Truvelisback:
What should struggling women do?

Iyaebe:
A struggling man should focus on how to make his life better and not go into relationship, stop looking for love while you are financially unstable, there's no love without financial backings(modern world). You should start given in to your urges and needs only when you are financially comfortable to care for another without feeling it's effect and lastly don't see any woman as bad because she dumped you due to your financial condition, she only did you a favour to be focused and become better, all female creatures go for the best and the one in charge of the jungle. Have a great week ahead. Note: This is just an advise to encourage young men out there who are struggling, don't misinterpret my harmless post.

Es350:

Can this also be said for ladies?

Iyaebe:
Women do not need to be stable before considering relationship especially if there’s a man willing to love and provide for her hence the reason you see some women as housewives

Es350:

So what happened to equality and women empowerment? Why can't women also work for their own money too?

Iyaebe:
I don’t believe in equality

Es350:

Do you believe in women working for their money on our modern society?

Iyaebe:
Of course a woman should work and earn but her earnings is not meant for bills sharing with a man, she’s not a provider

kepstone:
I shake my head for those saying this post had truth.
Dear OP. You are child, a toddler mentally and in life experience you are far behind.
I will never marry a lady who was not there for me. You are more interested in the product not in my process, that person is a leech.
I don't know why guyz keep empowering girls with entitled mentality to say and do nonsense. I dump my girlfriend for her been a total liability and a collosal disaster in character untop my own money you want to form rubbish for me.
Op even say no love without finances... Dear OP grow up. When you know what the definition of love is you can come back here and talk to us. As far as I am concerned you just typed and posted rubbish.
In this life lot of guyz go through their process which is their story before embracing their glory.
A case scenario. My elder brother was dating Blessing and he did everything for her made so much sacrifice for her and then he was climbing the ladder carreer wise, how did his then girlfriend rewarded him by dumping him and getting married to an Alhaji. The most stupid thing she did was to convert from Christianity to a Muslim just to marry this so call Alhaji. From Blessing to Hauwa, this a true life story.... I saw pains in my brothers heart he had to relocate out if Abuja to another state. I am talking of the best graduating student from his departmental in ABU Zaria. Yet Blessing now turned to Hauwa could not see any future in him.
When he relocated to a new state he met his current wife and she was there for him, helped him to climbed the ladder. He got married to her when he was earning 20k in salary and she was supportive of him. His current wife is from a well to do family and yet she chose to marry him and build a family with him. Today he is a big consultant that people look for left right and centre and his earnings have skyrocketed to 7 figures.
Back to Blessing now turn to Hauwa. The last time I saw her in area, she was leaving in a Mud house and with 2 children no husband, no Alhaji. Alhaji dumped her after 2 children. When she saw me shame and tears filled her eyes, I could see regret.
One thing my brother told me was he believed God will bless him and change his story. God plus Hardwork and responsibility he won't remain the same.
My elder brother taught me a vital lesson in life. Never accommodate a leech.. today he doesn't joke with his wife.. if you touch his wife you see his raw undiluted anger...
Ladies be an asset and not a commodity to be purchased with money....
Let you husband see your value beyond money...
In the definition of love money was never mentioned... So OP is not qualified to talk to us as guyz...
In conclusion, never you conclude on a guy who has vowed to believe God. At any point in time God can change his story.

Guyz find a girl who loves and respect you and who is will to build with you... That's when you know you have found wife.

Es350:

So what are her earnings for?

fattprince:

We are definitely operating on the same dimension. I can't ask you to stick with me now that I'm struggling but if I make it and you start babbling rushing about how we should stick to each other you will fall inside acid.

Iyaebe:
One out of millions of cases that ended well, Blessing was ready to settle down and your brother was still finding his feet, it’s that simple.

shantti:


I second this. If u as a lady stick to me now that am suffering, u would be my queen for ever, but if I pass through this rough sea alone and finally find my footing and a random girl suddenly shows up and demands that I treat her like a queen and more, that I should priotize her more than my mum and family, that is when u would see the evil, brutal, wicked and monstrous side of me.

