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| Re: My Wife's Sudden Change After Childbirth is driving me nuts! by thatigboman: 7:48pm On Sep 05, 2023 |
Hey , please take your wife to the doctor and try and get the issue resolved immediately. It's that depression women feel after childbirth. A friend of mine couldn't understand as well, before he knew, it was too late. And they have divorced. 1 Like
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| Re: My Wife's Sudden Change After Childbirth is driving me nuts! by frontwave(m): 7:49pm On Sep 05, 2023 |
thesilentman:bros two they say is better than one, caring for a new born can be such a stress for mothers sometimes, my wife gave birth to our third child early January through the same CS you talked about and I could see the stress she was going through and I had to help and still helping till tommorow, money is not everything in marriage, communication and helping even I house chores is key to your family development and harmony. Nor take your hand scatter your marriage o, una dey together dey rub mind how e go take better for una children, e better pass make one person dey reason alone o. Enough word they say... 5 Likes |
| Re: My Wife's Sudden Change After Childbirth is driving me nuts! by SAMBARRY: 7:49pm On Sep 05, 2023 |
Lol see this one threatening divorce and emphasizing on the ₦300k he spent on her CS.no be to birth your children,Abi no be your children Comot her body.everything is all about your ego and the way you are ranting angrily you are already giving the narcissistic man vibes.its the red pill nonsense that cleared my doubt that you're a narcissist.its the emphasis on the ₦300k like you did her some favour for me  If you look beyond your nose and you're not all about your sociopathic ego you will see she's going through postpartum depression and hormonal imbalance...nah it didn't occur to you because you are looking for submission without wisdom Na Jezebel women and ex yahoo boys girlfriend dey fit your type 12 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: My Wife's Sudden Change After Childbirth is driving me nuts! by kayperry: 7:49pm On Sep 05, 2023 |
thesilentman: So many foolish men full "NL marriage" sha! why would you even tame your wife is she a dog, hyena Supposedly you have a wife as you claim, why grasp to dominate her when you can simply just show her you lead beta, just live your life in a way that depict you are lot more way ahead of her and she will look up to you People change, your wife change what as that got to do with "redpill"  1 Like |
| Re: My Wife's Sudden Change After Childbirth is driving me nuts! by Blaze14k: 7:49pm On Sep 05, 2023 |
thesilentman: I think you should take ur mind off that woman for now and think about ur business. 1 Like |
| Re: My Wife's Sudden Change After Childbirth is driving me nuts! by Foodqueen(f): 7:51pm On Sep 05, 2023 |
Hope u aren't killing her with too much Grama. It's probably ppsd |
| Re: My Wife's Sudden Change After Childbirth is driving me nuts! by drimzsmoke(m): 7:51pm On Sep 05, 2023 |
steveodo:Like a lion, ama tame youuuu, like a dog, ama train youuuu, and if you misbehave, ama chain youuuu, and if a chain you, wetyn you go do - Wande Coal 3 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: My Wife's Sudden Change After Childbirth is driving me nuts! by Dbestbrest: 7:51pm On Sep 05, 2023 |
Go back to your love and embrace her. You must be patient with your wife. Do you think it is easy to give birth either natural or through CS? Go back home and show her that you really care for her. Carry your baby from her and rock him to sleep. Let her know you also bear in her pains (whatever that might be). She may be psychologically going through some stress. 2 of you are coming from 2 different backgrounds. Bring back the love you shared with her. Talk about the beautiful dreams of the past and how 2 of you will bring it to reality. Come down from your Olympian height to love your woman that had given you 2 handsome boys,your replicas, except you don't want good future for those children is what can make you abandon her to raise those children alone. 4 Likes |
| Re: My Wife's Sudden Change After Childbirth is driving me nuts! by Nobody: 7:51pm On Sep 05, 2023 |
thesilentman: What exactly do you mean by "tamed for life"? Who says such a thing about their wife? You need to be investigated by the police if that statement is true to what it conjures. That's an outright human abuse. 6 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: My Wife's Sudden Change After Childbirth is driving me nuts! by Shawl001(m): 7:51pm On Sep 05, 2023 |
Bro, Quiting is never a solution...and definitely it won't be in your case. Jusf get to understand her her more. She may be going through an emotional or psychological pain and transition. Something is not fitting in well. You need to figure it out...thats why you're the man. She may not be able to even figure it out herself, you should be able to. You're mtoe smarter, responsible and psychologicallly mature; use it. Don't quit! 1 Like |
| Re: My Wife's Sudden Change After Childbirth is driving me nuts! by occfx: 7:52pm On Sep 05, 2023 |
