| Re: I Am In A State Of Dilemma... Should I Move On? by HayZed040: 1:10pm On May 11, 2022 |
Nigerian gals ehn  Lagos - Ibadan;long distance relationship(not interested,dem go turn u down ASAP)  Nigeria - Italy;perfect kinda relationship I guess  6 Likes 3 Shares |
| Re: I Am In A State Of Dilemma... Should I Move On? by konkonbilo(m): 1:10pm On May 11, 2022 |
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| Re: I Am In A State Of Dilemma... Should I Move On? by Odewaleadesoye(m): 1:10pm On May 11, 2022 |
Cyntie55:
Normally, I don't reply question like this because most were tested to be lies but you're so special to me Cynthia!
I strongly advise that you find a way to get across to him first so that you don't jump into conclusion that you can regret.
If he's not picking your own calls, try give his number to a trusted person that can talk to him, I believe that he will surely have something to say about the relationship or his life abroad.
Once you've got enough signs that he has moved on please my precious sister, excuse him and move on too.
When one door closes, countless doors open.
Don't enter into a relationship immediately because you will always remember him and everything and you might eventually hurt the next person you will date.
God bless you greatly my dear.
Much love from Mr. Green Man. 3 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: I Am In A State Of Dilemma... Should I Move On? by buoye1(m): 1:13pm On May 11, 2022 |
Cyntie55:
I plan visiting his elder sister this weekend and explain to her the issue on ground but on a second thought I think I'm too forward. I'm jst confused and I feel hurt. if this guy were to be in Nigeria with all these wahala, you go wait for am? |
| Re: I Am In A State Of Dilemma... Should I Move On? by NNEVERAGAINN: 1:14pm On May 11, 2022 |
If he where to be in Nigeria, won't you had moved on long ago. Be sincere to yourself! Ignore him and move on as well. I know it ain't easy, but ignore him I meant. He'll respect you. That's if you're not at fault...... |
| Re: I Am In A State Of Dilemma... Should I Move On? by OhiOfIhima: 1:14pm On May 11, 2022 |
You're not too forward... If you have a codial relationship with his sister, go n talk to her. What she knows about her brother will give you a clue to the issue on ground. |
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| Re: I Am In A State Of Dilemma... Should I Move On? by gabicon: 1:15pm On May 11, 2022 |
Cyntie55:
There is this guy, we dated for 2 years before he traveled abroad (Italy) 2019. Our relationship was going on well even when he traveled out, we were always calling each other on video calls everyday. I was so faithful to him.
Suddenly (last year March), he started avoiding me. He could go for months before he replies my calls or chats.
Atleast no matter how busy you are, you can always spare 1 minutes of your time with the person you claim you love.
Please note, he's always online, We do video calls mostly on WhatsApp and anytime I try to reach him on video call or send him a message.... it always ring and deliver but he won't pick or reply.
Here are my reasons why I'm so confused whether to move on with my life or not.
1) Although before he started avoiding my calls, he told me he was busy... that he was working on something (but he never disclosed the particular "thing" to me)
2) We were supposed to get married as planned last year August. But this is May 2022 and absolutely nothing is in progress about it.
3)I discussed with his friend about it and he told me he's in a relationships over there. (I don't know if to believe him or not, because he didn't show me proof)
Now, it been a year I'm enduring his character. I feel like I'm stuck alone in this relationship. Heaven knows I haven't offended him in any way. I wish he could open up to me and tell me what I was doing wrong so that I could adjust. OR he should just tell me he's in a relationship so that I could move on.
