As e be I dey find wife. Anyone willing to be with me should pm me. Let's prayerfully work it out.

The kind pressure Africans put on themselves all because of marriage is fucking alarming.. Best of luck!

This one all of una dey hunt for Igbo gals to marry..hmm

This one you are negotiating bride price like you are buying crayfish in the market square. My brother double your huzle, getting into marriage is something you have to be well prepared and well thought. Money is very very important here.I wish u luck.

Godislove1234:
To all of you shouting money money money... What happens if with one bad financial decision you go totally bankrupt... What will happen to the woman whom you impressed and bought with your money? Hope she will still be with you when nothing dey again? I'm not surprised because most guys on nairaland believe that all women are after money. Please check the Proverbs 31:10 woman. They still exist. And guess what they're not impressed about your money. If you're not valuable they won't even consider you. Please to guys with such mindset grow up! A man who needs only money in order to appeal to a woman is still a child. Real men possess value first and real women recognize value before money. So guys it's not me you're actually mad at. It's yourselves

u were making sense till u got to that bolded part.. nothing of VALUE in life pass money.. except if you dont want to be sincere with yourself.. and dont be fooled by 'love in Cairo', if a lady loves you without money, then either of the following 3 reasons is in play
1. She sees potential in you which makes her feel secure( financial security is number one quality every woman seeks first)
2. She doesn't see better offer at the moment and she thinks the best man might not come( dont be fooled by marriage ,some ladies use marriage to save face)
3. She's ugly.. ugly ladies tend to go and are contented with what they have, because they kuku know their own problem already.. that's why it is easier to fhuck a very ugly girl, weather u get money or not...
So my brother, I pray for your new home and pray for your marriage to be sweet and last..amen..
But dont ever allow love to cloud your sense of reasoning.. nothing tangible is achievable in life without money.. the only thing money cant buy in life is " death".. money buys love,commitment, loyalty,friends, think of anything.. what money cant achieve, believe more money will do..
And you said after one marries, what if one gets broke, let me tell u something, when u are making enough money before, brokeness cant last long and if the wife leaves, na she loose.. and all these things I wrote above is not in anyway to discourage u or intending guys, but we need to always tell yourself the truth... and dont think I get money right now ooo, I dey Brokelyn, I no mind if you do xmas for me
.thank you sir!!

mariemummy:



Dalu nwoke oma

Ana m ekele gi nwanyi oma.

Ututu oma

mariemummy:


Thank you nna. @slynation,we have (gb, gw, kw) as letters of the igbo alphabet. Please don't misinform people.

Slynation:

It's no biggie... You can do your research
Few popular examples are spelling of Awka(Oka), Owerri (Oweri), Onitsha(Onicha) note 'CH' is a vowel sound in Ibo alphabets....

I don't see any comparison or anything to argue on here.
Another ezigbo nwafor(nwanyi) as helped out with a clear and easy to understand answer, see the comment/quote above

ikechukwu21:


My brother am Ibo and I know how my people can be. Just follow what the OP said. If you wan do half of wetin de their list your 500k don burn. Minus traditional marriage o.

are you ibo or igbo? no full fledged igbo man will address himself as ibo

vickydankal:
Mmmm that's good news for you, but someone will ask what happens after the wedding?

The upkeep, pregnancy and children school fees

Good question. Both of them should work not necessarily hard but smart. Not everyone will have opportunity to have everything before they get married, reality check. Talking from experience

GeneralPula:
Just take a look at the money Op is struggling to get and he’s wanting to get married!

Make I just laugh in Spanish & wish them well!

Like someone said up there, them no Dey tell person!

What is the minimum wage before? 18k. What about it today? 30k in some places and still 18k in many places. Many depended on that and were able to maintain their family and give their children education to higher level. Op is just starting, marriage can't stop him from achieving whatever he is determined to achieve, just a mere challenge.

