Hey guys, today is Sunday and I think I have plenty of free time, so this very topic hit my head and I felt like sharing my opinion and setting the record straight.

You know it is common for us as guys to criticize and condemn ladies for not liking broke guys and not giving them a chance of date or relationship or even marriage. As the people on the receiving end, we guys deserve to be mad at ladies for acting that way because of course, the wish of virtually every man is to get any woman he desires to say yes to him instantly without a blink of an eye, which is part of the reasons why majority of men strive to be rich, famous and stylish; to get all women to love him and want him, most guys won't want to admit this truth though lol

As a guy, have you ever sat down and wondered if the roles were reversed and it was the ladies that are meant to approach guys for a date, romance, sex, marriage, etc, be honest with yourself, would u accept to date a haggard looking, malnourished, flat ass, flat boobs thin lady that just saw you on the road and says hi, please can we go out I like you

I am sure 99.99% of guys won't accept her, so why do we scream when ladies turn down broke guys

You know, these things are natural; as nature made it, the major things majority of men consider in a lady before they approach her for romance, date, etc is sex appeal; it maybe because she has big backside and frontages, maybe because she has this sexy full legs and thighs, maybe because she has this gorgeous lips, or superb flat tummy or her voice or even her hair. Whatever drives your sex appeal. These are what men consider first before hitting on a lady even before they start to consider what she does, where she comes from, and her character.

Also, it is naturally embedded in women to consider protection and provision as first quality in a man before they say yes to you for either a fling, a date, a relationship or marriage. It didn't start now, it started even before our forefathers were born. This is the singular reason you see supermodels, super hot and classy women date and marry ugly rich men. We have examples of these if we look around us. In fact, most beautiful women end up marrying ugly rich or financially stable men, not because these women are crazy but because these women are being women by nature.

Naturally, women consider provision and protection first before a man's good looks. A man's good looks is irrelevant to majority of women all over the world. It is the media world and entertainment world that's trying hard to paint otherwise and even try to coerce women into changing their priority from provision and protection to six packs, muscular, etc. It is not what women first consider in a man, it is the man's pocket size and personality that matters most to most women.

If your mom could be honest with you, ask her she must have considered your dad's job, business, handwork, family background, etc before she agreed to marry him. Funny enough, back then, some women married a man that came from a family that owns plenty lands for farming. This was considered as wealth back then. The more farmlands and cash crops and plants a man had back then, the more women considered him for marriage. Some consider the man's yam barn, number of goats, sheep, in fact livestock.

Instead of castigating these ladies for seeking for the best to secure and protect their future and that of their unborn kids, I think it will be better for us as guys to double our efforts, work hard, add smartness, pray and be consistent and diligent in our daily life activities towards becoming the best that most ladies desire so that it won't be hard for us to find partners; either for flings, dates, hang out, relationship or marriage.

I am saying this because if the role were to be reversed, most guys screaming fowlplay won't accept a lady with flat bombom and flat boobs no matter how the lady begs them.

To the guys that might feel bad about this write up, please its my personal opinion, and remember, I am a guy too. I will share a story to encourage every struggling guy here never to give up.

Now to the ladies, in as much as I try to excuse you guys from being blamed of turning down broke guys and disliking broke men generally, let me also tell you ladies this truth.

Some broke guys you see today are walking millionaires and billionaires, I speak from life experience. Only time can decide the future of any man or woman or even a nation. Time changes everything.

I know it is not easy to decipher a guy with great potential from one with gloomy future, and that is where you as a lady that believe in God need spiritual guidance in your choice of suitors or even dating partners. Remember, not all dates or relationship must lead to marriage but a healthy relationship can shape your future for good and position you for greatness even if it doesn't end with marriage for any reason whatsoever.

We all are sinners before God, so don't think your own sin is the biggest to stop you from asking God for divine guide in making choice of partners from the day guys start approaching you for dates.

I will share two personal life stories to back up my position on this.

Some years back, a friend of mine who relocated to US via visa lottery came back home, and as my childhood friend, I was the only guy he rolls with comfortably till date. So he was coming back for Xmas for the first time, we had no girlfriends, we understood our financial situations then after nysc and respected ourselves by not trying to force any lady to date us, sadly.

But by the time he returned back from US, he was better off, and better off than me too, financially of course. He told me about ladies he met on Facebook, whom they agreed to meet in person when he returns back to Nigeria.

So there was this girl he met, she was super cute, in fact hot. We laughed the day he showed me her pic before they met. We knew if he were still in Nigeria struggling, such girl will never accept to date him. They hooked up, had fun, started unofficial dating until he went back to US but kept talking before they lost contact I think the lady got tired of him not being ready to come marry her and she kind of backed out.

I am trying to fast forward.

Finally, this lady one way or the other found her way to get a USA visiting visa, she called my friend few days to her departure, he was happy for her but then, he was engaged to marry another lady in Nigeria.

