xendra:
now you are trying to be an ingrate, you are not even shameful enough that a woman is catering for you, you now want to prove a man to your family with her money. SMH! tell them you don't have money and stop adding to the woman's stress.

Hotworta1:
My dear your wife is stressed. Try and double your hustle you too. If your wife has really achieved this much and has been very supportive from your narration indeed she's a wife material.

Pls try and get an additional income biko...the situation of the country presently isn't something for someone to just be lazy or dependent on one source of income.


Pls reason with her biko

chinchonglee:
Hw is she d one catering for u wen u earn 60k monthly..

Wetin u dey use ur 60k do?


Wen i said i rather remain single for life dan get married wit a 60k income u pple thought i woz joking baa.

ImaIma1:
When someone says marrying on that kind of salary is not advisable, they will say we are materialistic.

Imagine if a child is involved. You will know that it's not about being prudent or being a wife material.

Meanwhile, on this forum, a guy has been urged on to get married on a 40k salary. You guys should tell yourself the truth and stop hiding under "a good woman will manage"

This is real life, real expenses.

emerald16:
My wife has been really helpful from when we started dating, she has actually taken me from grass to grace and helped me from a self contained to a 3bedroom flat. She has been helping with house expenses for over a year now, I do work but my salary is very small, just around 60k.

She is into business which flourished so much but it's a little down for now. She helped made our marriage possible by contributing far more than i. She is every woman's dream and is even poised to help me secure a better job and a side business.

I have also contributed my part in helping her grow her business though not financially but through technical support, expert advice and more as she just started her business the very month we started dating but though in a small way with very little capital.

I feel I have over burdened her with my own problem and she is carrying way too much on her shoulders cos her parents and siblings are also depending on her.
I felt a pinch of her frustration when I asked her if she could help transfer a little sum of 200 naira to me for airtime, she was about doing it when I told her I actually wanted to send the amount as airtime to my dad,then she flared up saying she will take care of me, herself and even my parents! I felt bad and terrible cos I rarely ask her for money to send to my people except on very rare occasions which are but a few.

I kept mute and didn't feel like talking to her and we haven't exchanged a proper conversation since last night when it happened.

What do I do? Even when I try to initiate a conversation, she doesn't seem interested

emerald16:
My wife has been really helpful from when we started dating, she has actually taken me from grass to grace and helped me from a self contained to a 3bedroom flat. She has been helping with house expenses for over a year now, I do work but my salary is very small, just around 60k.

She is into business which flourished so much but it's a little down for now. She helped made our marriage possible by contributing far more than i. She is every woman's dream and is even poised to help me secure a better job and a side business.

I have also contributed my part in helping her grow her business though not financially but through technical support, expert advice and more as she just started her business the very month we started dating but though in a small way with very little capital.

I feel I have over burdened her with my own problem and she is carrying way too much on her shoulders cos her parents and siblings are also depending on her.
I felt a pinch of her frustration when I asked her if she could help transfer a little sum of 200 naira to me for airtime, she was about doing it when I told her I actually wanted to send the amount as airtime to my dad,then she flared up saying she will take care of me, herself and even my parents! I felt bad and terrible cos I rarely ask her for money to send to my people except on very rare occasions which are but a few.

I kept mute and didn't feel like talking to her and we haven't exchanged a proper conversation since last night when it happened.

What do I do? Even when I try to initiate a conversation, she doesn't seem interested

ImaIma1:


In other words, a guy earning 20k without any other source of income can get married and manage the small amount so that he will be able to handle a bigger amount?

The guys that earn 200k and still misuse it are either living above their means or cannot handle money. That is another story.

SageMK:
Guy, you know what to do. She's your wife dammit!

If you need public opinion on how to tackle malice then you have no business getting married in the first place.

Acidosis:


He should do blood money na abi. You folks should stop putting baseless pressures on the young man with the double your hustle talk. What if he's not educationally qualified to double that hustle? What is he going to do? He could be a civil servant with no room for side hustles. Best he could do is wait patiently for promotion or improved minimum wage.



@OP, your problem started the moment you moved into a 3 bedroom flat. Never allow your wife's income dictate your taste. You should have designed your family based on your own income, and may be 20% from wifey. When your income increases, then you can increase your taste

Please endeavour to manage the situation. 60,000 is not so much but if properly managed with your wife's contribution, N200 recharge card shouldn't be a problem.

emerald16:
My wife has been really helpful from when we started dating, she has actually taken me from grass to grace and helped me from a self contained to a 3bedroom flat. She has been helping with house expenses for over a year now, I do work but my salary is very small, just around 60k.

She is into business which flourished so much but it's a little down for now. She helped made our marriage possible by contributing far more than i. She is every woman's dream and is even poised to help me secure a better job and a side business.

I have also contributed my part in helping her grow her business though not financially but through technical support, expert advice and more as she just started her business the very month we started dating but though in a small

I feel I have over burdened her with my own problem and she is carrying way too much on her shoulders cos her parents and siblings are also depending on her.
I felt a pinch of her frustration when I asked her if she could help transfer a little sum of 200 naira to me for airtime, she was about doing it when I told her I actually wanted to send the amount as airtime to my dad,then she flared up saying she will take care of me, herself and even my parents! I felt bad and terrible cos I rarely ask her for money to send to my people except on very rare occasions which are but a few.

I kept mute and didn't feel like talking to her and we haven't exchanged a proper conversation since last night when it happened.