Fuckthamods:


Everyday you people will be insulting igbos but won't leave our women alone

Like Igbos don't insult others. Your own is even too much, insult Yorubas, join Hausas together and add Fulanis on top.

This can only happen when the is old and the family is desperately trying to oflaod the girl from the house...time no dey again abeg come dey go. Or if the girl is causing Lott of trouble in the house and they can't just wait for her to go. My brother you can't try to an under 25 year old girl.

Godislove1234:

Thanks

Don't listen to that.

Slynation:

Ibo is the correct way of spelling Igbo....
They don't join two consonant alphabets together in Ibo, unless it's a consonant vowel sounds....
You may not understand this tho....

Smh.

OP has taken a bold step, whether he's starting with 200k or not, the most important thing is that he's taking a bold step... First of all, all fingers are not equal, some people married with far less than that and there are okay after years of marriage even with the little they have... If it's all about you having millions in you account before you get married, I swear 80% of married people today in Nigeria won't get married.. I'm sure the OP still have other money still left after spending 200k even though it's not much, he just don't want to spend all his money on marriage rite then start looking to the sky for manna from heaven..

What's up with all these Yoruba guys sudden obsession with Igbo girls?? I don't understand o. Una no fancy una Yoruba women again?

Godislove1234:
I am quite a young man in my late 20's. There's this lady whom I love so much. She's from one of these eastern states in Nigeria. She's very beautiful, very godly and still a virgin. We've been together for about two years now but no money for marriage. The reason is because it is quite expensive to get married in their state.

I told her to inquire from her parents how much I may need for the marital rites she called me back and said about 500k (na just to manage be that o). So I said ok. 500k is actually a small amount but when you try to get it and you cannot, then it will suddenly become like 500 million to you. So I started putting in more efforts to raise the money but na lie the money no wan show.

Guess what I did today? I called her up and after talking about other issues I finally told her that I can't keep waiting to raise that amount of money. I have been depressed about it for some time now but I couldn't tell her because I didn't want her to get bothered. So I told her to go tell her parents that what I can raise by God's grace is 200k. If they approve, I'll come but if not make she go look for another man marry. Before now she has been asking me to come with anything I have but I kept saying no and the reason is that you can't just show up at someone's house and tell them that you've come to pick up their daughter with the little amount you have. So guess what? Just like magic they agreed to what I said (even though I wasn't expecting it to go that way). She sent me the text confirming her parent's approval. For me its a big miracle. If I should tell you the state in question you won't believe it.

So here's my advise to you all who want to get married to the love of your life but no money... Make you and the Babe get strong head work together or else her village people go dey delay una marriage because they want something elaborate. It's good to be stubborn I tell people. Both of you should come up with a plan (not to get her pregnant o. I don't support that please). But the plan will be carried out by your woman. She should stubbornly insist incase the parents are the difficult type, that this is the man she wishes to marry and if they don't let her she will remain single for ever (parents especially mothers dey fear that kind talk) if it doesn't work think of something else.

Just keep trying or else two of una go dey there old. But above all please put God first. He can make even the most hardened of men become soft for your sake. He may not send you all the money you need to fulfil what's in the list but He can make her parents accept you the way you are. It is called favour. What you need is the approval and blessings from both parents nothing more.

Forget village people. They too like eating and drinking. Remember that if you spend all the money in your account just to get married you and your wife will starve after the wedding. And to those who are insisting on white wedding please stop being foolish. White wedding is just a mere celebration just to fulfil all righteousness. If you have the money for it, fine. If not, no kill yourself. Don't keep your woman or man waiting.

Take a bold step today and God will meet you guys halfway. But whatever you do PLEASE don't marry a lazy woman. With this is mind, its just a matter of time you guys will succeed. Two good head are better than one. All the best guys. One love.

Oga if it works for you it doesn't mean it will work for everyone. Marriage is not by force it is just necessary it is not compulsory. Let those that don't have money stay away from marriage. Marriage doesn't end in Ceremonies only.

