Gaggi:
My Friend Is Putting Me In A Tight Situation

My very close colleague and friend and I work in the same office. He relocated his family out of town almost a year ago, the wife traveled for further studies. He has a lovely wife, really good woman and two lovely kids. I also live with my family. We used to visit each other and our kids played together while they were around.

The issue now is he now keeps a steady girl. The girl cannot hold a light close to anywhere near his wife. The wife beats her in terms of beauty, class, intelligence, fashion, attitude, just name it.

At first i didn't talk when i saw them together. Felt it was a casual fling, he probably was lonely and needed a little company. However, he now takes her everywhere, friends houses, colleagues parties etc. I have warned him severally but he keeps telling me he'll look for the right time to let her go. He's been saying this for more than 6 months now. He even confessed that they do have unprotected sex occasionally, especially when they are both drunk and she has said she'll kill him and kill herself if he leaves her for another girl.

I hate to see my friend destroy a beautiful family. I don't know what to do to save him. I don't have his wife's number, even if i did, telling her might result to breaking the marriage instead of saving it. For now, all i do is just pray for him. Anybody with any brilliant ideas?

6 words. It is non of your business. Stay out of it.

Mr Op. go and look for a way of conjuring sense into his head.
you can stil meet a babalawo for a powder dat will make his mistress forget him forever and ever. jst saying. if u really want to epp his family

Amelian:




Gun for it when you are single as a lady.. Not when you are married... Smhhh

Does that in anyway guarantee fidelity?

The kitchen and the other room are suddenly important now abi? This is what you get when women think they are in competition with men. You cannot run away from the kitchen and the other room, absolutely not. Come back to where you belong beautiful wife!

Such a shame, for the man to be that way.

Gaggi:
My Friend Is Putting Me In A Tight Situation

My very close colleague and friend and I work in the same office. He relocated his family out of town almost a year ago, the wife traveled for further studies. He has a lovely wife, really good woman and two lovely kids. I also live with my family. We used to visit each other and our kids played together while they were around.

The issue now is he now keeps a steady girl. The girl cannot hold a light close to anywhere near his wife. The wife beats her in terms of beauty, class, intelligence, fashion, attitude, just name it.

At first i didn't talk when i saw them together. Felt it was a casual fling, he probably was lonely and needed a little company. However, he now takes her everywhere, friends houses, colleagues parties etc. I have warned him severally but he keeps telling me he'll look for the right time to let her go. He's been saying this for more than 6 months now. He even confessed that they do have unprotected sex occasionally, especially when they are both drunk and she has said she'll kill him and kill herself if he leaves her for another girl.

I hate to see my friend destroy a beautiful family. I don't know what to do to save him. I don't have his wife's number, even if i did, telling her might result to breaking the marriage instead of saving it. For now, all i do is just pray for him. Anybody with any brilliant ideas?

Yes, I have a brilliant idea.


Stop poking your head into other people's private affairs and concentrate on your family. Amebo is not paid employment. Wetin concern you if another full blown adult have unprotected sex with another full blown adult? How is it your business?

Is that how you use to do?

Tori leke plaza!

That man has no business being married, I wish the wife can find out and have the will to leave his sorry shameful...

Babysheart:


Yes, I have a brilliant idea.


Stop poking your head into other people's private affairs and concentrate on your family. Amebo is not paid employment. Wetin concern you if another full blown adult have unprotected sex with another full blown adult? How is it your business?

Is that how you use to do?

I dnt know but something tells me u are going out with another womann's husband ... correct me if am wrong pls

DarkRebel101:


This probably qualifies as the dumbest comment I've seen since last week on all the social media platforms that I frequent.

According to Amelian, any woman who has been walked down the aisle ought to osculate her academic aspirations goodbye. And why? For a reason as tenuous as preventing her husband from diverting his gaze onto other women.

You might as well ask her to consign her life dreams to the incinerator because she now has a rock on her finger.
...

