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Women, What Do You Bring To The Table? - Men by bukatyne(f): 6:30pm On May 21, 2022
Happy weekend peeps cheesy

I got inspiration for this thread last week and just around to creating it.

The topic is a common question men ask women today and the and answers usually are:

'I am the table';
'I bring XYZ';
'How can you ask such a question';
'What do you bring to the table'.

The question itself is nonsensical for two reasons:

1. The table should be personal; he should only be concerned about his OWN table.

2. It shows he is not serious. He saw something in you that's why he approached you. He should be the one telling you what value he is bringing to your life which forms the basis for you to accept him.

Imagine Buka Company wants to collaborate with Tyne Company. Isn't it Buka Company who would prepare a befitting proposal and tell Tyne Company the benefits and advantages of the collaboration?

Buka Company would have also done due diligence that Tyne Company is one she wants to collaborate with.

So a man should do his due diligence of the woman he wants to approach (that she suits him) and tell her why collaborating with him on the journey of life is her best's choice.

Interestingly, musicians of old understood this that's why they talk about selling points e.g.

Joe - I wanna know
Mario - Let me love you etc.

So ladies, when next a man who used his two legs to propose/ask you out asks what you bring to the table, ask him what he saw in you that made him approach you.....

That is what you bring to his table!

Next ask him WHY you should collaborate with HIM in the journey of life.

P. S.: If na you chyke am, biko reel out what you saw in him aka bringing to the table.

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Re: Women, What Do You Bring To The Table? - Men by Mindlog: 6:34pm On May 21, 2022
Well captured.

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Re: Women, What Do You Bring To The Table? - Men by StrongAlphMale: 6:35pm On May 21, 2022
As expected.
A typical Nigerian girl. This is exactly how they think. What an Entitlement Mentality!
In conclusion, are you trying to tell us that apart from your over used pussy, a Nigerian girl has absolutely nothing meaningful and purposeful to offer a man in a relationship apart from sex?

Dear women,

It is good to have a business or a job before you start dating or talking about marriage. Because a woman without an income is more likely to say yes to a man she doesn't love, and spend the rest of her life existing instead of living. Stop being a liability and a parasite. No man wants a liability and a parasite in his life.

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Re: Women, What Do You Bring To The Table? - Men by bukatyne(f): 6:37pm On May 21, 2022
Mindlog:
Well captured.

Hahahahahaha @ well captured.

Maybe because I met my husband young and before the 'what do you bring to the table' madness, I find the question very irritating.

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Re: Women, What Do You Bring To The Table? - Men by Mindlog: 6:42pm On May 21, 2022
StrongAlphMale:
As expected.
A typical Nigerian girl. This is exactly how they think. What an Entitlement Mentality!
In conclusion, are you trying to tell us that apart from your over used pussy, a Nigerian girl has absolutely nothing meaningful and purposeful to offer a man in a relationship apart from sex?

Dear women,

It is good to have a business or a job before you start dating or talking about marriage. Because a woman without an income is more likely to say yes to a man she doesn't love, and spend the rest of her life existing instead of living. Go into marriage, not bondage.

Why do you and your likes, in the first place approach ladies who have nothing meaningful and purposeful to offer? Is it that you both have nothing to offer each other, except money and sex?

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Re: Women, What Do You Bring To The Table? - Men by bukatyne(f): 6:42pm On May 21, 2022
StrongAlphMale:
As expected.
A typical Nigerian girl. This is exactly how they think. What an Entitlement Mentality!
In conclusion, are you trying to tell us that apart from your over used pussy, a Nigerian girl has absolutely nothing meaningful and purposeful to offer a man in a relationship apart from sex?

Dear women,

It is good to have a business or a job before you start dating or talking about marriage. Become a woman without an income is more likely to say yes to a man she doesn't love, and spend the rest of her life existing instead of living. Go into marriage, not bondage.

Please do not assume I am like the women in your family. undecided

Secondly, it is poverty mentality to only think money when resources or qualities are mentioned.

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Re: Women, What Do You Bring To The Table? - Men by bukatyne(f): 6:43pm On May 21, 2022
Mindlog:


Why do you and likes, in the first place approach ladies who have nothing meaningful and purposeful to offer?

Thanks for the question jare.