thesilentman: Nna eh Beer don hungry me tire.. Make I come join you? Bro... You mentioned CS.... Let me tell you the reason. During CS, they inject them with mkpuru miri, weed (cannabis), and testosterone through the spine and the drip. Bros, she go fight you now if you want fight. Just occupy beer parlors in your area and leave her with her mother for house. Come back by 11 pm and sleep. If you see food fine, if you no see sleep. If she nag tell am say ok you don hear. Always, sock garri with enough milk and cold water, tell her to join you. The garri usually cool there brain. It will take years for those drugs to leave her body. If you get opportunity, Nak her another bele unless money no dey or health is not strong 1 Like 1 Share |
| Re: My Wife's Sudden Change After Childbirth is driving me nuts! by Isaacpyo04(m): 7:52pm On Sep 05, 2023 |
" I just parted with over 300k unplanned fund for her C.S."?? What else would you have done, let her have complications and die? You are a joke, man. I know women are difficult and can be extremely irrational at times, but from your rewrite up, it shows you have little or no regard/respect for your wife. I assure you, she won't care about you too. Be a man, be firm but don't treat her like you child or your younger sister. 2 Likes |
| Re: My Wife's Sudden Change After Childbirth is driving me nuts! by bonnyhope: 7:52pm On Sep 05, 2023 |
thesilentman: Don't say " on her behalf " It is for both of you. The child belongs to you all 4 Likes |
| Re: My Wife's Sudden Change After Childbirth is driving me nuts! by soloehis(m): 7:53pm On Sep 05, 2023 |
thesilentman:Cheer up this too will pass.. its just a phase..give her some time things will take shape. Don't make divorce an option pls. 1 Like |
| Re: My Wife's Sudden Change After Childbirth is driving me nuts! by Pipefitter: 7:53pm On Sep 05, 2023 |
thesilentman: Are you kidding me, paying for her CS is a sacrifice you had to make? Unbelievable 5 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: My Wife's Sudden Change After Childbirth is driving me nuts! by when2(f): 7:54pm On Sep 05, 2023 |
thesilentman: Nawa o! From your statement it shows that you aren't matured for marriage. That woman has really suffered in your hands walahi! 3 Likes |
| Re: My Wife's Sudden Change After Childbirth is driving me nuts! by jayAjoku(m): 7:54pm On Sep 05, 2023 |
😂😂🤣🤣 E say na he thought he tamed 😂🤣 Redpill OT failed . Baba how did you begin with your wife were you begging her to be your girlfriend from the start? If that was the case Baba the babe never admired or loved you she just pitied you and married you 😂🤣. I wonder if some of you don’t know these women you married have families abi all of them done die ? 😂🤣🤣 carry her to her father’s house and tell them of their daughters unruly behavior See how you people keep disgracing the bride price you paid for your wives as if you didn’t suffer for it. Be like you pick your own bride price . If a car is malfunctioning you take it back to the dealership you bought it from and you ask them to diagnose and fix your car . Your wife is acting like she has a screw lose better take her to her father’s house so that they’ll sort her out. Since you done confirm say the matter pass you thesilentman: 2 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: My Wife's Sudden Change After Childbirth is driving me nuts! by dontrulee: 7:54pm On Sep 05, 2023 |
thesilentman: Hey man, get your shit together. Your wife may be suffering from maternal blues or postpartum psychosis for her to be behaving this way. Trust me, it's very difficult to live with someone with psychosis not to talk of postpartum psychosis. Asides that, your wife went through a CS. If it's her first CS, her behavior is not far from expected. The best thing to do is to show her more love, care and concern during this period. As a man, you'll have to swallow a lot of insults and embarrassment to let peace reign and that's a sign of strength not weakness since you're married, you'll get the short end of the stick and you've to accept it like that. Your direct force will not work, you've to behave like 'a woman' stoop low to conquer. 3 Likes |
| Re: My Wife's Sudden Change After Childbirth is driving me nuts! by lifenajeje(m): 7:54pm On Sep 05, 2023 |
Is like u are having money problems ..wondering why she did not give birth like Hebrew women .. It was either her death , the death 9f the baby or you loose both .. You should be happy both are fine and not concerned about money spent.. What if u spent that money and yet the baby had medical conditions that had to keep mother and child probably in a hospital like lasuth for months .. Go pay pay tire for serial testing ... I went through this after C.S my baby had to be reffered to lasuth cos she has not pooed for three days and each time she eats it's comes back out of her mouth . It was discovered her intestine was not linked to the stomach so they had to do a surgery on her to link both togerher .. She was also a neonatal with underdeveloped vital organs .. We spent months in the hospital to make matters worse it was during COVID-19.. Millions was spent but friends cane through for us .. Be grateful cos whatever u are going through now could have been worse . 5 Likes |
| Re: My Wife's Sudden Change After Childbirth is driving me nuts! by thesilentman(m): 7:56pm On Sep 05, 2023 |
royalfly:Yes,this is a carbon copy of what am going through now! |
| Re: My Wife's Sudden Change After Childbirth is driving me nuts! by dontrulee: 7:56pm On Sep 05, 2023 |
I got a very important history suggestive of maternal blues. She cries over small issues is a strong indicator. How long has she been like this? If it's past 14days, it's tending towards psychosis and it's best she goes for evaluation. 1 Like |
| Re: My Wife's Sudden Change After Childbirth is driving me nuts! by Vietnaminfo(m): 7:56pm On Sep 05, 2023 |