See, this is why I suggested that you be a MILF and consider dating younger guys.

Younger guys = Younger spërm = Sharper and more discerning mind.

Whoever says furthering your education is bad? you just have to be wise in choosing location IMO

bareal:
The kitchen and the other room are suddenly important now abi? This is what you get when women think they are competion with men. You cannot run away from the kitchen and the other room, absolutely not. Come back to where you belong beautiful wife!

Nah, she wouldn't just come back to the kitchen and other room.
She would follow him every where he goes. Even dogs are trained to move about without a leash, let alone a grown man.

[b][/b]cut Off From Him Totally And Also Talk To Friends You Have In Common And Encourage Him To Do Same.You Allowing Him To Bring That Thing To Parties Shows He Disrespects All Of You And Of Course Him Self.You Need To Force Him To C Reality.Tell Him Of Ur Intention,give A Final Warning And Then Act!

CecyAdrian:


I dnt know but something tells me u are going out with another womann's husband ... correct me if am wrong pls

First thing that came to my mind as well. See how she carried the matter for head.

So a married man should stay for over 6 months no sex? that's difficult. am sure those girls saying the man should abstain won't even risk travelling away from their husbands if\when they marry.

life is too short to be putting a one-time marriage experience on the line for certificate. why bother traveling far distance to further, why not further here in Nigeria?

both of them are at fault here.

Very bad indeed. Some men ehh.....

Amelian, what if it was the man that travelled overseas for further studies and is cheating there? Please what is your advice in that case? Should we blame the wife for that too?

Amelian:




Lol.. If u like be a man.. If u like turn into a woman? Or even turn into a snake? Who cares?? That's your cup of tea. I will air my views whether u agree or not..thats your business.
And am so happy the way I was brought up.. It gives me complete peace..
If my words are so painful, think about me throughout the rest of today and even throughout this week.
It's your plate of mai mai.

@ Amelian, i put my hands together for u, luk women once u are married, living togather with ur man is the wisest thing u can do,6 months? Then the marriage has cracked already so lizards can use it as an abode that is the truth. If a man told u no qualms be rest assured that u are no more is number one

Bollinger:


6 words. It is non of your business. Stay out of it.

WRONG! A TRUE FRIEND WILL DO ALL HE CAN TO SAVE A FRIEND FROM DESTROYING HIS LIFE.ITS HIS BUSINESS

Plzz Mind your business and remove your eye from another man’s pot of soup. From your analysis there is every reason to believe you have a crush for your friend’s wife.

How to chase a home destroyer (volume 1, made easy)

step 1. Get the girl number
step 2. Call her by hiding your number
step 3. Threaten her that you are hired to monitor her activities with your married friend
step 4. If she desist, send a friend to just scare her when she's moving alone
step 5. Thank me later

Method 2

1. Set her up with a friend
2. Conspire with a friend to woo her by disturbing her day and night till she succumbed
3. Set her up by calling your married friend
4. Thank me later

Method 3

1. Look for a deliverance church
2. I suggest mountain of fire or omega fire church
3. Take your friend there for deliverance
4. Thank me later

Method 4

1. Pray and fast for 40days and 50 night pere and all your friends travail will end

Gaggi:
My Friend Is Putting Me In A Tight Situation

My very close colleague and friend and I work in the same office. He relocated his family out of town almost a year ago, the wife traveled for further studies. He has a lovely wife, really good woman and two lovely kids. I also live with my family. We used to visit each other and our kids played together while they were around.

The issue now is he now keeps a steady girl. The girl cannot hold a light close to anywhere near his wife. The wife beats her in terms of beauty, class, intelligence, fashion, attitude, just name it.

At first i didn't talk when i saw them together. Felt it was a casual fling, he probably was lonely and needed a little company. However, he now takes her everywhere, friends houses, colleagues parties etc. I have warned him severally but he keeps telling me he'll look for the right time to let her go. He's been saying this for more than 6 months now. He even confessed that they do have unprotected sex occasionally, especially when they are both drunk and she has said she'll kill him and kill herself if he leaves her for another girl.