I plan visiting his elder sister this weekend and explain to her the issue on ground but on a second thought I think I'm too forward. I'm jst confused and I feel hurt. The oxygen of any relationship is communication, if this man is no longer communicating with you, the relationship is already drowning. Not communicating with someone you claim to love for a whole year sounds like a dead relationship, if I were you I would move on, but if it's closure you seek you can go see his family for that. |
| Re: I Am In A State Of Dilemma... Should I Move On? by Nobody: 1:17pm On May 11, 2022 |
Eketem:
They told you somebody is in a relationship you are looking for proof. Oya keep waiting for proof. The reason why women hold onto this type of men is because they believe he has a lot to offer. If he was behaving like this in Nigeria, she would have packed her slippers. She has a dream that she too will move to Italy one day & the dream is crushed lol. 4 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: I Am In A State Of Dilemma... Should I Move On? by AkpaMgbor(m): 1:19pm On May 11, 2022 |
truthsayer009:
The reason why women hold onto this type of men is because they believe he has a lot to offer. If he has behaving like this in Nigeria, she would have packed her slippers. She has a dream that she too will move to Italy one day & the dream is crushed lol. Nuff said. |
| Re: I Am In A State Of Dilemma... Should I Move On? by AkhereOkaka(m): 1:19pm On May 11, 2022 |
Cyntie55:
There is this guy, we dated for 2 years before he traveled abroad (Italy) 2019. Our relationship was going on well even when he traveled out, we were always calling each other on video calls everyday. I was so faithful to him.
Suddenly (last year March), he started avoiding me. He could go for months before he replies my calls or chats.
Atleast no matter how busy you are, you can always spare 1 minutes of your time with the person you claim you love.
Please note, he's always online, We do video calls mostly on WhatsApp and anytime I try to reach him on video call or send him a message.... it always ring and deliver but he won't pick or reply.
Here are my reasons why I'm so confused whether to move on with my life or not.
1) Although before he started avoiding my calls, he told me he was busy... that he was working on something (but he never disclosed the particular "thing" to me)
2) We were supposed to get married as planned last year August. But this is May 2022 and absolutely nothing is in progress about it.
3)I discussed with his friend about it and he told me he's in a relationships over there. (I don't know if to believe him or not, because he didn't show me proof)
Now, it been a year I'm enduring his character. I feel like I'm stuck alone in this relationship. Heaven knows I haven't offended him in any way. I wish he could open up to me and tell me what I was doing wrong so that I could adjust. OR he should just tell me he's in a relationship so that I could move on.
I plan visiting his elder sister this weekend and explain to her the issue on ground but on a second thought I think I'm too forward. I'm jst confused and I feel hurt. Have being in Italy since July 2016, though currently in Nigeria for a visit. I feel your pain but try and make him speak to you about situations he's confronting over there, He might not be seeing someone else. He needs to integrate properly into the system and mind you this is not an easy task, cause the official language of Italy is Italian a non English speaking country. Have you asked him if he's gotten his permit of stay (permesso di soggionor) Which enables him to work and reside legally in the country?? My advise try to speak and make him open up to you, I believe he will do if he really loves you. This is my advise. Ciao Ciao We rise by lifting others |
| Re: I Am In A State Of Dilemma... Should I Move On? by Oplomo: 1:19pm On May 11, 2022 |
Cyntie55:
There is this guy, we dated for 2 years before he traveled abroad (Italy) 2019. Our relationship was going on well even when he traveled out, we were always calling each other on video calls everyday. I was so faithful to him.
Suddenly (last year March), he started avoiding me. He could go for months before he replies my calls or chats.
Atleast no matter how busy you are, you can always spare 1 minutes of your time with the person you claim you love.
Please note, he's always online, We do video calls mostly on WhatsApp and anytime I try to reach him on video call or send him a message.... it always ring and deliver but he won't pick or reply.
Here are my reasons why I'm so confused whether to move on with my life or not.
1) Although before he started avoiding my calls, he told me he was busy... that he was working on something (but he never disclosed the particular "thing" to me)
2) We were supposed to get married as planned last year August. But this is May 2022 and absolutely nothing is in progress about it.
3)I discussed with his friend about it and he told me he's in a relationships over there. (I don't know if to believe him or not, because he didn't show me proof)
Now, it been a year I'm enduring his character. I feel like I'm stuck alone in this relationship. Heaven knows I haven't offended him in any way. I wish he could open up to me and tell me what I was doing wrong so that I could adjust. OR he should just tell me he's in a relationship so that I could move on.