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Re: Women, What Do You Bring To The Table? - Men by StrongAlphMale: 6:44pm On May 21, 2022
Mindlog:


Why do you and likes, in the first place approach ladies who have nothing meaningful and purposeful to offer?

Be informed I don't date Nigeria girls. Direct your question to the SIMP men who waste their time dating Nigeria girls.

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Re: Women, What Do You Bring To The Table? - Men by StrongAlphMale: 6:46pm On May 21, 2022
bukatyne:


Please do not assume I am like the women in your family. undecided

Secondly, it is poverty mentality to only think money when resources or qualities are mentioned.

Kindly tell us what you have offered your husband since he married you. Thousands of people on this forum wants to know.

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Re: Women, What Do You Bring To The Table? - Men by Mindlog: 6:47pm On May 21, 2022
StrongAlphMale:


Be informed I don't date Nigeria girls. Direct your question to the SIMP men who waste their time dating Nigeria girls.

Not dating Nigerian girls is never an achievement, so look for something else to feel validated in life.

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Re: Women, What Do You Bring To The Table? - Men by JeffreyJunior: 6:47pm On May 21, 2022
This is simple logic. If a man chykes a woman, he should first show her a table before asking what she is bringing to it.

Problem with awa burodas is that some of us don't even have a table but we dey ask ladies what they are bringing to it.

Ladies, if any man asks you that kwesion. Ask him to show you the table fess. cheesy

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Re: Women, What Do You Bring To The Table? - Men by Mindlog: 6:49pm On May 21, 2022
JeffreyJunior:
This is simple logic. If a man chykes a woman, he should first show her a table before asking what she is bringing to it.

Problem with awa burodas is that some of us don't even have a table but we dey ask ladies what they are bringing to it.

Ladies, if any man asks you that kwesion. Ask him to show you the table fess. cheesy


cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy

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Re: Women, What Do You Bring To The Table? - Men by FERNANDEZISBACK: 6:50pm On May 21, 2022
StrongAlphMale:


Kindly tell us what you have offered your husband since he married you. Thousands of people on this forum wants to know.
Change your moniker to simp boy cos you are a disgrace to real men and manhood..you tried to sound smart but ended up disgracing your little self.. grin

Emotional damage..pls go to bed..this discussion is for adult not kids who know nothing about life.. grin

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Re: Women, What Do You Bring To The Table? - Men by bukatyne(f): 6:50pm On May 21, 2022
JeffreyJunior:
This is simple logic. If a man chykes a woman, he should first show her a table before asking what she is bringing to it.

Problem with awa burodas is that some of us don't even have a table but we dey ask ladies what they are bringing to it.

Ladies, if any man asks you that kwesion. Ask him to show you the table fess. cheesy


Hahahahahaha

He shouldn't even ask. He should know what she is bringing to his table because he has done his due diligence and decided she is a good/best fit for him before approaching her.

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Re: Women, What Do You Bring To The Table? - Men by mariahAngel(f): 7:06pm On May 21, 2022
StrongAlphMale:


Kindly tell us what you have offered your husband since he married you. Thousands of people on this forum wants to know.

Maka gini kwanu? cheesy

That should be between her and her husband, don't you think so? cheesy

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Re: Women, What Do You Bring To The Table? - Men by Nobody: 7:27pm On May 21, 2022
JeffreyJunior:
This is simple logic. If a man chykes a woman, he should first show her a table before asking what she is bringing to it.

Problem with awa burodas is that some of us don't even have a table but we dey ask ladies what they are bringing to it.

Ladies, if any man asks you that kwesion. Ask him to show you the table fess. cheesy

Very Apt! I was pondering on the question some weeks ago and the bolded popped up. Do these guys have a table to start with. What is the table? cheesy

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Re: Women, What Do You Bring To The Table? - Men by Nobody: 9:41pm On May 21, 2022
bukatyne:


Hahahahahaha @ well captured.

Maybe because I met my husband young and before the 'what do you bring to the table' madness, I find the question very irritating.

OP....
I think you're mistaking "attraction" for "value"... That men are coming after a lady doesn't mean she has value, it just means she's merely attractive...

You said and I quote...

"So ladies, when next a man who used his two legs to propose/ask you out asks what you bring to the table, ask him what he saw in you that made him approach you....."

