Better move on with another person if you have.

You can wait another years my dear, cuz you haven't understood the redflag....

My concern be say, person wey love you truly for 9ja you won't give the person chance not until u LooseGuard con dey call MEN SCUM abi wetin una dey call all men sef??

Peace ✌️

pocohantas:
Diasporan folks are designed to give hypertension. Some are normal, some are not. Your guy is obviously one of the abnormal ones. I don’t know what sign or proof you are looking for again. I like to think he has spoken loudly with his silence.

The best you can do is spell it out to him that you would be moving on. That way you don’t cheat or have any guilt on your mind. Detach yourself emotionally first. Distract yourself with work and hobbies. Slowly but surely, you would forget his existence.

That said, abroad is hard. Italy is harder.
Sometimes a man got to do what he got to do. Free the young man and free yourself too.

Never be afraid to move on.
Be prepared for anything and everything.
A carpenter in Nigeria might end up making you feel more loved and cherished, but you would never know until you heal and try again.

Why are you using a carpenter as an illustration,are you trying to say that being a carpenter is a job?

Ovbi’Edo I hope you have reconnected with your boyfriend now?

Cyntie55:
There is this guy, we dated for 2 years before he traveled abroad (Italy) 2019. Our relationship was going on well even when he traveled out, we were always calling each other on video calls everyday. I was so faithful to him.

Suddenly (last year March), he started avoiding me. He could go for months before he replies my calls or chats.
Atleast no matter how busy you are, you can always spare 1 minutes of your time with the person you claim you love.

Please note, he's always online, We do video calls mostly on WhatsApp and anytime I try to reach him on video call or send him a message.... it always ring and deliver but he won't pick or reply.

Here are my reasons why I'm so confused whether to move on with my life or not.

1) Although before he started avoiding my calls, he told me he was busy... that he was working on something (but he never disclosed the particular "thing" to me)

2) We were supposed to get married as planned last year August. But this is May 2022 and absolutely nothing is in progress about it.

3)I discussed with his friend about it and he told me he's in a relationships over there. (I don't know if to believe him or not, because he didn't show me proof)

Now, it been a year I'm enduring his character. I feel like I'm stuck alone in this relationship. Heaven knows I haven't offended him in any way. I wish he could open up to me and tell me what I was doing wrong so that I could adjust. OR he should just tell me he's in a relationship so that I could move on.

I plan visiting his elder sister this weekend and explain to her the issue on ground but on a second thought I think I'm too forward. I'm jst confused and I feel hurt.

Ovbi’Edo hope your man is back now?
Koor!

pocohantas:
Diasporan folks are designed to give hypertension. Some are normal, some are not. Your guy is obviously one of the abnormal ones. I don’t know what sign or proof you are looking for again. I like to think he has spoken loudly with his silence.

The best you can do is spell it out to him that you would be moving on. That way you don’t cheat or have any guilt on your mind. Detach yourself emotionally first. Distract yourself with work and hobbies. Slowly but surely, you would forget his existence.

That said, abroad is hard. Italy is harder.
Sometimes a man got to do what he got to do. Free the young man and free yourself too.

Never be afraid to move on.
Be prepared for anything and everything.
A carpenter in Nigeria might end up making you feel more loved and cherished, but you would never know until you heal and try again.

Lol... @bolded.

Cyntie55:
There is this guy, we dated for 2 years before he traveled abroad (Italy) 2019. Our relationship was going on well even when he traveled out, we were always calling each other on video calls everyday. I was so faithful to him.

Suddenly (last year March), he started avoiding me. He could go for months before he replies my calls or chats.
Atleast no matter how busy you are, you can always spare 1 minutes of your time with the person you claim you love.

Please note, he's always online, We do video calls mostly on WhatsApp and anytime I try to reach him on video call or send him a message.... it always ring and deliver but he won't pick or reply.

Here are my reasons why I'm so confused whether to move on with my life or not.

1) Although before he started avoiding my calls, he told me he was busy... that he was working on something (but he never disclosed the particular "thing" to me)

2) We were supposed to get married as planned last year August. But this is May 2022 and absolutely nothing is in progress about it.

3)I discussed with his friend about it and he told me he's in a relationships over there. (I don't know if to believe him or not, because he didn't show me proof)

Now, it been a year I'm enduring his character. I feel like I'm stuck alone in this relationship. Heaven knows I haven't offended him in any way. I wish he could open up to me and tell me what I was doing wrong so that I could adjust. OR he should just tell me he's in a relationship so that I could move on.

I plan visiting his elder sister this weekend and explain to her the issue on ground but on a second thought I think I'm too forward. I'm jst confused and I feel hurt.

Cyntie55,

You're very wise and real for asking folks here 5 months ago about the situation.

When there is a delay in getting what you want, there is a reason. It's to prepare you for something much better down the road. Italy can be very tough to live in too.

If he isn't having convos with you anymore via video calls, that's his loss! A determined but busy man or immigrant would make efforts to reach out to his gurl at least once a week so as not to keep you in a state of suspense.

Make yourself available for friendships with other men but develop yourself by reading a good book on relationships, new hobbies and career objectives first, and be wise in choosing the right guy next time. "Every Woman" is a very good book that I have read years back. Read it if you haven't.

Take care. Ciao.

AlphaTaikun:

Cyntie55,

You're very wise and real for asking folks here 5 months ago about the situation.

When there is a delay in getting what you want, there is a reason. It's to prepare you for something much better down the road. Italy can be very tough to live in too.

If he isn't having convos with you anymore via video calls, that's his loss! A determined but busy man or immigrant would make efforts to reach out to his gurl at least once a week so as not to keep you in a state of suspense.

Make yourself available to friendships with other men but develop yourself by reading a good book on relationships, new hobbies and career objectives first, and be wise in choosing the right guy next time. "Every Woman" is a very good book that I have read years back. Read it if you haven't.

Take care. Ciao.

Oga, you read 'Every Woman'?

Octopusssy:
Oga, you read 'Every Woman'?

If you're referring to the gynecological* book, it is a big plus and unwritten standard for me when a man has read and read such books.

begoniaa:


If you're referring to the gynecological book, it is a big plus and unwritten standard for me when a man has read and read such books.

I wonder why he read it with such aggressive curiousity...

Octopusssy:

Oga, you read 'Every Woman'?

*Leads "OctoIshi" iyawo wa right back into the thread*

How's it going Loveth?

So, I read it years back... Very illuminating. You've got a problem with the book?

Octopusssy:
I wonder why he read it with such aggressive curiousity...

Aggressive curiosity ke?

Nibo?

Octopusssy:

Oga, you read 'Every Woman'?

Is it a bad thing?