I plan visiting his elder sister this weekend and explain to her the issue on ground but on a second thought I think I'm too forward. I'm jst confused and I feel hurt. Ask him "Oga are you still interested in this relationship or not'. His response obvious or cryptic will tell you the truth if you allow your brain to function without emotions. Chai..and you be fine girl o. Exactly the physical qualities wey I dey find. Anyway sha, e go be. 1 Like |
| Re: I Am In A State Of Dilemma... Should I Move On? by bigpicture001: 1:21pm On May 11, 2022 |
You are still there and waiting cuz he is abroad and your thoughts of what if he takes me over there...
If it were a Naija based guy dat did this , you wouldn't hesitate at all....
Abeg u know what is right to do, but just don't want to do it cuz of abroad based guy mentality..
Na u sabi, if u like wait till 2039.. 3 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: I Am In A State Of Dilemma... Should I Move On? by Bahamas95(m): 1:23pm On May 11, 2022 |
Stop wasting your time, the guy has found someone else.
He should have just opened up to you instead of behaving like a baby......My girlfriends in the past know me, I don't beat around the bush. If am no longer feeling you I end the relationship straight up. |
| Re: I Am In A State Of Dilemma... Should I Move On? by Bamzyriches451: 1:24pm On May 11, 2022 |
Damn!
Sometimes he won't reply to calls/messages for a month?? Hehe you've been in a relationship with yourself for long sis! |
| Re: I Am In A State Of Dilemma... Should I Move On? by chineduuu3(m): 1:25pm On May 11, 2022 |
Living abroad revolves around exploring financial opportunities. He may have found a lady that potentially could impact positively on his financial status. Give him time. If possible ignore him too. If it is meant to be, he will reach out some day. I see him coming back to apologize, telling you that he entered into contract marriage abroad to secure the paper. This I have seen. 1 Like |
| Re: I Am In A State Of Dilemma... Should I Move On? by Slynation(m): 1:27pm On May 11, 2022 |
Cyntie55:
There is this guy, we dated for 2 years before he traveled abroad (Italy) 2019. Our relationship was going on well even when he traveled out, we were always calling each other on video calls everyday. I was so faithful to him.
Suddenly (last year March), he started avoiding me. He could go for months before he replies my calls or chats.
Atleast no matter how busy you are, you can always spare 1 minutes of your time with the person you claim you love.
Please note, he's always online, We do video calls mostly on WhatsApp and anytime I try to reach him on video call or send him a message.... it always ring and deliver but he won't pick or reply.
Here are my reasons why I'm so confused whether to move on with my life or not.
1) Although before he started avoiding my calls, he told me he was busy... that he was working on something (but he never disclosed the particular "thing" to me)
2) We were supposed to get married as planned last year August. But this is May 2022 and absolutely nothing is in progress about it.
3)I discussed with his friend about it and he told me he's in a relationships over there. (I don't know if to believe him or not, because he didn't show me proof)
Now, it been a year I'm enduring his character. I feel like I'm stuck alone in this relationship. Heaven knows I haven't offended him in any way. I wish he could open up to me and tell me what I was doing wrong so that I could adjust. OR he should just tell me he's in a relationship so that I could move on.
I plan visiting his elder sister this weekend and explain to her the issue on ground but on a second thought I think I'm too forward. I'm jst confused and I feel hurt. Aunty move on, it's so obvious the other party has let go and you have been dating yourself ever since, And I wonder what's wrong with some of you, his friend told you he's into a relationship over there and you still doubting him, Is it that he's a mannequin or he doesn't have functional preeq or you just chose to continue living in denial... I have noticed this trend with ladies, once it involves any man overseas, they will hold ontop that relationship like their life depends on it, well...!! Who doesn't like food is ready, as I'm typing this, that's how Chidinma has been living in illusion, rejecting every possible relationship and suitors coming for her just because her imaginary husband to be is in Texas for 5years now... Better move on and give that young man in your DM a chance now that you're are still young and fresh, instead of slowly turning yourself into a public disturbance... A wise man once told me "If they no Value you, Value yourself" 2 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: I Am In A State Of Dilemma... Should I Move On? by Paradigms: 1:27pm On May 11, 2022 |
That guy is not living a normal life there. He could be in a distress situation or inside right now. Pray for him.