I'm really sorry to hear that you're going through a difficult and emotional time in your relationship. It's important to approach such situations with patience and empathy. Here's some advice to consider: Communication: Instead of resorting to drastic measures like divorce, try to have an open and honest conversation with your wife. Ask her how she's feeling and why she has changed. It's possible that she's going through postpartum issues, stress, or other challenges that you're not aware of. Listening to her perspective is crucial. Seek Professional Help: Consider couples counseling or therapy. A trained therapist can provide a safe space for both of you to express your feelings and concerns. They can also offer guidance and strategies to improve your relationship. Empathy and Understanding: Try to put yourself in her shoes. Becoming a parent for the second time can be incredibly stressful, and it can trigger a range of emotions. She might be struggling with her own feelings and might need your support and understanding. Take Care of Yourself: It's essential to take care of your own mental and emotional well-being too. Instead of drinking to cope, consider healthier ways to manage stress, such as exercise, meditation, or talking to a therapist yourself. Patience: Relationships go through ups and downs. The period after having a child can be especially challenging. Give it time and space, and remember that change takes time. Rushing into decisions like divorce can have long-lasting consequences for both you and your children. Family Support: Reach out to friends and family members for support and advice. Sometimes, an outside perspective can provide valuable insights. Legal Advice (if necessary): If you seriously believe that divorce is the only option, consult with a family law attorney to understand the legal process and your rights and responsibilities. However, it's recommended to explore all other options before taking this step. Remember that relationships are complex, and it's common for challenges to arise, especially during significant life changes like having a child. Seek professional guidance and approach the situation with empathy and a willingness to work together on finding solutions. |
| Re: My Wife's Sudden Change After Childbirth is driving me nuts! by bonnyhope: 7:57pm On Sep 05, 2023 |
BlissGod: You may be sounding correct but the insults in your comment have rendered it useless You can air your view without abuse |
| Re: My Wife's Sudden Change After Childbirth is driving me nuts! by Olajide200(m): 7:57pm On Sep 05, 2023 |
Guy. Just cool it off and go home. That is what women do. Just get used to it. These are things men just have to live with. I am telling you this from years of experience. Marriage isnt worth the stress. But you are in already. I actually laugh (sometimes aloud) when I hear people getting excited about getting married. 1 Like |
| Re: My Wife's Sudden Change After Childbirth is driving me nuts! by Houseontherock1: 7:58pm On Sep 05, 2023 |
thesilentman:Really? One would think you'll respect her more after being cut open to bring forth your baby! The money sacrifice is not for her alone- it's for both of you. Maybe you need to change your mindset towards childbearing and husband -wife relationship 2 Likes |
| Re: My Wife's Sudden Change After Childbirth is driving me nuts! by ukaface(f): 7:58pm On Sep 05, 2023 |
thesilentman:you know there’s something called post partum depression and postpartum psychosis? 1 Like |
| Re: My Wife's Sudden Change After Childbirth is driving me nuts! by dontrulee: 7:58pm On Sep 05, 2023 |
Pipefitter: Yes it's a sacrifice. Even though it should be an obligation and a role, that doesn't invalidate it as a sacrifice. A responsible man is sacrificial |
| Re: My Wife's Sudden Change After Childbirth is driving me nuts! by SlaveforChrist: 7:58pm On Sep 05, 2023 |
thesilentman: Do you think giving birth is easy?. Whare are you talking about the money like you did her a favour it's the child not for both of you?. Or you sit down and carry a child for nine months then undergo surgery and know what she is passing through and the hormonal stress after birth too haba. Go and apologize to your wife and show her love until she fully recovers. She is part of you your very own flesh and part of your body exactly as the Bible says. Stop getting bad advice from those in the beer parlor and stop drinking it's not good for you. Read your Bible and love your wife and just watch as things would turn around. 3 Likes |
| Re: My Wife's Sudden Change After Childbirth is driving me nuts! by mariahAngel(f): 7:59pm On Sep 05, 2023 |
thesilentman: What a coward of a man! 😲 3 Likes |
| Re: My Wife's Sudden Change After Childbirth is driving me nuts! by InvertedHammer: 7:59pm On Sep 05, 2023 |
thesilentman:/ It will get better with time. Meanwhile don't forget your daily doses of alcohol  / |
| Re: My Wife's Sudden Change After Childbirth is driving me nuts! by Godsongang: 7:59pm On Sep 05, 2023 |
If you know what this women go through during pregnancy eh. Boss you give her time, shower her with gifts, show her more care and love. 1 Like |
| Re: My Wife's Sudden Change After Childbirth is driving me nuts! by YorubaPrince: 7:59pm On Sep 05, 2023 |
thesilentman: No wonder. Baba, you're MADDD! You're here ranting like say you dey innocent. You no get patient for woman come dey put ur frustration for pple here. You no well.  1 Like
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