purples25:


Eh, he liked her when he was having sex so he should like her in marriage nah. Who told him she is his toy. Lol.

He did not like her he saw her as a sex object.

Bros, you've a point. I'm only saying if a man doesn't have intention to marry a woman he's dating, why impregnate her

seanwilliam:
if my sister or daughter go get belle, I no fit force the man to marry them.. na dem no use their sense enough no matter how you want to twist it.. when you are having a consensual sex with someone, you should know that it would certainly lead to something.. na you know wetin no make u use condom or pills..so I deal with reality not emotion..

hybridblood07:
Bros, you've a point. I'm only saying if a man doesn't have intention to marry a woman he's dating, why impregnate her

It's not like he forced her

hybridblood07:
Bros, you've a point. I'm only saying if a man doesn't have intention to marry a woman he's dating, why impregnate her

you are right..but remember some ladies can manipulate man to do what he doesn't want to do... no matter how smart or careful you are as a man, if a lady wants something from you, they will get it by all means

GrammarNazi1:

Were Davido and Wizkid...

Where tiwa savage

sholarr12:
Often times when a man impregnates a woman, and the man does not want to marry the woman, even if he is ready to take responsibility for the child, the man will still be forced by the woman's parents to marry her.

Forcing a man to marry your daughter may come with its disadvantages.

That brings us to the question: should a man be forced to marry a woman?

Nothing good can ever come from the use of Force... Pressure..... ETC

QueenSuccubus:
Me: NO.

We should have the freedom to choose who we want to marry sha..

QueenSuccubus:
Me: NO.

We should have the freedom to choose who we want to marry sha..

QueenSuccubus:
Me: NO.

We should have the freedom to choose who we want to marry sha..

sure

hashtagged:


He did not like her he saw her as a sex object.

Then he deserves that punishment. Nobody is a sex object.

sholarr12:
Often times when a man impregnates a woman, and the man does not want to marry the woman, even if he is ready to take responsibility for the child, the man will still be forced by the woman's parents to marry her.

Forcing a man to marry your daughter may come with its disadvantages.

That brings us to the question: should a man be forced to marry a woman?

sholarr12:
Often times when a man impregnates a woman, and the man does not want to marry the woman, even if he is ready to take responsibility for the child, the man will still be forced by the woman's parents to marry her.

Forcing a man to marry your daughter may come with its disadvantages.

That brings us to the question: should a man be forced to marry a woman?

sholarr12:
Often times when a man impregnates a woman, and the man does not want to marry the woman, even if he is ready to take responsibility for the child, the man will still be forced by the woman's parents to marry her.

Forcing a man to marry your daughter may come with its disadvantages.

That brings us to the question: should a man be forced to marry a woman?

No

NO.

One, it was consensual.

He didn’t rape her.


He never promised her marriage.


If the result of their affair is pregnancy, they can deliberate on it. If they want to marry, fine. If they do not, they should forget it.

Childish and juvenile suggestion. When even divorce rate among couples who start out professing everlasting love is about 50%, you are talking about forced marriage. The marriage will not last beyond the second year.

What happens if the guy is "2face" or "whiz kid" like and give up to 3 girls belle, he should marry all 3 of them?

What if the guy is jobless and lives with his parents or family member, he brings a wife home? Who will care and provide for the child and mother?

The suggestion is even illegal anyway. You cannot sign a marriage contract under duress.

chigoizie7:
NO.

One, it was consensual.

He didn’t rape her.


He never promised her marriage.


If the result of their affair is pregnancy, they can deliberate on it. If they want to marry, fine. If they do not, they should forget it.

A pregnancy should not be the basis of marriage. Forcing a guy into marriage because of a pregnancy never works out in the long run.

Was he forced to pair the lady?
Why smelling what you wouldn't like to eat?

DavidEsq:

U can see u are contradicting urself. Having cited the constitution which abolished illegitimacy of a child, u went ahead to again resurrect an already dead concept by citing an example already abolished by the constitution.

You didn't get the picture as related to the topic. If the man marries the lady he impregnated will there be an illegitimate child??
Illegitimacy has been abolished so does that give men right to pregnate girls as they desire and claim they don't want to marry them?
Besides the illegitimacy abolished is legitimate right to inheritance not childs right of identity, dignity, origin and self-actualization.
If the man is not ready for marriage let him stay clear that is the point.
It's because of all this abortion still takes place of which is also against the law 14yrs jail term. And likewise tradition too do not support having child outside of wedlock, in that case the girl will then suffer alone.

That is exactly what is being practiced in America yet it hasn't worked for them rather it has brought about an epidemic of unwanted pregnancies.

N2B2:
No.

But, they should be forced to pay child support. No one asks if the lady wants to marry the guy? Guys forced to marry ladies they impregnate often take their anger out on their wives.

Forced Marriage should be a No. If you give her bele, then you pay Child Support till that kid turns 18. If you no get money for child support, then you gast go find work.

Do it this way and there'll be lesser unwanted pregnancies.

Midas01:
That is exactly what is being practiced in America yet it hasn't worked for them rather it has brought about an epidemic of unwanted pregnancies.

Unwanted pregnancy in the USA is no where as big as problem as it is here in Nigeria. Have you been to the North?

Matrimonous:
Shame on the girl who went spreading her legs for the man that doesn't want to marry her and devil is the man that sleeps with a girl he has no intention of marrying.

you are really primitive. That’s all I have to say to you.

QueenSuccubus:
Me: NO.