However if you find a suitor get married. |
| Re: I Am In A State Of Dilemma... Should I Move On? by PrinceMajestic: 1:27pm On May 11, 2022 |
I can't believe as beautiful as you are you have been wasting away waiting for someone like that. It may not be easy for him there but there's no excuse for him treat you like that. Pls move on but with a serious person not sex freaks, your picture clearly says alot about you that you're beauty with brains. You deserve far better than such guy, move on sis but don't date his friend 1 Like |
| Re: I Am In A State Of Dilemma... Should I Move On? by dammiedot(m): 1:27pm On May 11, 2022 |
Not every relationship that ends require closure. Just move on, your peace of mind is more important. |
| Re: I Am In A State Of Dilemma... Should I Move On? by ozoono(m): 1:33pm On May 11, 2022 |
You guys saying move on, move on. Are you guys sure he is not in prison? I no I av been in that shoe before God intervain. |
| Re: I Am In A State Of Dilemma... Should I Move On? by Slynation(m): 1:33pm On May 11, 2022 |
bigpicture001:
You are still there and waiting cuz he is abroad and your thoughts of what if he takes me over there...
If it were a Naija based guy dat did this , you wouldn't hesitate at all....
Abeg u know what is right to do, but just don't want to do it cuz of abroad based guy mentality..
Na u sabi, if u like wait till 2039.. I swear...You know the story  |
| Re: I Am In A State Of Dilemma... Should I Move On? by Cutehector(m): 1:33pm On May 11, 2022 |
Cyntie55:
There is this guy, we dated for 2 years before he traveled abroad (Italy) 2019. Our relationship was going on well even when he traveled out, we were always calling each other on video calls everyday. I was so faithful to him.
Suddenly (last year March), he started avoiding me. He could go for months before he replies my calls or chats.
Atleast no matter how busy you are, you can always spare 1 minutes of your time with the person you claim you love.
Please note, he's always online, We do video calls mostly on WhatsApp and anytime I try to reach him on video call or send him a message.... it always ring and deliver but he won't pick or reply.
Here are my reasons why I'm so confused whether to move on with my life or not.
1) Although before he started avoiding my calls, he told me he was busy... that he was working on something (but he never disclosed the particular "thing" to me)
2) We were supposed to get married as planned last year August. But this is May 2022 and absolutely nothing is in progress about it.
3)I discussed with his friend about it and he told me he's in a relationships over there. (I don't know if to believe him or not, because he didn't show me proof)
Now, it been a year I'm enduring his character. I feel like I'm stuck alone in this relationship. Heaven knows I haven't offended him in any way. I wish he could open up to me and tell me what I was doing wrong so that I could adjust. OR he should just tell me he's in a relationship so that I could move on.
I plan visiting his elder sister this weekend and explain to her the issue on ground but on a second thought I think I'm too forward. I'm jst confused and I feel hurt. which branch of first bank do you work with? |
| Re: I Am In A State Of Dilemma... Should I Move On? by Uniquetani1(f): 1:33pm On May 11, 2022 |
Cyntie55:
There is this guy, we dated for 2 years before he traveled abroad (Italy) 2019. Our relationship was going on well even when he traveled out, we were always calling each other on video calls everyday. I was so faithful to him.
Suddenly (last year March), he started avoiding me. He could go for months before he replies my calls or chats.
Atleast no matter how busy you are, you can always spare 1 minutes of your time with the person you claim you love.