Whatever the man will list out here, will most likely be tied to looks, blimey undecided.... And I can bet you the only reason why a lot of men will flock around a beautiful girl is most likely because they want to get in-between their legs, once that's that, you'll be shocked that, they won't even pick that girls call anymore...

See eh...
Men love to f.u.ck, they want to spread their seeds, and as long as they're getting what they want, they'll put up with ANY WOMAN, but when it's time to settle down, that's when the search for value comes underway...

It is precisely because the woman doesn't have value that will cause a man to leave her after 10years and go and marry a lady he met 6months ago undecided....

I can't speak for all men, but the men I know will only ask a girl that question when they've been with her for sometime and can't see any tangible change in their lives and in the process of wondering whether or not to kick her out, they'll ask themselves and the girl this question....

Her answer to this will help him decide whether to keep her for recreational use only or to take her seriously undecided....

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Re: Women, What Do You Bring To The Table? - Men by faithfull18(f): 9:42pm On May 21, 2022
Lol, exactly oh. Shey he saw thousands of women and then he approached you as the one he chooses to do life with. He sha saw something.

Well, they know those who they ask that question and this talk is mostly online.

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Re: Women, What Do You Bring To The Table? - Men by DontBullshitMe: 10:34pm On May 21, 2022
Passing the burden.

GTFOH.
Re: Women, What Do You Bring To The Table? - Men by Nobody: 11:04pm On May 21, 2022
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Re: Women, What Do You Bring To The Table? - Men by Elporo(m): 4:07am On May 22, 2022
bukatyne:

Next ask him WHY you should collaborate with HIM in the journey of life.

One woman is another thread complaining that her husband is now a "verified" alcoholic. He was normal until he married her. undecided

Re: Women, What Do You Bring To The Table? - Men by NoToPile: 4:28am On May 22, 2022
Bukatyne and her threads.

Long time no see.

As for the topic I just hope the alfamales/redpillar people won't derail the thread.
Re: Women, What Do You Bring To The Table? - Men by ZIMDRILL(m): 4:52am On May 22, 2022
JeffreyJunior:
This is simple logic. If a man chykes a woman, he should first show her a table before asking what she is bringing to it.

Problem with awa burodas is that some of us don't even have a table but we dey ask ladies what they are bringing to it.

Ladies, if any man asks you that kwesion. Ask him to show you the table fess. cheesy


you realiase that mostly its women who demand ot feel entiled to things that herself or her parent cant afford

she demands an iphone but her parents have never bought one for her and neither can she

i want a man with a car you dont have one either yo parents dont evn
own a bicyle

so cooking a looking the house is nolonger the standards of marriage but wanting a woman who brings something on the table

but nothing wrong if a man accept you bringing in nothing on the table

but a woman who shows thats she can manage to run thing through being breadwinner too is better partner to be with in marriage.

those who get offended by the question are those who want to be looked after while they manage what hubby brings in

before the whites came with urbanazation a woman's value was also seen how good she was in helping her family/parents be it in fields or at home meaning she must be able to do her part of bringing in something on the table

no man would want marry who os just able to cook and five children but cant plant aka having her own garden that she grows food for her family or gathering firewood etc

to understand this concept go to deep rural areas/village you see the division of labour where both hubby and wife bring on something on the table through both doing respective duties that bring in food on the table
Re: Women, What Do You Bring To The Table? - Men by bukatyne(f): 1:50pm On May 22, 2022
Favfables1:


OP....
1. I think you're mistaking "attraction" for "value"... That men are coming after a lady doesn't mean she has value, it just means she's merely attractive...

You said and I quote...

"So ladies, when next a man who used his two legs to propose/ask you out asks what you bring to the table, ask him what he saw in you that made him approach you....."

2. Whatever the man will list out here, will most likely be tied to looks, blimey undecided.... And I can bet you the only reason why a lot of men will flock around a beautiful girl is most likely because they want to get in-between their legs, once that's that, you'll be shocked that, they won't even pick that girls call anymore...

3. See eh...
Men love to f.u.ck, they want to spread their seeds, and as long as they're getting what they want, they'll put up with ANY WOMAN, but when it's time to settle down, that's when the search for value comes underway...

4. It is precisely because the woman doesn't have value that will cause a man to leave her after 10years and go and marry a lady he met 6months ago undecided....