I hate to see my friend destroy a beautiful family. I don't know what to do to save him. I don't have his wife's number, even if i did, telling her might result to breaking the marriage instead of saving it. For now, all i do is just pray for him. Anybody with any brilliant ideas?

DarkRebel101:


What is wrong with gunning for a master's degree or a PhD? SMH.

nothing wrong o, marriage na one aspect out of many wey person get for life. What if she decides to study close to home.

Amelian:
It's a pity, some married women are like that... They will leave their husband, travel abroad for further studies and I usually ask, this PHD or masters u are going for? Please enlighten me, what do u intend to do with it? They will say they just want to have higher degrees.
I shake head for those wives.. Later they will start crying wolf, saying can u imagine her husband has married another woman.. May the almighty God give them sense to see the havoc they are creating in their homes.

Op, your friend is lonely. And even if the wife travels with the next flight back home to fight her husband. Cos He is the only person she can fight for now.. After telling her sorry dear, with sweet words and she travels back.. He will still go back to his girlfriend.. And the girlfriend is determined to be his wife.. So my dear, the situation is messy already.

And the wife is not lonely where she traveled.?

your friend is in one bottle in the forest region of enugu state

CecyAdrian:
Tori leke plaza!

That man has no business being married, I wish the wife can fine out and have the will to leave his sorry shameful...

you did not address the issue. me I can't even imagine myself stay away from sex for that long and say am married. people have urge you know. it's natural.

Amelian:
It's a pity, some married women are like that... They will leave their husband, travel abroad for further studies and I usually ask, this PHD or masters u are going for? Please enlighten me, what do u intend to do with it? They will say they just want to have higher degrees.
I shake head for those wives.. Later they will start crying wolf, saying can u imagine her husband has married another woman.. May the almighty God give them sense to see the havoc they are creating in their homes.

Op, your friend is lonely. And even if the wife travels with the next flight back home to fight her husband. Cos He is the only person she can fight for now.. After telling her sorry dear, with sweet words and she travels back.. He will still go back to his girlfriend.. And the girlfriend is determined to be his wife.. So my dear, the situation is messy already.

I have to agree with you.

DarkRebel101 and the others:

As a man i cannot cheat on my wife (when i will have one) but to pretend that men are not the way men generally are will not help matters.

i remember one day my christian boss who goes to church twice a week, and dotes on his family, called me into his office and asked me "SmartyPants, is it wrong if i keep a girlfriend because my wife is not around" i was literally dumbfounded...i had no clue how to answer because on the one hand he and i both knew the answer but on the other, i knew exactly what sort of pressure he must have been facing.

The average man easily falls emotionally and sexually when lonely, and considers it a right to have sexual intercourse. Can you change that?? Unless you want to say you have found some brilliant technique for making people do the right thing against their wishes, then if the misbehavior of another person will affect you, then you yourself must do what you gotta do to survive. To reason otherwise could be compared to saying, people should not commit armed robbery, therefore i will not secure mysefl and my property. When you get robbed are you not secondarily to blame?

I'm not directly blaming the lady here as clearly her husband lacks self control and integrity, but what i am saying is that if you know that your husband lacks self control and integrity and you also care about your marriage, then you should do your best to not allow him the exposure that may bring out the worst in him.

Amelian:





Am not betraying my Brain.. My brain is intact and working very well.. Better than yours I will say.. And babes am not representing you ooo.... This is a public forum where everyone air their views.. Say yours, if u have anything UPSTAIRS in that brain of yours, try contribute to what the op mentioned above .. And stop quoting me..
Am not your boyfriend nor your husband.

Capish?