Please note, he's always online, We do video calls mostly on WhatsApp and anytime I try to reach him on video call or send him a message.... it always ring and deliver but he won't pick or reply.
Here are my reasons why I'm so confused whether to move on with my life or not.
1) Although before he started avoiding my calls, he told me he was busy... that he was working on something (but he never disclosed the particular "thing" to me)
2) We were supposed to get married as planned last year August. But this is May 2022 and absolutely nothing is in progress about it.
3)I discussed with his friend about it and he told me he's in a relationships over there. (I don't know if to believe him or not, because he didn't show me proof)
Now, it been a year I'm enduring his character. I feel like I'm stuck alone in this relationship. Heaven knows I haven't offended him in any way. I wish he could open up to me and tell me what I was doing wrong so that I could adjust. OR he should just tell me he's in a relationship so that I could move on.
I plan visiting his elder sister this weekend and explain to her the issue on ground but on a second thought I think I'm too forward. I'm jst confused and I feel hurt. Babe, you should move on I was once in your shoes We like each other a lot in fact the communication was so sweet. I noticed that he will be online and won't reply my messages. I knew that he was busy as he was on his career development. We won't even communicate for days even weeks, I was so hurt that I don't know what to do. I also don't want to look desperate, I understand that he doesn't worth my worries. So I made up my mind to forget about him and move on with my life. You won't believe that till now (a year now) I still haven't heard from him. Your story made me to remember him. You might think that you won't move on, you will. Time is everything, don't reach out to him again. You will be fine soon 2 Likes |
| Re: I Am In A State Of Dilemma... Should I Move On? by orlaglobal234: 1:34pm On May 11, 2022 |
Move on if you like and if you want to be Abroad wife don't move very soon you will find yourself in Italy |
| Re: I Am In A State Of Dilemma... Should I Move On? by fOFT: 1:34pm On May 11, 2022 |
Cyntie55:
There is this guy, we dated for 2 years before he traveled abroad (Italy) 2019. Our relationship was going on well even when he traveled out, we were always calling each other on video calls everyday. I was so faithful to him.
Suddenly (last year March), he started avoiding me. He could go for months before he replies my calls or chats.
Atleast no matter how busy you are, you can always spare 1 minutes of your time with the person you claim you love.
Please note, he's always online, We do video calls mostly on WhatsApp and anytime I try to reach him on video call or send him a message.... it always ring and deliver but he won't pick or reply.
Here are my reasons why I'm so confused whether to move on with my life or not.
1) Although before he started avoiding my calls, he told me he was busy... that he was working on something (but he never disclosed the particular "thing" to me)
2) We were supposed to get married as planned last year August. But this is May 2022 and absolutely nothing is in progress about it.
3)I discussed with his friend about it and he told me he's in a relationships over there. (I don't know if to believe him or not, because he didn't show me proof)
Now, it been a year I'm enduring his character. I feel like I'm stuck alone in this relationship. Heaven knows I haven't offended him in any way. I wish he could open up to me and tell me what I was doing wrong so that I could adjust. OR he should just tell me he's in a relationship so that I could move on.
I plan visiting his elder sister this weekend and explain to her the issue on ground but on a second thought I think I'm too forward. I'm jst confused and I feel hurt. No one is too busy to talk to someone who is important to them. I live in Italy. It is better to follow your heart and I can see red flags everywhere from your explanation. Note: What’s the immigration status of your boyfriend? Is he a student, Asylum seeker or working class? Italy is not as easy as you think. I wish you all the best 2 Likes |
| Re: I Am In A State Of Dilemma... Should I Move On? by seanwilliam(m): 1:37pm On May 11, 2022 |
The guy might be going through a lot and he’s probably disappointed in himself .
And this is also one side of the story… Who knows if you’ve been a thorn in his flesh when he was in Nigeria and he patiently waited for the perfect opportunity to dump your sorry ass.
You saying you will adjust if he tells you what’s wrong , is just an emotional game cos it’s already dawned on you that the guy man’s eyes have opened and probably seen better offer.