Iyaebe:
Why drag someone along if you are suffering? Does that make sense? Why are African men weird this way, why?

kepstone:


You are still not qualified to post trash... Because in life experience u are very far. So what happens if the one who finds his feet financially looses his money... Since you said no love without finance.

Your type should go and sit at the feet of elders to learn...
Stop churning your ignorance and undeveloped mindset in a public domain...
May God take far from me your type....
May I never come across your type with this kind of shallow, barbaric mindset..
You think love is money and money is love...
Go get a life ooooo...

Guyz if she not contributing to your life and your are busy funding her life... Pls kneel down let's pray for you to be delivered from 21st century stupidity....

This op should be avoided like plague, their type dump men when the storm comes....

shantti:


Why attach yourself to me when I make it, does that make sense, why r African women wired this way, why?

HopeNeverDies:
Damnnn!!!!! Literally; I don't even know you But what you're saying is partially wrong. So coz he's financially unstable; He shouldn't date. Lmao... That's to your own thinking please. You could have just said you can't date a broke guy... That's it. Don't tryna classify All girls that they can't date a broke guy...
Lmao...

I can give u personal examples to justify that ur claim_Is/Claims_are wrong....

Listen up; I have a guy , I was so surprised if they tell me say nah through him gf he go make am.. the guy had literally almost nothing, it was thru his gf that things changed for him.. swears..

Honestly, to me ,Any girlfriend that leaves her boyfriend during his hard times is a Fucking Hoe...bcoz that should be the best time he needed her the most...

Iyaebe:
Can you live your life without a woman? Know your role as a man and play it well, it’s that simple

Iyaebe:
A struggling woman can get married if the man can provide and take care of her, stop comparing a man’s life and that of a woman

Iyaebe:
A struggling man should focus on how to make his life better and not go into relationship, stop looking for love while you are financially unstable, there's no love without financial backings(modern world). You should start given in to your urges and needs only when you are financially comfortable to care for another without feeling it's effect and lastly don't see any woman as bad because she dumped you due to your financial condition, she only did you a favour to be focused and become better, all female creatures go for the best and the one in charge of the jungle. Have a great week ahead. Note: This is just an advise to encourage young men out there who are struggling, don't misinterpret my harmless post.

Cardealer2021:

What happened to this quote
"Behind every successful man there is a woman"

Iyaebe:
You misinterpreted the quote, the woman may be his mother or wife and remember my post is talking about relationships and not marriage

Cardealer2021:

What happened to this quote
"Behind every successful man there is a woman"

HopeNeverDies:
Damnnn!!!!! Literally; I don't even know you But what you're saying is partially wrong. So coz he's financially unstable; He shouldn't date. Lmao... That's to your own thinking please. You could have just said you can't date a broke guy... That's it. Don't tryna classify All girls that they can't date a broke guy...
Lmao...

I can give u personal examples to justify that ur claim_Is/Claims_are wrong....

Listen up; I have a guy , I was so surprised if they tell me say nah through him gf he go make am.. the guy had literally almost nothing, it was thru his gf that things changed for him.. swears..

Honestly, to me ,Any girlfriend that leaves her boyfriend during his hard times is a Fucking Hoe ...bcoz that should be the best time he needed her the most...

BuddhaPalm:
But once you start doing well, be ruthless in looking for out your interests and needs.

Iyaebe:
A struggling man should focus on how to make his life better and not go into relationship, stop looking for love while you are financially unstable, there's no love without financial backings(modern world). You should start given in to your urges and needs only when you are financially comfortable to care for another without feeling it's effect and lastly don't see any woman as bad because she dumped you due to your financial condition, she only did you a favour to be focused and become better, all female creatures go for the best and the one in charge of the jungle. Have a great week ahead. Note: This is just an advise to encourage young men out there who are struggling, don't misinterpret my harmless post.

Olayetan:


Later you will come and be dragging gender equality but when it comes to responsibility, you put everything on a man.

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