An insight into the mind and make-up of the opposite sex can be an invaluable tool, especially in relationships. As with most things, the subject of what men really want from women has been the topic of many debates, and quite a few arguments!

I am sure that many of you have heard a guy say something along the lines of, "I would sleep with her, but would marry her (another woman)." Well, what does that actually mean? It means that, when it comes to relationships, a guy has two main focuses: sex and companionship. The ideal woman, therefore, would satisfy both!

With regards to sex, contrary to popular belief, it is not looks that drives a man wild, it's attitude. He wants a woman to captivate his imagination. Someone that oozes confidence in every way: the way she walks, talks, dresses and looks. He wants a woman that, while she holds herself with class, also protrays that she wants him as much as he wants her. He wants someone that will play with his emotions sexually, someone that will tease him, force him to chase her and yet will also allow him to capture her, a little bit at a time :-)

On the other hand, he also, more than anything, wants a soulmate and a friend. Someone who is loving, caring, affectionate and tender. Someone he can talk to and also have fun with. He wants someone that will love him unconditionally. someone who is there for him when he needs her, yet also someone who he can be there for too.

He is looking for a best friend that will laugh at his jokes, no matter how dumb they are. Someone that will take an interest in the things he likes, even sports. Someone that will not try to change him, yet at the same time will help him to improve and grow where it is needed. He wants someone that will trust, respect and admire him, despite all his faults. His ideal partner will focus on his good qualities more than they criticize his faults.

c'mon guys and gurls , . .
lets here your opinions!

@Mukina2 U seem to know alot about men? So how are u prepared to meet this task? More often than not, it's not knowing what we want only that matters but being what we want. Most women think that sex is all a guy wants from a lady, but sex drive will soon die where there's no attitude (right) or ambition. Imagine having sex with a dumb ass hole all your life, what can be more frustrating?
Anyway, let's hear the fellas in da house.

i should know as much as i want about men cuz i'll have to end up with one sir!

as long as it takes me i'll complete it cuz more men do interesting things each day

regards to sex all men desire sex but few ever marry their sexual partner

@poster
Nice topic, wonderful ideas. U have done a good job analysing it and putting in writing.

@ Mukina2 Ever wondered why men seldom marry their sex partner? The sacred truth is that men are not looking for whores when it comes to wife. The man's ego is not massage by how much expertise and knowledge of sex the wife demostrates, he always wants to be the champion. Infact, he derives his satisfaction by her satisfaction, little wonder then he feels threatened when she outwits him sexually. The man is quite complex in this regard, he loves good sex yet he's afraid of being beaten in the game by his wife. Call in insecurity but with good reason. The truth is; anything that does not massage his ego must be kept at arm's lenght, take it or leave it but be wise.

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again?

@whitelexi again

Jaguar1:

@ Mukina2 Ever wondered why men seldom marry their sex partner? The sacred truth is that men are not looking for whores when it comes to wife.

so the ones they sleep with as they feel like and want to are the whores right?
most of you guys make fake promises to the woman you sleep with and at the end of the day end up marrying another
is that right?



@whitelexi again what

Jaguar1:

@whitelexi again

Mukina2 Again

what did i do now?

iice:

The want a respectable woman in public and a freak in the bedroom

thats it . . . . .

mukina2:

what did i do now?

u argue a lot

whitelexi:

u argue a lot

leave me alone oo
i am a woman and i will always fight for my own 60%

When it comes to relationship, men want someone they can possess and lay claim on, same with marriage. Its got to do with attitude and physical attraction. I remember a friend in school that left a beauty queen that was dying to date him to another girl less sophisticated why because he wants to be in charge. He wants someone to always answer when he calls. He detests competition and if you ask me, i would say that is what all men want.

HINT: I love my girl because she doesnt enjoy sex and obviously anti-guys At least in that i'm insured she would never cheat on me

naija4life:

HINT: I love my girl because she doesnt enjoy sex and obviously hates guys At least in that i'm insured she would never cheat on me

why is she with you then?

She's with me cos am the only one she can hang out with comfortably but that doesnt mean she loves me, she respects and adores me. mind you, she's muslim and am a christian and we've been together for over 2 years

naija4life:

She's with me because am the only one she can hang out with comfortably but that doesnt mean she loves me, she respects and adores me. mind you, she's muslim and am a christian and we've been together for over 2 years

well thats cool but maybe you should rephrase because if she's anti-guy she wont date you . . . .cuz thats my motto anti-guy

i wish you guys well and hope you get married

@mukina, thanks so much, she's all out for going da whole way except her parents must consent and we don't see much of that happening, eemmhh soon. In any case, you never can tell, miracles still happen

if you ant to marry her then her parents must consent and they might ask you to convert

mukina2:

if you ant to marry her then her parents must consent and they might ask you to convert

Yeah mukina, dats wat she said but went ahead to point out that one of her aunts in US married a xtian and the parents disowned her but later reconciled after 2 years. Don't know wats she's trying to pass across wit dat info

In my case, it would be very difficult as am an only boy in a family of devout christians, wat a dilemma , maybe i should make this a separate topic

HINT: I love my girl because she doesnt enjoy sex and obviously hates guys At least in that i'm insured she would never cheat on me

she doesn't enjoy sex or doesn't enjoy it with u?
I'm not so certain what other men want, but what i want?,
The minimum physical requirement is that she's able to turn-on my switches without effort (even though i'm not one for sex befre marriage, i'm one whose looking 4wrd to it). Mentally, she has to be able to match my level of conversing and reasoning or at least find a way around it quite effortlessly. Emotionally stable; while i understand the emotional needs of women and always look 4wrd to holdin up my woman, she'll suck me dry if she's an emotional pest. there are other social, and other requirements. The most important is that, we MUST share the same FAITH, not just religion but FAITH. Ok, so now i've stripped myself and i feel naked enough to stop, right here!!!

@ghengis, meant to say anti-guy, not that she hates guys, and yes i really understand all y've said and wat more can i add, I Just Love Her

whats the difference btw anti-guy and hating guys? anti-virus hates viruses, anti-spyware hates spyware, anti-malaria hates malaria

I am sure that many of you have heard a guy say something along the lines of, "I would sleep with her, but would marry her (another woman)." Well, what does that actually mean? It means that, when it comes to relationships, a guy has two main focuses: sex and companionship. The ideal woman, therefore, would satisfy both!

u r partly very right, but companionship is very much available from my male friends

@whitelexi waht dont you understand?
anti-guy= hating guys.

mukina2:

@whitelexi waht don't you understand?
anti-guy= hating guys.

Then, how can anti-guy date guy

that was exactly what i asked naija4life . , . . . . .
but anti-guys like me hates guys so i know wahat it means