What do I do? Even when I try to initiate a conversation, she doesn't seem interested

chinchonglee:
Hw is she d one catering for u wen u earn 60k monthly..

Wetin u dey use ur 60k do?


Wen i said i rather remain single for life dan get married wit a 60k income u pple thought i woz joking baa.

emerald16:
My wife has been really helpful from when we started dating, she has actually taken me from grass to grace and helped me from a self contained to a 3bedroom flat. She has been helping with house expenses for over a year now, I do work but my salary is very small, just around 60k.

She is into business which flourished so much but it's a little down for now. She helped made our marriage possible by contributing far more than i. She is every woman's dream and is even poised to help me secure a better job and a side business.

I have also contributed my part in helping her grow her business though not financially but through technical support, expert advice and more as she just started her business the very month we started dating but though in a small way with very little capital.

I feel I have over burdened her with my own problem and she is carrying way too much on her shoulders cos her parents and siblings are also depending on her.
I felt a pinch of her frustration when I asked her if she could help transfer a little sum of 200 naira to me for airtime, she was about doing it when I told her I actually wanted to send the amount as airtime to my dad,then she flared up saying she will take care of me, herself and even my parents! I felt bad and terrible cos I rarely ask her for money to send to my people except on very rare occasions which are but a few.

I kept mute and didn't feel like talking to her and we haven't exchanged a proper conversation since last night when it happened.

What do I do? Even when I try to initiate a conversation, she doesn't seem interested

luminouz:

Lol..thanks rosarie but nigga is trying ok?
U have no idea how hard it is out there in naija now!!!!
To be a man no easy at all!

Though I must add that the wife is a keeper!! She is so very fvcking rare these days. She tried for the guy to be honest. Its just temporary frustration from her, it will pass!!! I know just how hard she has tried!

xendra:
now you are trying to be an ingrate, you are not even shameful enough that a woman is catering for you, you now want to prove a man to your family with her money. SMH! tell them you don't have money and stop adding to the woman's stress.

greggng:



You don't have a big problem...just sleep close to her in the night...before you do that ensure you have written a lovely special romantic words for her ...you have to drop it by her side befire she wakes up and ensure you leave the house to enable her ponder about your deep words. Start by telling her you do appreciate all her effort...reassure her she will always the centre stage in your life. Tell her that after God she is the next person you love. Tell her by the time you are back, you wanna see that cheerful woman you married...to welcome you with a cheerful heart.

Acidosis:


He should do blood money na abi. You folks should stop putting baseless pressures on the young man with the double your hustle talk. What if he's not educationally qualified to double that hustle? What is he going to do? He could be a civil servant with no room for side hustles. Best he could do is wait patiently for promotion or improved minimum wage.



@OP, your problem started the moment you moved into a 3 bedroom flat. Never allow your wife's income dictate your taste. You should have designed your family based on your own income, and may be 20% from wifey. When your income increases, then you can increase your taste

Please endeavour to manage the situation. 60,000 is not so much but if properly managed with your wife's contribution, N200 recharge card shouldn't be a problem.

Rosarie:
my dear neither to be a woman and shouldering responsibilities.i sure know where she is coming from.saddled with her primary role which is the home front so it is doubles on her.she is human.and had every right to rant.women hate it when a man is not living up to expectation.there was no need for the guy to talk of his dad.it was wrong.

luminouz:
Small money like 200 made her flare up?
Yet husbands have taken care of their wives,sons,her parents, his parents, his and her siblings without grumbling or complaining. Oh yes,its a man's job according to society but once he defaults,hell comes down. No wonder men die young around here.
No one ever appreciate the men folk and all they do!

I keep asking myself,who really ends up enjoying the institution called marriage?

LyfeJennings:
Nigga
What kind of man are U?
Don't U have pride?
Ehnnnnn!!
Where is ur pride?
Guy, a man must have pride before any other thing
Buy her 1,000naira recharge and settle your differences
FINAL NOTE: ITS BEST U DIE THAN ASK UR WOMAN FOR ANYTHING FOR YOUR FAMILY AND EVEN IF U MUST ASK FOR YOURSELF. NEVER EVER EVER ASK CASUALLY

Viking007:
Probably the most sensible comment on this thread.

greggng:



You don't have a big problem...just sleep close to her in the night...before you do that ensure you have written a lovely special romantic words for her ...you have to drop it by her side befire she wakes up and ensure you leave the house to enable her ponder about your deep words. Start by telling her you do appreciate all her effort...reassure her she will always the centre stage in your life. Tell her that after God she is the next person you love. Tell her by the time you are back, you wanna see that cheerful woman you married...to welcome you with a cheerful heart.

Hotworta1:
My dear your wife is stressed. Try and double your hustle you too. If your wife has really achieved this much and has been very supportive from your narration indeed she's a wife material.

Pls try and get an additional income biko...the situation of the country presently isn't something for someone to just be lazy or dependent on one source of income.


Pls reason with her biko

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
Better go make money. Imagine 200naira credit to send to his father! See its frustrating that when married instead of moving higher, you burdened and falling from bills as a woman while the man is there. You guys would have been fine if there no outside burden and all. What's stopping the op from starting a side business sef!?

I personally hate men who find it so easy to beg women for money...

Kenturkey048:
thank you oooh....where is the pride as a man...she is making that kinda of statement for 200naira recharge ,,but if it was to be the other way round ,the reverse would av been the case.