teekay213:
is it not possible for someone to be right in the midst of several people? My late dad always take my sides when he was alive main reason for this hate later my mum but he(the first son) won my mom over and other siblings though I still talk with my younger sister once in a while

You are failing to understand the dynamics in your family let breakdown for you to be able to make the next step

1 you were either protected by your daddy/liked more, you brother either saw it or may be he was jelousy now you are vulnerable he picks on u

2 in term of inheritance you are next in the line he might hate u for that

3 He is the oldest and by most african tradition he becames the head he has influence on mum due to that, remember when a man dies the wife looses her power and influence mum has to be supportive behind your brother remember there is money coming from rentals mum needs it too

4 Marrying now is not health until you ate financially stable, you wife will be caught up in this drama and will be used a battle ground

5 Marrying without family support is usaually disaster unless if you have really valued reason,

teekay213:
■ But this is the question, is it possible to get married without involving them like will the lady I want to get married to and her family accept me without my own family when it's time for me to get married?.

1. Simple! Do court marriage and save yourself money and stress!

teekay213:
My family is evil.

My siblings 2 male(older) and 1younger female and a male has hated me so much and did so many bad things that they now turn our mom against me.

If I should start telling you the evil they did to me it will take a lot of time but what I did was to cut myself from them so they will not harm me ...but to my surprise they have persuaded my mother that was on my side before to ditch me, she doesn't pick or call me again and I know it's the work of them.

But this is the question, is it possible to get married without involving them like will the lady I want to get married to and her family accept me without my own family when it's time for me to get married?.

Depends on d lady family side and don't forget what Abt of u have lost all of Dem nko??
Won't u still proceed with your life ??

It's not compulsory but good if you have a welcoming family to be aware .

Check the link attached.

teekay213:
I'm not a storyteller,,,there are things you hear but want to know what other people will say to it.