I dont know on which side of the divide i stand, disciplined or cold hearted. I have this young, beautiful and attractive lady, a graduate, homely and with good moral upbringing, just the kind of girl i would like to have, but i dont seem to share her feelings. We are very good friends and i mean best of friends but i dont want to take it any further than that.
Once she collected my resume to help me in search of a job, and she has never asked me for a dime, instead she's been very supportive and believes so much in me. She is a christian but not yet bornagain, and I am, but worst still is that i love her, but not enough to statrt up a romance with her. Am i cruel or disciplined?
Pls what would you do if you were in my shoes?Reply urgently.

I think the best thing u can do for u both is to let her know how u feel about her. Tell her how much u appreciate ur frienship and all that n let her know she doesnt exactly have the place of a wife to be in ur heart. She definitely would feel hurt but its better now than when its too late i.e. when she gets to find out by herself. You in turn might lose some of her loyalty dependin on how she takes your openeness but she'll be better for it.

Tnx Sayoh,
I really do appreciate ur concern on this issue . I ve pondered on what u said and i'll try to do just that. Thanks once again, I wish you all the best.

U aint cruel or disciplined, looks to me as if U're just scared of giving Out U heart to a gurl but a man's gotta take chances

christian but not yet born again , you say you "love" her but not enough to start "what is romance" with her. So much confusion, you just walk up to her and tell her straight up thats if you can come up with the words.

Hey Tonn.I think u should move this topic to "Romance" or something, abeg.

@Tonn,
Why you r confused is because there's a conflict of interest between your Heart and Your Head.

In Love, You move with Your Heart and Not Your Head. Follow Your Heart and Not Your Head.

It Works.


And By the Way, ADMINISTRATOR, whats this thread doin' on Religion? It should be under ROMANCE.

THANX