I believe our responses on social media platform in a way reveal/show how things are ranked in our lives.
For you, I can see marriage is given a higher priority than educational advancement, I may be wrong though. I quite agree with you, even if some don't.
But, I think instead of a wife and mother to leave her hubby and kids to go study abroad, why not stay here, get the degrees, and attend to the need of the husband and the kids, too. Part-time studies are there, even for Masters, and she will only be away for some weekends or so. I did mine that way.
It is best not to open partners or spouses to temptation by staying away for too long.
ALTHOUGH, a man/woman that will stray will stray no matter what, even if they both work in the same office.

Gaggi:
My Friend Is Putting Me In A Tight Situation

My very close colleague and friend and I work in the same office. He relocated his family out of town almost a year ago, the wife traveled for further studies. He has a lovely wife, really good woman and two lovely kids. I also live with my family. We used to visit each other and our kids played together while they were around.

The issue now is he now keeps a steady girl. The girl cannot hold a light close to anywhere near his wife. The wife beats her in terms of beauty, class, intelligence, fashion, attitude, just name it.

At first i didn't talk when i saw them together. Felt it was a casual fling, he probably was lonely and needed a little company. However, he now takes her everywhere, friends houses, colleagues parties etc. I have warned him severally but he keeps telling me he'll look for the right time to let her go. He's been saying this for more than 6 months now. He even confessed that they do have unprotected sex occasionally, especially when they are both drunk and she has said she'll kill him and kill herself if he leaves her for another girl.

I hate to see my friend destroy a beautiful family. I don't know what to do to save him. I don't have his wife's number, even if i did, telling her might result to breaking the marriage instead of saving it. For now, all i do is just pray for him. Anybody with any brilliant ideas?

Marriage is like Uefa Champions League. No matter how good u are, there's a team that'll beat you using either home or away advantage.
Just tell the wife to prepare for the next competition with a good coach

ephi123:
Amelian, what if it was the man that travelled overseas for further studies and is cheating there? Please what is your advice in that case? Should we blame the wife for that too?

blame both of them. husband and wife should be together and have fun. the marriage should be the number one priority in their lives. not a certificate

SmartyPants:


I have to agree with you.

DarkRebel101 and the others:

As a man i cannot cheat on my wife (when i will have one) but to pretend that men are not the way men generally are will not help matters.

i remember one day my christian boss who goes to church twice a week, and dotes on his family, called me into his office and asked me "SmartyPants, is it wrong if i keep a girlfriend because my wife is not around" i was literally dumbfounded...i had no clue how to answer because on the one hand he and i both knew the answer but on the other, i knew exactly what sort of pressure he must have been facing.

The average man easily falls emotionally and sexually when lonely, and considers it a right to have sexual intercourse. Can you change that?? Unless you want to say you have found some brilliant technique for making people do the right thing against their wishes, then if the misbehavior of another person will affect you, then you yourself must do what you gotta do to survive. To reason otherwise could be compared to saying, people should not commit armed robbery, therefore i will not secure mysefl and my property. When you get robbed are you not secondarily to blame?

I'm not directly blaming the lady here as clearly her husband lacks self control and integrity, but what i am saying is that if you know that your husband lacks self control and integrity and you also care about your marriage, then you should do your best to not allow him the exposure that may bring out the worst in him.

If he lacks self control and integrity, he will still cheat even right under her nose. Her travelling is simply a convenient excuse.

my advice try by any means to get his wife's number, post an anonymous text tell her to come home now nd save her marriage. let her know she only has two choices,her studies or her marriage dat as it is d chances of getting d two is as slim as 10%. Cos if she come back home dat nonsence 'll stop,there won't be room for dat anymore. else she loose her home nd get an educational higher qualification. this 'll make u be on a safe side nd u won't be tagged satan. she 'll see for herself if d man continues.

Amelian:






Really?
It can be the dumbest have might have said so far but do I honestly look like I fucvking care? It's your home to toy with.. Not mine.
And if u are a lady, don't cry wolf when your husband marries a second wife.. Simple.
U can argue from now till tmrw,. Your choice.. Your life.

sweet that orientation is very bad oooo.don't give up your dreams for love, what that woman should have done is stay close to home