We should have the freedom to choose who we want to marry sha..

You can't be careless about who you sleep but want to be careful about who to marry.

hashtagged:

Lol wether he pulled out or poured it in like tap dosnt matter it was consensual so he has no responsibility for anything after except the child

I actually agree with you 100%

eph12:

Should a lady become pregnant for a guy that has never shown interest in getting married to her?

That is a question that u have to ask d ladies in d house. I can't speak 4 them.

purples25:


Then he deserves that punishment. Nobody is a sex object.

How did he force her, she acted like a sex object. Stop blaming the guy, she is an adult not a dog who was controlled, or are women now animals if so don't complain about men treating women badly.

When the gbedu don enter body.. .a guy can promise anything just to have sex. .. Girls shud know this.
Most girls are aware of their ovulation period,yet they open their legs for naked sex....say say the guy deceived them...
But, when she gets pregnant for a good-for-nothing boy. .. .you will swear heaven and Earth that she won't marry him, but if he's well to do guy you start quoting emotional detriments.. .All I can say is that ladies shud be wise in their dealings with guys.. . Allow the guy to run after you, chase you, meet tour parents.... Don't go fooling yourself. ...

ScotMisile:
When the gbedu don enter body.. .a guy can promise anything just to have sex. .. Girls shud know this.

They know, just that when the consequences come they would look for who to put the blame on when it was a mutual agreement, no one was forced.

zakir007:
If he can't keep his ubunja in check, he mist be ready to tcontrol what comes of it

What's Ubunja... ?..na wa..wetin una nor go call that thing...I thought u meant Ubiaja initially..

captain247:


You didn't get the picture as related to the topic. If the man marries the lady he impregnated will there be an illegitimate child??
Illegitimacy has been abolished so does that give men right to pregnate girls as they desire and claim they don't want to marry them?

Men don't go around having sèx with women with the intention of impregnating them. Most just want to have sèx. The unwanted pregnancy is usually a consequence of carelessness by both parties.

Besides the illegitimacy abolished is legitimate right to inheritance not childs right of identity, dignity, origin and self-actualization.

First it depends on culture. Many cultures in southern Nigeria like the Yorubas and many Niger delta tribes don't have illegitimate children. Once it can be proven that a man fathers a child, the child is accorded some rights as a son/ daughter. It's the igbos that the legitimate/illegitimate child dichotomy is practiced.
Besides, inheritance rights is only valid if the man dies interstate, whereby inheritance is subject to customary law. If the man writes a will, then he can will his properties to anyone he likes.

If the man is not ready for marriage let him stay clear that is the point.

Not practicable. Men are marrying later because of financial stability. You want a man to remain virgin until his late 30's or even 40's, when his hormones starts fighting with him from his teens? The man physiology is not built that way.

It's because of all this abortion still takes place of which is also against the law 14yrs jail term. And likewise tradition too do not support having child outside of wedlock, in that case the girl will then suffer alone.

Whether marriage or not abortion will still take place. I have many gynecologists as friends, and they tell me that married couples carry out as much abortions than single ladies, especially the rich ones. Many married couples don't want to have more children and see abortions as the last resort of preventing unwanted babies.
Abortion laws just like the bigamy laws are unenforceable. It is impractical for police to be policing private hospitals and other places to arrest doctors, women and nurses carrying out abortions.

funmisticqueen2:
Gbam. Ladies should also close shop

If the shop remain closed for too long, the goods inside meant for human satisfaction will get spoil o..

QueenSuccubus:
Me: NO.

We should have the freedom to choose who we want to marry sha..

Then they both should be responsible to have sex and not make a baby.

Especially the man, if he doesn't want to marry that lady he's fvcking should at least be sensible enough not to make her pregnant by using rubber.

Can he marry another 'after one' woman? If no, he should stop and not make a lady go through the pains and shame of carrying an illegitimate child out of wedlock.

Many street urchins are neither here nor there cos they have absentee fathers. Many were raised on the Streets. Security threats everywhere because of offsprings of such situations.

Stop making babies with women you don't want to marry..

Once you make someone pregnant, just marry her, simple!

vincentjk:


Nothing like agreement here, it's just an away match

if you told the lady come let's play away match and she accepts that's fine.
But if you started by saying I want to marry you and then she gets pregnant and you run away. God will surely judge you

y wouldnt he marry her. do dey force him to have sex with her, abi.

EniHolar:
If you can't WED her, don't BED her.

Is she a doll or a dummy, why can't she refuse to be bed? If he forced his way into her, he's liable and punishable but if she willing participated in the act knowing it's she who would bear the evidence for 9months and beyond, she should face the music.

God. Bless you jare.... a forced marriage irespectable of what happen between the two party isn't good never will it last

N2B2:
No.

But, they should be forced to pay child support. No one asks if the lady wants to marry the guy? Guys forced to marry ladies they impregnate often take their anger out on their wives.

Forced Marriage should be a No. If you give her bele, then you pay Child Support till that kid turns 18. If you no get money for child support, then you gast go find work.

Do it this way and there'll be lesser unwanted pregnancies.

this question is a double edge sword...if you are not prepared or ready to marry a lady why sleep with her and impregnate her? a lot people want enjoyment but not willing to pay the sacrifice...i thin a man who impregnates a lady and not willing or ready to marry her should be castrated! ...alternatively given a mafia treatment let him go and after some years hack him down when every one would have forgotten the offence...if you cannot bear the consequences of your actions dont even start it...