donbachi:
Your guy is always on colos.

What is colos?

EkoErrands:


That thing he is practicing on you, their is a female version. ...I think the girl uses a whip to flog his back until he starts bleeding until he gets an orgasm....try and watch some on por* sites and learn. By the time your whip touches him on his scrotum by mistake he will have a rethink.

Truth is most guys have been damaged by porn....you way wan marry check the level of damage you can survive in a guy before you marry him.

Good luck...

you are bad shild haha

You are sure, he is mentally okay?

Like Ekoerrands suggested, there is a female version femdom or something like that. Tie him and use whip on him. By the time you whip his scrotum, its not someone that would tell him to stop. No one has a monopoly of madness and yes, two can play the game.

DaisyMellow:
Hi guys. I usually don't bring relationship issues to Nairaland, but this one is very serious as it concerns the man I am engaged to and scheduled to marry before the end of the year.

I have known him for a year and few months and we are in love. When we started having sex, it was all vanilla and although he was a bit rough; as in throwing me around and putting me in different positions, I was okay with it, and honestly, it was kinda exciting because some of those styles were new to me

However recently things have gotten really weird whenever we are having sex. He requests me to do certain stuff that honestly creeps me out. Sometimes he would tie my hands behind my back so tight and stuff the pillowcase in my mouth, then have his way with me. Sometimes he would blindfold me with my scarf and ask me to beg him to free me, while choking me with his two hands. There was even a time he got a knife and pretended to want to stab me and asked me to play along and act scared. Sometimes he would ask me to forge tears so he would watch me cry while we had sex.

It's gotten real bad that a week ago, I almost passed out when he was doing one of his weird choking sex-plays. In the past I have talked to him about how I didn't enjoy some of these things and how we should do it sparingly or not at all. He sounded like he understood, but after a few weeks he seemed bored and uninterested in normal sex, and begged me to go back to the rough stuff because that's the only thing he likes.

I know he loves me because he takes good care of me and is even friendly with my parents and siblings. But this extreme sex thing is really making me uncomfortable.

I can't imagine going through this sort of sex every day when we eventually get married and live under the same roof.

I need serious advice on the next steps to take.

You are unreasonable & not sensible/sensitive..., how can you be seasonable...? You are irresponsible, an irritable bowel or "have an irritable bowel and towels"...? Get out and get lost... After all, you have gone out ... or are&can be getting out or going out to eat lunch...? Fool... good cool fool... looking for food or looking for cotton candy/cotton wool... What a cool fool looking for good food!..., or are you looking for good news...?...

DaisyMellow:
Hi guys. I usually don't bring relationship issues to Nairaland, but this one is very serious as it concerns the man I am engaged to and scheduled to marry before the end of the year.

I have known him for a year and few months and we are in love. When we started having sex, it was all vanilla and although he was a bit rough; as in throwing me around and putting me in different positions, I was okay with it, and honestly, it was kinda exciting because some of those styles were new to me

However recently things have gotten really weird whenever we are having sex. He requests me to do certain stuff that honestly creeps me out. Sometimes he would tie my hands behind my back so tight and stuff the pillowcase in my mouth, then have his way with me. Sometimes he would blindfold me with my scarf and ask me to beg him to free me, while choking me with his two hands. There was even a time he got a knife and pretended to want to stab me and asked me to play along and act scared. Sometimes he would ask me to forge tears so he would watch me cry while we had sex.

It's gotten real bad that a week ago, I almost passed out when he was doing one of his weird choking sex-plays. In the past I have talked to him about how I didn't enjoy some of these things and how we should do it sparingly or not at all. He sounded like he understood, but after a few weeks he seemed bored and uninterested in normal sex, and begged me to go back to the rough stuff because that's the only thing he likes.

I know he loves me because he takes good care of me and is even friendly with my parents and siblings. But this extreme sex thing is really making me uncomfortable.

I can't imagine going through this sort of sex every day when we eventually get married and live under the same roof.

I need serious advice on the next steps to take.

Damn! I would have said the novelty of both of you having sex is what is trippin' him, but when you brought up his tying your hands before doing sex styles you don't want and his use of the knife during sex, then you have a rapist or potential rapist as your boyfriend and he's using YOU like a slut to practice forceful rape scenarios or sequences! It will continue when you get married unless you draw the line and let him know you feel VIOLATED. Period.


Take this from an OG.