


Unfortunately as long as we have social networking going on, marriage/relationships are no longer solid and many cant be bothered to make it work. Forget about your reasonable tips, they aint listening to ya, not even if you used a mega phone to put your message across.

And not to mention; more and more women are not depending on financials through their husband to survive.
Many women would earlier stay in abusive and loveless marriages because they depended on their spouse. Not anymore.

It is a good and a bad thing. The social life of today makes people always want something bigger, better, newer, stronger..if something doesnt work, you can always get a new one.
People dont fight fr their marriage like they used to do. You know you can always find a new one. People see the movies, and think that love is always on cloud nine, that you should never fight an compromise, and that if it doesnt work, you can just move on.

In my views; the western culture can learn much from african culture when it comes to both marriage and raising kids. In my culture, north in Norway, many things regarding morals and ethics is much like the african culture I have gotten to know. Down south in Norway, its a whooole other story..

Thanks a lot@OP.we don suffer 4 dr hands.if I don't observe these 10 in him,I quit

Mynd_44: Bla bla bla

are you always this paranoid?

@OP. good job!

Old-Hag:


Unfortunately as long as we have social networking going on, marriage/relationships are no longer solid and many cant be bothered to make it work. Forget about your reasonable tips, they aint listening to ya, not even if you used a mega phone to put your message across.

so true

Which is why I shake my head 4 d married women amongst our midst who
Simply have no life than sittin all day and nairalanding
Some has even forgotten they need 2 make kids too
Look at - dat married disgunted witch all she does is
Sit back and nairaland and follow 190 arund
Smh such a bright future awaits her, some men я already tired soon
U wud see sumone like her crying Nairaland scattered my marriiage

Kmt