He welcomed her after she arrived US and the person that was meant to welcome her; her female friend or so disappointed, giving flimsy excuses. My friend welcomed her, housed her for 1yr plus and even helped her get legal, and she is now a legal US resident waiting for her citizenship. So ladies not all dates must lead to marriage but be nice and always leave every relationship with good image for future sake. Same is applicable to guys.

My second story is about ladies being able to see potential in broke guys, stay tuned.

your opinion is duly noted.

As for me, no man deserves to date a broke girl too. let each sex work for their own money. simple!

op are you saying that true love doesn't exist?

My second story is a true life story about a close friend.

Some years back, I had a friend who was managing a low paid job but out of his own personal extra legal hustles, he managed to make some side income and bought a car, he loved to work in the house of God but he had one major challenge; he has this high libido of a thing that makes him crave for sex often and despite the fact that he was struggling to be close to God, this same issue of sexual immortality keep dragging him back in his spiritual life, so he decided that the only way out was to married even though his job was not that stable or good paying.

He confides in me, so he shared his life ordeal with me and even jokingly said one day that he wished he was like me, that it would take him decades to even marry, we laughed over it as usual.

So he saw this gorgeous looking and amazing sister in his Church and fell for her, he told me about it; me I kind of tried to discourage him for the fact that I am not a fan of going after ladies in my Church, I see Church as a place to worship God only and go, and not a place to go looking for dates or romance; I maybe wrong but that's my belief.

He was adamant, but the problem is, this lady is cute and may not accept him. I even told him jokingly one day that such ladies are waiting for rich guys, he said that who told me, I laughed that most pretty ladies in Church are there to pray for rich husbands to come na, we laughed.

The challenge was how to approach this lady because if she says no, men, that's going to be devastating because it may lead to him changing Church thereafter.

Gradually, he got my information about the Lady; she is from kind of an averagely rich family, which made the whole situation impossible by my own assumption then lol.

I told him to forget her to avoid disgrace and humiliation that will come with the rejection, but my friend won't listen to me, some guys get liver sha lol, I wished I had such liver in wooing ladies lol

To cut the long story short, he finally approached her and told her point blank that his inner spirit told him that they would make happy couple, and that was the only thing he told her and left, she laughed and walked away too.

After two weeks, he approached her again and asked for her number....

chiommy123:
op are you saying that true love doesn't exist?

my sister I never said true love does not exist, but let's be honest and realistic, something must inspire the love. Something must trigger the love; whether true or fake

teewhydope:
your opinion is duly noted.

As for me, no man deserves to date a broke girl too. let each sex work for their own money. simple!

you are right, but that depends on the man involved. To some men, all they need from a lady is good looks, home keeping skill, ability to procreate and respect them. While some men want financial helpmate, so its individual based based on value perception

Hmmm....

I really don't want to see the objective of your post as I for one hold the opinion that one should only get married for 2 reasons : a) children ;b) citizenship .

However for those of you who want to get to married ...I wonder when you say " a broke man should not marry or date a woman " - that statement first of connotes two things in my mind . Times occur when one is often broke ...so in other words doesn't that denote that during this time your partner shouldn't stand by you but rather let her hypergamy take precedence .

Well I don't have to worry about that anymore .

As for the OP ask yourself one question who's always flush with cash from birth to death ?

Your topic alone only serves to prove that one should not get married unless you are willing to accept the probabilities and consequences of reality .

The truth is I will not let any girl come and suffer with me. But it's easy to tell a gold digger. I can sniff them from a distance.

Since I am a BROKE guy

I have decided to be single

I will not permit any of my sisters to date a broke guy

lol

tobianthony:
Hmmm....

I really don't want to see the objective of your post as I for one hold the opinion that one should only get married for 2 reasons : a) children ;b) citizenship .

However for those of you who want to get to married ...I wonder when you say " a broke man should not marry or date a woman " - that statement first of connotes two things in my mind . Times occur when one is often broke ...so in other words doesn't that denote that during this time your partner shouldn't stand by you but rather let her hypergamy take precedence .

Well I don't have to worry about that anymore .

As for the OP ask yourself one question who's always flush with cash from birth to death ?

Your topic alone only serves to prove that one should not get married unless you are willing to accept the probabilities and consequences of reality .

I don't think u understood my writeup bro. Pls read it again.

Even in the Bible, God created Adam first and made Adam to be in charge of a large garden that contained everything he needed. He was lonely and God saw his loneliness and pitied him and saw the need to make him a helpmate and for companionship.

A man should be a able to feed himself properly and be able to feed at least 2 extra mouth comfortably before he thinks of getting married, that's if we are to be rational in thinking. Would u be happy to give your daughter out in marriage to a broke guy without direction We all want the best in life and also want the best for our loved ones.

Dating is different, a lady can date a broke guy with ambition and direction but marriage should be for a man truly ready to take care of family responsibilities without calling for help here and there because as the world population continue to explode, things will become more and more difficult all over the world.

Lastly, I never said ladies should not date broke guys, read my words again and I am not Bill Gates myself, so u see

boiz2men:
The truth is I will not let any girl come and suffer with me. But it's easy to tell a gold digger. I can sniff them from a distance.