5. I can't speak for all men, but the men I know will only ask a girl that question when they've been with her for sometime and can't see any tangible change in their lives and in the process of wondering whether or not to kick her out, they'll ask themselves and the girl this question....

6. Her answer to this will help him decide whether to keep her for recreational use only or to take her seriously undecided....

1. I am talking value, why did he approach her?

2. I know that we push this narrative to make girls sit up but only a valueless man would tangle with a woman that doesn't bring value to him. A man who sleeps with a prostitute is one with her.

3. My number two applies. In addition, it is the man's duty to look for the value.

4. If a man was in a relationship with a valueless woman for ten years, it is an indictment in him. It tells me he lacks vision and foresight. It is said that birds of same feather flock together.

5. If the man can't observe himself, perhaps he is not mature to be a husband.

6. What answers would she give that would satisfy you? If you did not see the value in ten years, perhaps it is not there. A one day conversation wouldn't make you see it. It is also possible that she has value however, not for you.

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Re: Women, What Do You Bring To The Table? - Men by bukatyne(f): 1:51pm On May 22, 2022
faithfull18:
Lol, exactly oh. Shey you saw thousands of women and then he approached you as the one he chooses to do life with. He sha saw something.

Well, they know those who they ask that question and this talk is mostly online.

Exactly.

What did he see?
Re: Women, What Do You Bring To The Table? - Men by bukatyne(f): 1:51pm On May 22, 2022
DontBullshitMe:
Passing the burden.

GTFOH.

Which burden?

Is there anything burdensome in the OP?

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Re: Women, What Do You Bring To The Table? - Men by bukatyne(f): 1:52pm On May 22, 2022
UpInTheSky:
A man who

1. finds a woman of value and quality
2. is both seeking & offering genuine love

and most importantly,
3. brings something to the table himself

wouldn't ask such a question.

100%

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Re: Women, What Do You Bring To The Table? - Men by bukatyne(f): 1:53pm On May 22, 2022
NoToPile:
Bukatyne and her threads.

Long time no see.

As for the topic I just hope the alfamales/redpillar people won't derail the thread.

Wetin I do?
Re: Women, What Do You Bring To The Table? - Men by bukatyne(f): 1:54pm On May 22, 2022
ZIMDRILL:


you realiase that mostly its women who demand ot feel entiled to things that herself or her parent cant afford

she demands an iphone but her parents have never bought one for her and neither can she

i want a man with a car you dont have one either yo parents dont evn
own a bicyle

so cooking a looking the house is nolonger the standards of marriage but wanting a woman who brings something on the table

but nothing wrong if a man accept you bringing in nothing on the table

but a woman who shows thats she can manage to run thing through being breadwinner too is better partner to be with in marriage.

those who get offended by the question are those who want to be looked after while they manage what hubby brings in

before the whites came with urbanazation a woman's value was also seen how good she was in helping her family/parents be it in fields or at home meaning she must be able to do her part of bringing in something on the table

no man would want marry who os just able to cook and five children but cant plant aka having her own garden that she grows food for her family or gathering firewood etc

to understand this concept go to deep rural areas/village you see the division of labour where both hubby and wife bring on something on the table through both doing respective duties that bring in food on the table

Please can you look at value outside money?

As you saying if a woman is willing to give you all her salary in a month and she steals/lies, it is fine by you?

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Re: Women, What Do You Bring To The Table? - Men by GloriousGbola: 2:04pm On May 22, 2022
JeffreyJunior:
This is simple logic. If a man chykes a woman, he should first show her a table before asking what she is bringing to it.

Problem with awa burodas is that some of us don't even have a table but we dey ask ladies what they are bringing to it.

Ladies, if any man asks you that kwesion. Ask him to show you the table fess. cheesy

Mindlog:


cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy


angry angry angry angry

now that you mention it, i realize the missus is responsible for almost all the tables in the house

oti set me up angry angry angry

oya what do you bring to your table cry cry cry
Re: Women, What Do You Bring To The Table? - Men by Bobloco: 3:26pm On May 22, 2022
grin

Re: Women, What Do You Bring To The Table? - Men by Mindlog: 3:30pm On May 22, 2022
Bobloco:
grin

If she takes sex away from the table, will you still be interested? cheesy

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