Goodbloke:
I personally wouldn't get married until I have an account balance of nothing less than 3 million after all the marriage rites has been performed,renting and decoration of house etc.

Marriage is not child's play abeg, congrats OP

It depends on how lucky you are when you are to start work. Who doesn't want a fat account before getting married? Lol

Afamed:

Stop misleading the public. N30k as minimum wage goes to the newly employed lowest rank.Like the sweeper/ cleaners.

You just shot yourself in the foot

Afamed:

You deserve a 12 year ban just like Orji Uzor Kalu. Using one monicker to comment and placing your alternative monicker to like the comment is really an advance and incurable stage of madness

Thou shall not bear false witness against thy neighbor.

Cc lzaa gmbuharii

UPANDAN:
I have taken time to read all comments. Lol OP, The same formula I applied the year I wanted to get married.The truth is that marriage is a mysterious thing if you allow God to lead. Guys money is not everything when it comes to marriage. You may have all the money and still won't have peace in the marriage if you marry the wrong person. In fact, it is better to start marriage when the two of you had nothing and grow together. Take it or leave it, marriage open DOORS if you believe in the word of God that says" He that finds a wife, finds a good thing and obtains favour from the Lord" Marriage makes you to double your hustle when you are faced with responsibilities.
Op, please go head with your plans and don't let all these boys shouting Money, Money, hustle o to deceive you. Spoilt generation! Nobody wants to be contempt and grow financially.
May God bless your union in Jesus name.

He has a good girl, chaste and undefiled. He has parents approval to marry her. Yet, some small boys, that can't manage a snooker table at a busy junction on the street are asking him how much baby diapers cost. A slowpoke even mentioned $10K for child birth in the US - like the average American even has 10K for such/similar ventures.

Life is about trade-offs and the OP is setting out on a good path. His inlaws seem to have accepted him as he is, and have given him and I repeat "an undefiled wife". We all know how much virgins cost in some cultures - I believe it was south sudan; where someone paid for one with hundreds of cattle, luxury cars and 10K usd in cash. The even had a competition - even though she was also tall (this made her more expensive).

How many men with beautiful wives can beat their chest and say - I was the first.

OP, just stand by God. I suggest you go close to God. So you can reap the full benefits of your tear rubber wife. Let your wife pray for you.
And, you also keep away from other women, because it is now. All those spiritually pungent women, will start to chase you up and down.

Also keep a very good eye on the friends your wife keeps.

Fuckthamods:
I love one girl and i want to marry her but due to lack of money I'm not comfortable making my feelings known to her. Now some rich dude has proposed to her and she has accepted


Everyday you people will be insulting igbos but won't leave our women alone

Sorry about the lady who accepted, I'm also in this with an open mind!


A truly enlightened mind knows how to take people for who they are without being sentimental about where they come from. I think I and my lady have this in common.

Fuckthamods:
I love one girl and i want to marry her but due to lack of money I'm not comfortable making my feelings known to her. Now some rich dude has proposed to her and she has accepted


Everyday you people will be insulting igbos but won't leave our women alone

Na wa for the igbo girl too sef, there's no rich igbo man to cling to.

Fuckthamods:
I love one girl and i want to marry her but due to lack of money I'm not comfortable making my feelings known to her. Now some rich dude has proposed to her and she has accepted


Everyday you people will be insulting igbos but won't leave our women alone

Don't mind sweet tongued demonic minded play boys.

seunmohmoh:
Dem no dey telli person.

Will you marry me?

immhotep:

Thou shall not bear false witness against thy neighbor.

Cc lzaa gmbuharii

Gbam

Melian:


Na wa for the igbo girl too sef, there's no rich igbo man to cling to.

Come on. How many unmarried women do we have in the East and how many Igbo men are well to do?

Let's not go.down that road.

Slynation:

Ibo is the correct way of spelling Igbo....
They don't join two consonant alphabets together in Ibo, unless it's a consonant vowel sounds....
You may not understand this tho....