Since I am a BROKE guy

I have decided to be single

I will not permit any of my sisters to date a broke guy

lol

franchasng:
my sister I never said true love does not exist, but let's be honest and realistic, something must inspire the love. Something must trigger the love; whether true or fake

when its material things then its not true love

chiommy123:
when its material things then its not true love

okay.

So to you, what should be the catalyst for so called true love Be honest and realistic searching your inner heart as u answer, thanks

franchasng:
okay.

So to you, what should be the catalyst for so called true love Be honest and realistic searching your inner heart as u answer, thanks

it shouldn't be about how rich the person is but could be how honest truthful God fearing, passion for the things of God, sense of reasoning, etc

chiommy123:
it shouldn't be about how rich the person is but could be how honest truthful God fearing, passion for the things of God, sense of reasoning, etc

hmm, for real By who Hard to believe sha

franchasng:
Hey guys, today is Sunday and I think I have plenty of free time, so this very topic hit my head and I felt like sharing my opinion and setting the record straight.
As a guy, have you ever sat down and wondered if the roles were reversed and it was the ladies that are meant to approach guys for a date, romance, sex, marriage, etc, be honest with yourself, would u accept to date a haggard looking, malnourished, flat ass, flat boobs thin lady that just saw you on the road and says hi, please can we go out I like you
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Op this is d kind of thought that breeds arrogance, self center egotistical men.
Men this days are not interested in building character, they believe it's a woman's thing. Money or no money if you have character you can attract the best of women. Money is good but not the ultimate, it shouldn't be a source of attraction because things can change in a flash. I have seen rich men without common sense all they have is money nothing else to offer, once you take out the money they are empty.
Wat happens when you meet a richer woman what happens? Low self esteem sets in because all they have to offer is money and the lady has it so they are entirely useless.
Every one should work hard both parties and always develop your self and character because what makes a person is not what they have but the value one can add to anyone they come in contact with.

franchasng:
hmm, for real By who Hard to believe sha

Bro it doesn't have to be all about money that's why they always use some of them for their money rituals

chiommy123:
when its material things then its not true love

You're right.

I won't marry a broke man. Have a nice day.

chiommy123:
op are you saying that true love doesn't exist?

Actually.

@OP, this is thoughtful and well written.

ferrari45:

Op this is d kind of thought that breeds arrogance, self center egotistical men.
Men this days are not interested in building character, they believe it's a woman's thing. Money or no money if you have character you can attract the best of women. Money is good but not the ultimate, it shouldn't be a source of attraction because things can change in a flash. I have seen rich men without common sense all they have is money nothing else to offer, once you take out the money they are empty.
Wat happens when you meet a richer woman what happens? Low self esteem sets in because all they have to offer is money and the lady has it so they are entirely useless.
Every one should work hard both parties and always develop your self and character because what makes a person is not what they have but the value one can add to anyone they come in contact with.

A very respectable comment. I do not think the OP is suggesting that men should focus solely on money and neglect every other aspect of their development though. Of the many issues that affect human relationships, the OP decided to pick one issue and address it in detail. Your remarks about character development are spot on, but do not necessarily invalidate the OP's points. Financial success and character development are not mutually exclusive. Actually, you have made the discussion richer overall by providing additional food for thought.

Colourich:
I won't marry a broke man. Have a nice day.

I respect your right to your choices. Would only like to see that you have a healthy dose of realism while making choices.

If you mean you can't marry a habitually broke man, that makes sense. There's already too much poverty in this country. There's no need to bring in children to the world to join in the suffering.

If you view all men who are not rich as broke, then you need to give your views more thought. A woman could define a broke man as someone who can't provide a reasonably comfortable (not luxurious) living for himself and two other people, and define a rich man as someone who is well to do enough to provide a comfortable life for at least five different families of four, or a luxurious life for at least one family of four. With these definitions, there is clearly a lot of different financial strata between the broke band and the rich band. Everyone who is not rich is not necessarily broke. So have you thought of your own definitions?

Meanwhile, you should know than in real life, even people who are legimately rich can encounter circumstances that make them broke from time to time. It's not always a rosy ride.

Colourich:
I won't marry a broke man. Have a nice day.

I agree with u on the fact u said “marry” because marriage is a responsibility that requires good planning. However I will say a broke man or being broke is not a curse or smtn to be scared of unless ure just lazy urself. A broke man mentality is...

Op tried awhole lot to make sense and be logical bt failed. The fact that men used wealth to charm ladies and marry wives in the past doesn’t mean it was the best or happiest marriages. Most marriage based on the op model or line of thought were mostly polygamous or abusive to the women.

A woman’s value isn’t in her body only. If I use just my money to get u because of ur so called sexy body which I’m sure there are gals with sexier bodies, I reserve the right to get other sexier gals with that same money. U digg?

Is this a TERM PAPER ?

Or This Day article?

Naughtysite:
Is this a TERM PAPER ?

Or This Day article?

i wonder oo.