Lastly , sometime I could be online and won’t reply my girlfriend if I’m busy with trades and that’s because if I mistakenly reply her, 3hrs she no go free me. Sometimes I’ll ignore her calls too if it will disturb my business for the day ..
All these don’t mean I don’t like her.. but I gotta put my priority right ..
But I certainly will drop a message for her before I sleep off or call her and crack jokes ..
Mostly , men use silent treatment to break up with violent woman , he knows gradually she will get over him ..
Anyway , my advice to you
1. Go to his family , explain all that’s been happening to them.
2. Pls check within yourself and see if you’ve offended him in anyway .
3. Try every possible means to find out what he’s going through over there., he might just need motivation and encouragement not condemnation and unnecessary drama ..
4. Send a text to him pouring out your emotions, and ask him to tell you is decision on the relationship. If he keeps mute and you’re sure he read the text ,, dust your bag , count your loss and move on..
Don’t curse him , no be every relationship Dey lead to marriage .. besides , he might not be the one God has destined for you .
Las las you will be ok |
| Re: I Am In A State Of Dilemma... Should I Move On? by AgentGoat: 1:40pm On May 11, 2022 |
Cyntie55:
There is this guy, we dated for 2 years before he traveled abroad (Italy) 2019. Our relationship was going on well even when he traveled out, we were always calling each other on video calls everyday. I was so faithful to him.
Suddenly (last year March), he started avoiding me. He could go for months before he replies my calls or chats.
Atleast no matter how busy you are, you can always spare 1 minutes of your time with the person you claim you love.
Please note, he's always online, We do video calls mostly on WhatsApp and anytime I try to reach him on video call or send him a message.... it always ring and deliver but he won't pick or reply.
Here are my reasons why I'm so confused whether to move on with my life or not.
1) Although before he started avoiding my calls, he told me he was busy... that he was working on something (but he never disclosed the particular "thing" to me)
2) We were supposed to get married as planned last year August. But this is May 2022 and absolutely nothing is in progress about it.
3)I discussed with his friend about it and he told me he's in a relationships over there. (I don't know if to believe him or not, because he didn't show me proof)
Now, it been a year I'm enduring his character. I feel like I'm stuck alone in this relationship. Heaven knows I haven't offended him in any way. I wish he could open up to me and tell me what I was doing wrong so that I could adjust. OR he should just tell me he's in a relationship so that I could move on.
I plan visiting his elder sister this weekend and explain to her the issue on ground but on a second thought I think I'm too forward. I'm jst confused and I feel hurt. He's seriousness will be dependent of his visa status. If he's still standing with one leg over there having a serious relationship in Nigeria will be his least problem. On this note, i ll say you should be very careful. Observe him for a while and move on. |
| Re: I Am In A State Of Dilemma... Should I Move On? by Kenmarine(m): 1:41pm On May 11, 2022 |
You're crying coz you know he's abroad and you're expecting the hard currency. If he wants you, he'll be the one to try his best and keep up to you. Just move on Aunty. |
| Re: I Am In A State Of Dilemma... Should I Move On? by Nobody: 1:43pm On May 11, 2022 |
Slynation:
I have noticed this trend with ladies, once it involves any man overseas, they will hold ontop that relationship like their life depends on it, well...!! Who doesn't like food is ready, as I'm typing this, that's how Chidinma has been living in illusion, rejecting every possible relationship and suitors coming for her just because her imaginary husband to be is in Texas for 5years now...
Let me find trouble. Who is Chidinma? |
| Re: I Am In A State Of Dilemma... Should I Move On? by jayjay69: 1:47pm On May 11, 2022 |
The picture is cleared captured. |
| Re: I Am In A State Of Dilemma... Should I Move On? by Mrsserene: 1:47pm On May 11, 2022 |
Please move on my sister. You don't deserve this kind of treatment. He's clearly no more interested. Sorry. |