The CH in Chukwu is a vowel sound right?

Godislove1234:

Thanks brother

It is too early to create this thread. It is not her parents that will give you the list. It is her kinsmen. Her parents don't have a say. You must buy everything on the list. Even if they let her go on credit, it will be recorded that you never completed the rites. So get the list first before celebrating.

Fvckmoderators:
You struggled to raise 200k, have you considered about after? House rent?Feeding?

Pampers and Cerelac cost for market o.

I never even talk pikin school fees.

Anyway I am sure you have a plan.

LOL. My brother I'm not a fool. I have a plan. Thanks

Godislove1234:
I am quite a young man in my late 20's. There's this lady whom I love so much. She's from one of these eastern states in Nigeria. She's very beautiful, very godly and still a virgin. We've been together for about two years now but no money for marriage. The reason is because it is quite expensive to get married in their state.

I told her to inquire from her parents how much I may need for the marital rites she called me back and said about 500k (na just to manage be that o). So I said ok. 500k is actually a small amount but when you try to get it and you cannot, then it will suddenly become like 500 million to you. So I started putting in more efforts to raise the money but na lie the money no wan show.

Guess what I did today? I called her up and after talking about other issues I finally told her that I can't keep waiting to raise that amount of money. I have been depressed about it for some time now but I couldn't tell her because I didn't want her to get bothered. So I told her to go tell her parents that what I can raise by God's grace is 200k. If they approve, I'll come but if not make she go look for another man marry. Before now she has been asking me to come with anything I have but I kept saying no and the reason is that you can't just show up at someone's house and tell them that you've come to pick up their daughter with the little amount you have. So guess what? Just like magic they agreed to what I said (even though I wasn't expecting it to go that way). She sent me the text confirming her parent's approval. For me its a big miracle. If I should tell you the state in question you won't believe it.

So here's my advise to you all who want to get married to the love of your life but no money... Make you and the Babe get strong head work together or else her village people go dey delay una marriage because they want something elaborate. It's good to be stubborn I tell people. Both of you should come up with a plan (not to get her pregnant o. I don't support that please). But the plan will be carried out by your woman. She should stubbornly insist incase the parents are the difficult type, that this is the man she wishes to marry and if they don't let her she will remain single for ever (parents especially mothers dey fear that kind talk) if it doesn't work think of something else.

Just keep trying or else two of una go dey there old. But above all please put God first. He can make even the most hardened of men become soft for your sake. He may not send you all the money you need to fulfil what's in the list but He can make her parents accept you the way you are. It is called favour. What you need is the approval and blessings from both parents nothing more.

Forget village people. They too like eating and drinking. Remember that if you spend all the money in your account just to get married you and your wife will starve after the wedding. And to those who are insisting on white wedding please stop being foolish. White wedding is just a mere celebration just to fulfil all righteousness. If you have the money for it, fine. If not, no kill yourself. Don't keep your woman or man waiting.

Take a bold step today and God will meet you guys halfway. But whatever you do PLEASE don't marry a lazy woman. With this is mind, its just a matter of time you guys will succeed. Two good head are better than one. All the best guys. One love.

Make go knack your marriage better blessings brother... nothing do you, we cannot come and kill ourselves die.

more blessings

fujirice:

He actually has a point and he isn’t wishing you bad either. You just started the process, in as much as you are being optimistic, what he is just advising is for you to keep your mind open when some crazy requests from in-laws starts coming. I am currently at the stage you are now just that I have collected list and have even started buying the list items. Bro, that 200k no be anything. Trust me

I told my woman that nothing concerns me and that their list. I'm stubborn by nature. The reason why people still fall victim of that list is because they appear too desperate to take their wife home. Even if you're desperate try and hide it so that the inlaws no go too get say over you. Because to me it's crazy. Dem no de marry once and for all in Nigeria. Even after marriage you go still dey send your inlaws money and gifts. So why should they stress you too much with some offensive list